Are you in a relationship? All relationships have ups and downs, how can you just be ok with some guy stealing her during a down/ vulnerable moment/... I just don't get it. If you you love the girl you should want to murder that guy, not go all "Hey, nice job taking my gf dude. I'm totally fine because you're so attractive." I really do not get this.

Yes I am. If during those "downs" (which I actually haven't experienced yet in the almost two years we're together) one decides to have sex with someone else the relationship wasn't meant to be in the first place. That's kind of my stance on the issue.

If you "cheat" you don't value your relationship enough to not do it. If you see it that way having sex with a girl who is "kind of" in a relationship is just helping her rationalize that she doesn't want to be with that other guy anyway. =P

Smancer

United States379 Posts

June 19 2012 18:22 GMT

#43

On June 19 2012 09:23 MetaCry wrote:
Just walk up to her and say this: "Hey! What about.. You..Me...My sofa...This weekend...Titanic 2...Popcorn...Something to drink, okidoki?"

-- Works everytime

You... me... bar... beers... buzzed... wings... shots... drunk... waitresses hot... football Cornell/Hosfstra... slaughter... then quick nap at my place... and then we hit the tizzown

Ryalnos

United States1946 Posts

June 19 2012 18:54 GMT

#44

as a fyi, I remember r.Evo being a prominent poster from the pickup artist thread (said thread is both appalling and intriguing as a peek into a certain kind of thinking). So, caveat emptor with regard to his advice on this topic.

r.Evo

Germany14079 Posts

June 19 2012 19:44 GMT

#45

On June 20 2012 03:54 Ryalnos wrote:
as a fyi, I remember r.Evo being a prominent poster from the pickup artist thread (said thread is both appalling and intriguing as a peek into a certain kind of thinking). So, caveat emptor with regard to his advice on this topic.

If you also remember I was probably most prominent for calling out the "PUAs" for whenever they spewed crap. If you disagree with my thoughtprocesses when I recommend things to someone, feel free to say so and correct me.

Just waltzing in and saying "lol this guy knows about pua stuff don't listen!!!1" isn't exactly a point in your favor.

Edit: Wait. Did I just get called out that my advice has to be taken with caution because I actually put work into improving at that subject? The irony. >_>

Ahzz

Finland780 Posts

June 19 2012 20:59 GMT

#46

OP needs to explain his situation wrong.
I'm not sure if he implied that the BF&GF relationship is 'not there' because he's overseas and can't reach her physically, or that they've actually gone downhill for a while now?
If the girl told you that they've been going downhill, then that's one sign that implies her interest in you and that you can perhaps slowly make moves to getting with her. However, I would not 'date' her while their relationship still stands because that's not healthy for her, even if we ignore your own coincience. it's a dick move to push her into cheating with her boyfriend no matter what. Break up first.
If she only said that her boyfriend is far away and they're cool or w/e, then don't go for it. I would hate nothing more than have my gf cheat on me, even if it's with a random dude from overseas. While you are not going to rape her and it's 'her choice', you would feel like shit if you even had to fear guys hitting on your gf constantly.

In short, if she implies that they may be breaking up soon, then go for it, but not too aggressively. If she has implied no such thing, you're a massive dick if you do it and I would never want anything to do with you. Besides, if you think of her as marriage material, how can you ever trust her if she cheats on her current BF for you? Who's to say it's not going to happen again.

Funnytoss

Taiwan1471 Posts

June 19 2012 23:50 GMT

#47

If she's the type to cheat on her boyfriend with you, she's probably the type to cheat on you too. Why would you be different? It's not a "screwed if you do, screwed if you don't" situation. You'll be perfectly fine even if you go for someone else instead. It's oddly amusing how pissed off guys get when their girlfriends cheat, but at the same time are perfectly willing to cheat themselves.

decafchicken

United States19918 Posts

June 20 2012 03:02 GMT

#48

On June 20 2012 08:50 Funnytoss wrote:
If she's the type to cheat on her boyfriend with you, she's probably the type to cheat on you too. Why would you be different? It's not a "screwed if you do, screwed if you don't" situation. You'll be perfectly fine even if you go for someone else instead. It's oddly amusing how pissed off guys get when their girlfriends cheat, but at the same time are perfectly willing to cheat themselves.

She's only there for a couple months who cares if she cheats on him imo.

If someone banged my gf yeah i'd fucking hate the guy but i dont think i could honestly say i blame him