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So. Today I figured out my friend is a complete idiot. We used to carpool, and today my parents, decided it would be better to pick my brother, and my two friends up at 3:30. So when I told Friend 1 (as I will refer to him from now on) at lunch, he immediately called his parents, to get them to pick him up at 3:00, claiming he had "stuff" to do. What he said, was pretty retarded..
Friend 1: "I'm not wasting 30 fu*king minutes at school. I have stuff to do!"
Me: "What "stuff" do you have to do anyways?"
Friend 1: "I have extracurriculars, and basketball!"
Me: "You mean Call of Duty?!"
Friend 1: *leaves courtyard*
Yeah that was pretty retarded. Made me pretty pissed at the end of the day too. Can't even stay 30 minutes after school, not a big deal from whatever crap he has to do. I don't know, I'm really confused. I'm really just venting right now. Just wondering if anyone else has a friend like that?
 
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cool story bro
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Seems like you're letting it affect you a bit too much...
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I don't understand why you're so upset about this, because he didn't want to wait and carpool with you?
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I am, it's just kinda weird. Caught me off guard. Bah well. Screw him, he can do whatever "stuff" he wants.
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i did that once in 7th grade because i didn't want to miss an epic episode of yu-gi-oh while waiting for my carpool to drop off two other people before my stop.
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mb he had to meet a friend
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It seems like your friend is a highly motivated individual looking to expand his personal horizons, don't hold him back.
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Doesn't seem like a big deal. Anyway people always did stupid retarded random shit when I went to high school. For all you know he thinks your car smells bad or something.
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So you insult your friend for not wanting to carpool and then expect him to be manner and then YOU`RE angry at HIM? I guess this is really something about you not liking that he gets angry at your parents for being late or something?
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All of you are missing the point. The OP is frustrated that his friend wont wait with him for 30 minutes and be in a car with his parents because this is a sign that his friend is unwilling to commit to a serious relationship.
Furthermore, the OP's subconscious homosexual feelings for his friend makes him even more angry and confused. He feels incredibly hurt that his friend doesn't want to spend quality time with him, and would rather play video games. I understand this, because I've known girls who would get mad at me for playing video games too.
Add to this formula the taboo of homosexuality and the allure of the forbidden, and you have the perfect mix of sexual frustration and emotional loneliness bubbling up. Like the character "Jack Twist" in Brokeback Mountain, the OP is pushed into depression because of his "Ennis's" avoidance issues and self-denial. The OP has a dream of simple love and happiness alone with his friend, but his friend destroyed that dream by going home 30 minutes early to play "Call of Duty."
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On September 16 2010 15:04 bobalo wrote:
cool story bro
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Can we do more then just 'warn' these users, this quote is starting to get really annoying
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On September 16 2010 15:39 Slow Motion wrote:
All of you are missing the point. The OP is frustrated that his friend wont wait with him for 30 minutes and be in a car with his parents because this is a sign that his friend is unwilling to commit to a serious relationship.
Furthermore, the OP's subconscious homosexual feelings for his friend makes him even more angry and confused. He feels incredibly hurt that his friend doesn't want to spend quality time with him, and would rather play video games. I understand this, because I've known girls who would get mad at me for playing video games too.
Add to this formula the taboo of homosexuality and the allure of the forbidden, and you have the perfect mix of sexual frustration and emotional loneliness bubbling up. Like the character "Jack Twist" in Brokeback Mountain, the OP is pushed into depression because of his "Ennis's" avoidance issues and self-denial. The OP has a dream of simple love and happiness alone with his friend, but his friend destroyed that dream by going home 30 minutes early to play "Call of Duty."
LOLLLLL. life tilt.
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On September 16 2010 15:39 Slow Motion wrote:
All of you are missing the point. The OP is frustrated that his friend wont wait with him for 30 minutes and be in a car with his parents because this is a sign that his friend is unwilling to commit to a serious relationship.
Furthermore, the OP's subconscious homosexual feelings for his friend makes him even more angry and confused. He feels incredibly hurt that his friend doesn't want to spend quality time with him, and would rather play video games. I understand this, because I've known girls who would get mad at me for playing video games too.
Add to this formula the taboo of homosexuality and the allure of the forbidden, and you have the perfect mix of sexual frustration and emotional loneliness bubbling up. Like the character "Jack Twist" in Brokeback Mountain, the OP is pushed into depression because of his "Ennis's" avoidance issues and self-denial. The OP has a dream of simple love and happiness alone with his friend, but his friend destroyed that dream by going home 30 minutes early to play "Call of Duty."
Lmao reminds me of http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=83099
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Sorry you're upset, hope you guys resolve it. I personally don't see the problem, based on the story alone, but I'm sure some details just got lost in the retelling.
Can't really fault someone for not wanting to waste 30 mins( other than extra environmental damage of not carpooling  ). Is it overkill to make extra plans to save 30mins? Maybe... but if even at worst if he is just going to fuck around and not use the time well, it's a strict gain of 30 mins. What specifically offended you about it? Did you feel it insulted your dependability maybe?
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I would've been pretty irritated too in that situation. First off, he's not being very grateful to your parents for the carpooling. Also, I don't like his type of response. It's as if he's saying "How dare you make my wait 30 minutes of my precious time" to wait for this one time (at least that's how I'm getting) that your parents are doing a diffferent schedule? For some "extracurricular activity" that he can't even mention properly?
If he had activities to attend or something important, I'd understand although still irked at his ungrateful response, but this just seems like a retarded 15yo with no sense of ettiquette or common sense. Ah, high school...
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United States4126 Posts
Is he a video game addict? It'd explain a lot.
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Who sells his friend out for the sake of CoD ?! Extracurriculars should have been Starcraft 2 !!
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umm...get more friends? I mean that in the most respectful way possible.
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how witty and clever are you....you sure showed him.....
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This is mind-blowingly trivial...
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Vent your anger and smileeee.
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im just gonna assume that you're girls
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what a random things to be mad about.
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OP are you in the 8th grade
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Seems to me that the shoe is on the other foot: your parents are the ones who were committed to giving your friend a ride home after school and decided without consulting him that "it would be better" to wait for 30 extra minutes with nothing to do. That would annoy me too, if I were Friend 1.
Then, when he decides to find another way home (which, unlike your parents' decision to come late, doesn't affect you in any way beyond apparently hurting your feelings), you get so insulted that you make a whole thread on TL to bash him.
Well, I hope the venting helped you, at least.
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On September 16 2010 15:50 WarChimp wrote:Show nested quote +On September 16 2010 15:04 bobalo wrote:
cool story bro
User was warned for this post Can we do more then just 'warn' these users, this quote is starting to get really annoying
It's pretty generic and not funny usually, but that was the absolute perfect situation to use it.
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Osaka27132 Posts
Three years ago my co-worker and I split the cost of a mini-fridge for our office. It was awesome because we didn't have to use the one in the main office with the rest of the teachers. The main one is full of 8 year old miso packets and stinks like bad bento.
He transfered to another school last year. This year his beer fridge outside his house broke and he needed a new one. I offered him the mini-fridge, and I didn't even ask for my half share.
Now I have to walk all the way to the main office to get my hot sauce for lunch. Every afternoon the resentment is slowly building. Next time I see him I am going to punch him in the face.
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I have no idea what the point is.... How is there even a problem?
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yea OP, there really isn't any reason for you to be mad.
I've had a few friends that would probably act like you are now...it's kinda girly;(
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On September 16 2010 19:53 Manifesto7 wrote:
Three years ago my co-worker and I split the cost of a mini-fridge for our office. It was awesome because we didn't have to use the one in the main office with the rest of the teachers. The main one is full of 8 year old miso packets and stinks like bad bento.
He transfered to another school last year. This year his beer fridge outside his house broke and he needed a new one. I offered him the mini-fridge, and I didn't even ask for my half share.
Now I have to walk all the way to the main office to get my hot sauce for lunch. Every afternoon the resentment is slowly building. Next time I see him I am going to punch him in the face.
Ok now this is a cool and funny story lol. I completely understand your anger OP but you have to realize that you're overreacting and you'll soon get over it (I hope). If it were me, I wouldn't want to spend another 30 minutes at school either, fuck. As long as he's doing well in school, who cares if he wants to go home and play CoD?
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My father died last year, it was just a real rough year for me all over. I transfered jobs as well, which was horrible because I was leaving my best friend. Well, my wife and I were having financial problems when our fridge broke- and I asked my best friend if I could use his fridge as I didn't have enough to purchase a new one.
He was gracious enough to give it to me, even though I know how much he used the fridge. I am forever grateful to him- and I really hope he doesn't resent me for it.
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If he doesn't want to spend 30 minutes at school and arranges his own transportation who the fuck cares where he goes?
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On September 16 2010 19:53 Manifesto7 wrote:
Three years ago my co-worker and I split the cost of a mini-fridge for our office. It was awesome because we didn't have to use the one in the main office with the rest of the teachers. The main one is full of 8 year old miso packets and stinks like bad bento.
He transfered to another school last year. This year his beer fridge outside his house broke and he needed a new one. I offered him the mini-fridge, and I didn't even ask for my half share.
Now I have to walk all the way to the main office to get my hot sauce for lunch. Every afternoon the resentment is slowly building. Next time I see him I am going to punch him in the face.
You should just shove some really old nattō in his face saying "This is my life now, and it's all your fault"
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My best friend was like this in highschool as well. I'm guessing he is the type where you try to get him to play a game that you want to play some at a LAN or on xbox or something and he just won't go for it. Just try not to get upset and realize that's the way he is and that perhaps someday he'll grow up and not be so self absorbed.
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I wouldn't stick around for 30 minutes if I didn't have to either. I have SC2 to play.
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My best friend was like this in highschool as well. I'm guessing he is the type where you try to get him to play a game that you want to play some at a LAN or on xbox or something and he just won't go for it. Just try not to get upset and realize that's the way he is and that perhaps someday he'll grow up and not be so self absorbed.
Why is it weird for his friend to not want to sit at school for an extra 30 minutes?
You know what came on 30 minutes after school let out when I was a kid? Dragon Ball Z.
You think I would miss that for some friend?
Fuck no.
On September 16 2010 15:50 WarChimp wrote:Show nested quote +On September 16 2010 15:04 bobalo wrote:
cool story bro
User was warned for this post Can we do more then just 'warn' these users, this quote is starting to get really annoying
He could of sincerely thought it was a cool story.
I remember my first day in 8th grade at a new school my mom thought my dad was picking me up and vice versa, man that was a sad day.
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just chill like wtf is the problem lol? he doesn't wanna wait with you, big deal just go home and play some sc2.
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Wait, so did this cause you an inconvenience other than not sharing a carpool with your friend...?
And you call him a "complete idiot"?
I wish I was younger and less rational... I feel so old 
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A few years ago I moved into my own place by myself. Rent and bills were insane and the place was completely barren. Luckily my mom and her boyfriend helped me out quite a lot, letting me move in my old bed, a washing machine, and my mother's boyfriend's old fridge. It was an old, dirty fridge, but I cleaned it up and stored lots of frozen vegetables inside. I never ate the vegetables, but the fridge nethertheless done its job.
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Why is everyone saying this isn't a big deal .. you are offering him a ride home but if it's not on time he calls his parents? fuck that he can call his parents every time from now on and why couldn't his parents give you a ride home? or am I missing something?
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United States32036 Posts
On September 16 2010 18:49 qrs wrote:
Seems to me that the shoe is on the other foot: your parents are the ones who were committed to giving your friend a ride home after school and decided without consulting him that "it would be better" to wait for 30 extra minutes with nothing to do. That would annoy me too, if I were Friend 1.
Then, when he decides to find another way home (which, unlike your parents' decision to come late, doesn't affect you in any way beyond apparently hurting your feelings), you get so insulted that you make a whole thread on TL to bash him.
Well, I hope the venting helped you, at least.
waBAM! Who gives a shit what he's doing, I'd be pissed if my ride showed 30 min late
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what, a favor is still a favor. He should have the decency to at least explain himself or leave on good terms. Maybe OP thought he was a true friend and not just a friend or an aquaintance, in which case he could be upset. If they wernt that close then whatever. But all in all, yea its not that big of a deal. If you guys are good friends, you probably know his personally so just accept it or talk to him about it. If you guys arnt that close then it doesnt really matter much.
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But he could've cheesed at least 5 different people in the span of those thirty minutes!
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On September 17 2010 02:28 Wotans_Fire wrote:
Why is everyone saying this isn't a big deal .. you are offering him a ride home but if it's not on time he calls his parents? fuck that he can call his parents every time from now on and why couldn't his parents give you a ride home? or am I missing something?
what would go through your head is this situation?
"OMG HE IS CALLING HIS PARENTS TO GET A RIDE HOME, HE WONT WAIT FOR THE CARPOOL WHAT A FUCKING DICK I THOUGHT HE WAS MY FRIEND"
it's not a big deal at all and i would like to re-emphasize that this is the kind of stuff teen girls get mad about.
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On September 16 2010 15:09 Barrin wrote:
just dont take his ungrateful ass home
simple
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If you guys are really friends, you would be able to laugh it off.
I sense some resentment and shit between you guys. I can totally not be friends with anyone if I felt that way about them.
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How old are you guys... seems like this wouldnt be a problem with more mature people.
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its kids stuff -.- when you dont realize that people really care about you and you dont give a fuck about them you just do dumb stuff like this..
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It's just irritating because he won't wait 30 minutes, he is the one who got angry at me. Which I found immensely retarded and annoying. Also, it was like 11 p.m. when we had to change schedules, which was too late to really tell Friend 1, Friend 2 was the one who called us. It's just that he doesn't have the time to wait 30 minutes, which is really not a long time. He really got angry at me as soon as he heard, and immediately called his parents.
In my very honest opinion, he is probably playing Call of Duty right now. He is kind of a video game addict or something. Apparently he joined some sort of clan in Call Of Duty? Screw that. SC for life!
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Buspirone.
Honest suggestion OP. Not offense :p.
y/n?
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Canada8029 Posts
On September 17 2010 08:09 RyuChus wrote:
It's just irritating because he won't wait 30 minutes, he is the one who got angry at me. Which I found immensely retarded and annoying. Also, it was like 11 p.m. when we had to change schedules, which was too late to really tell Friend 1, Friend 2 was the one who called us. It's just that he doesn't have the time to wait 30 minutes, which is really not a long time. He really got angry at me as soon as he heard, and immediately called his parents.
In my very honest opinion, he is probably playing Call of Duty right now. He is kind of a video game addict or something. Apparently he joined some sort of clan in Call Of Duty? Screw that. SC for life!
Thirty minutes is long enough to screw up somebody's schedule. Did you ever consider that your friend might actually have something to do right after school ends. Anyway, it might be annoying, but there's no reason to get worked up over something so small.
Do you really hate Call of Duty or something? You keep bringing it up unnecessarily.
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On September 17 2010 08:27 Spazer wrote:Show nested quote +On September 17 2010 08:09 RyuChus wrote:
It's just irritating because he won't wait 30 minutes, he is the one who got angry at me. Which I found immensely retarded and annoying. Also, it was like 11 p.m. when we had to change schedules, which was too late to really tell Friend 1, Friend 2 was the one who called us. It's just that he doesn't have the time to wait 30 minutes, which is really not a long time. He really got angry at me as soon as he heard, and immediately called his parents.
In my very honest opinion, he is probably playing Call of Duty right now. He is kind of a video game addict or something. Apparently he joined some sort of clan in Call Of Duty? Screw that. SC for life! Thirty minutes is long enough to screw up somebody's schedule. Did you ever consider that your friend might actually have something to do right after school ends. Anyway, it might be annoying, but there's no reason to get worked up over something so small. Do you really hate Call of Duty or something? You keep bringing it up unnecessarily.
Yes I hate Call of Duty. The story about that is, my best friend got it, almost all the rest of my friends got it, Social Life = 0.
The thing is, he's not telling me! I mean if it was something important I would totally understand, but why are you only telling me extracurricular stuff. I just want to know, that's really all. If it was something urgent I would totally understand. Of course, he did say this...
"I'm not wasting another 30 fu*king minutes of my life at school!"
I spent 30 minutes after school. It's not a waste of time really. I hang out with my friends that don't play Call of Duty like nuts. Simple as that. As I said earlier, I don't care any more, he can do whatever he wants.
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I wouldn't want to waste 30 minutes either. Why should he wait exactly? Just to satisfy your ego?
Stop comparing what other people to do as though you have shit figured out and they don't. Oh, you hang out with friends at school for 30 minutes? And it isn't a big deal to you? Clearly you do it right, and anyone who doesn't do things like that is doing it wrong.
There is a lot about other people that you don't know. Maybe he hates school, if he does there is probably reasons for that. Maybe he fucking loves call of duty, there'd probably be good reasons for that too.
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I can sympathize with the OP since Friend 1's actions are annoying in multiple ways.
First he is wasting his parents' money, and gas, plain and simple. It's amazing how inefficiently human societies will opt to operate due to personal selfishness.
Second he is wasting his parents' time. I assume he's a student; is 30 minutes of his time that will be spent wasted for enjoyment worth 30 minutes of his parents' time, which could possibly be used to make money? This is assuming his parents aren't just goofing around atm and Friend 1 intends to play CoD during those 30 minutes saved.
Third he is withholding information and possibly outright lying to you, which is unacceptable in a friendship and a breach of trust. The matter at hand is inconsequential, but it sets a poor precedent and I would place less value on his friendship, at least until he explains himself.
Fourth, if the OP's account of the conversation is true verbatim, he was downright rude to presumably a friend who was doing him a favor and on the matter of that favor.
Of course the whole matter could be trivial and everything could be resolved with no hard feelings. Good luck OP, I hope your friends are more polite, laid-back, and open with you in the future.
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Unless you and your friend live terribly far away from school, walk/bike/bus is a cool way home. Besides the fact it is better for the world (quite literally), no more "waiting-at-school" conflicts!
Still, I honestly think waiting 30 minutes at school is no biggie, your friend should be mature enough to stick to the original agreement and make good use of that time. Perhaps you should suggest to your friend various ways to make good use of time at school (homework, socializing, etc.).
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You guys will get over it... eventually
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I could understand why no one would want to spend 30 minutes after school, but the thing is, it's really that he's not telling me! Other than "stuff". If it's something important and he told me, then sure, but he's really just wasting his parents' money, and gas, plain and simple. I also live like a 15 minute drive from school, it's an hour walk from our houses to the school, unless I want to wake up at like, 6 am to walk to school, and arrive maybe sweating or soaking wet, it's really just pointless.
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If he's anything like I was in high school, maybe he just doesn't have the confidence to be explaining that he wants to get home asap to play call of duty because it's what he enjoys most in life. Lots of people are unsure of their-selves and would be ashamed to explain something like that.
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I used to have to wait after school 1+ hours every single night. No friends. Not one. I would roam the quiet corridors. Pretty sure this is mostly how I got my name as a stalker. Mostly.
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