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On January 22 2016 01:29 B.I.G. wrote: Usually if you don't feel the physical vibe it's because there isn't one. People generally pick up on that automatically. The way you talk makes it sound like you made a friend. Then again girls are indeed confusing.
Women and wars are just alike. You can’t really figure them out completely, but occasionally you can have a nice time with them.+ Show Spoiler +
and both have the potential to cripple you
But I can assure you that men can miss a lot of signals. I am a good example since I tend to miss those signs unless they aren’t illuminated. I am not a very touchy person though.
On January 17 2016 11:11 LemOn wrote: Meh Okay I'll bite
On January 16 2016 09:13 GoTuNk! wrote: Huh I need advice... I tought I knew everything up to this point.
Context: I own and train everyday on my crossfit gym. Girl, named Ana also trains there.
I met ana roughly 1.5 years ago, asked her out, we had an awkward date and so was it. I met my ex-gf, we were a couple for like 9 months, who was friends with ana and me during the relationship. Ana and my ex-gf became best girlfriends for a while, but don't talk anymore.
We have a 2nd date with ana (LOL) and again ends awkwardly. She doesn't talk to me for like 2 months.
She randomly starts chatting with me like a month ago. We talk a bit when we see at the gym, and she shows up to the new year party I was (she almost never drinks or goes out) and we kiss and spend the party together. Same saturday, we stay alone and the gym and get pretty close to sex. Next monday she tells me she's "never done it" with anyone before and that's why she was nervous, etc (she just wanted to tell me). Next saturday we stayed alone again and I took her V; sex was pretty good, moaning and hitting on the back. Tuesday we have a lame discussion, and wednesday she messages me and says she wants to break up; I told her it's ok but she should tell me in person.
I assumed she was gonna back down, but she told me she just wants to be friends like before. WTF. What girl loses her virginity and then says she wants to be just friends? I feel like a used peace of meat
I was never with a virgin, high five! :D
All seems pretty standard, her being nervous is normal. And who know what's going through her head... Maybe she thinks you do it with all girls, her knowing your ex, another guy's in the picture, she's testing you... yada yada.
The point is doesn't and shouldn't matter to you in terms of how you act. Only thing I'd handle differently is this:
I told her it's ok but she should tell me in person.
Not sure why you'd go the complicated/potential drama/deep conversation road when you just had sex once. Especially coming from you I'd expect the only right way to handle this imo which is saying what you want and giving her space. Her "Breaking Up with you" is really cute after a couple dates and I wouldn't look much into it she obviously has a lot to sort through.
It's normal she will act strangely from an experienced guys point of view, if you care about the girl you have to be the one who cools everything down and brings stability and clear direction. "Well that's up to you girly, but I'm crazy into you and friendship just won't do so hit me up if you change your mind and we'll do something fun, you know where to find me!"
I have a nack for telling the new ones. Sex at the gym was my other pending fantasy >
I did do pretty much what you said in person, it just seemed awkward to me over the phone; the exact words were "ok but that's the kind of thing you say in person" and she brought it up and I said what you said basically. We didn't just "have sex" we did coupley stuff (extra talk, hold hands) But yeah, act like nothing happened and continue with life. Hit on her if possible cause I like her. I did talk to her a bit today while resting and she seemed warm about it? Crazy bitches be crazy.
Why do I have a feeling that if we have the information of how old you and the girl we would be easier to pinpoint a problem lol
And the story sounds like you dont like her that much anyway, if I were you I'd just be honest and ask her will she up for being just bang buddy
Sounds exactly like this:
goddamn the video is blocked here.
but seriously, a girl who goes to gym very often who is also a virgin?
also in this year and age there is no such thing as 'coupley' stuff, the way the girls i have been with in their early 20s think and behave completely blew my mind (just for the record i am in late 20s aka the 80s generation), the way you described her almost sounds too generic to me now. Move on and seek for meaningful long term instead. + Show Spoiler +
but for more practical tips, if the sex was truly good she would have wanted more, there is no exception. seriously lol. aim to self-improvement more instead
Sex was good. The fact that she wanted to break up after a lame disgreement (it was not even a fight) is mind baffling to me; I tought this was long term material. I'll try to get her again, cause I like her, and if not just ignore her completely.
I'm 25, she is 22.
A 22yo girl who frequents gym who is also a virgin? is that even possible in this year and age? Anyway, ya, you sound cool there so just keep your cool and see what happens. Don't be afraid to call her out if she tried to bullshit you, somehow women like that....
and for the sex stuff i am just being genuine lol, here is my experience: + Show Spoiler +
the thing when i say 'good sex' i mean that kind of 'you fucked her brains out all night long and in the end she had a 20mins nonstop spasm from orgasms', ok, depends on the girl some of them maybe not be able to come so strong like that, but even the type of girl who is biologically cannot get orgasm from penetrative sex, you will still be able to dominate her completely by giving her the high intimacy sensation that give her that kind of close to getting high kind of 'orgasm'.
because gym is like the no.1 (non-alcohol involved) place to get hit on by guys, i mean, if the girl truly cares enough of their body image to frequent gym (and usually these girls are slim enough already or they have average body aka non-fatties), i highly doubt that they are not been getting hit on by guys constantly irl already. My observation in UK anyway.
whereas the girl is a student or working professional, it is very hard to imagine a girl who is a 22yo and a virgin. Unless her face is scary or something (but i think some guys will still go for that as soon as she is not fat). well, in western countries anyway.
Dude it's the gym - the one and only place where I never hit on women. It's the sacred ground of iron and when I'm there you can be a supermodel I'd ignore you besides the usual "sup", house music blasting in my ears. And I'd expect girls that go there to actually work out to be the same - epseically in a hardcore power lifting gym that Gotunk's probably is
Also good sex doesn't have that simplistic parameters for women although orgasms do help I'd say. It starts the moment you meet her, ends when you say goodbye. Women are not as finely refined as us men, sacred deep philosophical poetic phrases such as "Banged a 9/10, pumped her hard for 3 hours, came 6 times, she did 3, swallowed, no AL" are not appreciated by them sadly.
On January 24 2016 03:16 BurningSera wrote: because gym is like the no.1 (non-alcohol involved) place to get hit on by guys, i mean, if the girl truly cares enough of their body image to frequent gym (and usually these girls are slim enough already or they have average body aka non-fatties), i highly doubt that they are not been getting hit on by guys constantly irl already. My observation in UK anyway.
whereas the girl is a student or working professional, it is very hard to imagine a girl who is a 22yo and a virgin. Unless her face is scary or something (but i think some guys will still go for that as soon as she is not fat). well, in western countries anyway.
Getting hit on by guys =/= Having sex with them lol
On January 24 2016 03:16 BurningSera wrote: because gym is like the no.1 (non-alcohol involved) place to get hit on by guys, i mean, if the girl truly cares enough of their body image to frequent gym (and usually these girls are slim enough already or they have average body aka non-fatties), i highly doubt that they are not been getting hit on by guys constantly irl already. My observation in UK anyway.
whereas the girl is a student or working professional, it is very hard to imagine a girl who is a 22yo and a virgin. Unless her face is scary or something (but i think some guys will still go for that as soon as she is not fat). well, in western countries anyway.
Getting hit on by guys =/= Having sex with them lol
the point is, the higher chances of getting hit on (everywhere, not only just in gym) = higher chances of her went on dating etc lol
On January 24 2016 04:11 LemOn wrote: Also good sex doesn't have that simplistic parameters for women although orgasms do help I'd say. It starts the moment you meet her, ends when you say goodbye. Women are not as finely refined as us men, sacred deep philosophical poetic phrases such as "Banged a 9/10, pumped her hard for 3 hours, came 6 times, she did 3, swallowed, no AL" are not appreciated by them sadly.
I didnt mention nor i deny any of what you said about girls in general, my point was that it was the first-time sex, surely we agree on how important is the first-time sex on any (casual or not) new relationship? Also i don't think you get my explanation there because i did mention about deep intimacy connections, but thats not the point here anyway.
Let me put it this way, i have never seen a girl who would ignore me after some serious good session in bed, going serious or not, she would at least like to come out again because you left a 'sex is good' temptation in her brain; the 'good' girls probably dont care that much about it for the first/two times but they do care about having good sex in a long term relationship.
This is just my experience anyway, sex to me when i was 18, 24, and then now have completely different meanings, just saying what i have learnt.
On January 24 2016 04:46 The_Masked_Shrimp wrote: Hitting on girls at the gym is the best way to get yourself expelled from the gym, it's just not worth it lol
what kind of gym did i go to then lol. i mean, obviously dont do it like it in a bar lol, i see it so often (and i do that too, from time to time) when a guy bump into a girl you can easily strike up a conversation: 'oh hey i have seen you before, you blah blah blah'. Even easier if you go to some gym classes, you get so many chances to talk and make new friends especially when the class is not very busy (hint: monday class).
I mean, please don't actually go to gym to hit on girls, go focus on your stuffs and when opportunity presents itself you have to act immediately. Like you have been noticing this girl regularly and you know she notices you too, whats the harm to strike up a conversation when you see a chance. If you go to gym classes you will notice many girls go there to socialize, for real lol.
If you share the same interests with someone and see them frequently then forming a relationship is almost inevitable, regardless of the circumstances, and if you find them physically attractive you're probably going to hit on them.
It's a crossfit gym. I own the gym so I can't get expelled from it.
Sex wasn't the best ever, but it was good, and def. way above average for first time with virgin. She texted me "wow + wink face" an hour afterwards or so.
Edit: Also what ragna said. Many many couples form when people spend 2-3 hours training every day.
On January 24 2016 11:59 GoTuNk! wrote: I tought the topic could die already.
It's a crossfit gyms. I own the gym so I can't get expelled from it.
Sex wasn't the best ever, but it was good, and def. way above average for first time with virgin. She texted me "wow + wink face" an hour afterwards or so.
Edit: Also what ragna said. Many many couples form when people spend 2-3 hours training every day.
So you're like... a gym leader? Did you give her a pokemon badge afterwards.
EPT
