This is what I remember about this particular music video
- old (at least three years old) - black and white - boy and girl (teens) exchanging glances at a non-alcohol bar (the kind that teens used to go to) - girl was quite tomboyish - I think they wore leather jackets - the people in the video were white, the music was alt rock-ish
... and that's it. I know, useless, just throwing it out there. Or if someone can post it on metafilter for me, since I don't have an account.
First I tried to search it from Last.fm and tried all kinds of search words on youtube. Then when I was about to go to sleep I thought I'd give it one more chance and typed indie music on youtube search and there it was on the second page
I knew the song / video you meant from your description but just couldnt remember the name so I didn't have to spend too much time going through the videos.