Dating: How's your luck? - Page 97

On February 01 2013 11:06 Zooper31 wrote:
Any good lines or approaches I could use to talk to girls at a concert I'm going to tomorrow night?

I've had 1 relationship, I'm 22. It lasted for little over 2yrs and ended about 1.5yrs ago and I haven't had any real luck with girls since then, been on 2 dates with girls I met through work/other friends but nothing came of it. Had a 1night stand with a girl I'm friends with but thats it. Love to meet a girl but I don't frequent bars or anything and I don't have alot of shots at meeting new people.

I'm not worried about keeping a conversation going or trying to act like anyone I'm not, I'm fairly confident in myself and pretty laid back and chill.

Just never done anything in a club, bar, concert place before and don't know how I should best go about it tomorrow for hopefully a good result lol.

On January 30 2013 12:03 Sitinte wrote:
I got rejected today by a girl who I had an interest in for a few weeks. She figured it out on her own and asked to meet me and pretty much cut to the chase. There was really no point in denying it or anything.

She was pretty straightforward with it, which I appreciated, because most girls I've ever encountered all led me on some wild goose chase. She said she wasn't looking for a relationship and didn't see me in that way. Which is what I expected personally, especially since she's going through a really busy time in her life (academically).

I took it in good stride, laughed it off and told her not to be ashamed/feel awkward in what she decided (she had her head down and basically mumbled her response). I joked around for a bit to make her feel less awkward, and then we parted ways. I don't know how she's going to react since we're in the same club, but I know I'm going to about business as usual. I'd like to think I responded in the best possible manner, although it'll sting for a few days.

But I'm a bit confused on one matter. One of my female friends told me to keep her around, because she might change her mind once she knows me better (we've gotten to know each other for almost two months now). One of my best friends told me to cut all connections and find someone else. I think both have valid points; this girl is really caring, sweet and fun to be around, but at the same time, I'm not going to center my life around her; I'm going to go at my own pace and if another girl comes around, I'll try my luck again. I guess what I'm trying to ask is if my female friend's advice has any truth to it at all.

On January 27 2013 12:06 zJayy962 wrote:
Not sure if this is the place for relationship advice, but I'll give it a go. I've been in 1 relationship (serious one) my whole life. Been with her for almost 5 years now. Sex has always been great and I can barely keep up with her (she'll want it like 2 times a day everyday when we can see each other). She seems to be really happy though.

Now for the question. Though I don't know much about it, I've been reading and watching stuff on anal play for the last few months and I've brought it up jokingly to her. She seems to not like the idea but I've asked her if its on her "never will I ever" list of things she will never do and she said no. Now a few months have passed and I'm not sure if I should bring it up again. Not really sure on my next course of action. Any advice?

On January 28 2013 14:05 Djzapz wrote:

Sure, but that's like shopping for an apartment in the ghettos though isn't it? You start off and the girl is already known to sleep around, so right there it's not looking good for anything meaningful. And that's not me being a sexist, guys who sleep around may not necessarily have that goal of an actual solid long term relationship. I'm saying that the starting point is shallow and perhaps at least in many case it's also representative of what the person is expecting out of life at that moment.

Not sticking too closely to the apartment analogy, sure there's a chance you'll find a respectable girl by using the shotgun technique and one nighters, but from my admittedly limited experience, the quality ladies, without being prudes, have a tendency of being difficult because they're worth the work and they know it.

That being said I'm not judging people who have 1nighters for fun, if they're not looking for long-term, that's fine. But if you limit your "shopping around for personalities" to girls who'll sleep with you, maybe you're missing out.

Then again it's possible I'm only saying that because I've been failing at getting close to this one girl =(. Them smart ladies don't necessarily fall for the same BS that works on random club bimbos. =(((

On February 03 2013 03:52 Zooper31 wrote:
Thanks for all the advice most of it seemed real helpful.

Danced with 2 girls but they left halfway through the show before I could get a number and I think one alrdy had a bf so one of them was a no-go.

Oh well, I'll keep at it, I'm way too shy, need some practice.

On February 02 2013 15:16 SilverSkyLark wrote:
After three months, the girl I was dating didn't want to continue. She wanted to be fwb instead.

On February 03 2013 03:52 Zooper31 wrote:
Thanks for all the advice most of it seemed real helpful.

Danced with 2 girls but they left halfway through the show before I could get a number and I think one alrdy had a bf so one of them was a no-go.

Oh well, I'll keep at it, I'm way too shy, need some practice.

On February 05 2013 13:35 Zooper31 wrote:
You're only 17 dude. Life has literally barely begun. Take your time and just figure out what you wanna do and have fun. Don't stress on things too much, you'll have plenty of time for that later. When the perfect girl comes along you'll know what to do and things will work out.

On February 05 2013 13:18 darthfoley wrote:
Ugh, it's weird. I feel like i suffer from a fear of committment or something. I want a relationship, but (most) times I start making progress with a girl i want to make progress with, I feel this wave of demotivation and just "bleh" feeling.

Maybe it's because i'm subconciously thinking that the pasture is greener on the other side? Maybe it's because i'm almost 18 and have never had a serious relationship or even love life. It's not that I haven't had the chance, but for various reasons it hasn't worked out.

Has anyone else suffered from this...thing? I'm sure it's not super uncommon, but if any of you sage wizards have advice, i'm interested in hearing it.

On February 05 2013 13:18 darthfoley wrote:
I often hit the "2 girls which one do i go with" crossroads, but I feel as though I do it to myself subconsciously just so I have an excuse when neither works out... Beats me! lol

On February 02 2013 16:32 orllyfools wrote:


fuck it. butt sex aint that cool. hahaha

On February 02 2013 16:32 orllyfools wrote:


fuck it. butt sex aint that cool. hahaha

On February 05 2013 14:19 docvoc wrote:

I'm probably much younger than you, but I've joked with my gf about that hahaha. Its on most girls never will I ever list, and tbh, its like a lot like swallowing. Some girls have no issue with it, some girls think its disgusting, and some will do it one time and never ever do it again. I think most girls fall into the second category, and that includes your gf and my gf. The only real way to get them to try it is to have it known as something you REALLY want to do and she consents to it on your birthday or something, but I wouldn't push it in reality. I have a friend who tried it, she said that not only was it not that great, its built up to be a lot more than it really is. It's pretty shit apparently, I bring it up jokingly with my gf, especially because the prep needed for it, the supplies, and the cons of doing it are pretty heavy compared to the pros of sticking it up the butt.

On February 05 2013 17:11 FakeDeath wrote:
What is the term Friendzoned?

I need some ways to approach a girl comfortably without being weird or strange.
I find this pretty difficult.

Any ideas?

On February 05 2013 17:17 Jisall wrote:


Friendzoned means you try and make your move on a girl, she stops you and says she wants to just be friends aka nothing more. Another word for rejection

Just be yourself. Some girls will like it, some will not. The trick is to recognize which ones like you for you, and pursue those.

If talking to girls in general is the problem, I would recommend setting a goal to talk to as many girls a day as you set out to, with no goal in mind other then to make them laugh. Don't try and get their number, don't make a move. Just think of this girl is another stranger passing by. Make her laugh. If she gets mad or doesn't laugh, you were just trying to make someone elses day better, no harm no foul. Soon, you will find that talking to ladies will become easier as your social skills develop with them.

Rule of thumb is always look to have fun. Balance having fun with making sure everyone around you is happy. Find the sweet spot and you will be able to talk to any girl you want without making them feel weird of strange.

Normally whatever emotions you carry are what the girls pick up on. So if you get into a fun mood, your sharing fun and happiness with a lady, which everybody enjoys.

On February 05 2013 14:04 Tektos wrote:

Yes, it is.
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Fuck now I miss her, damn I'm lonely.