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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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Faruko
Chile34173 Posts
time flies ! | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46233 Posts
On July 22 2015 10:53 Faruko wrote: next month it will be 5 years with my gf time flies ! Congrats!  | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46233 Posts
On July 22 2015 08:35 FanaticCZ wrote: Hey guys, not sure where to start but here goes: A year ago I posted into this topic while i was struggling to get one girl. In the end a month after that we got together and we are still happily together as well as living together for 7 months already. Shes definitely the nicest girl Ive ever met and Im really happy with her. And it seems to be the same for her. Everything about her is amazing. Shes a great human being, shes caring and selfless as well as beautiful and sex is also really good. The thing is...while the sex is good...its not as good as the sex i used to have with my ex GF with whom i broke up two years ago. And i cant get that thought out of my head. When we sleep together its okay, its fun, theres a lot of emotion in it but she simply lacks that energy, passion and sexiness my ex-gf had in bed. I could do everything with her and she enjoyed it and wanted to do it every time and from the very first sex weve had i knew exactly how to make her reach orgasm multiple times. And the fact that she has mentioned that shed love to have sex with me again many times isnt really helping me get rid of these thoughts. But I would never consider cheating on my current GF. With my current girlfriend we have sex a lot less, its much harder to get her excited and she rarely reaches orgasm more than once. Im sure its gonna keep improving and once she also regains confidence in her body (cuz shes been struggling with a little weight gain lately) its probably gonna get a lot better overall. But Id like to hear your thoughts on this because im sure im not the only one thinking back to better sex partners. What did u guys do if this ever happened to you? Cheers It's never happened to me, but I would seriously consider the whole relationship, not just the sex. The sex is important, but so is everything else (communication, honesty, how she treats you, her needs vs. your needs, do you work things out together, does she have her life together, can you see a future with her, etc.) There's always going to be "Grass is always greener" syndrome, but make sure you don't give up a great thing just to have a nostalgic one night stand. Why did you break up with your ex in the first place? And are you two still on good terms? If you broke up with her, I can't imagine she'd want you to literally just use her for sex again. | ||
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Metalreflux
United States165 Posts
So to give an update since I made this post, I am having great luck. | ||
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WarSame
Canada1950 Posts
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FanaticCZ
Czech Republic287 Posts
On July 22 2015 12:10 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: It's never happened to me, but I would seriously consider the whole relationship, not just the sex. The sex is important, but so is everything else (communication, honesty, how she treats you, her needs vs. your needs, do you work things out together, does she have her life together, can you see a future with her, etc.) There's always going to be "Grass is always greener" syndrome, but make sure you don't give up a great thing just to have a nostalgic one night stand. Why did you break up with your ex in the first place? And are you two still on good terms? If you broke up with her, I can't imagine she'd want you to literally just use her for sex again. I guess thats something i shouldve mentioned in my OP, sorry. The sex is the only thing I love about her...everything else i hate. Shes a psycho, selfish, hysterical and extreme attention seeker. Pretty much everything i hate about girls and thats why i love my current GF so much because shes a complete opposite of that. We broke up because our relationship after two and a half years was at a point where the only good thing was sex...and if i should say who broke up with who...it would be her with me more than I with her. We used to be on pretty good terms like a year ago but nowadays since im with my current GF and they know each other....she already made me some problems in my relationship when she told my GF some lies about us chatting and talking everyday. Which erases the option to have any one night stands whatsoever anyway. :D So with all that said. Im absolutely sure about my current relationship and i wouldnt ruin it for a one night stand, because like i said even the sex is really good....just not as good as it was with that one. I was just wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar and how did you deal with it. Because there are times when I cant stop thinking about it. Like today when she sent me a snapchat of her in a bikini. :D | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46233 Posts
On July 22 2015 19:09 FanaticCZ wrote: I guess thats something i shouldve mentioned in my OP, sorry. The sex is the only thing I love about her...everything else i hate. Shes a psycho, selfish, hysterical and extreme attention seeker. Pretty much everything i hate about girls and thats why i love my current GF so much because shes a complete opposite of that. We broke up because our relationship after two and a half years was at a point where the only good thing was sex...and if i should say who broke up with who...it would be her with me more than I with her. We used to be on pretty good terms like a year ago but nowadays since im with my current GF and they know each other....she already made me some problems in my relationship when she told my GF some lies about us chatting and talking everyday. Which erases the option to have any one night stands whatsoever anyway. :D So with all that said. Im absolutely sure about my current relationship and i wouldnt ruin it for a one night stand, because like i said even the sex is really good....just not as good as it was with that one. I was just wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar and how did you deal with it. Because there are times when I cant stop thinking about it. Like today when she sent me a snapchat of her in a bikini. :D If your ex-girlfriend is a selfish, hysterical psycho who- worst of all- is friends with your girlfriend and attempting to sabotage your relationship, you really shouldn't be chatting with her/ snapchatting with her. I could only imagine how jealous and betrayed I feel if I were your girlfriend and found out. But best of luck | ||
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FanaticCZ
Czech Republic287 Posts
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On July 22 2015 19:09 FanaticCZ wrote: I guess thats something i shouldve mentioned in my OP, sorry. The sex is the only thing I love about her...everything else i hate. Shes a psycho, selfish, hysterical and extreme attention seeker. Pretty much everything i hate about girls and thats why i love my current GF so much because shes a complete opposite of that. We broke up because our relationship after two and a half years was at a point where the only good thing was sex...and if i should say who broke up with who...it would be her with me more than I with her. We used to be on pretty good terms like a year ago but nowadays since im with my current GF and they know each other....she already made me some problems in my relationship when she told my GF some lies about us chatting and talking everyday. Which erases the option to have any one night stands whatsoever anyway. :D Eh read this again, and think logically... 100% you should cease all contact and delete her from all social media. Also it's pretty normal when you get closer on an emotional level the gap and friction between you gets lower, which lowers the passion naturally, you can take steps to raise it again, read stuff like this http://www.amazon.com/Just-Do-It-Couple-Excuses/dp/0307407179) or just learn to accept the transformation of the relationship | ||
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FanaticCZ
Czech Republic287 Posts
On July 22 2015 21:48 LemOn wrote: Eh read this again, and think logically... 100% you should cease all contact and delete her from all social media. Also it's pretty normal when you get closer on an emotional level the gap and friction between you gets lower, which lowers the passion naturally, you can take steps to raise it again, read stuff like this http://www.amazon.com/Just-Do-It-Couple-Excuses/dp/0307407179) or just learn to accept the transformation of the relationship Yeah i guess you're right. Anyway...one more thing: Those of you guys who have managed to get their girlfriends to exercise and become more active overall. How the hell did u do it? My GF is definitely not a lazy person when it comes to work and school, but when it comes to physical exercise etc shes lazy as f**k. I myself do muay thai at least three times a week and go to work pretty much every day so i wouldnt say Im a bad example for her. And she refuses to try to go to our gym cuz "its fighting". Any tips? | ||
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[UoN]Sentinel
United States11320 Posts
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Fi0na
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On July 22 2015 23:06 FanaticCZ wrote: My GF is definitely not a lazy person when it comes to work and school, but when it comes to physical exercise etc shes lazy as f**k. I myself do muay thai at least three times a week and go to work pretty much every day so i wouldnt say Im a bad example for her. And she refuses to try to go to our gym cuz "its fighting". Any tips? On July 23 2015 00:39 [UoN]Sentinel wrote: Lots and lots of enthusiasm. Same way I got my then GF to put up with my esports habit. Didn't have enough time to get her into SC2 proper but enough to at least share a bit of the excitement when Snute wins an all Korean bracket or something. Just show her how fun it is, how much it's made your life better, etc. Enthusiasm is very important. Don't lecture, be excited to go do sports, just tell her how good it makes you feel. You don't convince her, you make it look better and better in her eyes by just being very happy about it until she wants to go herself. Make it about you enjoying the sport and not at all about her having to do anything. It will take some time, but she will change her opinion of it if you continue to be enthusiastic about it, and she will come around. That being said, I can also imagine her really having a problem with "its fighting". How about you two go running together once or twice a week? Or swimming? Or even dancing? There are other great options besides muay thai and the gym if that's the thing that is keeping her from doing sports (and frankly going to the gym is just not everyone's cup of tea) | ||
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
On July 22 2015 23:06 FanaticCZ wrote: My GF is definitely not a lazy person when it comes to work and school, but when it comes to physical exercise etc shes lazy as f**k. I myself do muay thai at least three times a week and go to work pretty much every day so i wouldnt say Im a bad example for her. And she refuses to try to go to our gym cuz "its fighting". Any tips? Well, martial arts and women most of the time doesnt go well, even though evry one should be involved in it - more self esteem, the ability to defend yourself + the bodie most of them dream of. And you have to agree that muay thai is really useless if you are not into fighting/show fights + its mostly associated with 2 guys kicking against each others leg/body like retards (for the uninformed ofc), which isnt the best way to appeal to women as a sport. If you would like your girlfriend to get into a martial art, try something along the lines of karate/Taekwondo. Both usually let you choose between going down more the fighting or the kata-route(a series of set techniques. basicly a show-fight with an imaginary srt of opponents). Having helped teaching classes of various martial arts in different sports clubs, those where usually where most of the women where/stayed after trying it out. A lot of women like to dance, and kata's capture the spirit of dancing very well, I had great success with playing certain music along with the exercise. Which leds me to the next option: dancing. Its a super couple-activity and it is also a very good exercise, depending on the dance-style. It propably will also improve your form in martial arts. Depending on your fitness, you can do some really cool stuff. Its usually not my thing since I dont really listen to "danceable" music, nor does anything else really interest me in dancing in general, but rock'n roll dancing with her was kind of funny. Could be though because its almost gymnastics. So if you arent bored by it/dont mind looking like a retard, dancing is an option. Another martial art that goes well with women would be one that emphasises on grappling. They sometimes get driven away for obvious reasons by the fact they most likely have to practice with other men though. In general, martial arts that involve less punching/kicking and are less likely to mess up your face/also offer a way to practice it in a serious manner without sparring are more likely to interest women. BUT if she is just lazy/sluggish kind of person (work and school doesnt count - there you have a real reason to perform) whenever her own motivation is the only impulse, then you most likely have to accept it. Not everyone likes to force himself  | ||
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46233 Posts
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Yoz
Australia357 Posts
On July 22 2015 23:06 FanaticCZ wrote: Those of you guys who have managed to get their girlfriends to exercise and become more active overall. How the hell did u do it? My GF is definitely not a lazy person when it comes to work and school, but when it comes to physical exercise etc shes lazy as f**k. I myself do muay thai at least three times a week and go to work pretty much every day so i wouldnt say Im a bad example for her. And she refuses to try to go to our gym cuz "its fighting". Any tips? If she has any friends that gym maybe you could ask them to invite her to a few classes/sessions. Or find a way for her to get fit doing something she enjoys or finds fun. A lot of girls in Australia do pole dancing classes for fitness and I know some girls that do it despite hating exercise or gym sessions. My ex-girlfriend was really skinny but hugely unfit and I always wished she was more exercise-friendly. She couldn't jog or anything but was willing to try pole-dancing classes when my friends invited her and I think she enjoyed them but she stopped when she went back home/overseas. Current girlfriend is qualified as a personal trainer so now I'm the unfit one who has to be more active overall. It's a good thing for me though. Must exercise more! | ||
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[UoN]Sentinel
United States11320 Posts
On July 23 2015 02:44 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: I agree with enthusiasm. It's hard to convince her without making her think you're calling her fat or lazy. You can also consider making some sort of deal with her... You'll go with her to the ballet if she joins you at crossfit, or whatever. It's all about the wording and intonation. Like the simplest is how "You should go with me!" sounds magnitudes better than "You should go." Squats are best exercise for guys and girls do squats together. | ||
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
On July 23 2015 02:56 [UoN]Sentinel wrote: It's all about the wording and intonation. Like the simplest is how "You should go with me!" sounds magnitudes better than "You should go." Squats are best exercise for guys and girls do squats together.Nope. Core-exercises all the way. Good figure and you can actually use that strength you gain from it in most cases. Usefull in fights and outside of them | ||
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[UoN]Sentinel
United States11320 Posts
On July 23 2015 03:31 waffelz wrote: Nope. Core-exercises all the way. Good figure and you can actually use that strength you gain from it in most cases. Usefull in fights and outside of them I meant for better sex endurance (quads) and also nicer looking butts lol But yeah from a purely fitness-related perspective, core is the best. | ||
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