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On February 06 2013 00:45 Latty wrote:Show nested quote +On February 05 2013 14:04 Tektos wrote:On February 02 2013 16:32 orllyfools wrote:On January 27 2013 12:06 zJayy962 wrote: Not sure if this is the place for relationship advice, but I'll give it a go. I've been in 1 relationship (serious one) my whole life. Been with her for almost 5 years now. Sex has always been great and I can barely keep up with her (she'll want it like 2 times a day everyday when we can see each other). She seems to be really happy though.
Now for the question. Though I don't know much about it, I've been reading and watching stuff on anal play for the last few months and I've brought it up jokingly to her. She seems to not like the idea but I've asked her if its on her "never will I ever" list of things she will never do and she said no. Now a few months have passed and I'm not sure if I should bring it up again. Not really sure on my next course of action. Any advice? fuck it. butt sex aint that cool. hahaha Yes, it is. ... Fuck now I miss her, damn I'm lonely. a wise man once said, dont mix the feelings of missing the girl and missing sex!
Haha if we are talking about missing putting it in her meat sleeve, then yes don't mix the two. If we talk about it in the intimacy sense, missing the closeness to another person, then they could be the same thing. So mix it.
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On February 02 2013 15:57 orllyfools wrote: I remember i was outside Macys, (where i work in San Francisco) smoking a cig when i saw this cute half asian girl walking by. She had half inch plugs in her ears and a septum. A really cute girl. As i saw her walking away i noticed something familiar looking on her purse. It was a Blizzard patch! The closer i looked at her purse it had a Terran logo screen printed on it! She gets to the corner and waits as if shes trying to decide where she was gonna go i noticed i got up and started walking towards her, as if my body was willing me to go talk to her. She was wearing headphones so i motioned to her to take them off so i can say something. I ask "Hey i noticed your blizzard patch and starcraft purse, do you think we can hangout sometime and watch some starcraft?" She gave me a confused look because i dont really look like a nerd, especially in my work clothes. She replied back in a shyful manner "no......." shaking her head as if english wasnt even her native language. point of the story is, just go talk to a girl regardless if youre scared or not. i laughed as i walked away. if only that worked out the way i wanted to. ^_^
what on earth were you expecting
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On February 02 2013 15:57 orllyfools wrote: I remember i was outside Macys, (where i work in San Francisco) smoking a cig when i saw this cute half asian girl walking by. She had half inch plugs in her ears and a septum. A really cute girl. As i saw her walking away i noticed something familiar looking on her purse. It was a Blizzard patch! The closer i looked at her purse it had a Terran logo screen printed on it! She gets to the corner and waits as if shes trying to decide where she was gonna go i noticed i got up and started walking towards her, as if my body was willing me to go talk to her. She was wearing headphones so i motioned to her to take them off so i can say something. I ask "Hey i noticed your blizzard patch and starcraft purse, do you think we can hangout sometime and watch some starcraft?" She gave me a confused look because i dont really look like a nerd, especially in my work clothes. She replied back in a shyful manner "no......." shaking her head as if english wasnt even her native language. point of the story is, just go talk to a girl regardless if youre scared or not. i laughed as i walked away. if only that worked out the way i wanted to. ^_^ Get her (visual) attention. Tilt head. Smile. Get her to take out her headphones (just make the motion she would have to do to remove them.
"Hey. You're cute/sweet. And you like Starcraft. Can I marry you?" ... Cut yourself off before she can answer, "I'm xyz, randomshortrant about something that's on your mind into random question/random lovely neg/random meow.", enjoy entertaining conversion, get her number after a couple of minutes/instant date her, work from there.
She didn't give you a confused look because you don't look like a nerd, she gave you a confused look because asking someone you know since 5 seconds to "hang out sometime" is awkward as fuck.
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On February 05 2013 14:19 docvoc wrote:Show nested quote +On February 02 2013 16:32 orllyfools wrote:On January 27 2013 12:06 zJayy962 wrote: Not sure if this is the place for relationship advice, but I'll give it a go. I've been in 1 relationship (serious one) my whole life. Been with her for almost 5 years now. Sex has always been great and I can barely keep up with her (she'll want it like 2 times a day everyday when we can see each other). She seems to be really happy though.
Now for the question. Though I don't know much about it, I've been reading and watching stuff on anal play for the last few months and I've brought it up jokingly to her. She seems to not like the idea but I've asked her if its on her "never will I ever" list of things she will never do and she said no. Now a few months have passed and I'm not sure if I should bring it up again. Not really sure on my next course of action. Any advice? fuck it. butt sex aint that cool. hahaha I'm probably much younger than you, but I've joked with my gf about that hahaha. Its on most girls never will I ever list, and tbh, its like a lot like swallowing. Some girls have no issue with it, some girls think its disgusting, and some will do it one time and never ever do it again. I think most girls fall into the second category, and that includes your gf and my gf. The only real way to get them to try it is to have it known as something you REALLY want to do and she consents to it on your birthday or something, but I wouldn't push it in reality. I have a friend who tried it, she said that not only was it not that great, its built up to be a lot more than it really is. It's pretty shit apparently, I bring it up jokingly with my gf, especially because the prep needed for it, the supplies, and the cons of doing it are pretty heavy compared to the pros of sticking it up the butt.
You haven't had a good butt session yet.
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I have this problem, that i rarely like a girl to the point of even thinking for even a short-term relation( i want my relations to be special) thus friendzoning most of my friends, or awkwardly rejecting others... But because i'm the biggest idiot this world has known, this only girl i really really liked, and had something going in between us, now hates me like none other.
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On February 13 2013 03:41 Silencioseu wrote: I have this problem, that i rarely like a girl to the point of even thinking for even a short-term relation( i want my relations to be special) thus friendzoning most of my friends, or awkwardly rejecting others... But because i'm the biggest idiot this world has known, this only girl i really really liked, and had something going in between us, now hates me like none other.
Happens to the best of us - give it some time an unless you really fucked up (slept with her sister or something equally stupid) she will have cooled off a bit and you might be able to explain yourself.
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On February 13 2013 03:46 Ghostcom wrote:Show nested quote +On February 13 2013 03:41 Silencioseu wrote: I have this problem, that i rarely like a girl to the point of even thinking for even a short-term relation( i want my relations to be special) thus friendzoning most of my friends, or awkwardly rejecting others... But because i'm the biggest idiot this world has known, this only girl i really really liked, and had something going in between us, now hates me like none other. Happens to the best of us - give it some time an unless you really fucked up (slept with her sister or something equally stupid) she will have cooled off a bit and you might be able to explain yourself. I wasn't worried the first time... but this is the third time it happened, i think now this will be the last... She got this idea that i do not care about her, and she told me that i make her feel bad for herself, as if i was constantly judging her.
EDIT: i might one day write a Girl Blog about it cause it's really a long story and a complicated one
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On February 06 2013 03:55 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On February 02 2013 15:57 orllyfools wrote: I remember i was outside Macys, (where i work in San Francisco) smoking a cig when i saw this cute half asian girl walking by. She had half inch plugs in her ears and a septum. A really cute girl. As i saw her walking away i noticed something familiar looking on her purse. It was a Blizzard patch! The closer i looked at her purse it had a Terran logo screen printed on it! She gets to the corner and waits as if shes trying to decide where she was gonna go i noticed i got up and started walking towards her, as if my body was willing me to go talk to her. She was wearing headphones so i motioned to her to take them off so i can say something. I ask "Hey i noticed your blizzard patch and starcraft purse, do you think we can hangout sometime and watch some starcraft?" She gave me a confused look because i dont really look like a nerd, especially in my work clothes. She replied back in a shyful manner "no......." shaking her head as if english wasnt even her native language. point of the story is, just go talk to a girl regardless if youre scared or not. i laughed as i walked away. if only that worked out the way i wanted to. ^_^ Get her (visual) attention. Tilt head. Smile. Get her to take out her headphones (just make the motion she would have to do to remove them. "Hey. You're cute/sweet. And you like Starcraft. Can I marry you?" ... Cut yourself off before she can answer, "I'm xyz, randomshortrant about something that's on your mind into random question/random lovely neg/random meow.", enjoy entertaining conversion, get her number after a couple of minutes/instant date her, work from there. She didn't give you a confused look because you don't look like a nerd, she gave you a confused look because asking someone you know since 5 seconds to "hang out sometime" is awkward as fuck.
That'd probably be a better approach, yeah. But the fact that orllyfools even tried is pretty impressive. Walking up to a random stranger to strike up conversation has just about zero consequences (unless she has a hyper aggressive boyfriend right around the corner) and yet it can be very intimidating to do so.
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i think my last date pretty much confirmed ive gotta be the most unlucky person in the world..
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What are some good places/ideas to do for a girl you're interested in but she just recently got out of a long relationship(3 years) on Valentines day? We are already very intimate friends and hang out at least twice a week in between our busy schedules. I don't want anything too serious just casual but enough so I have a chance to create some romance if possible.
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Today, one of my friends (not super close) asked me to the Winter formal dance thing. It's Sadie Hawkins style (girls ask guys) and i wasn't even expecting to be asked.
Her "ask" was a little card thing with the words "winter formal?" on one side, and on the other, a fresh condom.
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww yeeeeaaaaaaaa
I couldn't say no!
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On February 13 2013 07:43 darthfoley wrote: Today, one of my friends (not super close) asked me to the Winter formal dance thing. It's Sadie Hawkins style (girls ask guys) and i wasn't even expecting to be asked.
Her "ask" was a little card thing with the words "winter formal?" on one side, and on the other, a fresh condom.
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww yeeeeaaaaaaaa
I couldn't say no!
Fuck you and your luck. Seriously, a condom? She basically gave you a peice of paper saying dtf?
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On February 13 2013 04:12 Warlock40 wrote:Show nested quote +On February 06 2013 03:55 r.Evo wrote:On February 02 2013 15:57 orllyfools wrote: I remember i was outside Macys, (where i work in San Francisco) smoking a cig when i saw this cute half asian girl walking by. She had half inch plugs in her ears and a septum. A really cute girl. As i saw her walking away i noticed something familiar looking on her purse. It was a Blizzard patch! The closer i looked at her purse it had a Terran logo screen printed on it! She gets to the corner and waits as if shes trying to decide where she was gonna go i noticed i got up and started walking towards her, as if my body was willing me to go talk to her. She was wearing headphones so i motioned to her to take them off so i can say something. I ask "Hey i noticed your blizzard patch and starcraft purse, do you think we can hangout sometime and watch some starcraft?" She gave me a confused look because i dont really look like a nerd, especially in my work clothes. She replied back in a shyful manner "no......." shaking her head as if english wasnt even her native language. point of the story is, just go talk to a girl regardless if youre scared or not. i laughed as i walked away. if only that worked out the way i wanted to. ^_^ Get her (visual) attention. Tilt head. Smile. Get her to take out her headphones (just make the motion she would have to do to remove them. "Hey. You're cute/sweet. And you like Starcraft. Can I marry you?" ... Cut yourself off before she can answer, "I'm xyz, randomshortrant about something that's on your mind into random question/random lovely neg/random meow.", enjoy entertaining conversion, get her number after a couple of minutes/instant date her, work from there. She didn't give you a confused look because you don't look like a nerd, she gave you a confused look because asking someone you know since 5 seconds to "hang out sometime" is awkward as fuck. That'd probably be a better approach, yeah. But the fact that orllyfools even tried is pretty impressive. Walking up to a random stranger to strike up conversation has just about zero consequences (unless she has a hyper aggressive boyfriend right around the corner) and yet it can be very intimidating to do so. What's impressive about what he did? He didn't strike up a conversation... he made a statement about an observation he made and then asked her out two seconds later....
It's no different from me walking up to a random girl and saying "Hey, I notice you have hair. Want to go out?"
Hell, "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" would probably yield better results.
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I guess I can give backstory, cause im seriously so confused idk wtf to do. + Show Spoiler + more or less, me and my ex like.. hung out a few days ago, after having not really talked or anything in quite a few months. we did all the .. dumb shit couples do (i.e laid there talking for hours, playing with her hair and stuff like that) and she was making all these wildass remarks about me staying with her somenight, or vice versa. and everything was good while i was there..
fastforward to now, and the couple days after its like it never happened and she doesnt give a shit at all? like. wtf
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i have a two questions:
1) the scenario was this, my friend and i had like a two hour conversation until she was about to leave. i really fell for this girl that school year, and during our conversation i asked her if she had any feelings for me during the school year, she replied that their parts of the year that she had feelings for me.
before she tried to close her car door, i asked her, me: "do you wanna go out sometime?" her: "like on a date?" me: "yeah, i want to give us a shot" her: "ok, whatever you want to think of it as"
her final reply is something that is still confusing me to this day. in my head, if i were to call it a date, she would be either happy or be taking it for granted if i were to not call it a date, she would be either sad or be glad that we are just friends. what in your opinion would that have meant when she said "whatever you want to think of it as"???
2) i am very playful and i like to tease the girl, she calls me a jerk but obviously in a playful way back... my question is, is it a turn-off for a girl when a guy is a jerk but in a playful manner?
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I ended up not following like any of the dating advice and PUA stuff, and am happy with my current partner. I just acted like a decent human being, talked with her, listened to her, remarked on things we had in common, and went based on "feel". No gaming necessary. After so much stressing over how I'm supposed to act when dating, it was really relieving to find someone where I can just be by genuine confident self and them like me for it too.
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On February 13 2013 11:56 Zooper31 wrote:Show nested quote +On February 13 2013 07:43 darthfoley wrote: Today, one of my friends (not super close) asked me to the Winter formal dance thing. It's Sadie Hawkins style (girls ask guys) and i wasn't even expecting to be asked.
Her "ask" was a little card thing with the words "winter formal?" on one side, and on the other, a fresh condom.
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww yeeeeaaaaaaaa
I couldn't say no! Fuck you and your luck. Seriously, a condom? She basically gave you a peice of paper saying dtf?
Dude, I shit you not. Believe me i'm surprised as you are. I'm almost 18, as virgin as can be and it was just quite...an interesting way to ask lol. She does have freak (in the bed) tendencies though so if anyone were to do it, it'd be her.
It's strange lmao
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On February 14 2013 06:36 darthfoley wrote:Show nested quote +On February 13 2013 11:56 Zooper31 wrote:On February 13 2013 07:43 darthfoley wrote: Today, one of my friends (not super close) asked me to the Winter formal dance thing. It's Sadie Hawkins style (girls ask guys) and i wasn't even expecting to be asked.
Her "ask" was a little card thing with the words "winter formal?" on one side, and on the other, a fresh condom.
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww yeeeeaaaaaaaa
I couldn't say no! Fuck you and your luck. Seriously, a condom? She basically gave you a peice of paper saying dtf? Dude, I shit you not. Believe me i'm surprised as you are. I'm almost 18, as virgin as can be and it was just quite...an interesting way to ask lol. She does have freak (in the bed) tendencies though so if anyone were to do it, it'd be her. It's strange lmao You never wanna have sex with someone you really like(if thats the case) the first time tho. go find some whore and get it done, then go back with a little experience.
unless she already knows youre a virgin, in which case congrats!
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