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God DAMN I'm wasted outa my mind, yet again, so, here it goes, one of my jounral entries documenting my epic failure to a gigantically catastrophic degree.
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July 11, 2012
If the definition of bi-polarism wasn’t so well-defined or my knowledge of psychiatric disorder was a less bit less extensive, I’d say that I have been bi-polar without hesitation.
Yesterday was the day that I was rejected into the deepest abyss of oblivion by... let's call her Linda, a fantastic girl who captured my heart, also my dear friend and co-worker. I was stupid, there’s absolutely zero doubts regarding that fact. I was WELL aware of the result beforehand, but as I’d to quote the Matrix, “Hope, it is the quintessential human illusion, simultaneous your [our] greatest strength and weakness.”
I was profoundly foolish. It’s actually funny because just on the day before yesterday, Linda SPECIFICALLY told me such a hardcore friendzone line that I must have either been totally retarded or incredibly infatuated to do what I did. In her words, it went something like this,
L: “Hey Terry, can I talk to you about something?”
T: “Sure I’m all ears, what’s up?”
L: “Don’t ever like me, okay? Please promise me.”
T: “Wait what? Never like you?”
L: “Yah, don’t ever fall in love with me, please? I had a really good male friend before who liked me for 5 years from grade 10 to 2nd year in university, but I was oblivious the whole time. After he confessed to me and my subsequent rejection, he cut off contact with me and disappeared. I was devastated, please don’t like me okay? I don’t want to lose another amazing friend.”
T (thinking to himself): “FUCK, MY, LIFE. FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK WHAT THE FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK!!!!!!!!#$%^&*^$@!#%&*&^@#%&!!!!!!!!!!!
T: “Haha you’re so self-centered you know? Whoa your words make it sound like I would like you, wow you’re such a narcissist ”
T (to himself): “ , well shiiiiiiiiit, that’s that I guess.”
Pretty clear-cut right? But fuck and fuck my life some more. Sometimes, men, are just the most illogical and impulsive creatures in the world. Why didn’t her message sink through like a fucking 50.cal bullet into my brain? WHY? It should have, fuck, for anyone with a little less arrogantly thick skull and it definitely fucking should have.
Long story short, I took her out to the nicest place in town, paid an arm and leg for the dinner, and got rejected on such a profoundly retarded level that all I wanted to do afterwards was to drink myself to death then find a hole to bury myself for all eternity. FUCKKKKKKKK!#$%&^*(&^%#$%&
I fucked up. I really fucked up. Actually, in retrospection now that I think hard about it, I don’t regret my decision at all. Fucking up hard was my act that’s not really questionable, but it was probably the right decision after all. Hope just never dies you know? Unless she spits on your heart, steps on it and slams it back at your face, which is exactly what happened. It hurt, I won’t lie, getting rejected on such terms with such intensity, but just after a day, I feel IMMENSELY relieved. In fact, I’m so okay and cool with it to the point where I went into work today, explained my thought process to her, and asked to be friends with her with very little to no passionate feelings.
Do what you gotta do, improve yourself on all levels; an endless supply of mermaids await you in the future.
God damn beer is powerful. And dammit I am such a weaksauce lol, already a little high after 1 bottle. Feels gooooood
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Girls are all different. Genetics and experiences shape them. How retarded was I to not fully realize that? For girls that have been absolutely SPOILED with attention by the other sex, their standards are well, naturally, unnaturally high. Sure this makes them more attractive, but you gotta then weigh yourself differently when approaching them. Getting rejected has definitely been an enlightening experience, I really needed it.
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Learn from me, please for the love of God:
Hope, the quintessential human illusion, let it be your strength, not your weakness.
FML.
Edit: Fuck I'm so wasted, missed a name change, and fixed spelling errors.
  
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Hope.
The topless tower besides which girl blogs fall.
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How about you show interest before it gets stale (aka friend-zone). Also, the fact that she brought it up shows that she already knew about your pussyfooting shenanigans.
NEXT
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Man that friend-zone line she gave you... sounds like something from a chick-flick =_=
So, if I read this correctly... you're feeling like an idiot to have put yourself in a situation to get rejected, but youre also relieved/enlightened???
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On July 14 2012 19:29 paper wrote:
How about you show interest before it gets stale (aka friend-zone). Also, the fact that she brought it up shows that she already knew about your pussyfooting shenanigans.
NEXT
Naw dude.
I'll agree that I fucked up in terms of getting friendzoned, but that was before I started to fall her.
Also, this one is... unique. It's a real shame she'll never be mine, because she is just... the perfect woman. I'll say that again in 10 years after my feelings die down, that's how fucking perfect she is.
8/10 in terms of look, 10/10 in terms of personality. Only 3 dating experience, still a virgin, because well she went to all-girls schools. So innocent, so gorgeous, and yet so mysterious. She has had literally DOZENs of guys fall for her, as our discussions have revealed. She pretty much rejected every single one, because she firmly knows what she wants in her image of the perfect guy.
Yah, she didn't have a clue I liked her. It's just that pretty much EVERY single guy she meets falls for her, so she's insensitive to the opposite sex's emotions and actions.
Well, I'm gunna head off to a club in an hour or so, but after my incident with her, I donno, I just don't feel strongly for other [considerably more slutty] girls, no matter how pretty they are.
Sigh. Really wish I had some chemical relievers, but then again, fuck it's China.
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On July 14 2012 19:36 JerKy wrote:
Man that friend-zone line she gave you... sounds like something from a chick-flick =_=
So, if I read this correctly... you're feeling like an idiot to have put yourself in a situation to get rejected, but youre also relieved/enlightened???
I swear on my life that it's the truth. She fucking wiped out that line like a 30000 volt eel.
And yes, I feel relieved/enlightened, because I'll never fucking commit the same criminal mistake again. Ever.
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On July 14 2012 19:38 EngrishTeacher wrote:
She fucking wiped out that line like a 30000 volt eel.
I don't know what the fuck this means but I like it.
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On July 14 2012 19:38 EngrishTeacher wrote:Show nested quote +On July 14 2012 19:36 JerKy wrote:
Man that friend-zone line she gave you... sounds like something from a chick-flick =_=
So, if I read this correctly... you're feeling like an idiot to have put yourself in a situation to get rejected, but youre also relieved/enlightened??? I swear on my life that it's the truth. She fucking wiped out that line like a 30000 volt eel. And yes, I feel relieved/enlightened, because I'll never fucking commit the same criminal mistake again. Ever.
what was your mistake here? Asking her out despite the inevitable rejection? That's not really illogical imo. Just do it and not regrets.
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On July 14 2012 19:53 tenacity wrote:Show nested quote +On July 14 2012 19:38 EngrishTeacher wrote:On July 14 2012 19:36 JerKy wrote:
Man that friend-zone line she gave you... sounds like something from a chick-flick =_=
So, if I read this correctly... you're feeling like an idiot to have put yourself in a situation to get rejected, but youre also relieved/enlightened??? I swear on my life that it's the truth. She fucking wiped out that line like a 30000 volt eel. And yes, I feel relieved/enlightened, because I'll never fucking commit the same criminal mistake again. Ever. what was your mistake here? Asking her out despite the inevitable rejection? That's not really illogical imo. Just do it and not regrets.
Well there's always a first for everything. It's a good thing that I "Asked her out despite the inevitable rejection", but that's only beneficial due to the fact that it's the first time I've done so.
Pretty sure I'm not going to bench on 1% hope again in the future. Doing so would be... you get my drift.
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Huh. This reminds me of another girl blog, where a guy totally fell for this chick for years, then got drunk late one night and called and spilled it all to her. Then eventually just cut her off completely and tried to forget about her.
Related? I dunno.
Still though, at least you tried. Kinda. Eventually.
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So you know you were friendzoned, but still tried to go for it before trying to build up attraction between you two? Smart thinking... And then you pay for the dinner. That's just shameful. Why oh why oh why.
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If I was fed that line, and I was falling for the girl who gave me said line, I'm pretty sure I would just walk away now instead of being in love with said girl for X months then getting rejected. Time saver you know?
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Wait this one wasn't called Felicity?
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On July 14 2012 20:04 felisconcolori wrote:
Huh. This reminds me of another girl blog, where a guy totally fell for this chick for years, then got drunk late one night and called and spilled it all to her. Then eventually just cut her off completely and tried to forget about her.
Related? I dunno.
Still though, at least you tried. Kinda. Eventually.
Umbraaeternus I think? The amazing doctor guy.
Should have called her Felicity, it's the "in" thing to do
But....ugh fuck girls, seriously. So sad how there are absolutely amazing perfect girls who just reject all the boys...for better or worse, I haven't yet had a true girl blog experience (though looking way back on primary/middle school I was a completely unwitting beast lol), but I have a feeling it's going to happen sooner or later. Although I haven't had the same experience, I feel I understand exactly what you're trying to say ;;
I assume she'a also an English teacher in China? Just sucks, hope you find someone better than perfect :<
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Only 3 dating experience, still a virgin
Uhh... sure.
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On July 14 2012 22:22 TheAntZ wrote:Uhh... sure.
Hey, girls like that do exist, however rare ^^
Also I don't know too much about Chinese culture but it may be comparatively more conservative in that specific regard and may also have influenced her. Obviously just speculating here but I don't think it's completely impossible...
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On July 14 2012 22:29 Aerisky wrote:Show nested quote +On July 14 2012 22:22 TheAntZ wrote:Only 3 dating experience, still a virgin Uhh... sure. Hey, girls like that do exist, however rare ^^.
Thats true, but there exists a far greater amount of women that just say shit like that to seem more 'pure' or some bullshit.
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On July 14 2012 19:36 EngrishTeacher wrote:
Also, this one is... unique...she is just... the perfect woman.
Ah, that old chestnut. I think every teen has to say this about one girl (of course it's not true).
I'll say that again in 10 years after my feelings die down
I'd bet all the money in China that this is not true.
By the way, in terms of this OP, it has to be one of the most amazing and outstanding examples of crazy ass hope to get out of the friendzone I have ever seen!!! So thanks for sharing it because I'm sure all of us on TL have embarrassing 'romance' stories to tell. Gave me a good chuckle, and yes you are definitely better off having got it out of the way.
As much as men get angry that there are girls who keep men in the friendzone when they so obviously want to be out of it, I think it is equally pathetic when men fall over themselves to behave perfectly to girls they are attracted to and then behave stone cold to ugly girls AND have the nerve to accuse the fairer sex of being shallow etc! So much bullshit in society comes from men thinking they have a chance with girls who would reject them any day of the week if they just came out and said they wanted to go out.
It's also funny when guys become friends with hot girls because inside they believe they won't be able to get them by asking them out, but perhaps if they can hang around and become friends they can slowly convince them of their goodness as boyfriend material and their goodness as a person (it's of course partly true but also an act).
The one common thread between all these problems is guys who have standards too high. Unable to accept the girl who has a few imperfections, they get annoyed when they aren't able to get a girl who is better than them and clearly has the choice to be with patently better and more attractive men than them. Probably they have been spoiled by seeing ugly celebrities etc getting with hot girls and therefore they tell themselves that if they hold out they can get a girl just like that.
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God damnit, dude.
On July 06 2012 08:26 UmbraaeternuS wrote:Show nested quote +On July 06 2012 08:18 EngrishTeacher wrote:
I'm just afraid I'm going to be fucking retarded and lose control one day, calling her up and fucking up as hard as you did.
Fuck our lives.
Dude, I went full retard and lost the game. NEVER go full retard. Stay away from booze. That would be my best advice. + Show Spoiler +Stupid and sensual scotch. Damn it.
I called that shit.
I feel you, man. I really do.
Fuck our lives.
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I am wondering where does this friend zone concept come from?
How do you even fall in love without being friends first?
I might think oh she is cute, I wanna kiss her.
I might think oh she is hot, I wanna fuck her.
But love her, make her my girlfriend? That shit cost time and money, better be sure first it's worth it :D
Personally I never had a problem going from friends to lovers and it seems all this friendzone bullshit does is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy for you guys. You expect to fail and so you do.
It seems one problem a lot of people have is that they confess their love too early. What changes if you wanna take the relationship from friendship to lovers? Usually it entails physical contact. Compare it to a relationship that doesn't go from friendship to lover. People are dating and usually before they tell they love each other there has been sex or at least a kiss.
It shouldn't be differend if you come from friendship first. Get physical first. Give each other a massage, go cuddle while you watch a movie... whatever you do words are not necessary.
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This is my 2k post. I'd do a battle report but those take too long. I don't think anyone would read it all for League. I'd do a girl blog, but there's probably something wrong with privacy there. Instead I'll just say that this summer, I've also had a female coworker and I awkwardly asked her if she wanted a boyfriend. She said no, that was that. Moved on. I'd like to stay friends with her because we have similar interests, same majors, and I like talking to her, but after the internship we'd both go back to different schools.
What I'm proud of was that I asked very quickly, maybe 3 weeks into the internship.
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On July 15 2012 00:50 REDBLUEGREEN wrote:
I am wondering where does this friend zone concept come from?
How do you even fall in love without being friends first?
I might think oh she is cute, I wanna kiss her.
I might think oh she is hot, I wanna fuck her.
But love her, make her my girlfriend? That shit cost time and money, better be sure first it's worth it :D
Personally I never had a problem going from friends to lovers and it seems all this friendzone bullshit does is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy for you guys. You expect to fail and so you do.
It seems one problem a lot of people have is that they confess their love too early.
Meh, I already said what I think it is but it was on the last post of last page, but here it is:
standards are too high.
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You should have said that it was too late or whatever, and see how she reacted. It would be fun! (for me atleast...)
Ah well! GLHF
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On July 14 2012 19:36 EngrishTeacher wrote:
She pretty much rejected every single one, because she firmly knows what she wants in her image of the perfect guy.
Fuck Disney, they spoiled every single girl on this planet with their charming princes. Am I rite guys?
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On July 15 2012 05:03 Carapas wrote:Show nested quote +On July 14 2012 19:36 EngrishTeacher wrote:
She pretty much rejected every single one, because she firmly knows what she wants in her image of the perfect guy. Fuck Disney, they spoiled every single girl on this planet with their charming princes. Am I rite guys?
fak disny!
+ Show Spoiler +
Dear EngrishTeacher, it appears to me that she's not attracted by you. You can bitch all you want now, it's not going to change her mind. The best you can do is enjoy the time you spent with her and have fun together. Don't force a relationship.
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If I had to give one piece of advice, stop treating her like a goddess. Acknowledge her imperfections, physical and mental alike. Everyone has them. Don't just tail her around waiting for her to fuck something up, but you'll find something. Somewhere.
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Does she say "hey" instead of "hi" because if she says "hey" she could be a lesbian.
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When you are in the friendzone you can never come out!
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Sorry to hear that, really sucks
On July 23 2012 18:19 dellesh1ruH wrote:
When you are in the friendzone you can never come out!
You are in the frienzone because you were treating her like a friend, to get out you simply have to stop doing that. Just gradually touch/flirt/tease/... more, it's not rocket science.
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On July 23 2012 18:20 Arcanefrost wrote:Sorry to hear that, really sucks Show nested quote +On July 23 2012 18:19 dellesh1ruH wrote:
When you are in the friendzone you can never come out! You are in the frienzone because you were treating her like a friend, to get out you simply have to stop doing that. Just gradually touch/flirt/tease/... more, it's not rocket science.
Yeah you're right!
BTW I feel sorry for you, I'm sure you're gonna find a girl who destroyes your heart with love!
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On July 23 2012 16:12 TheRealFluid wrote:
Does she say "hey" instead of "hi" because if she says "hey" she could be a lesbian.
Waitwaitwait WHAT?! lol
I wonder how OP's been doing since then... I'm still surprised this comment got passed over (or maybe just ignored for the sheer absurdity) though. OP sounds like he should be okay though, sounded like he got over it already.
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The worst is when she actually shows interest and then all of a sudden she shuts you out and tells you she needs time for herself and is not ready for a relationship. Happened to me last week. FML! Forever Alone!
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let's call her Linda, a fantastic girl who captured my heart, also my dear friend and co-worker
Never mix love and business, that's how people get hurt. Figuratively and literally
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On July 23 2012 19:18 Gman1216 wrote:
The worst is when she actually shows interest and then all of a sudden she shuts you out and tells you she needs time for herself and is not ready for a relationship. Happened to me last week. FML! Forever Alone!
Now what drives people to do that...
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On July 14 2012 23:41 sc4k wrote:Show nested quote +On July 14 2012 19:36 EngrishTeacher wrote:
Also, this one is... unique...she is just... the perfect woman. Ah, that old chestnut. I think every teen has to say this about one girl (of course it's not true). I'd bet all the money in China that this is not true. By the way, in terms of this OP, it has to be one of the most amazing and outstanding examples of crazy ass hope to get out of the friendzone I have ever seen!!! So thanks for sharing it because I'm sure all of us on TL have embarrassing 'romance' stories to tell. Gave me a good chuckle, and yes you are definitely better off having got it out of the way. As much as men get angry that there are girls who keep men in the friendzone when they so obviously want to be out of it, I think it is equally pathetic when men fall over themselves to behave perfectly to girls they are attracted to and then behave stone cold to ugly girls AND have the nerve to accuse the fairer sex of being shallow etc! So much bullshit in society comes from men thinking they have a chance with girls who would reject them any day of the week if they just came out and said they wanted to go out. It's also funny when guys become friends with hot girls because inside they believe they won't be able to get them by asking them out, but perhaps if they can hang around and become friends they can slowly convince them of their goodness as boyfriend material and their goodness as a person (it's of course partly true but also an act). The one common thread between all these problems is guys who have standards too high. Unable to accept the girl who has a few imperfections, they get annoyed when they aren't able to get a girl who is better than them and clearly has the choice to be with patently better and more attractive men than them. Probably they have been spoiled by seeing ugly celebrities etc getting with hot girls and therefore they tell themselves that if they hold out they can get a girl just like that.
Wow great stuff man, couldn't have said it better. I could elaborate on some points but i don't really think its necessary.
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