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On October 09 2011 20:06 Cel.erity wrote:Show nested quote +On October 09 2011 19:01 almerr wrote:On October 09 2011 18:07 fareed_d wrote:On October 09 2011 16:07 almerr wrote:
I recently went on a date with a girl that had so much in common with me, it was crazy. We went to see a movie, went to have a drink and talked for hours, but the next day she tells me that it just didnt click for her. Eventho we both had fun. I was probably expecting too much because of the similarities but still it hurt a bit cos I was pretty sure she'd want to continue. She told we could be friends and Im fine with that I guess too but still ....
My problem is that almost every girl I meet I end up just friends with. Dunno what is wrong with me or is it just bad luck? kiss her. kiss her early. if she doesnt go for it, just move on. I kissed her at the end of the night and i was left with a weird and a bad feeling. Didnt feel like she was into it. Exactly how it turned out. :| You probably don't want to hear this, but it means they are not physically attracted to you. Find a girl who is, or re-evaluate the way you look and what she's looking for (looks aren't all genetics, there's also hair, clothing, attitude). It doesn't mean you're ugly, either. Girls are really weird about their preferences. But yeah, anytime a girl says "It's just not clicking" or "I think I like you better as a friend" or something, it is 99% of the time physical.
Yeah. I thought about this too.. I dunno its weird, she just said that she didnt get the "In love" feeling or that she wasnt feeling it after the night eventho we had fun. I think I just failed miserably and didnt show enough attention to her.. or she just didnt like they way I looked, eventho she told me otherwise. Lied..
EXACT SAME story as my recent one!! We could go on hours and hours for every topics we brought up (well, except SC:BW...). I always had the thought that she's actually the female version of me. And it hurts so much because I know I probably would never find another one with so much resemblance.
It is scary that when you think something only happens to you, there is always someone out there on this planet experiencing the same.
Yeah. It hurts like hell.. It wouldve been much easier to let go if we didnt have so much in common. Its really hard to find another person with similar interests. I dont understand what was the problem :x
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On October 09 2011 19:08 Doraemon wrote:
only had 1 gf and will probably marry her...can't imagine myself going out there and looking for someone new if it had to be...just seems so difficult and wouldn't know where to start. lol
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Life is more important than chasing women. It is great to be in a relationship with one and fantastic to one night stand a woman, however sometimes it isn't worth the time. Best cure for emotional pain is having a good time with friends and meeting new people to enrich your life. Keep your chin up, breathe in the fresh air and never surrender to anything.
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On October 09 2011 20:38 Plexa wrote:Show nested quote +On October 09 2011 19:08 Doraemon wrote:
only had 1 gf and will probably marry her...can't imagine myself going out there and looking for someone new if it had to be...just seems so difficult and wouldn't know where to start. lol !
this appears to be an offer to me. if u ever get a divorce, plexa will catch u 
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your Country52797 Posts
I have really, really bad dating luck.
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Sweden365 Posts
I so bad at talking to girls that I can't even speak of any luck.
So unlucky I would say
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Oh man! Don't get me started on dating...! (I'll do that later in a 'Dating Blog' or something  )
I wasn't that bad...Hell, I was terrible...lol 
You know, me and my friends would go out constantly enjoying the good life, drinking and picking up girls. But I wasn't that sucessfull so in the girl department I was more like a lone wolf. I was used to be alone (i.e. without girlfriend). And life was good.
But I managed to meet a sweet girl that I love (and she loves me too O.O )! I'm with her for 5 and a half years now, we bought an apartment where we live for about a year and a half.
And life is better .
Man wasn't made to be alone and you too will meet a sweet girl one day. Actually my current girlfriend was the one that wanted to meet me in the first place...go figure!
GL
edit- almost forgot: she doesn't mind that I play games hehe!! JACKPOT!! :D
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Was in a relationship with a french girl for five an a half years. She just finished school a month ago and the plan was for her to move over to the states so we could finally be together. Though she just up and left 5 months ago and I'm still trying to get over it.
Not having been on a proper date in 9 years isn't helping me get back on the horse either.
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girls are like toilets, they're either occupied or full of shit.
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On October 09 2011 18:14 RogerX wrote:
Eh, first date was seriously awkward. Turned out bad, since thats the sign that we don't get along with each other well I guess.
Well, not necessarily. Maybe it's just awkward because the context of your date is prone to awkwardness. Let's be real if you put two strangers together at the table of a restaurant for dinner it's going to get awkward more often that not. It doesn't mean that these two people can't get along. It just means that for a first date it's better to find some fun activity to share so you won't struggle to find something to talk about. And don't let it drag forever either, end the date when she's still having fun so she'll want more. I'm no pickup coach but all this looks pretty logical to me.
Actually your post made me react because the first time I met my current gf it was a bit awkward too but it's been over 1 year now and a dream. So you might close yourself a lot of doors if you think that initial awkwardness = can't get along. Just get rid of the awkwardness by setting up a funnier date instead and see how well it goes from there.
On a kinda unrelated note, I feel that awkardness is like this kind of evil who only has power when people believe in it. Stop believing that awkwardness exists and it disappears. Whenever something is awkward or embarrassing now I'll just talk about it out loud and it's gone. At worst if you're not with the right kind of people you'll look a bit gross or unrefined but I'll take that over awkwardness any day of the week. Changed my life. Can't believe it took me so long to find out about it.
On October 09 2011 21:20 Vetrocide wrote:
girls are like toilets, they're either occupied or full of shit.
Haha I never read this one before. But to be honest the amount of girls who are both occupied AND full of shit is disconcerting.
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On October 09 2011 21:20 Vetrocide wrote:
girls are like toilets, they're either occupied or full of shit.
I commend you on a great post - thanks for making me laugh
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women are hurting ESPORTS
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I broke up with my last significant other a few months ago. Despite being the one who initiated the break up, I think I felt it harder. But she's not crazy or insane, she's one of the best people I've ever met. She's sweet, beautiful and talented and will go far in life. But we were not meant to be.
I've never really had an "awful date" and I would never presume for poor traits to be unique to females. It seems to me that the boys I've been with have been as dramatic as the girls, and just as catty and bitchy.
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Been with my GF for 4½ years
Living with her while studying, haven't really got a good "bad date" story for you OP.
I cheat on her with Esports though.
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On October 09 2011 21:40 DamageControL wrote:
I broke up with my last significant other a few months ago. Despite being the one who initiated the break up, I think I felt it harder. But she's not crazy or insane, she's one of the best people I've ever met. She's sweet, beautiful and talented and will go far in life. But we were not meant to be.
Now that you said that I'm curious as to why you broke up with her since she has all these qualities. But if you didn't expand in your post I guess it's because you don't want to. :p
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This thread needs ILOVEKITTENS!!!! I summon thee, now.
:-P
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I've only just started feeling that I have my life in order enough to be in a relationship, but am really in no hurry, just want to meet some cool people and have a bit of fun.
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Can't get any decent girl to look at me cuz of how i look, i just have sc2 to comfort me. Am fat, single, and ready for a pringle. 
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On October 09 2011 21:45 Matoo- wrote:Show nested quote +On October 09 2011 21:40 DamageControL wrote:
I broke up with my last significant other a few months ago. Despite being the one who initiated the break up, I think I felt it harder. But she's not crazy or insane, she's one of the best people I've ever met. She's sweet, beautiful and talented and will go far in life. But we were not meant to be. Now that you said that I'm curious as to why you broke up with her since she has all these qualities. But if you didn't expand in your post I guess it's because you don't want to. :p
Well, you need love for it to work. The girl can be literally perfect, but if you dont love her, it wont work in the end. I had the same girl like 6-7 years back now really perfect, but mhe, we werent meant for eachother. When you get to the point where you cant say "i love you" without you knowing its a lie, then you will feel like shit, and eventually break up.
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On October 09 2011 16:07 almerr wrote:
I recently went on a date with a girl that had so much in common with me, it was crazy. We went to see a movie, went to have a drink and talked for hours, but the next day she tells me that it just didnt click for her. Eventho we both had fun. I was probably expecting too much because of the similarities but still it hurt a bit cos I was pretty sure she'd want to continue. She told we could be friends and Im fine with that I guess too but still ....
My problem is that almost every girl I meet I end up just friends with. Dunno what is wrong with me or is it just bad luck?
it probably means that you don't get sexual with them fast enough
did you touch at least her hands on that date?
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