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konadora
Singapore66357 Posts
On January 05 2010 10:10 arb wrote: How to call out this shit? I really do agree with you on most points here. However in my defense i really didnt realise this until quite recently. I would just tell her that I don't want to have anything to do with her anymore and cut off everything I have to do with her | ||
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Garnet
Vietnam9031 Posts
"Well he has my number but he hasnt called me but idk why you would be mad we were just friends.." After this I would stop talking to her and reply to her texts with cold-hearted short answers. She's obviously one of those girls who just doesn't care about others' feelings. At least she seems to me. So what kind of quality does she have that make you like her? If it's just her looks then you can safely back off - "There are other fish in the sea". Or if it's her personality, then you can still be friends with her but just treat her like a normal friend and focus on your life. Go study/play starcraft etc... Though I really doubt a girl and a boy can ever be "normal" friends because boys always have sexual dreams about their female friends no matter what. Or at least for me I do. | ||
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Sadist
United States7291 Posts
On January 05 2010 10:10 arb wrote: How to call out this shit? I really do agree with you on most points here. However in my defense i really didnt realise this until quite recently. When she asks you to change something you say fuck no. When she tells you she still has feelings for whatever dick she had before, you tell her ok do you (unless you are trying to bang her) Basically you completely blow her off and ignore her or go about setting up lies and not caring about her feelings at all to try to bang her =). If you ever talk to someone like that again you just completely disregard them. Was pretty obvious she wasnt interested in you. When she said she loved you, you should have burst out laughing. | ||
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nebffa
Australia776 Posts
On January 05 2010 10:14 konadora wrote: I would just tell her that I don't want to have anything to do with her anymore and cut off everything I have to do with her i think he means he didnt see it happening, rather than being unsure about how to show her the door | ||
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konadora
Singapore66357 Posts
On January 05 2010 10:17 nebffa wrote: i think he means he didnt see it happening, rather than being unsure about how to show her the door oh Well then, to everyone saying it's very obvious, at that period of time, it isn't. So give this guy a break. | ||
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nebffa
Australia776 Posts
man... bitches aint shit | ||
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seRapH
United States9776 Posts
well, close enough anyways. you'll get over it, how soon depends on how willing you are to hate her. | ||
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Equaoh
Canada427 Posts
 She pulled some underhanded shit, though, good thing it didn't last. | ||
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Archaic
United States4024 Posts
On January 05 2010 10:23 nebffa wrote: yep, the emotional sway a girl can hold over you is pretty powerful. especially if shes telling you that she really likes you. weve all been there at some point. man... bitches aint shit Don't sweat it homes. EDIT: Okay, I get where you're coming from, but honestly, you let her go completely overboard... You can't let people walk all over you like that, girls, guys, attractive or not. | ||
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caldo149
United States469 Posts
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ludic123
Norway161 Posts
Also, your friend 'R' kinda seems like an arrogant prick. "You can have her..." Ugh! | ||
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ggrrg
Bulgaria2716 Posts
She seems to be a total bitch that's not worth your time and even less your feelings. Apparently, she does not really care for you and most likely she never will. Change your mindset from | ||
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deth
Australia1757 Posts
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ludic123
Norway161 Posts
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Pokebunny
United States10654 Posts
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NeVeR
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
On January 05 2010 11:14 ludic123 wrote: Well, this girl sounds stupid as hell and probably ain't worth your time. Heed konadora's advice, and tell her you don't want anything to do with her. It'll be easier on you in the long run. Whenever you feel depressed, try to find some friends to hang with or go out and party. Try to invest time into something more or less productive instead of moping around. It's hard, but a much better way to cope in the long haul. Also, your friend 'R' kinda seems like an arrogant prick. "You can have her..." Ugh! Special thanks to poke before he goes off bitching >.> I also told him straight up he did me shitty and he knows it, there was a little more conversation but that basically summed it up. After that i basically told him he could have her i dont give a fuck anymore. Basically thinking about it now when im less pissed off really makes me realise that i was not the only friend she'd ever need and bullshit like this and know that i was just going to get fucked over in the end. I should have heeded the signs but i didnt. Im not going to be the bitch to another girl like that again. | ||
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Warrior Madness
Canada3791 Posts
Now onto her bitching. Every girl does this for some reason. They bitch test you. No matter how sweet you think the girl is, or how perfect she is, she will bitch test you. She'll do it for many reasons, to see WHAT she can get away with, how far she can push you, how available you are, and how you'll react (i.e. assertive, non-needy vs approval seeking, agreeable, fake). You always, always have to call them out on their bitching/bullshitting. It's not a matter of being a dick far from it. Most guys lie without even knowing they do. When you're agreeable and you say and talk about things that you think she'll like, you are being disingenuine. So when asks you a ridiculous request like, "Will you quit booze for ME xoxoxox *bat eye lashes*", tell her what you really think. And always be honest about your intentions. As soon as she said, "I have to get over my boyfriend before I go out with you." I would have said, "Listen.... I like you, there's something about you I can't put my finger on, but I know you're a smart girl and you can figure this thing out about your ex. I have a lot of friends, so that's just not what I'm looking for, so if you ever make up your mind, you know where to reach me. Bye." Now and then I will get into a situation like this. "You're too young, I still have feelings for my ex, I'm getting married next month...etc etc." But I always say something like that when it happens. And more often then not, I'll get a call back, sometimes the very next day. But then sometimes I will not get a call back, that's just the way it is. You have to be prepared to lose her but winners are risk takers after all. It beats your other option.... Listening to radiohead all day long and watching Garden Statte over and over again. | ||
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Warrior Madness
Canada3791 Posts
If I can recommend two books: "Getting Real: Ten Truth Skills You Need to Live an Authentic Life" "Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken: Transform Your Life with the Power of Authenticity" http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Real-Truth-Skills-Authentic/dp/0915811928/ref=pd_sim_b_6 http://www.amazon.com/Yourself-Everyone-Else-Already-Taken/dp/047039501X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262659872&sr=1-1 | ||
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Sprite
United States1015 Posts
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