It was a Halloween party hosted at the nicest night club here in town, it was private, for members of the city hall and secretaries. She agreed to go with me, but here is where I think I started making mistakes:
the day before she told me that maybe she couldn't go, because her boss told her that payroll might be delayed until Monday, and she wouldn't have money to buy a nice costume..so I told her I really wanted her to go with me and that I would lend her the money for the costume. ( i saw it as an opportunity as well to go with her in the morning costume shopping and see her trying things on and etc, like a non date "date"... so I paid for her costume, but it was clear it was a loan and she would pay me back.. but knowing thinking about it, did I sound too desperate or insecure by offering and paying for the costume?
Anyways, we went to the party that night, it was a little uptight, because the mayor and many high public servants were there, but they were giving free alcohol and food for everyone, so a lot of people ended up being drunk. I got to admit, the atmosphere wasn't that great and we weren't having a lot of fun, we danced a little and talked with a group but it deff wansnt huge fun. Around 12, she told me some of her friends were in another part of the club and she wanted to go say hi to them, which i said ok, she left and took about 35 mins over there, which really annoyed me, but i didn't go searching for her or anything, i socialized at the party and got my drink on. when she came back she said i looked annoyed, but i said i was fine i wasn't mad or anything. we kept dancing, more at this point, and I was already buzzed and she wasn't drinking at all, and around 2 am, she said she was tired and wanted to go home. I asked her if she wanted me to take a cab with her and take care home, which she said no to stay and party and she would make it home ok.. so she left and I thought she went home, around 5 am when the club closed I left with a group of people to another place to keep drinking and over there, her friends showed up, and i started talking to one of her friends, and casually got the information that she never went home that early but went over there to keep partying with them and then left to go home.
I guess that could be my fault, if she was bored where we were, and like I said, the atmosphere was a little uptight and I could really be my crazy self so I was more calm and serious all night, maybe it was a bad place invite for a 1st time going out, but I thought it might DHV since it was a private upscale party, free drinks, etc.
So next day she called me at night time and I ignored her calls, then she texted asing if I was ok or mad and I ignored her....but then I made another mistake, i got wasted , and texted her at like 4 am , I wasn't mean or disrespectful, but told her off on telling me she went home when she really went somewhere else to keep partying, that she didn't need to lie to me that she could've just said im bored im leaving etc.. she she reacted very defensively and said we just met and she owed no explanations to me whatsoever and that we were fine and not to worry about dumb things
we haven't talked since then... now I really like this girl physically she is very very cute, but I don't know if I should continue "wasting" time with her? I don't know if I want her as a gf but I deff want to sleep with her, but I know it will take hard work... I just don't know if after all that bs is better to forget about it and hit on another chick or maybe apologize and continue trying
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