Halt the trolling. That is not the case. You have absolutely no basis. And considering everything has been for free, and based on what she said, you're pretty damn far off base.

It's called sarcasm, it's a form of humor.

QuanticHawk

United States32043 Posts

February 27 2013 20:19 GMT

#62

Kissing and talking to someone doesn't make them your girlfriend. Neither does whispering sweet nothing or talking about how awesome that person is. You're only an official monogomous couple when one of you brings up and you both agree to it.

Stop reading all of the terrible girl blogs on here and thinking that other people's fucked up relationships are normal, and for the love of god don't listen to the rest of the advice in this thread (outside of fractals) because it is all written by immature, hypocritical, misogynistic cavemen who apparently have never dated anyone

unless you both talk about and consent to monogamy, you have zero right to get pissed about someone exploring other options. You don't go on one date with someone and they become your property. This is the same for both guys and girls. And someone is not a slut/player for exploring your other options before you commit to someone you met less than a week before jesus. She didn't fuck you over, she didn't friend zone you or anyting like that.

You asking someone to be in a relationship with you after five days is weird. That's probalby exactly why she was initially turned off. Why she is with you now, i havent a clue, but my opinion is that you're clearly way too immature to be dating someone like this if you think that what she's done was slutty, fucked you over etc.

Shelke14

Canada6655 Posts

February 27 2013 20:26 GMT

#63

^^^ Hawk is 100 percent correct.

Burrfoot

United States1176 Posts

February 27 2013 20:30 GMT

#64

Ok sir, change your Facebook status to "in a relationship with ____" and see if she confirms. If she doesnt then she is dating around and probably have multiple suitors on her friend list. I have both dated casually (3-4 women at a time) an been with women who were clearly also dating around. Nothing wrong with that to test the waters. The first post you made sounded like the testing phase. Knowing how college girls act after experiencing the freedom of college led to my previous sarcastic post. Especially having dated college girls after graduating. If not and you truly found your soulmate forever and ever, congrats!

Froadac

United States6733 Posts

February 27 2013 21:05 GMT

#65

We had an explicit conversaiton regarding 'monogamy'

And yes, I did come to that realization after the fact Hawk. It just took a bit of introspection to determine what the actual case was. I definitely overreacted and that falls on me, but at this point it has been resolved.

Sorry burrfoot, that just came off weirdly I suppose.

Yes, first part was definitely testing phase.

FractalsOnFire

Australia1756 Posts

February 28 2013 02:49 GMT

#66

On February 28 2013 05:19 QuanticHawk wrote:
Kissing and talking to someone doesn't make them your girlfriend. Neither does whispering sweet nothing or talking about how awesome that person is. You're only an official monogomous couple when one of you brings up and you both agree to it.

Stop reading all of the terrible girl blogs on here and thinking that other people's fucked up relationships are normal, and for the love of god don't listen to the rest of the advice in this thread (outside of fractals) because it is all written by immature, hypocritical, misogynistic cavemen who apparently have never dated anyone

unless you both talk about and consent to monogamy, you have zero right to get pissed about someone exploring other options. You don't go on one date with someone and they become your property. This is the same for both guys and girls. And someone is not a slut/player for exploring your other options before you commit to someone you met less than a week before jesus. She didn't fuck you over, she didn't friend zone you or anyting like that.

You asking someone to be in a relationship with you after five days is weird. That's probalby exactly why she was initially turned off. Why she is with you now, i havent a clue, but my opinion is that you're clearly way too immature to be dating someone like this if you think that what she's done was slutty, fucked you over etc.

Oh thank you Hawk, I'm glad you agree with my advice/thoughts.

ktimekiller

United States690 Posts

February 28 2013 04:49 GMT

#67

Another case of a loony thinking a date meant committed?

Froadac

United States6733 Posts

February 28 2013 05:02 GMT

#68

On February 28 2013 13:49 ktimekiller wrote:
Another case of a loony thinking a date meant committed?

Yes. That. But then understanding --> actual relationship.

Aerisky

United States12129 Posts

February 28 2013 05:34 GMT

#69

How would one bring this up, though? I've also heard (perhaps from one of the cavemen posters though) that in terms of relationships, you shouldn't bring up "do you want to enter a relationship", because the question will always be awkward and you probably shouldn't have to ask. But at the same time, you're right about what you're saying up above--if you don't both agree to be monogamous, you aren't in a relationship >.<

r.Evo

Germany14080 Posts

February 28 2013 10:03 GMT

#70

On February 28 2013 14:34 Aerisky wrote:

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Have fun together, have sex together, do things couples do. In most of those scenarios she will bring it up. If she doesn't it's fine to do so yourself after a week or two or whenever you feel like it.