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On October 09 2011 18:07 fareed_d wrote:Show nested quote +On October 09 2011 16:07 almerr wrote: I recently went on a date with a girl that had so much in common with me, it was crazy. We went to see a movie, went to have a drink and talked for hours, but the next day she tells me that it just didnt click for her. Eventho we both had fun. I was probably expecting too much because of the similarities but still it hurt a bit cos I was pretty sure she'd want to continue. She told we could be friends and Im fine with that I guess too but still ....
My problem is that almost every girl I meet I end up just friends with. Dunno what is wrong with me or is it just bad luck? kiss her. kiss her early. if she doesnt go for it, just move on.
I kissed her at the end of the night and i was left with a weird and a bad feeling. Didnt feel like she was into it. Exactly how it turned out. :|
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only had 1 gf and will probably marry her...can't imagine myself going out there and looking for someone new if it had to be...just seems so difficult and wouldn't know where to start. lol
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I've been on a couple dates here and there. Pro tip: girls love apple pie :D in the middle of the night. other pro tip: YOU NEED A JOB SO BADLY IT AINT FUNNY. Dating without a job is like swimming up shit creek by drinking it. Girls will think you more responsible/reliable and you'll be able to pay for nice dates and hopefully have some money on the side for stuff you really enjoy...like rock climbing or shotgun shooting or fencing...what have you. As for relationships, go slow and don't get too serious if both of you aren't ready for it. You don't need to see her everyday(girls...everyone hates clingy) etc... etc... that only works for people who live together. Getting dates is easy, finding someone you want to take on a second date is hard.
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On October 09 2011 18:53 A_Bandersnatch wrote:Show nested quote +On October 09 2011 16:43 Probe1 wrote: I've taken the esports joke as far as I'm willing at this point. There is someone cute that's been pm'ing me lately :d That counts as a date? :O
It's esports related, of course it is ! :p
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finding a gay boyfriend is hard when you're not interested in the party scene or gay bars :\
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I tried to date a girl, i asked her out she was busy blah blah. So i rooted her friend and now I am WINNING!
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I am 17, and haven't been on a single date yet. I could go into more detail, but let's just say everything I have done in that regard has led to a miserable failure (in some cases it was my fault, in some cases just bad luck).
It used to bring me down a lot, but now I kinda think there is time for that as well. I guess I'll know when it's time.
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why did you even go out with this girl lol?
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On October 09 2011 16:07 almerr wrote: I recently went on a date with a girl that had so much in common with me, it was crazy. We went to see a movie, went to have a drink and talked for hours, but the next day she tells me that it just didnt click for her. Eventho we both had fun. I was probably expecting too much because of the similarities but still it hurt a bit cos I was pretty sure she'd want to continue. She told we could be friends and Im fine with that I guess too but still .... EXACT SAME story as my recent one!! We could go on hours and hours for every topics we brought up (well, except SC:BW...). I always had the thought that she's actually the female version of me. And it hurts so much because I know I probably would never find another one with so much resemblance.
It is scary that when you think something only happens to you, there is always someone out there on this planet experiencing the same.
On October 09 2011 17:42 Tommie wrote: I know one thing: as you get a bit older you won't fall in love so easily so when you do and it isn't mutual it hurts like hell. This. Teens probably won't understand until they're mid-20's.
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I am to nerdy and antisocial to have a girl
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Lately I've been in a slump, going out on dates with girls who turn out to be complete virgins or really inexperienced, but then again I'm the guy inviting these girls out so the fault lies with me at the end of the day.
And to those guys who find it hard, once you get past the first couple of girls you'll realize chicks aren't a big deal and you'll hit the ground running. The catch is that the longer you wait the harder you'll get rid of that learned helplessness that you have with women. So don't fucking wait, take balls in hand and get er done.
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On October 09 2011 15:47 Mr. Nefarious wrote: Unfortunately, most of the better looking girls are extremely selfish and vain. Drop these girls, looks are only fun for the first month. Find the girl you find attractive emotionally as well as physically, despite what other people might say or think about her. not exactly true. some really attractive girls have been through hell and high water with relationships as well, and might sometimes be looking for a nice guy so go for it dudes!
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On October 09 2011 19:01 almerr wrote:Show nested quote +On October 09 2011 18:07 fareed_d wrote:On October 09 2011 16:07 almerr wrote: I recently went on a date with a girl that had so much in common with me, it was crazy. We went to see a movie, went to have a drink and talked for hours, but the next day she tells me that it just didnt click for her. Eventho we both had fun. I was probably expecting too much because of the similarities but still it hurt a bit cos I was pretty sure she'd want to continue. She told we could be friends and Im fine with that I guess too but still ....
My problem is that almost every girl I meet I end up just friends with. Dunno what is wrong with me or is it just bad luck? kiss her. kiss her early. if she doesnt go for it, just move on. I kissed her at the end of the night and i was left with a weird and a bad feeling. Didnt feel like she was into it. Exactly how it turned out. :|
You probably don't want to hear this, but it means they are not physically attracted to you. Find a girl who is, or re-evaluate the way you look and what she's looking for (looks aren't all genetics, there's also hair, clothing, attitude). It doesn't mean you're ugly, either. Girls are really weird about their preferences.
But yeah, anytime a girl says "It's just not clicking" or "I think I like you better as a friend" or something, it is 99% of the time physical.
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On October 09 2011 19:55 HighTemper wrote:Show nested quote +On October 09 2011 16:07 almerr wrote: I recently went on a date with a girl that had so much in common with me, it was crazy. We went to see a movie, went to have a drink and talked for hours, but the next day she tells me that it just didnt click for her. Eventho we both had fun. I was probably expecting too much because of the similarities but still it hurt a bit cos I was pretty sure she'd want to continue. She told we could be friends and Im fine with that I guess too but still .... EXACT SAME story as my recent one!! We could go on hours and hours for every topics we brought up (well, except SC:BW...). I always had the thought that she's actually the female version of me. And it hurts so much because I know I probably would never find another one with so much resemblance. It is scary that when you think something only happens to you, there is always someone out there on this planet experiencing the same. Show nested quote +On October 09 2011 17:42 Tommie wrote: I know one thing: as you get a bit older you won't fall in love so easily so when you do and it isn't mutual it hurts like hell. This. Teens probably won't understand until they're mid-20's.
For me it's the opposite, I had my first gf at 17 and it was the longest relationship I've ever had (around 22 months). Of course when we broke up it hurt like hell. After that, every disappointment has hurt less because I've gradually started to don't give a fuck about it anymore. And it has been 5 years from that already.
Also I noticed every nice guy I know is growing more of a douche because they realize so many douches have a gf while we (me included) don't get any love. Not like douches get any real love, but at least younger girls might look at you and you don't feel like a stupid loser when a project fails xd
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Well I haven't ever had any success with dates, but just reading OP's story it seems to me you're being far too unassertive. I would never have put up with her that long, or smiled when she spilt the coffee... but maybe its why I've never had a relationship. I think I'd rather die alone than deal with someone I don't like.
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On October 09 2011 15:44 VWSChe wrote: One time I thought I saw a girl, but it was actually just a funny looking mutalisk. This.
User was warned for this post
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I play games not girls!
But I agree with the fact that the good looking girls are all really annoying :p I've never been in a relationship, I just have no desire to be in one. I'm not asexual or anything as there are girls I would bone the shit out of, just don't want to go out with them.
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Met 3 of my girlfriends through Dance Dance Revolution tournaments and events. Amazingly easy way to meet women if you are willing to put some time into getting good at it. They'll flock to you.
Also has the added benefit of them mostly being gamer girls
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