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beetlelisk
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FractalsOnFire
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On February 18 2013 09:59 beetlelisk wrote: Are you still angry at her? If yes then maybe talk with her about it to make the situation clear. I don't even know why he should be angry with her. They're not in an exclusive relationship, if she wants to sleep around with multiple guys that's up to her. He should accept that and either become another fuck buddy or find another girl that won't waste his time. | ||
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
On February 18 2013 11:21 FractalsOnFire wrote: I don't even know why he should be angry with her. They're not in an exclusive relationship, if she wants to sleep around with multiple guys that's up to her. He should accept that and either become another fuck buddy or find another girl that won't waste his time. He wrote in the OP She obviously fucked me over to a certain degree, i still feel the need to be nice, but I'm not sure that's right. I always have been nice, and I think she would be a good friend but after this shit I'm not quite sure anymore. The whole dating multiple people at the same time angers me. Esp after what she said when we were talking to each other/engaged in cuddling close contact about oh yeah you understand me which is really shit in retrospect. But is she just sleeping around and then projecting a strong moral code to compensate for her actual behavior? and he's still talking to her. So question is: Froadac what do you want to do about her? Stay in touch or break contact? | ||
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
On February 18 2013 11:34 beetlelisk wrote: He wrote in the OP and he's still talking to her. So question is: Froadac what do you want to do about her? Stay in touch or break contact? I don't really see that as a reason, as I've stated before. They're not in an exclusive relationship, they're not gf/bf. Also I don't see how she is being contradictory/hypocritical. She never said "yeah monogamous relationships are the way to go" or something along those lines. All she said was "You understand me". They both connect on a deeper level, she just likes to fuck around. Who the fuck cares if she fucks other men, she ain't his woman. Hell she's even open about it, she never promised anything about monogamy or lead him on in any way about expectations. He made all of that up in his own head. Of course him having feelings is the reason he's so invested in this. Projecting his own values onto her thinking that's the way things should be, rather than just accepting her for who she is and letting her just be. My guess is he has a certain way of thinking how relationships work and begin and feels mislead. Probably thinks 'oh yeah connecting on a deeper level with someone while making out and flirting should equal a monogamous relationship'. Everyone is different, not everyone thinks the same way or feels the same way. Not everyone wants a monogamous relationship, not everyone is satisfied with just one partner. Contrary to what society may tell you is the ideal relationship. This is all from what he's told us but if she really did lead him on, I think he would've mentioned it. | ||
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
My guess is he has a certain way of thinking how relationships work and begin and feels mislead. Probably thinks 'oh yeah connecting on a deeper level with someone while making out and flirting should equal a monogamous relationship'. Look at this in this way - he never kissed a girl before, he never had a GF so what happened between them could and probably did feel special for him. Maybe he also got a sense of an achieving something and suddenly he learns that she likes to "date" multiple guys at the same time, which can be understood as anyone can be intimate and make up with her. Since she's easy to get it means he achieved nothing, his experience wasn't as meaningful, had a different character from what he values and maybe even didn't teach him anything about girls he's interested in. He held something precious for a few days and completely lost it. Froadac has written about girl friend(s), friendship is a kind of a relationship and I bet he imagined having girlfriend as a friend you can kiss and be intimate with. That's also my view on how GF should be like. Can you even imagine being in a emotional relationship with a girl who's fucked as if she's a property of random dudes she met the other day? Having a GF isn't the same as having a fuck buddy and he also wrote that going from never kissing straight to sex is too fast. He doesn't have the experience necessary to tell monogamy at this age is a myth and even when it happens it looks like a joke. Is it a complete myth and a joke though? He shouldn't be blamed for not knowing and thus have the right to be angry and confused k? Those things should be explained and people here have done that. People are born as newbies to everything, it's only natural and nobody's fault. Just read his parent rage blogs and see in what kind of an environment he had to grow up. | ||
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Froadac
United States6733 Posts
I wouldn't have been angry had it not been for the extreme conflict with what she said earlier. i don't know I would mind it either way. And yes, to a certain degree "My guess is he has a certain way of thinking how relationships work and begin and feels mislead. Probably thinks 'oh yeah connecting on a deeper level with someone while making out and flirting should equal a monogamous relationship'." but I was also fully aware it wasn't true so iunno. The only thing I was angry about was seeming contradiction but meh. In terms of leading me on, what would you say falls in that category? | ||
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beetlelisk
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SamsungStar
United States912 Posts
On February 18 2013 13:57 Froadac wrote: Well, I was angry with that being given as a reason. I wouldn't have been angry had it not been for the extreme conflict with what she said earlier. i don't know I would mind it either way. And yes, to a certain degree "My guess is he has a certain way of thinking how relationships work and begin and feels mislead. Probably thinks 'oh yeah connecting on a deeper level with someone while making out and flirting should equal a monogamous relationship'." but I was also fully aware it wasn't true so iunno. The only thing I was angry about was seeming contradiction but meh. In terms of leading me on, what would you say falls in that category? If she slept with you, said you had the perfect penis for her, that the experience was so magical and amazing, and she can already feel your seed stirring within her womb. That she loves you with all her heart and she wants to be with you till the end of time. Then you find out she went and screwed another dude the next day and even let him film it. That would be leading you on with false pretenses. You've got a long way to go on the road to cynicism and dead-eyed jadedness, but remember, it always starts with a kiss  | ||
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
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SamsungStar
United States912 Posts
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beetlelisk
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SamsungStar
United States912 Posts
On February 18 2013 14:39 beetlelisk wrote: Do you mean gradually getting involved with someone? Ooops, sorry. I meant, only time will show a girl's true nature. I haven't found any overt signals that I can easily judge based off of. Some of the quietest, shy, most demure girls turn out to be total freak skanks. Other girls can be really rowdy, in your face, and dress scandalous, but end up the most devoted loyal girlfriend ever. | ||
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beetlelisk
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Froadac
United States6733 Posts
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Froadac
United States6733 Posts
But we're back at it >.> | ||
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
1st tip from me: if you are doing her orally, trying to speak while doing it doesn't cut it, just move your lips fast | ||
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Froadac
United States6733 Posts
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Burrfoot
United States1176 Posts
Man up and take her to Cheesecake Factory or the Melting Pot if you want some poon tang. | ||
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
What are you basing this on? I wouldn't turn this into relationship based on money so fast. I'd check her for free first, whatever "checking" may imply. | ||
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Froadac
United States6733 Posts
On February 27 2013 21:56 Burrfoot wrote: I believe you got added to her "meal ticket" rotation where she has 7-10 guys in the roster (many older men you probably dont know about!) to "casually date" to buy her lunch and dinner. The nicer the place you take her the more she puts out. Man up and take her to Cheesecake Factory or the Melting Pot if you want some poon tang. Halt the trolling. That is not the case. You have absolutely no basis. And considering everything has been for free, and based on what she said, you're pretty damn far off base. | ||
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