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Mexico2170 Posts
Hey guys Yesterday I finally made out (not sex, but I’m fine with that) with a girl I’ve liked since 2 years ago that I couldn’t be with before. The thing is all these years I hadn’t seen her but 2 times a couple of months ago (which I mentioned earlier in the thread and people told me to get away from her haha). All these time we’ve kept in touch through whats app, and while I wouldn’t say we were friends as we didn’t see each other or did friend things, she trusts me a lot and I trust her as if we were the closest of friends. I won’t be able to see her until next year as I dropped her at her house at 4 am and her father was outside waiting for her LOL so she can’t go out and then she’ll go on vacation. So I wonder...what should I do? In a way it feels like the completion of a cicle, I did what I wanted to do all this time. She had always been like this girl that suddenly messaged you when you were about to not think about her anymore and make you still think about her. But I certainly don’t feel the same way about her as I did before. Furthermore I don’t know what she wants as she gave me mixed signals about if she wanted to be with me just that night or wanted something more. She said things like “I’ve been waiting so long for this” “Don’t think about tomorrow just kiss me tonight” and “if i’m here tonight it’s because I want to be with you”. At one point I don’t remember why I said something like “the thin line between friendship and romance” and she kept repeating that throughout the night so that might be the way to see her.
Like I said, I would be fine with not seeing her again and just keep talking through WA, as I really feel as if that was the end of something. The culmination of a pretty terrible 2 year love story. But it also would be nice to try something, even if it’s casual, as she still has everything that made me like her in the first place.
Also, should I message her today to talk about it? How do you guys manage that? I don’t think she would want to talk about it the very next day as I’m sure she also has at least a small conflict of interests. Maybe I should just ask her if she is ok and what happened with her father? Or just wait until tomorrow and wish her merry christmas and then see where the conversation goes.
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Ehh... I guess I can update something.
Got a few possible dates coming up, all from tinder (sorry Lem0n for breaking your balls). I guess I have like 6 possible dates, 3 from my university city and 3 from where I am now (homehome). One gave me her number and told me to text her when she got back to the uni city. Been talking to another one for quite a while now, my expectations with this one is meh, I asked her out before but she was busy so we've just been casually sending a text or two each day since then. The third is even more meh, I'm not going to put any effort into her, she asked for my snapchat like an hour ago.
First girl from hometown was pretty excited to meet me and cuddle it seemed like. Second girl also was pretty excited, talked to her before on tinder. Third girl I probably will go for a walk with, I pretty much suggested netflix and chill but she wasn't comfortable with taking home a guy the first time she met him.
Other than that, talked to a really cute climber girl today. I was going to the gym at the climbing center to do weighted chin-ups, I get in there and I see her doing chin-ups with 30kg, she did like 5-6 reps. I was pretty god damn impressed. She was only like 50-60 kg too, not beefy at all. Slender body, god damn! She pushed me to go for 40kg but I failed, was feeling pretty weak. If I would have lived here permanently or was here for more than a few days I would have definitely asked her out on a real date. I guess I could have done the same as I'm doing with the tinder girls but I thought I'd get her on my head and I didn't want that.
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Had our third date last night, watched some more buffy while cuddling and eating some peanut butter m&m's. We were kissing and then netflix paused or something, and neither of us wanted to fix it so we just continued what we were doing. Ended up sleeping over at her place, and then left.
Won't see her again for a couple of weeks but pretty good night 
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On December 24 2015 05:52 [Phantom] wrote:
Hey guys Yesterday I finally made out (not sex, but I’m fine with that) with a girl I’ve liked since 2 years ago that I couldn’t be with before. The thing is all these years I hadn’t seen her but 2 times a couple of months ago (which I mentioned earlier in the thread and people told me to get away from her haha). All these time we’ve kept in touch through whats app, and while I wouldn’t say we were friends as we didn’t see each other or did friend things, she trusts me a lot and I trust her as if we were the closest of friends. I won’t be able to see her until next year as I dropped her at her house at 4 am and her father was outside waiting for her LOL so she can’t go out and then she’ll go on vacation. So I wonder...what should I do? In a way it feels like the completion of a cicle, I did what I wanted to do all this time. She had always been like this girl that suddenly messaged you when you were about to not think about her anymore and make you still think about her. But I certainly don’t feel the same way about her as I did before. Furthermore I don’t know what she wants as she gave me mixed signals about if she wanted to be with me just that night or wanted something more. She said things like “I’ve been waiting so long for this” “Don’t think about tomorrow just kiss me tonight” and “if i’m here tonight it’s because I want to be with you”. At one point I don’t remember why I said something like “the thin line between friendship and romance” and she kept repeating that throughout the night so that might be the way to see her.
Like I said, I would be fine with not seeing her again and just keep talking through WA, as I really feel as if that was the end of something. The culmination of a pretty terrible 2 year love story. But it also would be nice to try something, even if it’s casual, as she still has everything that made me like her in the first place.
Also, should I message her today to talk about it? How do you guys manage that? I don’t think she would want to talk about it the very next day as I’m sure she also has at least a small conflict of interests. Maybe I should just ask her if she is ok and what happened with her father? Or just wait until tomorrow and wish her merry christmas and then see where the conversation goes.
Sounds like a night where feelings became very strong and started running the show. Whenever I had an experience like that where (to put it cheesily) passion took over and things happened that might not make sense or might make things difficult I let it rest for a while.
Send her something friendly but unrelated (enjoy your holiday!) so she knows nothing was broken but leave it at that. Talk to her again after hor holiday or a week or 2 otherwise and see how you guys feel.
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On December 24 2015 05:52 [Phantom] wrote:
Hey guys Yesterday I finally made out (not sex, but I’m fine with that) with a girl I’ve liked since 2 years ago that I couldn’t be with before. The thing is all these years I hadn’t seen her but 2 times a couple of months ago (which I mentioned earlier in the thread and people told me to get away from her haha). All these time we’ve kept in touch through whats app, and while I wouldn’t say we were friends as we didn’t see each other or did friend things, she trusts me a lot and I trust her as if we were the closest of friends. I won’t be able to see her until next year as I dropped her at her house at 4 am and her father was outside waiting for her LOL so she can’t go out and then she’ll go on vacation. So I wonder...what should I do? In a way it feels like the completion of a cicle, I did what I wanted to do all this time. She had always been like this girl that suddenly messaged you when you were about to not think about her anymore and make you still think about her. But I certainly don’t feel the same way about her as I did before. Furthermore I don’t know what she wants as she gave me mixed signals about if she wanted to be with me just that night or wanted something more. She said things like “I’ve been waiting so long for this” “Don’t think about tomorrow just kiss me tonight” and “if i’m here tonight it’s because I want to be with you”. At one point I don’t remember why I said something like “the thin line between friendship and romance” and she kept repeating that throughout the night so that might be the way to see her.
Like I said, I would be fine with not seeing her again and just keep talking through WA, as I really feel as if that was the end of something. The culmination of a pretty terrible 2 year love story. But it also would be nice to try something, even if it’s casual, as she still has everything that made me like her in the first place.
Also, should I message her today to talk about it? How do you guys manage that? I don’t think she would want to talk about it the very next day as I’m sure she also has at least a small conflict of interests. Maybe I should just ask her if she is ok and what happened with her father? Or just wait until tomorrow and wish her merry christmas and then see where the conversation goes.
Dude she told you exactly what to do! “Don’t think about tomorrow just kiss me tonight” Just approach everything with her this way, talk about fun stuff if you feel like it, tell her what you want, ask her out and focus on enjoying the present moment while being open to other women, that's how I'd handle it
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On December 24 2015 07:24 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Had our third date last night, watched some more buffy while cuddling and eating some peanut butter m&m's. We were kissing and then netflix paused or something, and neither of us wanted to fix it so we just continued what we were doing. Ended up sleeping over at her place, and then left. Won't see her again for a couple of weeks but pretty good night
My boy! Fucking with The Vampire Slayer in the background, albeit paused, nice :D
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#1 girl blogger reppin Tl
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who is the #1 girl blogger according to you?
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Will most likely meet one of the girls, her parents are going away around new year so maybe this is it you guys, maybe you will lose your mascot virgin.
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On December 26 2015 00:56 bloodwhore~ wrote:
Will most likely meet one of the girls, her parents are going away around new year so maybe this is it you guys, maybe you will lose your mascot virgin.
Make sure you rub one before driving over if its your first time. Take her slow, and enjoy the ride.
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On December 26 2015 01:22 Ramiel wrote:
Make sure you rub one before driving over if its your first time. Take her slow, and enjoy the ride.
Not sure I want to do that actually. Had problems with getting it up before, on the other hands I had problem with coming to quickly as well.  The other parts I'm fine with.
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On December 26 2015 01:24 bloodwhore~ wrote:Show nested quote +On December 26 2015 01:22 Ramiel wrote:
Make sure you rub one before driving over if its your first time. Take her slow, and enjoy the ride. Not sure I want to do that actually. Had problems with getting it up before, on the other hands I had problem with coming to quickly as well. The other parts I'm fine with.
Tgen spend some time giving her some oral warmup if you have nerves. She will lovr it and allow you to completely control the pace.
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On December 26 2015 01:33 Ramiel wrote:
Tgen spend some time giving her some oral warmup if you have nerves. She will lovr it and allow you to completely control the pace.
Yeah I will definitely do that! It's actually so far I have gotten (going down on a girl), so like 90% of my sex dreams are about going down on girls. I seem to build up quite a like for it too, at least in my thoughts.
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On December 26 2015 03:35 bloodwhore~ wrote:Show nested quote +On December 26 2015 01:33 Ramiel wrote:
Tgen spend some time giving her some oral warmup if you have nerves. She will lovr it and allow you to completely control the pace. Yeah I will definitely do that! It's actually so far I have gotten (going down on a girl), so like 90% of my sex dreams are about going down on girls. I seem to build up quite a like for it too, at least in my thoughts.
Not sure what's worse, my 10% strikeout rate in my sex dreams or your "68" (you do her and she'll owe you one) dreams at 90%
Best of luck! Just fyi don't be surprised if she doesn't want you to go down on her, there are girls that are self conscious about that, so don't force it if she doesn't seem into that particular part.
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On December 25 2015 16:08 B.I.G. wrote:
who is the #1 girl blogger according to you?
By sheer quantity me
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On December 26 2015 06:32 GreenHorizons wrote:Show nested quote +On December 26 2015 03:35 bloodwhore~ wrote:On December 26 2015 01:33 Ramiel wrote:
Tgen spend some time giving her some oral warmup if you have nerves. She will lovr it and allow you to completely control the pace. Yeah I will definitely do that! It's actually so far I have gotten (going down on a girl), so like 90% of my sex dreams are about going down on girls. I seem to build up quite a like for it too, at least in my thoughts. Not sure what's worse, my 10% strikeout rate in my sex dreams or your "68" (you do her and she'll owe you one) dreams at 90% Best of luck! Just fyi don't be surprised if she doesn't want you to go down on her, there are girls that are self conscious about that, so don't force it if she doesn't seem into that particular part.
Make sure you tell her you love the taste and smell of her pussy...to pretty much any girl!
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On December 26 2015 12:13 LemOn wrote:Show nested quote +On December 26 2015 06:32 GreenHorizons wrote:On December 26 2015 03:35 bloodwhore~ wrote:On December 26 2015 01:33 Ramiel wrote:
Tgen spend some time giving her some oral warmup if you have nerves. She will lovr it and allow you to completely control the pace. Yeah I will definitely do that! It's actually so far I have gotten (going down on a girl), so like 90% of my sex dreams are about going down on girls. I seem to build up quite a like for it too, at least in my thoughts. Not sure what's worse, my 10% strikeout rate in my sex dreams or your "68" (you do her and she'll owe you one) dreams at 90% Best of luck! Just fyi don't be surprised if she doesn't want you to go down on her, there are girls that are self conscious about that, so don't force it if she doesn't seem into that particular part. Make sure you tell her you love the taste and smell of her pussy...to pretty much any girl!
Yes, if outright saying it is beyond your comfort zone (I doubt it would be for old honest blood ) you can be more subtle by just making pleasurable sounds "mmm" (like from good food, not trying to tell if something is rotten).
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You can always say: You taste so good, or you taste like riper fruit some shit like that.
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On December 26 2015 13:05 Ramiel wrote:
You can always say: You taste so good, or you taste like riper fruit some shit like that.
"It really is just like apple pie!"
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On December 26 2015 13:05 Ramiel wrote:
You can always say: You taste so good
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On December 26 2015 13:05 Ramiel wrote:
or you taste like riper fruit some shit like that.
The fuck, how does that work :D
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