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God damnit, dude.
On July 06 2012 08:26 UmbraaeternuS wrote:Show nested quote +On July 06 2012 08:18 EngrishTeacher wrote:
I'm just afraid I'm going to be fucking retarded and lose control one day, calling her up and fucking up as hard as you did.
Fuck our lives.
Dude, I went full retard and lost the game. NEVER go full retard. Stay away from booze. That would be my best advice. + Show Spoiler +Stupid and sensual scotch. Damn it.
I called that shit. I feel you, man. I really do. Fuck our lives.
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I am wondering where does this friend zone concept come from? How do you even fall in love without being friends first? I might think oh she is cute, I wanna kiss her. I might think oh she is hot, I wanna fuck her. But love her, make her my girlfriend? That shit cost time and money, better be sure first it's worth it :D Personally I never had a problem going from friends to lovers and it seems all this friendzone bullshit does is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy for you guys. You expect to fail and so you do.
It seems one problem a lot of people have is that they confess their love too early. What changes if you wanna take the relationship from friendship to lovers? Usually it entails physical contact. Compare it to a relationship that doesn't go from friendship to lover. People are dating and usually before they tell they love each other there has been sex or at least a kiss. It shouldn't be differend if you come from friendship first. Get physical first. Give each other a massage, go cuddle while you watch a movie... whatever you do words are not necessary.
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This is my 2k post. I'd do a battle report but those take too long. I don't think anyone would read it all for League. I'd do a girl blog, but there's probably something wrong with privacy there. Instead I'll just say that this summer, I've also had a female coworker and I awkwardly asked her if she wanted a boyfriend. She said no, that was that. Moved on. I'd like to stay friends with her because we have similar interests, same majors, and I like talking to her, but after the internship we'd both go back to different schools.
What I'm proud of was that I asked very quickly, maybe 3 weeks into the internship.
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On July 15 2012 00:50 REDBLUEGREEN wrote: I am wondering where does this friend zone concept come from? How do you even fall in love without being friends first? I might think oh she is cute, I wanna kiss her. I might think oh she is hot, I wanna fuck her. But love her, make her my girlfriend? That shit cost time and money, better be sure first it's worth it :D Personally I never had a problem going from friends to lovers and it seems all this friendzone bullshit does is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy for you guys. You expect to fail and so you do.
It seems one problem a lot of people have is that they confess their love too early.
Meh, I already said what I think it is but it was on the last post of last page, but here it is:
standards are too high.
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You should have said that it was too late or whatever, and see how she reacted. It would be fun! (for me atleast...)
Ah well! GLHF
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On July 14 2012 19:36 EngrishTeacher wrote: She pretty much rejected every single one, because she firmly knows what she wants in her image of the perfect guy. Fuck Disney, they spoiled every single girl on this planet with their charming princes. Am I rite guys?
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On July 15 2012 05:03 Carapas wrote:Show nested quote +On July 14 2012 19:36 EngrishTeacher wrote: She pretty much rejected every single one, because she firmly knows what she wants in her image of the perfect guy. Fuck Disney, they spoiled every single girl on this planet with their charming princes. Am I rite guys?
fak disny! + Show Spoiler +
Dear EngrishTeacher, it appears to me that she's not attracted by you. You can bitch all you want now, it's not going to change her mind. The best you can do is enjoy the time you spent with her and have fun together. Don't force a relationship.
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If I had to give one piece of advice, stop treating her like a goddess. Acknowledge her imperfections, physical and mental alike. Everyone has them. Don't just tail her around waiting for her to fuck something up, but you'll find something. Somewhere.
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Does she say "hey" instead of "hi" because if she says "hey" she could be a lesbian.
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When you are in the friendzone you can never come out!
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Sorry to hear that, really sucks
On July 23 2012 18:19 dellesh1ruH wrote: When you are in the friendzone you can never come out!
You are in the frienzone because you were treating her like a friend, to get out you simply have to stop doing that. Just gradually touch/flirt/tease/... more, it's not rocket science.
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On July 23 2012 18:20 Arcanefrost wrote:Sorry to hear that, really sucks Show nested quote +On July 23 2012 18:19 dellesh1ruH wrote: When you are in the friendzone you can never come out! You are in the frienzone because you were treating her like a friend, to get out you simply have to stop doing that. Just gradually touch/flirt/tease/... more, it's not rocket science.
Yeah you're right!
BTW I feel sorry for you, I'm sure you're gonna find a girl who destroyes your heart with love!
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On July 23 2012 16:12 TheRealFluid wrote: Does she say "hey" instead of "hi" because if she says "hey" she could be a lesbian. Waitwaitwait WHAT?! lol
I wonder how OP's been doing since then... I'm still surprised this comment got passed over (or maybe just ignored for the sheer absurdity) though. OP sounds like he should be okay though, sounded like he got over it already.
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The worst is when she actually shows interest and then all of a sudden she shuts you out and tells you she needs time for herself and is not ready for a relationship. Happened to me last week. FML! Forever Alone!
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let's call her Linda, a fantastic girl who captured my heart, also my dear friend and co-worker
Never mix love and business, that's how people get hurt. Figuratively and literally
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On July 23 2012 19:18 Gman1216 wrote: The worst is when she actually shows interest and then all of a sudden she shuts you out and tells you she needs time for herself and is not ready for a relationship. Happened to me last week. FML! Forever Alone! Now what drives people to do that...
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On July 14 2012 23:41 sc4k wrote:Show nested quote +On July 14 2012 19:36 EngrishTeacher wrote: Also, this one is... unique...she is just... the perfect woman. Ah, that old chestnut. I think every teen has to say this about one girl (of course it's not true). I'd bet all the money in China that this is not true. By the way, in terms of this OP, it has to be one of the most amazing and outstanding examples of crazy ass hope to get out of the friendzone I have ever seen!!! So thanks for sharing it because I'm sure all of us on TL have embarrassing 'romance' stories to tell. Gave me a good chuckle, and yes you are definitely better off having got it out of the way. As much as men get angry that there are girls who keep men in the friendzone when they so obviously want to be out of it, I think it is equally pathetic when men fall over themselves to behave perfectly to girls they are attracted to and then behave stone cold to ugly girls AND have the nerve to accuse the fairer sex of being shallow etc! So much bullshit in society comes from men thinking they have a chance with girls who would reject them any day of the week if they just came out and said they wanted to go out. It's also funny when guys become friends with hot girls because inside they believe they won't be able to get them by asking them out, but perhaps if they can hang around and become friends they can slowly convince them of their goodness as boyfriend material and their goodness as a person (it's of course partly true but also an act). The one common thread between all these problems is guys who have standards too high. Unable to accept the girl who has a few imperfections, they get annoyed when they aren't able to get a girl who is better than them and clearly has the choice to be with patently better and more attractive men than them. Probably they have been spoiled by seeing ugly celebrities etc getting with hot girls and therefore they tell themselves that if they hold out they can get a girl just like that.
Wow great stuff man, couldn't have said it better. I could elaborate on some points but i don't really think its necessary.
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