On January 05 2010 09:36 Sadist wrote: holy shit dude
Dont be a pussy.
"Can you stop drinking for me?"
Tell that controlling bitch to shut the fuck up. :D
well i would have but, considering i drink like once a month it didnt seem like such a huge deal for me at the time. considering ive also lied since i told her that and drank like 4 days out of the week that really makes me feel like a dickhead now haha
who cares its the principle. You made yourself seem like a pushover bitch. You never do anything like that. Whiny controlling chicks are the fucking worst. They ruin men. You should realize when people are trying to manipulate you and only do go along with it if you realize itll play to your advantage later (like say if you were going for the fuck and dump routine)
What would you do in this situation then? Personally im at a complete loss and trying to not be a dickhead seems to have failed me here. (no i was not going to hit n quit)
anytime you see a chick like this you realize they are stupid as shit and it should be an immediate turn off unless you planning to bang her. You should not get involved with her at all unless you were planning to bang her. You should have called her out on trying to be a controlling bitch. The girl is obviously stupid as hell, its plain as day she was trying to control you she wasnt even subtle about it.
Be more assertive, call her out for what she is. Shes trying to manipulate you and deserves no sympathy
How to call out this shit? I really do agree with you on most points here. However in my defense i really didnt realise this until quite recently.
I would just tell her that I don't want to have anything to do with her anymore and cut off everything I have to do with her
Been there, done that. From the start you're just a friend. And probably will always be.
"Well he has my number but he hasnt called me but idk why you would be mad we were just friends.."
After this I would stop talking to her and reply to her texts with cold-hearted short answers. She's obviously one of those girls who just doesn't care about others' feelings. At least she seems to me. So what kind of quality does she have that make you like her? If it's just her looks then you can safely back off - "There are other fish in the sea". Or if it's her personality, then you can still be friends with her but just treat her like a normal friend and focus on your life. Go study/play starcraft etc... Though I really doubt a girl and a boy can ever be "normal" friends because boys always have sexual dreams about their female friends no matter what. Or at least for me I do.
On January 05 2010 09:36 Sadist wrote: holy shit dude
Dont be a pussy.
"Can you stop drinking for me?"
Tell that controlling bitch to shut the fuck up. :D
well i would have but, considering i drink like once a month it didnt seem like such a huge deal for me at the time. considering ive also lied since i told her that and drank like 4 days out of the week that really makes me feel like a dickhead now haha
who cares its the principle. You made yourself seem like a pushover bitch. You never do anything like that. Whiny controlling chicks are the fucking worst. They ruin men. You should realize when people are trying to manipulate you and only do go along with it if you realize itll play to your advantage later (like say if you were going for the fuck and dump routine)
What would you do in this situation then? Personally im at a complete loss and trying to not be a dickhead seems to have failed me here. (no i was not going to hit n quit)
anytime you see a chick like this you realize they are stupid as shit and it should be an immediate turn off unless you planning to bang her. You should not get involved with her at all unless you were planning to bang her. You should have called her out on trying to be a controlling bitch. The girl is obviously stupid as hell, its plain as day she was trying to control you she wasnt even subtle about it.
Be more assertive, call her out for what she is. Shes trying to manipulate you and deserves no sympathy
How to call out this shit? I really do agree with you on most points here. However in my defense i really didnt realise this until quite recently.
When she asks you to change something you say fuck no. When she tells you she still has feelings for whatever dick she had before, you tell her ok do you (unless you are trying to bang her)
Basically you completely blow her off and ignore her or go about setting up lies and not caring about her feelings at all to try to bang her =).
If you ever talk to someone like that again you just completely disregard them. Was pretty obvious she wasnt interested in you. When she said she loved you, you should have burst out laughing.
On January 05 2010 09:36 Sadist wrote: holy shit dude
Dont be a pussy.
"Can you stop drinking for me?"
Tell that controlling bitch to shut the fuck up. :D
well i would have but, considering i drink like once a month it didnt seem like such a huge deal for me at the time. considering ive also lied since i told her that and drank like 4 days out of the week that really makes me feel like a dickhead now haha
who cares its the principle. You made yourself seem like a pushover bitch. You never do anything like that. Whiny controlling chicks are the fucking worst. They ruin men. You should realize when people are trying to manipulate you and only do go along with it if you realize itll play to your advantage later (like say if you were going for the fuck and dump routine)
What would you do in this situation then? Personally im at a complete loss and trying to not be a dickhead seems to have failed me here. (no i was not going to hit n quit)
anytime you see a chick like this you realize they are stupid as shit and it should be an immediate turn off unless you planning to bang her. You should not get involved with her at all unless you were planning to bang her. You should have called her out on trying to be a controlling bitch. The girl is obviously stupid as hell, its plain as day she was trying to control you she wasnt even subtle about it.
Be more assertive, call her out for what she is. Shes trying to manipulate you and deserves no sympathy
How to call out this shit? I really do agree with you on most points here. However in my defense i really didnt realise this until quite recently.
I would just tell her that I don't want to have anything to do with her anymore and cut off everything I have to do with her
i think he means he didnt see it happening, rather than being unsure about how to show her the door
On January 05 2010 09:36 Sadist wrote: holy shit dude
Dont be a pussy.
"Can you stop drinking for me?"
Tell that controlling bitch to shut the fuck up. :D
well i would have but, considering i drink like once a month it didnt seem like such a huge deal for me at the time. considering ive also lied since i told her that and drank like 4 days out of the week that really makes me feel like a dickhead now haha
who cares its the principle. You made yourself seem like a pushover bitch. You never do anything like that. Whiny controlling chicks are the fucking worst. They ruin men. You should realize when people are trying to manipulate you and only do go along with it if you realize itll play to your advantage later (like say if you were going for the fuck and dump routine)
What would you do in this situation then? Personally im at a complete loss and trying to not be a dickhead seems to have failed me here. (no i was not going to hit n quit)
anytime you see a chick like this you realize they are stupid as shit and it should be an immediate turn off unless you planning to bang her. You should not get involved with her at all unless you were planning to bang her. You should have called her out on trying to be a controlling bitch. The girl is obviously stupid as hell, its plain as day she was trying to control you she wasnt even subtle about it.
Be more assertive, call her out for what she is. Shes trying to manipulate you and deserves no sympathy
How to call out this shit? I really do agree with you on most points here. However in my defense i really didnt realise this until quite recently.
I would just tell her that I don't want to have anything to do with her anymore and cut off everything I have to do with her
i think he means he didnt see it happening, rather than being unsure about how to show her the door
oh
Well then, to everyone saying it's very obvious, at that period of time, it isn't. So give this guy a break.
yep, the emotional sway a girl can hold over you is pretty powerful. especially if shes telling you that she really likes you. weve all been there at some point.
On January 05 2010 10:23 nebffa wrote: yep, the emotional sway a girl can hold over you is pretty powerful. especially if shes telling you that she really likes you. weve all been there at some point.
man... bitches aint shit
Don't sweat it homes.
EDIT: Okay, I get where you're coming from, but honestly, you let her go completely overboard... You can't let people walk all over you like that, girls, guys, attractive or not.
lesson learned: stay away from girls who are not over their ex.Once you hear them talk too much about the ex, gtfo before it's too late, she's not going to be into you.
Well, this girl sounds stupid as hell and probably ain't worth your time. Heed konadora's advice, and tell her you don't want anything to do with her. It'll be easier on you in the long run. Whenever you feel depressed, try to find some friends to hang with or go out and party. Try to invest time into something more or less productive instead of moping around. It's hard, but a much better way to cope in the long haul.
Also, your friend 'R' kinda seems like an arrogant prick. "You can have her..." Ugh!
From what I understand: She seems to be a total bitch that's not worth your time and even less your feelings. Apparently, she does not really care for you and most likely she never will. Change your mindset from love to bang. Try to get her in bed if you have a chance. Else just do not give a fuck anymore.
You're getting irrationally angry man, clearly you know shes a slut/spiteful bitch, dont know why you would bother, or get hurt or upset. You should have seen this coming, or at least just planned to hit and run.
On January 05 2010 11:14 ludic123 wrote: Well, this girl sounds stupid as hell and probably ain't worth your time. Heed konadora's advice, and tell her you don't want anything to do with her. It'll be easier on you in the long run. Whenever you feel depressed, try to find some friends to hang with or go out and party. Try to invest time into something more or less productive instead of moping around. It's hard, but a much better way to cope in the long haul.
Also, your friend 'R' kinda seems like an arrogant prick. "You can have her..." Ugh!
Special thanks to poke before he goes off bitching >.>
I also told him straight up he did me shitty and he knows it, there was a little more conversation but that basically summed it up. After that i basically told him he could have her i dont give a fuck anymore. Basically thinking about it now when im less pissed off really makes me realise that i was not the only friend she'd ever need and bullshit like this and know that i was just going to get fucked over in the end. I should have heeded the signs but i didnt.
Im not going to be the bitch to another girl like that again.
This is frustrating. I'm not only talking about her bitching around but the way you handled all this. Whenever my friends ask me how to get out of the dreaded friendzone I always ask them, "When you call her, what do you really want?" You want to bang her. When she calls you... Why does she REALLY want to call you? If she really does want to talk to you about mundane shit then you gotta ask yourself how you're presenting yourself to her, and to women in general. I think that was the first thing that went wrong. You took almost a week to ask her out. I'm curious if you ever talked about sex, or the way you like to be kissed or even the things you truly wanted to talk about.
Now onto her bitching. Every girl does this for some reason. They bitch test you. No matter how sweet you think the girl is, or how perfect she is, she will bitch test you. She'll do it for many reasons, to see WHAT she can get away with, how far she can push you, how available you are, and how you'll react (i.e. assertive, non-needy vs approval seeking, agreeable, fake). You always, always have to call them out on their bitching/bullshitting. It's not a matter of being a dick far from it. Most guys lie without even knowing they do. When you're agreeable and you say and talk about things that you think she'll like, you are being disingenuine. So when asks you a ridiculous request like, "Will you quit booze for ME xoxoxox *bat eye lashes*", tell her what you really think. And always be honest about your intentions.
As soon as she said, "I have to get over my boyfriend before I go out with you." I would have said, "Listen.... I like you, there's something about you I can't put my finger on, but I know you're a smart girl and you can figure this thing out about your ex. I have a lot of friends, so that's just not what I'm looking for, so if you ever make up your mind, you know where to reach me. Bye."
Now and then I will get into a situation like this. "You're too young, I still have feelings for my ex, I'm getting married next month...etc etc." But I always say something like that when it happens. And more often then not, I'll get a call back, sometimes the very next day. But then sometimes I will not get a call back, that's just the way it is. You have to be prepared to lose her but winners are risk takers after all. It beats your other option.... Listening to radiohead all day long and watching Garden Statte over and over again.
Oh and Arb, you're still quite young. If you want to get good with girls, the very first thing you need to do is get a strong identitiy of who you are. After you figure out who you are exactly, once you know what your values are, what your uncensored thoughts are, what makes you happy, your genuine opinions, you need to "own it". That is, assert those values, thoughts and opinions of yours with confidence. There is something truly liberating about being who you really are around everyone, including cute girls (Or especially around them) and not wanting or needing to be liked by any of them. I always work in starcraft in most of my dates.
If I can recommend two books: "Getting Real: Ten Truth Skills You Need to Live an Authentic Life" "Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken: Transform Your Life with the Power of Authenticity"
EPT
