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On January 27 2016 06:45 LemOn wrote:
yeah would be fun.
Online dating is a game of numbers - you ask them out withing 3-4 messages and go on loads of dates, because the chemistry simply won't be there most of the time and online profiles are pretty much useless for that. So you can't be discouraged after 2 days off of it, I'd say if you go on 100 dates off of online dating, finding 5-10 girls with strong mutual chemistry is really good, and 1-2 that tick all your boxes for someone to get serious with if you're lucky if you're like me and don't want to compromise in major things.
So you haven't even tried really and are throwing in the towel - if you choose online dating you have to be prepared to play the numbers game and your sample size is more or less worthless.
Hmm. So there are several advantages to online dating:
1. You can do it more easily when time-poor (i.e. skimming profiles at 4am)
2. You have easier access to more girls
3. You can do initial filtering more quickly
4. A LOT easier to meet certain people (e.g. introverts, busy people)
5. Quicker/streamlined process
If you have things that you've got strict preferences about then you can quite easily weed out people you may have approached but would never have dated which saves plenty of time. And then of the girls you've filtered through you just go on a date to see if there's chemistry/interest.
Maybe I've been really lucky though. I've found girlfriend (and now a fiancee) very quickly both times I've tried it.. and made a few really awesome friends along the way too.
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On February 02 2016 09:30 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Show nested quote +On February 02 2016 09:22 Yoz wrote:On February 02 2016 03:48 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On February 02 2016 01:12 Snotling wrote:
Well at my university there are a lot of female math students, hot ones too.
And a quick google search spit out percentages up to 48% females, and up to 40% if you dont count future teachers.
Is it that much different in other countrys? What's wrong with being a future teacher?  Isn't the question more "What's wrong with dating a future teacher?" xD That too haha
Problem with future mathe teachers is that they learn the basics and then stop when it's really starting to get fun 
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On February 02 2016 20:20 Kleinmuuhg wrote:Show nested quote +On February 02 2016 09:30 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On February 02 2016 09:22 Yoz wrote:On February 02 2016 03:48 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On February 02 2016 01:12 Snotling wrote:
Well at my university there are a lot of female math students, hot ones too.
And a quick google search spit out percentages up to 48% females, and up to 40% if you dont count future teachers.
Is it that much different in other countrys? What's wrong with being a future teacher? Isn't the question more "What's wrong with dating a future teacher?" xD That too haha Problem with future mathe teachers is that they learn the basics and then stop when it's really starting to get fun
Someone had to make the leap of faith to guide the TL dating thread.
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On February 02 2016 22:32 Skynx wrote:Show nested quote +On February 02 2016 20:20 Kleinmuuhg wrote:On February 02 2016 09:30 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On February 02 2016 09:22 Yoz wrote:On February 02 2016 03:48 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On February 02 2016 01:12 Snotling wrote:
Well at my university there are a lot of female math students, hot ones too.
And a quick google search spit out percentages up to 48% females, and up to 40% if you dont count future teachers.
Is it that much different in other countrys? What's wrong with being a future teacher? Isn't the question more "What's wrong with dating a future teacher?" xD That too haha Problem with future mathe teachers is that they learn the basics and then stop when it's really starting to get fun Someone had to make the leap of faith to guide the TL dating thread.
I like my fun high-level math, the fun lower-level math, and the conversations that go on in this thread 
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On February 03 2016 00:13 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Show nested quote +On February 02 2016 22:32 Skynx wrote:On February 02 2016 20:20 Kleinmuuhg wrote:On February 02 2016 09:30 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On February 02 2016 09:22 Yoz wrote:On February 02 2016 03:48 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On February 02 2016 01:12 Snotling wrote:
Well at my university there are a lot of female math students, hot ones too.
And a quick google search spit out percentages up to 48% females, and up to 40% if you dont count future teachers.
Is it that much different in other countrys? What's wrong with being a future teacher? Isn't the question more "What's wrong with dating a future teacher?" xD That too haha Problem with future mathe teachers is that they learn the basics and then stop when it's really starting to get fun Someone had to make the leap of faith to guide the TL dating thread. I like my fun high-level math, the fun lower-level math, and the conversations that go on in this thread
I thought Klein meant you getting married but I'll take that
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On February 03 2016 05:18 Skynx wrote:Show nested quote +On February 03 2016 00:13 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On February 02 2016 22:32 Skynx wrote:On February 02 2016 20:20 Kleinmuuhg wrote:On February 02 2016 09:30 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On February 02 2016 09:22 Yoz wrote:On February 02 2016 03:48 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On February 02 2016 01:12 Snotling wrote:
Well at my university there are a lot of female math students, hot ones too.
And a quick google search spit out percentages up to 48% females, and up to 40% if you dont count future teachers.
Is it that much different in other countrys? What's wrong with being a future teacher? Isn't the question more "What's wrong with dating a future teacher?" xD That too haha Problem with future mathe teachers is that they learn the basics and then stop when it's really starting to get fun Someone had to make the leap of faith to guide the TL dating thread. I like my fun high-level math, the fun lower-level math, and the conversations that go on in this thread I thought Klein meant you getting married but I'll take that
Yeah after rereading that comment, I realized that I totally missed the clever double entendre there lol.
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Ok what do you do if you are looking through your computer to find a video to send to girl that she wants to see but its hard to find so you are in file explorer for a while then you come across a sexy pic you downloaded 2 years ago and the thumbnail is small so you click on it to see what it is but you were in facebook file selector so it immediately sends?
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Apologize, and basically tell her exactly what happened. It'll look a hundred times worse if you try to make up a lie. Just hope that she accepts the fact you made a silly move.
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First, you facepalm. Then you own it. And laugh at your own clumsiness. And hope she understands.
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It was one from a gonewild set but before she stripped. Yeah I apologized and tried to explain but she was quite upset. She thought I was like cheating on her with that chick so I had to try to convince her that I have no idea who that person even is. So far things not looking too good, she blocked me on fb but I'm also getting mixed messages because she asked if we could get seafood on Valentines's day (??). I think at this point I've said what I needed to say and should just wait it out.
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On February 05 2016 10:08 Luepert wrote:
It was one from a gonewild set but before she stripped. Yeah I apologized and tried to explain but she was quite upset. She thought I was like cheating on her with that chick so I had to try to convince her that I have no idea who that person even is. So far things not looking too good, she blocked me on fb but I'm also getting mixed messages because she asked if we could get seafood on Valentines's day (??). I think at this point I've said what I needed to say and should just wait it out.
Run! Run now and don't look back!
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Curious are you saying that because of the inconsistency? There was one other time she got mad at me and that time seemed like a big overreaction but I don't feel right judging her reaction to this because I am the dick in this situation. Also this is the second time I upset her and she has never upset me, That could attributed to both me being laid back and hard to upset and also to be being an idiot and upsetting her.
I do recognize that this doesn't seem good that this sort of stuff happens but it would be super bad in my opinion for me to do a bad thing and then to break up with her over her reaction. Like, it was my bad in the first place. Also I really like this girl and really really don't want to stop dating her. Being with her makes me happy in a way nothing else in my life does.
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im guessing you're quite young, because none of this is making a lot of sense to me, but I can see why your girlfriend thinks its a bit offputting that you're sending her porn. on the other hand if you explain it's an honest mistake and unless she's looking for a reason to be mad at you, or is incredibly prudish, I dont really understand why she'd hold it against you for more than 5 minutes or so.
so my guess (and it is truly a guess, because there's just not enough to go on here) is that one, or both of you are bad at communicating, causing this to be a far bigger deal than it has any right to be. patch it up and laugh about this dorky incident in the start of your relationship when you tell your kids and grandkids
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She had her clothes on guys.
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Yeah we are both 19/20 so I guess that's young. Also English isn't her first language but communication really isn't the issue we are able to make what we are trying to say clear. I think problem this is the first serious relationship for both of us and we don't really know how to be in one.
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This year, I've started using some "website/apps" more seriously and already met 2 girls (The first one, didn't really work out, which is fine).
Today, I've met a nice girl. I think it went well ; we share enough interests. However, since I have not much experience in relationship, I cannot tell if she shares the same feelings. So I asked her on Facebook if she wanted to meet again (to watch the Revenant, we mentionned about our interest to see that movie). She didn't say no, she didn't say yes : she wants to focus on her schoolwork first.
It's the first girl from these apps that I feel has things in common with me. It's also the first girl I am messaging again to see if she wants to meet again.
What from there? Is there anything to interpret from her answer?
Tips + share of your experience would be really appreciated
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On February 05 2016 13:51 XenOmega wrote:This year, I've started using some "website/apps" more seriously and already met 2 girls (The first one, didn't really work out, which is fine). Today, I've met a nice girl. I think it went well ; we share enough interests. However, since I have not much experience in relationship, I cannot tell if she shares the same feelings. So I asked her on Facebook if she wanted to meet again (to watch the Revenant, we mentionned about our interest to see that movie). She didn't say no, she didn't say yes : she wants to focus on her schoolwork first. It's the first girl from these apps that I feel has things in common with me. It's also the first girl I am messaging again to see if she wants to meet again. What from there? Is there anything to interpret from her answer? Tips + share of your experience would be really appreciated
try to turn the soft no of "I want to focus on studies" into a hard answer. Act as if that is only objection and say that you should then meet during school break to watch the movie (reading week?) That way you both have time and she can't really have things planned.
Don't ask btw, invite. "then we'll go during reading weak on x day at y time, we'll both have time!". Make it hard for her to say no.
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On February 05 2016 13:51 XenOmega wrote:This year, I've started using some "website/apps" more seriously and already met 2 girls (The first one, didn't really work out, which is fine). Today, I've met a nice girl. I think it went well ; we share enough interests. However, since I have not much experience in relationship, I cannot tell if she shares the same feelings. So I asked her on Facebook if she wanted to meet again (to watch the Revenant, we mentionned about our interest to see that movie). She didn't say no, she didn't say yes : she wants to focus on her schoolwork first. It's the first girl from these apps that I feel has things in common with me. It's also the first girl I am messaging again to see if she wants to meet again. What from there? Is there anything to interpret from her answer? Tips + share of your experience would be really appreciated
That's a no. Move on to next girl.
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Hey guys, do any of you have any experience finding a 3rd or 4th person for some less than vanilla type encounters? My lady and I have been together for three years, and I think we're reaching that point where though I might feel reluctant to share my precious, I don't have to worry whether I'll still be loved if she's stuffed by someone else.
Our University was doing "sex week", and we attended this seminar (it was actually abouts kinks), and I think it helped open up the conversation about this kind of stuff between one another.
Weve never done "hardcore" things as defined by the online community, but we do things like anal, very light bondage, spanking, and rough sex all-around, and are very open minded about this kind of stuff. I've always known my girlfriend liked stuff like ogres and threesomes... And hey, it might be fun, seeing her get plowed and destroyed like that, as well as opening the doors for things like a two girl threesome. Though maybe we would be more comfortable going the swinger route and finding a couple, that way, everyone's mentality in the act is quite similar, and potential nervousness and fears will be mutual.
Anyway, just seeing if anyone has any experience going about these things. Any guidance and advice to keep it fun, discrete, and safe would be appreciated. (disclaimer: I know these types of things aren't for everyone, and I'm not looking for advice of not doing it because it's dangerous for the relationship).
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