LarJarsE's attraction and relationship tipline - Page 17

On October 21 2009 23:29 lilsusie wrote:


Block him and everything if you don't want to talk to him. But at least send him one email explaining that he's been getting on your nerves, that you've been trying to be nice about it but it's just to a point that you can't stand him anymore. Tell him you're sorry, but please stop trying to contact you and then tell him that you will smash his skull with a hammer and jab his eyes out with a fork if he contacts you again.

On October 22 2009 07:33 phosphorylation wrote:


Unless you were joking, I don't see how one has to get so confrontational to tell a guy off. The job can be done with minimal unpleasantry.

Damn" Americans"

On October 22 2009 07:39 Johndoe wrote:
Having trouble with girlfrinds past (surprise, surprise!!!)

I met this great chick online about 6 months ago. I am 45 and she is 42. I dont know exactly how many men she slept before me but it would be about 25-30. She losy her virginity at 16 to a boyfriend she tne told me she was quite promiscuous after that due to her low self esteem. she never had any guidance as her father died when she was young and her mom never supervised her properly. She got pregnant with her friends boyfriend during one of their break ups at 17. Up until that time she had close to 10 one night stands and says it was because she thought that was how you get someone. One of her one night stands she and a girlfriend picked up two guys at the pub and ended up swapping them (not foursome or same room sex). After she got pregnant at 17 she had two boyfriends and a one night stand with a work mate. She ended up dating and marrying a guy from her circle of friends. BTW she screwed her work collegue the night before fucking her future husband. She was married to this man for 16 years and never really loved him. Towrads the end of the marriage she started to play around because she wanted out. She never fucked or groped any of the guys but pashed quite a few. She did also sleep with two of her female workmates during thistime but her husband knew about it before it happened. Basically it was a fucked up marriage and she finally got the courage to leave.

She was separated for 6 months before meeting her second husband. During this time she had 3 one night stands with ramdom men. One of these one night stands involved her going out with her younger girlfriend (she was 36 at the time and her girlfriend was 22) to a night club and picking up 2 18 year old guys. Both the girls fucked each of the guys and the girls fucked each other. This is one of the chicks she had sex with during her marriage. She let the two guys use a dildo on her but wouldnt let them fuck her at the same time. Her second husband was her fourth date (fucked on the first night). This relationship lasted 5 years but he was a gambler and alcoholic. During this marriage they had a threesome with another chic which basically ended her marriage because her husband screwed the other chic secretly. She says she did the 3 some to please the husband and hated her self for it. BTW she also had a major alcohol problem in her life. After this marriage entered she was convinced by a girlfriend to start internet dating. In the 15 months until she met me she slept with 8 men. The first was a revenge root out of anger against her husband and her ended up being a FB until she got bored. She was then genuinley trying to find Mr right and usually had sex if she got to a second date but would then realise it didn't feel right and end it. She had a one night stand with one of these 8 on New years eve because she said she felt lonely and was home alone. It was someone she had spoken to before but said she wanted to go out that night and finish the night with some intimacy. In other words it was a planned root. The main difficulty I have with this one is that in her profile she said she didn't want a one night stand but seemed to break her rules with this one.

I forgot to mention that halfway through this internet dating period she stopped drinking because she realised she is an alcoholic and doesnt touch the drink anymore. I say this because most of her sex involved alcohol. She is really getting her life together and dearly wants this relationship forever.

She told me that sometime around when she had the one night stand she decided she was dating all wrong by sleeping with these men before getting to know them. She only slept with one more before she met me, which she thought was going to be long term but it didn't work out that way. Just before we met she told me she was about to get off the dating site and just let things be. She would meet somone one day when it just happended.

Anyway she tells me she loves me more she has ever loved and the sex far exceeds anything she has ever had. She wants me long term and no one else.

Sorry about the long story but I have given her a fair bit of grief over her past, which is wrong but I made the mistake of asking. I believe she is genuine in what she tells me but I cant get images out of my head. She tells me time and time again how much she wants me but why dont I listen. Should I be concerned about her past or can people change their views and moral standards. Does this girl deserve the chance she is asking for or will these images and thoughts I have evntually fade. I would be greatful for some feed back.

BTW she is a very attractive and loving woman and I think I am being a jerk.

On October 22 2009 08:02 larjarse wrote:
Fantacist, your signature pretty much sums you up.

Believe in yourself. Do what you think is right. Fuck those against progress.

I never asked a mod to baby sit my topic, however, when there are people acting out again and again, obstructing the good intentioned conversation of others, it just makes the website look bad. If one was to judge the quality of this forum by the posts in this topic, it would score a "dont waste your time in this unsupervised, childish, romper room of a forum.

I know you have a (usually very long) answer to everything and everyone, but usually people aren't making statements to YOU or asking YOU questions, so why do you waste your time? I must say that this is a rhetorical question and that I am uninterested in your answer. However, it appears to me that you are jealous and insecure, and that is why you flame this thread. Your first post on this topic was "who are you again?" and then you continued to say, indirectly, that the thead is nonsense and noone should participate in it.

Your username is all over this thread. I made this thread because I find pleasure in helping others, but I am really confused why you keep posting in this topic. Count the number of people who told you to shut up.