[Girl Blog] - Back where I started

On February 16 2013 19:28 Kaeru wrote:
People keep asking girls if they want a relationship - I don't get why! If you end up in a relationship you do, if you don't then you don't. The question is 99% of the time awkward.

Anyway, at number 3. You are at her place, she stops you and it ends up with you two ending up. Why didn't you just have sex with her there? Just throw her in the bed, hold her down like a man go... You've talked to her for 4 days, that's a lot...!

On February 16 2013 19:28 Kaeru wrote:
People keep asking girls if they want a relationship - I don't get why! If you end up in a relationship you do, if you don't then you don't. The question is 99% of the time awkward.

Anyway, at number 3. You are at her place, she stops you and it ends up with you two making out. Why didn't you just have sex with her there? Just throw her in the bed, hold her down like a man and go... You've talked to her for 4 days, that's a lot...! If she's sleeping with multiple guys, turn her over and take a good grip of her hair with one hand, around her throat with the other and just shove your aggressions straight into her.

Edit: I like to add. Unless you're in-love with her seriously, why do you care if she is dating multiple guys? Just have sex with her and ignore her for a while. I don't mean the candles and shit sex, fuck her hard.

(sorry ended up with lots of edits)

On February 16 2013 22:54 sc4k wrote:
Dude you weren't friendzoned if she kissed you passionately twice haha!!! She sounds faintly insane and weird. Definitely not relationship material. You aren't in the wrong for thinking bad of her. She needs to sort her shit out.

On February 17 2013 00:51 SamsungStar wrote:


Nah, it depends on the age. In your 20s, especially late 20s, making out means absolutely nothing. Plenty of girls do it recreationally or just to see if the guy is a good kisser. They'll even do it out of boredom or they're feeling playful at the time. I wouldn't put any stock in it, tbh. Especially if the girl is very sexual. Some ppl are pretty fked up.

On February 17 2013 01:05 mordk wrote:

Still fun though, you just have to avoid getting involved. Have toooons of fun!

On February 17 2013 00:51 SamsungStar wrote:


Nah, it depends on the age. In your 20s, especially late 20s, making out means absolutely nothing. Plenty of girls do it recreationally or just to see if the guy is a good kisser. They'll even do it out of boredom or they're feeling playful at the time. I wouldn't put any stock in it, tbh. Especially if the girl is very sexual. Some ppl are pretty fked up.

On February 17 2013 03:11 Froadac wrote:
Yeah, I dunno. And here she is today being like yay I"m going to blahblah i'tll be fun and I'm like really?

On February 17 2013 08:57 synapse wrote:
Never stick your dick in crazy. JUST RUN DUDE RUN

On February 16 2013 19:28 Kaeru wrote:
People keep asking girls if they want a relationship - I don't get why! If you end up in a relationship you do, if you don't then you don't. The question is 99% of the time awkward.

Anyway, at number 3. You are at her place, she stops you and it ends up with you two making out. Why didn't you just have sex with her there? Just throw her in the bed, hold her down like a man and go... You've talked to her for 4 days, that's a lot...! If she's sleeping with multiple guys, turn her over and take a good grip of her hair with one hand, around her throat with the other and just shove your aggressions straight into her.

Edit: I like to add. Unless you're in-love with her seriously, why do you care if she is dating multiple guys? Just have sex with her and ignore her for a while. I don't mean the candles and shit sex, fuck her hard.

(sorry ended up with lots of edits)

On February 17 2013 10:13 JudicatorHammurabi wrote:
I've already discussed this a lot, but a couple addendums.

Sounds like many Chinese girls I've dealt with. Extreme mood/interest changes is unusually characteristic of them. $100 says she's of Chinese descent. (Anyone willing to take the bet owes me $100)

Also, this girl is a first-rate slut and is batshit insane. Just saying :s

On February 17 2013 08:09 Zim23 wrote:
She wanted you in that moment and now that the moment is gone she changed her mind. Happens all the time. You missed your chance move on and find another one. It's college man, don't get hung up on one girl. Also keep in mind that your two options aren't only friend or serious relationship, lots of middle ground.

On February 17 2013 11:20 ProV1 wrote:


I bet you a $100 that she's not chinese. Just because a girl has options and likes to see more than one guy does not make her a slut or make her insane. Lots of girls in college will "cheat" on their boyfriends. No girl gets wet for just one guy, and when there's shit like alcohol or a guy who's cooler than their boyfriend and who's willing to take the responsibility off the girl in pretext, then the girl will sleep with the guy. Having a boyfriend is mostly for comfort. All young girls in their 20's will sleep around,whether they are white, asian, black, etc.



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On February 17 2013 00:51 SamsungStar wrote:


Nah, it depends on the age. In your 20s, especially late 20s, making out means absolutely nothing. Plenty of girls do it recreationally or just to see if the guy is a good kisser. They'll even do it out of boredom or they're feeling playful at the time. I wouldn't put any stock in it, tbh. Especially if the girl is very sexual. Some ppl are pretty fked up.

On February 17 2013 11:50 SamsungStar wrote:


Not all girls, but the vast majority yes. Vast majority of girls are sluts. Your logic doesn't make sense. Just because most girls are slutty it doesn't mean slutty behavior is no longer slutty. It is STILL slutty, it's just not as rare as society tries to pretend.

On February 17 2013 13:47 targ wrote:


You know, I tend to get the kind of girl who wants a serious relationship. How do I meet more of the type who just does it for fun? (I'm in my mid-twenties)

On February 17 2013 11:50 SamsungStar wrote:


Not all girls, but the vast majority yes. Vast majority of girls are sluts. Your logic doesn't make sense. Just because most girls are slutty it doesn't mean slutty behavior is no longer slutty. It is STILL slutty, it's just not as rare as society tries to pretend.

On February 17 2013 13:47 targ wrote:


You know, I tend to get the kind of girl who wants a serious relationship. How do I meet more of the type who just does it for fun? (I'm in my mid-twenties)

On February 17 2013 11:20 ProV1 wrote:


I bet you a $100 that she's not chinese. Just because a girl has options and likes to see more than one guy does not make her a slut or make her insane. Lots of girls in college will "cheat" on their boyfriends. No girl gets wet for just one guy, and when there's shit like alcohol or a guy who's cooler than their boyfriend and who's willing to take the responsibility off the girl in pretext, then the girl will sleep with the guy. Having a boyfriend is mostly for comfort. All young girls in their 20's will sleep around,whether they are white, asian, black, etc.



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On February 17 2013 14:09 babylon wrote:

"Slutty" is such a slutty word. Anyways, aren't guys more slutty than girls anyways for the most part? Though I guess for every slutty guy there's gotta be a slutty girl, so it probably balances out in the end.

On February 17 2013 14:28 mordk wrote:

Bars are a good place, don't try clubs, the chances of meeting a good girl are slim to none, you go to clubs to hook up and have a good time, not to find a relationship, girls know this fact.

Bars, in comparison, are a good place to start a conversation, which will allow you to determine if you like a girl or not, based on things other than just looks.

On February 16 2013 19:31 Froadac wrote:

I'll be honest, this was sort of hte type of response i was expecting. This was not the decision I made for these reasons

1) Oh yeah, go from never having kissed a girl to sex
2) I don't think she was necessarily in it for that at that point, neither was
3) Roommate returned
4) Sense of morals that whether correct or incorrect would take a lot of breaking to contradict
5) lack of any sort of preparedness

As a sisdenote i ended up staying overnight. not like it really matters but i forgot to include htat.

In terms of the question: quite possibly, I have no clue.

I care at this point because it seems like a bullshit excuse. I mean, maybe its true but it doesnt seem terribly congruent, and to say the very least I wasn't trying to use her purely for the sex

On February 17 2013 18:13 Froadac wrote:
she is Chinese descent but was adopted by a white couple at 2 years of age. still texting me and shit.

On February 17 2013 18:32 Loser777 wrote:

Interesting, that adds some kindling to the nature vs. nurture debate fire. If it were me I would just say fuck it a single girl isn't worth this trouble especially if I don't have some kind of innate attachment/devotion.

On February 18 2013 09:59 beetlelisk wrote:
Are you still angry at her? If yes then maybe talk with her about it to make the situation clear.

On February 18 2013 11:21 FractalsOnFire wrote:


I don't even know why he should be angry with her. They're not in an exclusive relationship, if she wants to sleep around with multiple guys that's up to her. He should accept that and either become another fuck buddy or find another girl that won't waste his time.

She obviously fucked me over to a certain degree, i still feel the need to be nice, but I'm not sure that's right. I always have been nice, and I think she would be a good friend but after this shit I'm not quite sure anymore. The whole dating multiple people at the same time angers me. Esp after what she said when we were talking to each other/engaged in cuddling close contact about oh yeah you understand me which is really shit in retrospect. But is she just sleeping around and then projecting a strong moral code to compensate for her actual behavior?

On February 18 2013 11:34 beetlelisk wrote:

He wrote in the OP



and he's still talking to her.

So question is: Froadac what do you want to do about her? Stay in touch or break contact?

My guess is he has a certain way of thinking how relationships work and begin and feels mislead. Probably thinks 'oh yeah connecting on a deeper level with someone while making out and flirting should equal a monogamous relationship'.

On February 18 2013 13:57 Froadac wrote:
Well, I was angry with that being given as a reason.

I wouldn't have been angry had it not been for the extreme conflict with what she said earlier. i don't know I would mind it either way.

And yes, to a certain degree "My guess is he has a certain way of thinking how relationships work and begin and feels mislead. Probably thinks 'oh yeah connecting on a deeper level with someone while making out and flirting should equal a monogamous relationship'." but I was also fully aware it wasn't true so iunno.

The only thing I was angry about was seeming contradiction but meh.

In terms of leading me on, what would you say falls in that category?

On February 18 2013 14:39 beetlelisk wrote:
Do you mean gradually getting involved with someone?

On February 27 2013 21:56 Burrfoot wrote:
I believe you got added to her "meal ticket" rotation where she has 7-10 guys in the roster (many older men you probably dont know about!) to "casually date" to buy her lunch and dinner. The nicer the place you take her the more she puts out.

Man up and take her to Cheesecake Factory or the Melting Pot if you want some poon tang.

On February 28 2013 04:13 Froadac wrote:

Halt the trolling. That is not the case. You have absolutely no basis. And considering everything has been for free, and based on what she said, you're pretty damn far off base.

On February 28 2013 05:19 QuanticHawk wrote:
Kissing and talking to someone doesn't make them your girlfriend. Neither does whispering sweet nothing or talking about how awesome that person is. You're only an official monogomous couple when one of you brings up and you both agree to it.

Stop reading all of the terrible girl blogs on here and thinking that other people's fucked up relationships are normal, and for the love of god don't listen to the rest of the advice in this thread (outside of fractals) because it is all written by immature, hypocritical, misogynistic cavemen who apparently have never dated anyone

unless you both talk about and consent to monogamy, you have zero right to get pissed about someone exploring other options. You don't go on one date with someone and they become your property. This is the same for both guys and girls. And someone is not a slut/player for exploring your other options before you commit to someone you met less than a week before jesus. She didn't fuck you over, she didn't friend zone you or anyting like that.

You asking someone to be in a relationship with you after five days is weird. That's probalby exactly why she was initially turned off. Why she is with you now, i havent a clue, but my opinion is that you're clearly way too immature to be dating someone like this if you think that what she's done was slutty, fucked you over etc.

On February 28 2013 13:49 ktimekiller wrote:
Another case of a loony thinking a date meant committed?

On February 28 2013 14:34 Aerisky wrote:

How would one bring this up, though? I've also heard (perhaps from one of the cavemen posters though) that in terms of relationships, you shouldn't bring up "do you want to enter a relationship", because the question will always be awkward and you probably shouldn't have to ask. But at the same time, you're right about what you're saying up above--if you don't both agree to be monogamous, you aren't in a relationship >.<

On February 28 2013 19:03 r.Evo wrote:

Have fun together, have sex together, do things couples do. In most of those scenarios she will bring it up. If she doesn't it's fine to do so yourself after a week or two or whenever you feel like it.