On October 22 2009 07:32 fanatacist wrote: I think one reason for why so many people tried to shit up your topic is because you do project a pompous attitude in post like the above one ("I will PM the mods and tell them to watch it's content closer," "If the mods are actually doing their job,"*) coupled with the fact that you really DON'T give any sort of explanation for WHY people should follow what you say or care about your topic in general. This is further expounded upon by the title - "LarJarsE's attraction and blahblah." There used to be a poster here before, named LastShadow, who would name every thread after himself as if he was some sort of marvelous inventor and genius, who was blessing us mortals with "LastShadow's Unstoppable Mega Guide to blah blah blah." People are entitled to their opinions, and they are entitled to post them (if they aren't purely shit) - this includes disagreeing with you, what you are posting about, and the thread in general. Nobody forced them to post in the topic, that's obvious. But they want to, because they think you are a joke (whether or not that is true is an opinion, theirs obviously differing from yours).
*Note: Maybe you don't understand this, but mods have better things to do than babysit your topic. Despite it being their (unpaid and clearly unsung) job to keep the forums generally clean, I don't think any of them care enough to be on constant patrol of anyone's threads, except maybe their own (and the news threads). The way you talk down to them by "tell[ing] them" what to do is a growing hole in your reputation, in my opinion.
Threads are supposed to live or die by their popularity. A thread is not supposed to be killed by a bunch of forum veterans treating it like shit.
These are the two acceptable fates for bad threads: 1. Closed because it's against the rules. 2. Falls off the face of the forum because there is no interest in it.
The idea of someone posting in a thread that he thinks is bad is not good for the forum. I guess the basic assumption that was wrong is that people won't waste their time on things that don't interest them or that don't seem worthy of attention. Not so. Jackasses love to post in such threads and TL.net has accumulated a healthy group of jackasses.
Mods have better things to do than babysit his topic? He's talking down to mods by reporting rule breakers? Mods wouldn't have to babysit anything if veterans didn't act like they have a license to break rules. Babysitting is only necessary when a veteran is pushing his luck on the leeway he's allowed. If it weren't for always having to contemplate exceptions, sending out warnings and bans for violations of the rules would be a clearer process. The OP is just trying to cover his ass because he doesn't want to make a thread that fosters rulebreaking. Innocently enough, he must have assumed it's possible to have a clean relationship advice thread on TL.net and is wondering how he messed up his attempt at it. But no matter what warnings he puts in the OP or how he responds to people, there's nothing short of having a red name that would've enabled him to succeed. Sad
Leaving my post history aside (this has been discussed elsewhere as you should know), I will reiterate that I tried to explain why I thought some people (yes, including myself) responded to his thread the way they did. I don't think I'm wrong in my opinion that the way he addressed the mods was condescending, assuming a commanding role over people who must have nothing better to do. I don't think I'm wrong in the assumption that mods have better things to do than to "actually do their job" by his standards, which I assume involves warning/banning every offender as soon as they post something inappropriate. Also, posting things like that probably spurs dissent more than it prevents it, but that's irrelevant.
I didn't intend for my post to derail the topic further - it was just a response to his post. I don't think I did or said anything wrong in said post. If you are done saying what you need to say, I think we should just leave it at this.
On October 20 2009 22:36 yooh wrote: Can you answer a question for me even if I'm not a guy? How do you show someone that you don't wanna talk to them when they go on and on and on...
Yooh:
The best piece of advice I can say, is just to be straightforward and honest with the guy. Don't be mean about it of course, be polite, but firm. Most guys will have self-doubt/rejection issues as well, so be careful with your wording.
I would suggest something like...
Arrange a meeting with 'your' guy. Preferable a public place, nice relaxed environment. Don't beat around the bush either btw, I would be upfront. Just look him deep in eyes, and say:
"Look, Testie, you're a nice guy and all, but that was a long time ago and I've grown up. I'm no longer 14."
Should work like a charm.
LLLLLLLLLLLLLLLOLLL.... you're funny No but seriously. What if it's at the point where I don't even wanna see him cus he's seriously annoying and won't stop msging me... I feel bad if I just block him and ignore him all the time cus that's what I've been kinda doing...
Block him and everything if you don't want to talk to him. But at least send him one email explaining that he's been getting on your nerves, that you've been trying to be nice about it but it's just to a point that you can't stand him anymore. Tell him you're sorry, but please stop trying to contact you and then tell him that you will smash his skull with a hammer and jab his eyes out with a fork if he contacts you again.
Unless you were joking, I don't see how one has to get so confrontational to tell a guy off. The job can be done with minimal unpleasantry.
Damn" Americans"
I think if you look back through your post history and count the amount of times you've
1. Said something along the lines of "unless you were joking..." 2. Reacted negatively to a post that others did not. 3. Reacted negatively to a post that was a clear exaggeration of the truth.
You will realize that you need to start taking things on a different level than face value. It will save you a lot of time.
You must be feeling heat now, aren't you? I don't see what's wrong with what I said in response to lilsusie. In fact, 1, 2, 3 are not valid in this case at all (ok, except 1, but that's not something that is inherently bad). I am well aware that she was exaggerating in the latter part of her post, but it was an exaggeration not sarcasm, ie she still suggested that the girl make her point rather aggressively and unpleasantly.
You really are a petty child, and for the "harm" I did to you, you feel compelled to respond to my posts that do not pertain to you at all. Interestingly enough, I recall that the vast majority of times I had "committed" the aforementioned "sins" 1, 2, and 3, were in response to your nonsense. Maybe it has to do something with YOU, rather than me.
Did I say you said something wrong or offensive? I was just making a suggestion. Yes it has been said to me probably more than anyone, but that is also because I am sarcastic/exaggerate more than most people.
You insult me when I haven't said anything insulting to you at all. Funny how your definition of "petty" works. I never said they were sins, you just assume that I am attacking you, which is understandable I guess. I wasn't.
On October 20 2009 22:36 yooh wrote: Can you answer a question for me even if I'm not a guy? How do you show someone that you don't wanna talk to them when they go on and on and on...
Yooh:
The best piece of advice I can say, is just to be straightforward and honest with the guy. Don't be mean about it of course, be polite, but firm. Most guys will have self-doubt/rejection issues as well, so be careful with your wording.
I would suggest something like...
Arrange a meeting with 'your' guy. Preferable a public place, nice relaxed environment. Don't beat around the bush either btw, I would be upfront. Just look him deep in eyes, and say:
"Look, Testie, you're a nice guy and all, but that was a long time ago and I've grown up. I'm no longer 14."
Should work like a charm.
LLLLLLLLLLLLLLLOLLL.... you're funny No but seriously. What if it's at the point where I don't even wanna see him cus he's seriously annoying and won't stop msging me... I feel bad if I just block him and ignore him all the time cus that's what I've been kinda doing...
Block him and everything if you don't want to talk to him. But at least send him one email explaining that he's been getting on your nerves, that you've been trying to be nice about it but it's just to a point that you can't stand him anymore. Tell him you're sorry, but please stop trying to contact you and then tell him that you will smash his skull with a hammer and jab his eyes out with a fork if he contacts you again.
Unless you were joking, I don't see how one has to get so confrontational to tell a guy off. The job can be done with minimal unpleasantry.
Damn" Americans"
I think if you look back through your post history and count the amount of times you've
1. Said something along the lines of "unless you were joking..." 2. Reacted negatively to a post that others did not. 3. Reacted negatively to a post that was a clear exaggeration of the truth.
You will realize that you need to start taking things on a different level than face value. It will save you a lot of time.
You must be feeling heat now, aren't you? I don't see what's wrong with what I said in response to lilsusie. In fact, 1, 2, 3 are not valid in this case at all (ok, except 1, but that's not something that is inherently bad). I am well aware that she was exaggerating in the latter part of her post, but it was an exaggeration not sarcasm, ie she still suggested that the girl make her point rather aggressively and unpleasantly.
You really are a petty child, and for the "harm" I did to you, you feel compelled to respond to my posts that do not pertain to you at all. Interestingly enough, I recall that the vast majority of times I had "committed" the aforementioned "sins" 1, 2, and 3, were in response to your nonsense. Maybe it has to do something with YOU, rather than me.
Did I say you said something wrong or offensive? I was just making a suggestion. Yes it has been said to me probably more than anyone, but that is also because I am sarcastic/exaggerate more than most people.
You insult me when I haven't said anything insulting to you at all. Funny how your definition of "petty" works. I never said they were sins, you just assume that I am attacking you, which is understandable I guess. I wasn't.
You seem to be the one making the assumptions. I clearly do not agree with your "suggestion" and reacted as so. Is calling you "petty" an insult? Surely, you have thicker skin than that. And you were being petty by kindly offering me "life advice" based on post that did not pertain to you at all.
edit: I respect the OP's intent and I will stop bickering with you. Why don't you also STFU, as I have suggested before in the same thread? (Or PM me, as YOU suggested) We get the point; you think this thread is dumb. Now kindly leave the people alone, jesus christ.
On October 22 2009 08:03 Liquid`NonY wrote: But no matter what warnings he puts in the OP or how he responds to people, there's nothing short of having a red name that would've enabled him to succeed. Sad
Well I am trying again tonight, and I have hope! Success is still an option!
Success in creating a constructive and beneficial environment to discuss dating, and the complex relationship between men and women today, that is.
On October 22 2009 07:39 Johndoe wrote: Having trouble with girlfriends past (surprise, surprise!!!)
I met this great chick online about 6 months ago. I am 45 and she is 42. I don’t know exactly how many men she slept before me but it would be about 25-30. She lost her virginity at 16 to a boyfriend she then told me she was quite promiscuous after that due to her low self esteem. She never had any guidance as her father died when she was young and her mom never supervised her properly. She got pregnant with her friends boyfriend during one of their break ups at 17. Up until that time she had close to 10 one night stands and says it was because she thought that was how you get someone. One of her one night stands her and a girlfriend picked up two guys at the pub and ended up swapping them (not foursome or same room sex). After she got pregnant at 17 she had two boyfriends and a one night stand with a work mate. She ended up dating and marrying a guy from her circle of friends. BTW she screwed her work colleague the night before fucking her future husband. She was married to this man for 16 years and never really loved him. Towards the end of the marriage she started to play around because she wanted out. She never fucked or groped any of the guys but pashed quite a few. She did also sleep with two of her female workmates during this time but her husband knew about it before it happened. Basically it was a fucked up marriage and she finally got the courage to leave.
She was separated for 6 months before meeting her second husband. During this time she had 3 one night stands with random men. One of these one night stands involved her going out with her younger girlfriend (she was 36 at the time and her girlfriend was 22) to a night club and picking up 2 18 year old guys. Both the girls fucked each of the guys and the girls fucked each other. This is one of the chicks she had sex with during her marriage. She let the two guys use a dildo on her but wouldn’t let them fuck her at the same time. Her second husband was her fourth date (fucked on the first night). This relationship lasted 5 years but he was a gambler and alcoholic. During this marriage they had a threesome with another chic which basically ended her marriage because her husband screwed the other chic secretly. She says she did the 3 some to please the husband and hated herself for it. BTW she also had a major alcohol problem in her life. After this marriage entered she was convinced by a girlfriend to start internet dating. In the 15 months until she met me she slept with 8 men. The first was a revenge root out of anger against her husband and her ended up being a FB until she got bored. She was then genuinely trying to find Mr. right and usually had sex if she got to a second date but would then realise it didn't feel right and end it. She had a one night stand with one of these 8 on New Year’s Eve because she said she felt lonely and was home alone. It was someone she had spoken to before but said she wanted to go out that night and finish the night with some intimacy. In other words it was a planned root. The main difficulty I have with this one is that in her profile she said she didn't want a one night stand but seemed to break her rules with this one.
I forgot to mention that halfway through this internet dating period she stopped drinking because she realised she is an alcoholic and doesn’t touch the drink anymore. I say this because most of her sex involved alcohol. She is really getting her life together and dearly wants this relationship forever.
She told me that sometime around when she had the one night stand she decided she was dating all wrong by sleeping with these men before getting to know them. She only slept with one more before she met me, whom she thought, was going to be long term but it didn't work out that way. Just before we met she told me she was about to get off the dating site and just let things be. She would meet someone one day when it just happened.
Anyway she tells me she loves me more she has ever loved and the sex far exceeds anything she has ever had. She wants me long term and no one else.
Sorry about the long story but I have given her a fair bit of grief over her past, which is wrong but I made the mistake of asking. I believe she is genuine in what she tells me but I can’t get images out of my head. She tells me time and time again how much she wants me but why don’t I listen. Should I be concerned about her past or can people change their views and moral standards. Does this girl deserve the chance she is asking for or will these images and thoughts I have eventually fade. I would be grateful for some feedback.
BTW she is a very attractive and loving woman and I think I am being a jerk.
personal opinion here. if you can't be completely yourself in a relationship you probably should find a new person. i don't see why people hafta change themselves just to "get the person they love". if somebody loves you back they should love you for whatever it is.
On October 22 2009 09:05 Johndoe wrote: On October 22 2009 07:39 Johndoe wrote: Having trouble with girlfriends past (surprise, surprise!!!)
Johndoe:
You should be somewhat cautious because of her past bad behavior. However, it seems she is being genuine and truthful with you. Why would she tell you all of this shit? Because she is deciding to be straight up with someone for a change, someone who will take her for who she is.
She laid herself out on the floor for you. Take a good look she says, what you see is what you get.
The fact is, if you are dating a girl any age above 18, she has probably done some dirty things. At your age, people generally have a deep sexual history. It is your choice to take the microscope off the things she told you. She didn't tell you these things to scare you, she told you because she wants acceptance from someone who actually knows her.
Tell her that you know she told you that stuff because she wants you to understand that she is trying to be honest with you, and she wants you to accept her for who she is. Tell her that because you actually do like her, that knowing her past makes you a little uncomfortable. Tell her that regardless of both of your pasts, you are trying to make it work, and you see that SHE is also trying to make it work.
Tell her you don't want it to be complicated, and you will always let her know how you feel so things don't get messed up, and that she should do the same. (Not that she hasn't)
On October 22 2009 09:05 Johndoe wrote: On October 22 2009 07:39 Johndoe wrote: Having trouble with girlfriends past (surprise, surprise!!!)
I met this great chick online about 6 months ago. I am 45 and she is 42. I don’t know exactly how many men she slept before me but it would be about 25-30. She lost her virginity at 16 to a boyfriend she then told me she was quite promiscuous after that due to her low self esteem. She never had any guidance as her father died when she was young and her mom never supervised her properly. She got pregnant with her friends boyfriend during one of their break ups at 17. Up until that time she had close to 10 one night stands and says it was because she thought that was how you get someone. One of her one night stands her and a girlfriend picked up two guys at the pub and ended up swapping them (not foursome or same room sex). After she got pregnant at 17 she had two boyfriends and a one night stand with a work mate. She ended up dating and marrying a guy from her circle of friends. BTW she screwed her work colleague the night before fucking her future husband. She was married to this man for 16 years and never really loved him. Towards the end of the marriage she started to play around because she wanted out. She never fucked or groped any of the guys but pashed quite a few. She did also sleep with two of her female workmates during this time but her husband knew about it before it happened. Basically it was a fucked up marriage and she finally got the courage to leave.
She was separated for 6 months before meeting her second husband. During this time she had 3 one night stands with random men. One of these one night stands involved her going out with her younger girlfriend (she was 36 at the time and her girlfriend was 22) to a night club and picking up 2 18 year old guys. Both the girls fucked each of the guys and the girls fucked each other. This is one of the chicks she had sex with during her marriage. She let the two guys use a dildo on her but wouldn’t let them fuck her at the same time. Her second husband was her fourth date (fucked on the first night). This relationship lasted 5 years but he was a gambler and alcoholic. During this marriage they had a threesome with another chic which basically ended her marriage because her husband screwed the other chic secretly. She says she did the 3 some to please the husband and hated herself for it. BTW she also had a major alcohol problem in her life. After this marriage entered she was convinced by a girlfriend to start internet dating. In the 15 months until she met me she slept with 8 men. The first was a revenge root out of anger against her husband and her ended up being a FB until she got bored. She was then genuinely trying to find Mr. right and usually had sex if she got to a second date but would then realise it didn't feel right and end it. She had a one night stand with one of these 8 on New Year’s Eve because she said she felt lonely and was home alone. It was someone she had spoken to before but said she wanted to go out that night and finish the night with some intimacy. In other words it was a planned root. The main difficulty I have with this one is that in her profile she said she didn't want a one night stand but seemed to break her rules with this one.
I forgot to mention that halfway through this internet dating period she stopped drinking because she realised she is an alcoholic and doesn’t touch the drink anymore. I say this because most of her sex involved alcohol. She is really getting her life together and dearly wants this relationship forever.
She told me that sometime around when she had the one night stand she decided she was dating all wrong by sleeping with these men before getting to know them. She only slept with one more before she met me, whom she thought, was going to be long term but it didn't work out that way. Just before we met she told me she was about to get off the dating site and just let things be. She would meet someone one day when it just happened.
Anyway she tells me she loves me more she has ever loved and the sex far exceeds anything she has ever had. She wants me long term and no one else.
Sorry about the long story but I have given her a fair bit of grief over her past, which is wrong but I made the mistake of asking. I believe she is genuine in what she tells me but I can’t get images out of my head. She tells me time and time again how much she wants me but why don’t I listen. Should I be concerned about her past or can people change their views and moral standards. Does this girl deserve the chance she is asking for or will these images and thoughts I have eventually fade. I would be grateful for some feedback.
BTW she is a very attractive and loving woman and I think I am being a jerk.
WWWooowwww... I feel kinda bad for you. Well I don't feel bad if you really like her but I feel bad. I think it's up to YOU to decide whether or not you're accepting the chances of all that trainwreck to occur to you in your relationship with her. I agree with the love guru about the "if she didn't genuinely like you then she wouldn't open up to you". But reallyyyyyyyy. Girls don't exactly work that way to be honest......... Because girls open up to anyone who is going to accept them when they are lonely/horny/insecure. Which is TOTALLY one of the big issues in your situation. She wants acceptance and companionship. You're giving it to her. Her ex-husband gave that security to her too though... right?
Which is why I think you should really think to yourself if you're gonna be able to tolerance a lot of shit because the statistics speak for themselves. And if you really really really like her, then suffer.
And fyi you're not being a jerk, you're being HUMAN. How'd you guys meet anyways? If it's at a bar or something then do yourself a favour and give up.
On October 17 2009 08:35 Nytefish wrote: Well there's this prostitute I know but I'm not sure how to approach her. Should I strike up a conversation and invite her out to lunch or just wave my wallet in the air?
On October 22 2009 09:25 Mykill wrote: personal opinion here. if you can't be completely yourself in a relationship you probably should find a new person. i don't see why people hafta change themselves just to "get the person they love". if somebody loves you back they should love you for whatever it is.
good luck on dating people
Love you for who you are?
If I girl loved me for who I am, they would love a guy who sits in front of his computer all day doing nothing. Someone who doesn't take care of himself much, his looks, his life, etc. Someone who is a underachiever and unmotivated about most things in life. Who the fuck wants to love someone for who they are...
I'm just playing devil's advocate here. But in all seriousness we are just products of this consumer society. We choose our partners just like we choose items in a store. We list the qualities we want, and then we demand it from others. If they don't meet our expectations we leave.
So I never had a girlfriend before, am already in college. I think I don't do well with women... I have no female friends... or at least someone which I would consider a friend.
Well the point is I've been helping some girl with programming basics. There was supposed to be only one session but I offered more help and she accepted. So far it has been like 3 sessions.
The thing is she said "Hey, I'll invite you to eat sometime". And (I think) because we haven't found free time it hasn't happened (she has reminded me it a few times already).
Does a girl is attracted to you if she asks to go eat with her?
But now consider this...
I screwed up today and arrived late at what was supposed to be the fourth session. When I arrived she was not there and did not call me (strange, because she did so the previous sessions).
I mailed her a "Sorry" mail, and she hasn't answered yet. And from what I've reading I think I screwed up by doing that too.
So, any advice on how to fix this? She's pretty hot, really don't want to screw it up more for this one.
On October 22 2009 09:05 Johndoe wrote: On October 22 2009 07:39 Johndoe wrote: Having trouble with girlfriends past (surprise, surprise!!!)
I met this great chick online about 6 months ago. I am 45 and she is 42. I don’t know exactly how many men she slept before me but it would be about 25-30. She lost her virginity at 16 to a boyfriend she then told me she was quite promiscuous after that due to her low self esteem. She never had any guidance as her father died when she was young and her mom never supervised her properly. She got pregnant with her friends boyfriend during one of their break ups at 17. Up until that time she had close to 10 one night stands and says it was because she thought that was how you get someone. One of her one night stands her and a girlfriend picked up two guys at the pub and ended up swapping them (not foursome or same room sex). After she got pregnant at 17 she had two boyfriends and a one night stand with a work mate. She ended up dating and marrying a guy from her circle of friends. BTW she screwed her work colleague the night before fucking her future husband. She was married to this man for 16 years and never really loved him. Towards the end of the marriage she started to play around because she wanted out. She never fucked or groped any of the guys but pashed quite a few. She did also sleep with two of her female workmates during this time but her husband knew about it before it happened. Basically it was a fucked up marriage and she finally got the courage to leave.
She was separated for 6 months before meeting her second husband. During this time she had 3 one night stands with random men. One of these one night stands involved her going out with her younger girlfriend (she was 36 at the time and her girlfriend was 22) to a night club and picking up 2 18 year old guys. Both the girls fucked each of the guys and the girls fucked each other. This is one of the chicks she had sex with during her marriage. She let the two guys use a dildo on her but wouldn’t let them fuck her at the same time. Her second husband was her fourth date (fucked on the first night). This relationship lasted 5 years but he was a gambler and alcoholic. During this marriage they had a threesome with another chic which basically ended her marriage because her husband screwed the other chic secretly. She says she did the 3 some to please the husband and hated herself for it. BTW she also had a major alcohol problem in her life. After this marriage entered she was convinced by a girlfriend to start internet dating. In the 15 months until she met me she slept with 8 men. The first was a revenge root out of anger against her husband and her ended up being a FB until she got bored. She was then genuinely trying to find Mr. right and usually had sex if she got to a second date but would then realise it didn't feel right and end it. She had a one night stand with one of these 8 on New Year’s Eve because she said she felt lonely and was home alone. It was someone she had spoken to before but said she wanted to go out that night and finish the night with some intimacy. In other words it was a planned root. The main difficulty I have with this one is that in her profile she said she didn't want a one night stand but seemed to break her rules with this one.
I forgot to mention that halfway through this internet dating period she stopped drinking because she realised she is an alcoholic and doesn’t touch the drink anymore. I say this because most of her sex involved alcohol. She is really getting her life together and dearly wants this relationship forever.
She told me that sometime around when she had the one night stand she decided she was dating all wrong by sleeping with these men before getting to know them. She only slept with one more before she met me, whom she thought, was going to be long term but it didn't work out that way. Just before we met she told me she was about to get off the dating site and just let things be. She would meet someone one day when it just happened.
Anyway she tells me she loves me more she has ever loved and the sex far exceeds anything she has ever had. She wants me long term and no one else.
Sorry about the long story but I have given her a fair bit of grief over her past, which is wrong but I made the mistake of asking. I believe she is genuine in what she tells me but I can’t get images out of my head. She tells me time and time again how much she wants me but why don’t I listen. Should I be concerned about her past or can people change their views and moral standards. Does this girl deserve the chance she is asking for or will these images and thoughts I have eventually fade. I would be grateful for some feedback.
BTW she is a very attractive and loving woman and I think I am being a jerk.
Dude you have to be careful here. Girls are very very very good at convincing people of things for some reason. She obviously has a FUCKED UP past, one that just at a glance I would COMPLETELY avoid because its obvious she is fcking crazy. I knew a girl that told me she was an athiest (i was like fuck yea) and a year later she turned out to be a fuckin full blown hardcore catholic and i had no idea (more hypocrisy btw). or a girl that told me she had a crush on me for a long ass time but was lying (wtf is that LOL?). There was also a girl that I was really close with and she let me be (like definately more than friends close and it wasnt a one night stand type thing, it was more sensual and shit ya know) and then bam friend zoned over text (that sucks dick LOL). I understand this girl is older but they are still conniving liars alot of the time. I would suggest you take a LONG time to get to know her (like 6 months) and if she really likes you she will change from her past. I think you should tell her you wanna be friends. If you tell that to girls they get even closer to you cuz they think they can convince you to date them through their conniving ways (i.e tits e.g vaginas).
She seems legit now because generally people that had a problem and quit it understand they need to clean up (the alc i mean.. and maybe multiple dicks inside her, shes quitting that too i guess). Just be careful and GL
On October 22 2009 12:13 Perfect Assassin wrote: Ok...
So I never had a girlfriend before, am already in college. I think I don't do well with women... I have no female friends... or at least someone which I would consider a friend.
Well the point is I've been helping some girl with programming basics. There was supposed to be only one session but I offered more help and she accepted. So far it has been like 3 sessions.
The thing is she said "Hey, I'll invite you to eat sometime". And (I think) because we haven't found free time it hasn't happened (she has reminded me it a few times already).
Does a girl is attracted to you if she asks to go eat with her?
But now consider this...
I screwed up today and arrived late at what was supposed to be the fourth session. When I arrived she was not there and did not call me (strange, because she did so the previous sessions).
I mailed her a "Sorry" mail, and she hasn't answered yet. And from what I've reading I think I screwed up by doing that too.
So, any advice on how to fix this? She's pretty hot, really don't want to screw it up more for this one.
i would say that you are on the path to becoming the group 3) category of men. the comfort person.
u seem very attached to this girl, but hey, its ur first few months in college (hopefully) and u should go out, get ur heart broken, and then reform a better man.
She's prob. asking u to food for being nice to her, but that could also be a positive sign. =) just keep going
On October 22 2009 12:13 Perfect Assassin wrote: Ok...
So I never had a girlfriend before, am already in college. I think I don't do well with women... I have no female friends... or at least someone which I would consider a friend.
Well the point is I've been helping some girl with programming basics. There was supposed to be only one session but I offered more help and she accepted. So far it has been like 3 sessions.
The thing is she said "Hey, I'll invite you to eat sometime". And (I think) because we haven't found free time it hasn't happened (she has reminded me it a few times already).
Does a girl is attracted to you if she asks to go eat with her?
But now consider this...
I screwed up today and arrived late at what was supposed to be the fourth session. When I arrived she was not there and did not call me (strange, because she did so the previous sessions).
I mailed her a "Sorry" mail, and she hasn't answered yet. And from what I've reading I think I screwed up by doing that too.
So, any advice on how to fix this? She's pretty hot, really don't want to screw it up more for this one.
i would say that you are on the path to becoming the group 3) category of men. the comfort person.
u seem very attached to this girl, but hey, its ur first few months in college (hopefully) and u should go out, get ur heart broken, and then reform a better man.
She's prob. asking u to food for being nice to her, but that could also be a positive sign. =) just keep going
Nuhhh uhhh man... It depends on her style... A lot of girls would go out just cus she wants to return the favour. That's what I would do. Don't get your hopes up...
Hmmm, the OP has actually done pretty well in sticking on topic and not getting distracted by the many trolls who were just messing with him. (myself included lol.) I've seen lots of these threads around here before, and they usually are either someone trolling the site in general, or they get closed before reaching the second page. I was pretty sure that's what this was going to be, so I joined in with the asking of silly questions. Sorry 'bout that o.o;
Anyway, I'm quite surprised this thread is still around. I'm somewhat tempted to write a reply ranting about my own relationship troubles lol.
Theres this chick that I really like everything about, personality, character, how she looks at things, voice, etc. but shes fat. so my question is...how do i make her lose weight real quick without causing emotional trauma?
Hey, I understand and respect what larjarse is trying to do here: give advice, be helpful and generally have a good discussion. And it HAS been interesting reading the myriad opinions and problems (although I'll admit to skipping over the longer ones).
On October 19 2009 17:22. GOB wrote The problem with most of the advice in this thread, including LarJarsE's, is that it subscribes to this simplistic notion that there are certain universal truths that can be manipulated in relationships. The reality is that this isn't the case. Dispensing this hackneyed brand of pop-psychology that gives diluted answers to vague questions is the same brand of hucksterism that sells truckloads of inane self-help books to desperate consumers.
There is no simple game plan or gimmick or recipe for getting girls. Anyone who tells you otherwise is selling you something.
If you want to be comfortable getting girls, you need to be comfortable with yourself. Know who you are and what you want, in the large and small senses, and the other stuff just sort of work
Having said that I completely concur with the above quote. And furthermore, I also generally agree with fanatacist's opinion that there's a real pompous tone flowing through your thread larjarse. I don't think you're wrong in alot of what you say or flawed in your motivations, but it does smack of the Almighty on high dispensing advice. Like a few ppl I'd be really interested to hear why you feel you're in a position to give it. However, the problem is that no matter what you answered with (unless it were exceedingly humble) I'd think you were a toss. So I respect your desire for your private life to remain annonymous.
As for fanatacist, I think he's pretty funny. Sure, he can be pretty harsh and blunt but I think that's just his caustic style of humour and debating. I really don't think he's trying to ruin the thread. Anyway those are just my ideas - keep the advice and discussion going, it's interesting to read.
I've been reading this thread and I found alot of great advice, I'm just going to ask a very simple question:
How do you bring out the Bi-sexual in a woman, one of my wish list before I die is that I want to have three-way sex with two chicks and me only.. So like, what advice can you give to me for me to bring out that "dude" within my girl? I mean, she has a tendency of being very,very appreciative of beautiful women.. which of course I want to use in my advantage but she doesn't want to share me to somebody else..
Man, I'm going to try out your advice but if it doesn't work it's pretty ok.. I've tried before just that it my style doesn't seem to work.
Also, please include that living in a Christian Country, the women here are very conservative even the prostitutes (no kidding). Like I wanted to try 2 on 1 battle with them on the bed, but one told me she can't do it because the girl she was with wasn't her bestfriend, man, her bestfriend look's like it would look like a manage-de-twa between two men and 1 girl.
But anyway, enough of that story.. I would like to ask for anytips regarding this.. I am a man of goals and love, and love-making is one of them.
Thank you very very much! The Obelisk
Yes, I would also like this song to be part of the love:
On October 22 2009 23:44 TheAntZ wrote: Theres this chick that I really like everything about, personality, character, how she looks at things, voice, etc. but shes fat. so my question is...how do i make her lose weight real quick without causing emotional trauma?
You're an ass. You don't deserve her. If you liked her for who she is then her being fat shouldn't be an issue. AND PLUS. You're not even her boyfriend, who are you to say? -.-
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