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To some I am too nice, too gullible, I let people take advantage of me; to others I am an asshole that needs to give people a little bit of credit.
To one ex, I need to be more assertive and go after what I really want, to another I am a selfish prick who never thinks about her needs.
To one group of friends I am charismatic and outgoing always up for anything, to another I am an introverted hermit who needs to get out more.
To some I am the king of the nerds and they love it! To others I am an immature boy who needs to grow up and adopt adult things.
To many I am abrasive and loud, to a cherished few I am comforting, compassionate and "the only one who really listens."
To some I am still young and I have my whole life ahead of me, to others I am the old man who thinks in archaic ways.
Who the hell am I? Who is right, who is wrong? The more important question is, why should I or anyone else care?!
What part of me is an act, what part of me is real, what bit of what I say was a bit of sarcastic bantering and what was sincere and heartfelt? Do I even know? How the hell could anyone else? Which part of my personality is best? More socially acceptable? Sexier? More interesting? Is there any part of me that could exist without the others?
I have no idea, and the real point is if I don't know neither can anyone else.
At some point, there comes a time where you really do need to just stop giving a shit. It's tiring, it's an inefficient use of time and frankly, no one ever knows what the fuck they are talking about. Everyone wants to give you a piece of advice here and there about what you "should really try" not having a clue that the last person before them that said that same thing told me the exact opposite. That person that was offended by one simple joke doesn't realize that her friend laughed at it but then hid her reaction when she saw her. One guy doesn't realize how dumb his profound life view sounded but no one wanted to say it to him because they didn't want to hurt his feelings.
As I approach my 30s the one lesson I've really taken away from life is that everyone really is making this all up as they go along. No one is right, everyone is right. The best thing I think in my humble, probably wrong, opinion is: everyone should just try being honest with themselves. If everyone could do that, perhaps there'd be that much less bullshit that we all have to sift through. But perhaps that's just me being arrogant again, yet another trait that people disagree on about me.
Who the hell knows?
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TLADT24920 Posts
Stop telling me what to do!
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Can i advise you add a tldr* to your post? Don't open the spoiler if you don't want to know + Show Spoiler [something like] +"everyone really is making this all up as they go along" "perhaps there'd be that much less bullshit that we all have to sift through" .. if "everyone .. just tried being honest with themselves" (your words not mine) And to that i would have responded: Do you think people choose to be introspective (or how much introspection they perform over the course of their lives..)? Do you think people choose to be smart/not smart? Do they choose to be happy/unhappy? And ultimately i would have pasted a jpg river unto it, but i'm not supposed to place spoilers so i'll just be good and place just the one: -tldr: *too long did not read-
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my true self is that asshole you talk about, the one who would reply to your blog post with
+ Show Spoiler +great, yet another /r/getmotivated user sprouting general truths. Maybe next you're gonna tell me to 'just do it'? or 'start one step at a time'? or 'you can do anything if you work hard enough'? what exactly do you even accomplish saying this smh
not sure that's what people want to hear..
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i happen to think everything counts.. so technically both those posts did something (butterfly effect etc) and all those things matter.. also + Show Spoiler [maybe] +possibly he's just pouting and you are barely pouting back, and? Am i .. pouting too ??? Preaching and talking (typing in this case) are the same thing, seducing a dog that is barking at you with your eyes or opening the window for a fly to leave.. it is all a part of the same system and it all works out better when you are part of the engine* in control.. instead of apathetically looking at it, granted maybe you will barely steer the whole galaxy a micron left .. but what if billions were doing it too? Life is one thing and it is here and now. Technically that state of fact (every single being having a vision and a part of the control in the big life system) that thing in itself is infinite, see? For example, i'm doing something else now and that is my now, your now is you reading this message for the first time, .. the time / investment you are living this very second, all that is your present .. weird no? *the engine in this context means everything that makes "life" move forward, as life (whatever that is) is definitely moving forward, somewhere, always! Bearing that thought in the semantic field of this argumentation you are reading right now, i think some people are cursed with more than their inheritance (the geographical genetic psychological financial (usual suspects) traits/gifts you inherited from where you came from). Some people are cursed with an antic forgotten underrated ability / karma shenanigans : + Show Spoiler + Some are not.
Enjoy and make a difference, be, don't abide <3
hf and try to be yourself in the process
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We can never just be ourselves, one does not exist without any level of interaction (or lack of) with others.
We are without a doubt, largely influenced by external factors: Politics, economy, upbringing, education etc. Should you just stop changing yourself now just because you find everyone's opinion of you differs?
The only way forward is like everything else, take everyone's advice with a grain of salt. Because no one can be certain of anything, even their own existence.
Would you have done better in some situation if you were a different person? Yes maybe, but if you were that person, would you even be in that situation? Probably, probably not, no one knows.
Even the you in act is still you, it is simply not the you you want to be. But you are what your choices are.
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The confusion comes from thinking that the way others perceive you is the way that you actually are. All things are relative, so if I were from Mercury, I would go, "Wow, the Earth is freezing cold.", but if I came from Pluto, I would go, "Wow, the Earth is really hot!" All of my impressions of the Earth would be relative to my experience on my homeworld, or in Pluto's case, a dwarf-homworld.
On November 12 2017 21:32 fluidrone wrote:Can i advise you add a tldr* to your post? Don't open the spoiler if you don't want to know + Show Spoiler [something like] +"everyone really is making this all up as they go along" "perhaps there'd be that much less bullshit that we all have to sift through" .. if "everyone .. just tried being honest with themselves" (your words not mine) And to that i would have responded: Do you think people choose to be introspective (or how much introspection they perform over the course of their lives..)? Do you think people choose to be smart/not smart? Do they choose to be happy/unhappy? And ultimately i would have pasted a jpg river unto it, but i'm not supposed to place spoilers so i'll just be good and place just the one: -tldr: *too long did not read-
This is not a long post. I'm not sure why you need a "tl;dr" for something this short. I feel like it's kind of rude to say to someone who is pouring their heart out to go, "I didn't read any of this. Give me the short version."
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Well i was just thinking that one sentence was enough to expose his thoughts, and i wanted to see if i could form that sentence.. no ill intent meant
i didn't imply he needed my powers of concision, was just trying to flaunt them.. as to "pouring heart out" .. my posting was meant to show interest and help..
# i failed obviously
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What if you have multiple personality disorder? Easy for you to say to be yourself.
Pero algunos de nosotros no tenemos esa opcion.
I do tego nie łatwo jak nikt cie nie lubi.
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