For my grad I spent $400 on a hotel and other stuff for my girlfriend and I, perfect everything, perfect night. This went from Friday 5pm to Saturday 2pm, later we parted ways as we both had work. I got no text message back until the entire night after that though, and my girlfriend had camping at noon with the school next day. I got no text messages, no worries, she must've been busy packing, and she worked till 10pm. She comes home tuesday evening...
Her: Are you working tonight? Me: Oh my! When did you get back?! Her: Just a little while ago Me: I am working though, is everything okay baby? Her: When you're done work just call me Me: Are you breaking up with me?... Me: Okay I'll call you after work... ): Her: Yes, but please don't call later Me: Can I come down there instead? Her: Please just respect my wish of being left alone, I won't be home tonight anyways.
Yepp I'm fucked, so eventually she broke up over me on text message, I decided to leave work and call her, she wasn't "ready" yet. So during work she ends it. No reason, not anything, nothing bad happened before besides for:
Our three month anniversary (yeah yeah), I wanted to see each other, I came down to her place, but she's like "yeah I'm busy", so I got a little bit upset about that, because I mean come on, asking for 15 minutes of your boyfriends time on your anniversary isn't too much to ask. Especially after he spends 45 minutes coming down there.
Anyways she doesn't seem to want to get back together at all, she's like just move on, eventually I got a reason out of her, apperantly I'm too possessive, are you fucking serious... All I talk about is how much this girl means to me and how much I care for her. Ah well, that's life I guess.
I have friends who are being supportive which is helping a lot, but what troubles me the most is I wont be able to look at love the same way again. 3 months of being picture perfect together, then this. Bam, spontaneous as anything. Sidenote, Lullaby by Nickelback is a good song.
Honestly it's just a terrible feeling, totally unjustified, I sacrificed so much for her, she became so much to me, and this is what I get in return. Birthday this thursday, what a great present... She probably was too cheap to buy one so she decided to break up with me. And then she decided to be an ass about the whole ordeal. It's happened to her before, why does she have no respect, why does she not care about how I feel, she's pretty much just like fuck you.
I know for a a fact she isn't seeing someone else. Ugh... Live is full of lessons, I guess the lesson I'm passing on, no matter how perfect everything seems, give it time, don't rush into things, things can change so quickly, being the perfect couple for 2-4 months means absolutely nothing. Understand how fragile love is, and understand how much it hurts to be heartbroken.
My seventh relationship that lasted over a month, and this one coming to an end no doubt hurts more than any... It hurts, knowing you gave it your all, and knowing it wasn't enough. It hurts having your future figured out, looking forward to a life together and getting this. It hurts loving someone and getting hated in return, it hurts to be thrown away so quickly, it hurts knowing this was all a lie, it hurts knowing my current dreams can't come true, it hurts being there on without someone. A heart can only be broken so many times to be made stronger, eventually it gets broken so much it gets fragile and loses all it's trust about everything. The emotions in it disappear, and an empty shell is left inside.
On May 30 2012 14:43 FiWiFaKi wrote: Apperantly I'm too possessive, are you fucking serious... All I talk about is how much this girl means to me and how much I care for her. Ah well, that's life I guess.
On May 30 2012 14:43 FiWiFaKi wrote: It hurts having your future figured out, looking forward to a life together and getting this.
Sounds kinda possessive/clingy to me. 3 months isn't a long time, and for you to already be throwing money around and sacrificing heaps of stuff for the relationship actually puts alot of pressure on it. Probably ended up a bit too serious relative to what she's looking for at her age.
Does seem like your a bit possessive....and most girls will generally be against that. You were dating for a few months man...don't put your heart and soul into a girl at that age. Put 10% effort into it at max, yeah you may end up going from relationship to relationship but eventually you will get past that few month mark and boom.
3 months son, at 3 months with my current girlfriend (2 years) we were still drinking, doing romantic dinners and stuff but in no way would I drop that much cash even now.
my shortest relationship is 6 months btw....don't throw cash at women, just be a good guy.
That 'perfect couple' thing is called the honeymoon period...when you first start dating everything is great but then it will fade...even in successful relationships. Me and my woman are far from perfect now, but we live together, we eat together and just do little romantic things for each other...nothing big just little
On May 30 2012 14:43 FiWiFaKi wrote: Apperantly I'm too possessive, are you fucking serious... All I talk about is how much this girl means to me and how much I care for her. Ah well, that's life I guess.
Sounds kinda possessive/clingy to me. 3 months isn't a long time, and for you to already be throwing money around and sacrificing heaps of stuff for the relationship actually puts alot of pressure on it. Probably ended up a bit too serious relative to what she's looking for at her age.
Maybe compared to the regular it seemed clingy...
She picked our kids names out. She suggested where we're going to live when we're older We watched "What to expect when you're expecting", she kept hugging me and crying... And I'm like... Lindsay we aren't having a baby.
Like to not bring this up at least once if it's a problem makes no sense to me.
Whatever, I wont blame her anymore, her life, if it's what makes her happy I can't change that.
Reading these girl blogs makes me really not want to get a girlfriend any time soon lol
This really sucks though, it sounds like you felt like you matched but she had an issue that she just never brought up. Don't know why people don't express their problems, it can solve a lot of issues a lot earlier and help prevent pain down the road. The truth may hurt, but it is always the best.
On May 30 2012 14:55 Antimatterz wrote: Reading these girl blogs makes me really not want to get a girlfriend any time soon lol
This really sucks though, it sounds like you felt like you matched but she had an issue that she just never brought up. Don't know why people don't express their problems, it can solve a lot of issues a lot earlier and help prevent pain down the road. The truth may hurt, but it is always the best.
She said...
"I don't like saying things because I don't think people should need to change for someone for them to like them"... I'm sorry but I'm no mindreader you know.
On May 30 2012 14:43 FiWiFaKi wrote: Apperantly I'm too possessive, are you fucking serious... All I talk about is how much this girl means to me and how much I care for her. Ah well, that's life I guess.
Sounds kinda possessive/clingy to me. 3 months isn't a long time, and for you to already be throwing money around and sacrificing heaps of stuff for the relationship actually puts alot of pressure on it. Probably ended up a bit too serious relative to what she's looking for at her age.
Maybe compared to the regular it seemed clingy...
She picked our kids names out. She suggested where we're going to live when we're older We watched "What to expect when you're expecting", she kept hugging me and crying... And I'm like... Lindsay we aren't having a baby.
Like to not bring this up at least once if it's a problem makes no sense to me.
Whatever, I wont blame her anymore, her life, if it's what makes her happy I can't change that.
Haha, yeah girls. > > They always cling to you when they need you and when you need them they get repulsed.
Video by John Green. It was pretty hard to watch a few months back for me, but now that I watch again, its pretty funny. Hope this can cheer you up a bit. (BTW, I have the same issues as you, too clingy > <)
Well no wonder you've had 7 relationships 'over a month'. -.-
My dear, here is the truth: She is naive and stupid to plan her life with you. You are naive and stupid to do the same.
The following stood out to me:
1. She says: "When you're done work just call me" and you immediately ask if she's breaking up with you.
You must be ridiculously insecure and clingy, have known all along you two aren't right for each other, or heard she was cheating on you to ask this based on that text.
2. "apperantly I'm too possessive, are you fucking serious"
If you've had as many short relationships at your age as you suggest, you might ask yourself if the problem is really with all of these girls, or if maybe you have some kind of problem that is pushing them away.
3. "I wont be able to look at love the same way again"
I hope certainly hope so, because no one's experience of love aught to be this shallow.
4. "3 months of being picture perfect together"
Picture perfect is something that should be taken literally. No good relationship is founded on how good two people look together on paper or in photographs. A good relationship is an imperfect thing made of imperfect people that holds together anyway-- on love. Until you discover and understand all of your partner's imperfections, you cannot be truly in love with them.
5. "totally unjustified, I sacrificed so much for her, she became so much to me...why does she have no respect, why does she not care about how I feel"
Clearly she did the best thing for you and your feelings. The greatest respect you can show anyone is honesty. She did not have the same devotion to you as you apparently had to her, and so she told you so and walked away. Heartbreak only gets worse the longer you mix yourself up with someone else.
6. "being the perfect couple for 2-4 months means absolutely nothing"
You are absolutely right. Please find someone to share the rest of your life with, through all your difficulties, struggles, and imperfections. The person willing to stay with you through that, is the perfect person for you.
1) She didn't see me for 3 days, or talk to me, and she's not excited what so ever or anything, it seemed pretty obvious to me. 2) 9 month, 8 month, 6 month, 3 month, 3 month, and two shorter ones... I'm not saying they're super long, but I did end 4 of the 7. 3) Your opinion, I summarized quite a bit because I just wanted to get everything out as quickly as possible. 4) We were emotionally perfect, cuddly, in love. 5) She doesn't seem to care if she wont at least do this face to face. She's just blocking me out of her life, it's not about how easy we will get over it, it's about keeping your integrity, leaving that person on a good note.
OMG, you sound like a bronze leaguer saying I followed this build I can do my 4gate perfectly and then omg he scouted my proxy pylon he must be using hax its his fault.
Im serious this is how you sound. If you guys are graduating then maybe she wants to break it off now before you guys part ways for college if thats happeneing. I recently had a nice heart to heart with Googlion that helped me feel much better about my love life.
Honestly just from your writing you sound very possesive and you should listen to what RedJustice has to say. Her credentials are much better than yours.
BTW I know how you feel, im a highschooler myself. and honestly when you break up with someone don't you usually block them out of your life. If not you must have done something to cause that.
Oh and RedJustice your food blog I promised you will come once I get the time to put everything to together.
On May 30 2012 14:43 FiWiFaKi wrote: Birthday this thursday, what a great present...
basically what happened to me lol my birthday was pmuch ruined but please please try to make the best out of yours. go out with friends and stuff and dont sit around moping for it. if you're not at your best your friends should understand, but still try. your relationship sounds the exact same as mine, two people really into each other and thinking they're going to spend the rest of their lives together when they've barely been together and then suddenly one person just losing interest. sux
eventually I got a reason out of her, apperantly I'm too possessive, are you fucking serious... All I talk about is how much this girl means to me and how much I care for her
eventually I got a reason out of her, apperantly I'm too possessive, are you fucking serious... All I talk about is how much this girl means to me and how much I care for her
*facepalm*
The funny/sad thing is that he prolly doesn't even recognizes it.
Your 7th relationship? Man you sound like it's your first one. Gotta learn your lessons. Asking for reasons and getting upset after? Oh dear. I feel your pain and I understand it's real but your perspective and attitude seems a bit infantile. Good luck dealing with the break up.
Getting dumped via text sucks, but I can see why (from your short description/story) that the girl may have felt burdened and stressed about this "relationship". You've got to give time and space for the relationship grow mutually... and I'm getting the image that you overwhelmed her with too much of everything. Maybe I'm wrong, but it should be worth a second thought.
Don't make it any worse by actively trying to salvage whatever from this one. Let it pass and go chill with your bros.
I don't know why you guys give crap to the poor guy for being a bit clingy and possessive, I think we were all like that at one point or another. Then we got screwed over by some girl who didn't know what she wanted and we realized "Oh girls don't like it when you do that stuff? hmm ok.. I guess I won't do it again".
I'm sure OP will know better than to make the same mistakes TWICE. But on a related note, how old are you op? are you a teen ager? older? First I thought he could be young so thats why hes clueless, but could be just inexperience. Anyway she broke up with you because you're clingy and she realized she doesn't like that even though it seems weird to you, just don't act like that with girls that age because they haven't been in relationships mature enough to know what they want and how to get it. Not your fault entirely.
I think the only advice here is to man the fuck up. A girl doesn't want some clingy bitch giving up everything for her and telling her all the time how awesome she is, she wants a goddamn man.
So don't go around sobbing here on TL about how you dont understand this keeps happing but fucking call her and ask her what the fuck her problem is for breaking up over text. At least then you might get some straight answers and you can leave with your head high rather than.. this..
I'm not trying to be an asshole to you, I'm saying this because sometimes tough love is all someone needs.
EPT
