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LuMiX
China5757 Posts
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HeavOnEarth
United States7087 Posts
the vernacular is "go kill yourself" Used in good ol' mafia days :O | ||
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
I went through a few similar situations myself. Most of high school I pursued a girl who didn't really know what she wanted. We became best friends instead, but that eventually crumbled since I was expecting it to go somewhere. In college my first real girlfriend changed over a summer break. We dated for about a year, I got an internship 800 miles away, and when I returned four months later I was taken for granted on several occasions and then got the whole "I'm not in love with you anymore" breakup speech. Women downright suck sometimes... A long time ago I was taught "A relationship should end when it no longer builds the human spirit". Corny, I know, but you seem to be getting way more grief out of it than necessary. Knowing what someone is capable of is one thing, but what they are showing you is a bigger picture of who they actually are. If it's making you angry enough to break things I suggest moving on. | ||
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Pyrrhuloxia
United States6700 Posts
On January 05 2010 10:07 niteReloaded wrote: You made so many mistakes I won't even consider typing them all out. Realize that what has happened has happened, it is done with. You may feel the urge to hang on and try to fix things, but the sooner you realize you need to let go of this one, the better. What you CAN do, is give yourself some time to get your mind straight, and then make sure to not do the same mistakes. Here's what I recommend: - get an elbitz.net account (a private torrent) - download this: http://elbitz.net/details.php?id=18050 - and this: http://elbitz.net/details.php?id=20090 You'll thank me in a few months. How do I get one of these accounts? | ||
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nayumi
Australia6499 Posts
That's all I can say. | ||
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WindCalibur
Canada938 Posts
1. You have anger problems. 2. Your friend is an asshole. 3. The girl is extremely stupid. 4. Since you said you are a dickhole, I'm going to assume you are one. Then after some consideration, I came up with: 1. Either you are really desperate or blind to like a girl like that, or you are stupid yourself. 2. You have no idea who you are and is somewhat ignorant of the events that revolve around you. 3. Since you are ignorant, you probably did not see what could happen if you and that girl are to ever marry. 4.I don't particularly know if you plan to be someone who dedicates himself to one girl or want to have sex with multiple partners. I don't think you know this yourself. Becareful on what you do in real life. Before jumping all over someone who likes you or who you like, try to think more ahead and forecast what could happen in the future. Don't be desperate about giving away your love and yourself but also don't be a complete fag who mistreats females. (I see how many people seem to treat women as objects or inferior beings. Superiority complex towards the other sex indicates bitterness, lack of education, and inconsideration.) | ||
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arb
Noobville17918 Posts
Gna go to bed ill post more responses to other posts tommorow when i get back. | ||
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WindCalibur
Canada938 Posts
On January 05 2010 13:45 arb wrote: K i know people are saying i have anger issues. Which normally id agree, it doesnt take very much to send me into a rage. However Put yourself in my situation and tell me honestly that you would not be more than pissed off. Hint theres no way you can honestly say you wouldnt. Gna go to bed ill post more responses to other posts tommorow when i get back. You don't get mad at something like this because they aren't worth your anger. You take a chill pill, take this as a life lesson, and play starcraft. | ||
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nebffa
Australia776 Posts
On January 05 2010 13:37 WindCalibur wrote: Things I picked up at first glance: 1. You have anger problems. 2. Your friend is an asshole. 3. The girl is extremely stupid. 4. Since you said you are a dickhole, I'm going to assume you are one. Then after some consideration, I came up with: 1. Either you are really desperate or blind to like a girl like that, or you are stupid yourself. 2. You have no idea who you are and is somewhat ignorant of the events that revolve around you. 3. Since you are ignorant, you probably did not see what could happen if you and that girl are to ever marry. 4.I don't particularly know if you plan to be someone who dedicates himself to one girl or want to have sex with multiple partners. I don't think you know this yourself. Becareful on what you do in real life. Before jumping all over someone who likes you or who you like, try to think more ahead and forecast what could happen in the future. Don't be desperate about giving away your love and yourself but also don't be a complete fag who mistreats females. (I see how many people seem to treat women as objects or inferior beings. Superiority complex towards the other sex indicates bitterness, lack of education, and inconsideration.) you say things very matter-of-factly. this is ok, but calling him a dickhole/ignorant? its a bit rude. these mistakes... almost everyone makes at some point. why not encourage, instead of scold? | ||
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WindCalibur
Canada938 Posts
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Sadist
United States7072 Posts
On January 05 2010 13:37 WindCalibur wrote: Things I picked up at first glance: 1. You have anger problems. 2. Your friend is an asshole. 3. The girl is extremely stupid. 4. Since you said you are a dickhole, I'm going to assume you are one. Then after some consideration, I came up with: 1. Either you are really desperate or blind to like a girl like that, or you are stupid yourself. 2. You have no idea who you are and is somewhat ignorant of the events that revolve around you. 3. Since you are ignorant, you probably did not see what could happen if you and that girl are to ever marry. 4.I don't particularly know if you plan to be someone who dedicates himself to one girl or want to have sex with multiple partners. I don't think you know this yourself. Becareful on what you do in real life. Before jumping all over someone who likes you or who you like, try to think more ahead and forecast what could happen in the future. Don't be desperate about giving away your love and yourself but also don't be a complete fag who mistreats females. (I see how many people seem to treat women as objects or inferior beings. Superiority complex towards the other sex indicates bitterness, lack of education, and inconsideration.) I disagree with this. There are self respecting girls/women and then there are dumb bitches. You dont need to respect dumb bitches as a male. Maybe one day theyll be enlightened and their dumb bitch tendencies will go away but probably not. Its not to say you cant be attracted physically to dumb bitches or even attracted in general until you find out their dumb bitch tendencies. These are girls who havent thought taken a look at themselves and how they treat people or why they think what they think once in their fucking life. They are good for one thing and one thing only. I have no problem with women saying the same about scumbag guys. | ||
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Pengu1n
United States552 Posts
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Loser777
1931 Posts
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bigsack
Korea (North)220 Posts
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nebffa
Australia776 Posts
On January 05 2010 14:50 Sadist wrote: I disagree with this. There are self respecting girls/women and then there are dumb bitches. You dont need to respect dumb bitches as a male. Maybe one day theyll be enlightened and their dumb bitch tendencies will go away but probably not. Its not to say you cant be attracted physically to dumb bitches or even attracted in general until you find out their dumb bitch tendencies. These are girls who havent thought taken a look at themselves and how they treat people or why they think what they think once in their fucking life. They are good for one thing and one thing only. I have no problem with women saying the same about scumbag guys. sure, if two people want to have sex and neither of them expect anything more then you can go for it. but durr, we know its not going to happen here. someone is going to get emotionally attached and then someone gets hurt. is that a good outcome? was it even the right thing to do in the first place? what i think is the worst part about what you say is that you advocate being a bad person, and then justify it saying 'they had it coming'. is that REALLY the kind of person you want to be? | ||
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genryou
Malaysia390 Posts
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Lokomis
United States72 Posts
R sounds like the only person that knows what they want, gets it, and is done. Maybe they'll have some trouble developing meaningful relationships later in life but I don't know them well enough so it isn't for me to say. I'm pretty certain this girl & yourself are in that boat though. At least R is smart enough to know she doesn't know what she wants whereas you want to love this indecisive & immature girl. That she would ask you to quit drinking is a sign she might be a manipulative type. She might ultimately want to mold you into something more fitting to her tastes (which probably change with every passing second). Later on down the road she might decide she herself enjoys an occasional drink. You don't know and she definitely doesn't know who she'll be a few years down the road either. That you recanted your agreement when things didn't go your way is indicative that you can't be trusted to fit these ever changing desires of hers and that probably bumped you down lower on the list of her potential suitors (which, again, fluctuates as frequently as her heart beats right now). Good relationships require compromise but she'd want something different every other day and you'd just keep making promises you'd ultimately break later on after you realize it has been keeping you from enjoying your life as you would like to define it. After she tried lying to you to get his number & then disregarded your warning that he would just dump her it should've become clear she has no respect for your opinion (or herself). That she would make these intentions known while fully aware of your feelings for her should make it all the more obvious that she has no respect for you. She doesn't know what she wants but she is going to lead you (and anyone else) on and do whatever she needs to get it. I'd advise you not to bother developing a serious relationship with her (or friendship for that matter) but then I might be left without further entertainment and I lead a pretty boring life. So my advice is to fight for her. By all means chase that ass; Godspeed sir! Just don't be surprised when, if she finally caves and hooks up with you, you end up realizing she isn't quite as attractive as when you were still jumping through hoops after her. Or don't be surprised if she dumps you fifteen seconds into the relationship for the next person making her loins moist. Edit: + Show Spoiler + In all seriousness I don't believe she is worth your time. It isn't that she is a bitch and most likely she never intended to be cruel. She is a young girl that probably has some trust issues and not much of a clue as to what she wants right now so she is quick to bounce around. Her & your hormones are kicking and everything is a fucking mess for the both of you. It's a great time in both your lives for confusing quasi-relationships, sex you'll both regret and madness; all of which I'd avoid like the plague so that you can look back on High School and not totally hate those years. Especially the sex. Not every girl is going to try and trap you with a *fake* pregnancy and "I'm on the pill" should be responded to with "I'm gonna rubber up anyway" unless you're looking to risk having a kid. My buddy gets foodstamps and hands over all his money for child support 'cause a girl tried to trap him into a relationship. Anyway, I finally read some of the comments and if you ignore all the posts by misogynistic twelve year olds offering advice on how to get your noodle wet (not a one of them has seen a vagina that wasn't downloaded via Limewire since they left the womb) there is some great advice in this thread. Warrior Madness makes some great points. One of the most important things you can be doing in this stage of your life is defining who you are and what you want out of life. Without identity and a game plan what more are you in this world than a lump of unshapely clay? The point being that who you are is for you to mold. You need to ask yourself if you're going to spend this time trying to sculpt yourself into what you think she wants or if you're going to become who you want to be and find somebody who likes you for that. There are a lot of careers, religions & philosophies, political & moral stances... if she doesn't like who you decide you like being is she really worth your time? Do you really want somebody that doesn't want you back for who you are? Someone that'll settle for you if you change x, y & z? There are a lot of women in this world; So many so that bending over backward for one looks really foolish. In regards to your anger over the situation you try to retort with the "put yourself in my situation" and "tell me you wouldn't be" but the only people who are going to answer in the affirmative are the ones that need the same advice as yourself. Most of us know well enough not to end up in the same situation but it does still happen to the best of us. No shit it hurts but how you react to the pain is important. The best thing you can do is just remain a gentleman. You can try to remain friends but, if need be, write her off (without being a dick). Let her know indecisiveness isn't going to be on your menu tonight so she'll have to dine alone. Maybe she'll come back to you after she realizes the relationships she has been pursuing aren't good ones or once she has a better idea of who she is and what she wants in life. Maybe you'll be in a good relationship when that time comes and it'll be her loss. No need to be smug or rub it in her face since it will probably already hurt for her. If you're not in a relationship maybe you'll be more cautious and less head over heels if you decide to give her that second chance. You won't know if she's still going to be indecisive and fickle until that time comes but at least you will not have overly invested your emotions if you agree to give her that chance. Get your shit together kid & best of luck to you. You'll do alright if you relax, expand your mind a bit and take some things less seriously at first. | ||
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ffswowsucks
Greece2291 Posts
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erin[go]bragh
United States815 Posts
Adolescence is a crazy, unpredictable, pretty retarded thing. Especially when it concerns women. From the sound of it she's simply crazy, or at least a bit off. It's actually kind of weird because she seems to have a lot of parallels to a girl I knew in HS (right down to the asking me to quit drinking thing) and let me tell you, if she's anything like the girl I knew I'd turn tail and run. In all seriousness though it sounds like the best thing for you to do (emotional health wise) is to just detach yourself from this girl. If you have some genuine affection for her then that's a tough pill to swallow, but I learned the hard way that no matter what you do, no matter how nice or understanding you are, you just can't get through to girls like that. Using pregnancy as a desperate attempt to get an old boyfriend back is a pretty big clue that she's pretty messed up emotionally. Not that I'm trying to say there's something wrong with her, it's really all just part of adolescence. But she seems to be right in the middle of the "i don't know what I want or what I need" phase, and you're in for a lot of anger and heartache if you stick it out with someone like that. Regardless, I'm no psychiatrist, and everything I've said are basically assumptions I've made from what you wrote combined with what I experienced. In the end you just got to follow your instincts. | ||
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FyRe_DragOn
Canada2053 Posts
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