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On March 17 2010 08:34 0xDEADBEEF wrote:Show nested quote +On March 17 2010 07:06 Virtue wrote: Good looks help a lot in life. You don't need social skills just be a looker.
Look up the halo effect
Good looks = good person good at everything subconsciously. Yes. This is one of the best ways (if not the best) to generally improve yourself. If you get better looking, you'll have more self-confidence, which affects EVERYTHING you do. You'll probably get better at *everything*, and feel good. This way, you can also easily overshadow other weaknesses you might have. Plus, you'll obviously have more success with the other gender, and furthermore people of the same gender will tend to *respect* you more. One might think this is only true for girls, but I believe it's also true for guys, just to a lesser extent, and more on a subconscious level.
No matter how over-the-top this sounds, I've found myself admiring other guys for this very reason, and comparing them to myself quite often. It might be a confidence issue, jealousy, or plain admiration. Either way, improving yourself should have at least some effect. It's on my own to-do list. Have you ever noticed that you seem to be a lot more confident and outgoing if you're simply wearing nicer clothes, styled hair, things as simple as that.
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Everyone has their own definition of being sociable. Most people think its about hanging out with others and being easy to talk to. I for example, don't have any friends (I don't want to), and I think being sociable is trying to help society as a whole to improve, and I'm not above helping so I consider myself sociable.
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On March 17 2010 11:31 Archaic wrote:Show nested quote +On March 17 2010 08:34 0xDEADBEEF wrote:On March 17 2010 07:06 Virtue wrote: Good looks help a lot in life. You don't need social skills just be a looker.
Look up the halo effect
Good looks = good person good at everything subconsciously. Yes. This is one of the best ways (if not the best) to generally improve yourself. If you get better looking, you'll have more self-confidence, which affects EVERYTHING you do. You'll probably get better at *everything*, and feel good. This way, you can also easily overshadow other weaknesses you might have. Plus, you'll obviously have more success with the other gender, and furthermore people of the same gender will tend to *respect* you more. One might think this is only true for girls, but I believe it's also true for guys, just to a lesser extent, and more on a subconscious level. No matter how over-the-top this sounds, I've found myself admiring other guys for this very reason, and comparing them to myself quite often. It might be a confidence issue, jealousy, or plain admiration. Either way, improving yourself should have at least some effect. It's on my own to-do list. Have you ever noticed that you seem to be a lot more confident and outgoing if you're simply wearing nicer clothes, styled hair, things as simple as that. I think that trying to measure success on an empirical level is useful to professionals and employers, but rather insulting on an individual level.
I measure success based on how eccentric I'm allowed to be in a given social situation. If I have to conform strictly to other people's notions of attractiveness, I feel sad and trapped. If I can wear a pillow on my head and a cape among friends, I know I have their hearts.
Does it mean having a lot of friends on facebook, having a lot of friends at school, not having a lot of friends but few close ones, being a suck up, etc.? It means can you talk to people without making them feel uncomfortable. If you're only sociable among close friends, then that's probably something they'd be concerned about. They want you to be able to talk to other professionals, work in groups, and generally just be likable on a level of acquaintance. That's what I think I'd want to know if I were interviewing someone and asked that.
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Socially skilled = knowing how to make people around you happy
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One line: I have a 14-inch.
Scholarship is yours.
Trust me in this.
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Smix
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I think they're trying to probe you past your academic, individual achievements and trying to see how you relate on a more macro level. While grades, stats, etc. certainly say a lot about you as a person, your socialization with people definitely says a lot too - this can mean possible community projects you're involved in, clubs, sports teams, down to the time you spend with your family - the things you do with other people whoever they may be, because these activities also say a lot in defining you as a person.
Best of luck in getting the scholarship!
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people who are awkward socially are the ones who give a shit. i dunno..like they talk to you and they expect a certain reaction, theyll be really quiet and in their head or they wont do shit without your approval
people who havent been in enough social situations to define their boundaries and banter
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