EPT[girl] Could've been worse - Page 2
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Frits
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farvacola
United States18846 Posts
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jrkirby
United States1510 Posts
On December 27 2012 18:17 krndandaman wrote: that sucks but why are you guys so formal when you guys send messages to each other? i almost felt as if i was reading an email from my professor I guess we're pretty awkward, that's all. On December 27 2012 19:37 pevergreen wrote: Were you guys actually dating though? Sorry to put that out there, but from what I read, I wouldn't really class you two as dating, you went out a few times, but... Maybe that's just how I view relationships? The way I see it is: I asked her out to eat alone. Going out = a date. A date + other dates = dating. Dating = Girlfriend. Maybe I skipped a step? | ||
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)oMeGa(
United States5 Posts
On December 28 2012 02:46 AngryMag wrote: My tip would be to avoid dating self righteous over the top christian nutjobs. In my opinion you should try to date more open minded people, who are better at accepting you as a person and your views on various topics. You shouldn't have much trouble finding more open minded people on campus. If you want to get laid, dating religous girls is a waste of time/money and effort I personally would not date a girl who describes herself as christian or religious, I want to share leisure time together and I will certainly not visit christian meetings/gatherings with her. Christians are not self-righteous, they realize that they're not saved by their actions, but saved by grace. All they did was accept what was given to them for free. Therefore how could they be self-righteous? Christians do proclaim to have truth, yes, but do you not as well? You have your take on spirituality, or non-spirituality, and Christians have theirs, both parties claim exclusivity. She didn't reject the guy because she didn't accept him as a person, she just wisely knew that the relationship wouldn't work in the long-term. Within a relationship, if one person lives their life for God and the other believes it's a mindless fairy tale, there's going to be problems. Both people have to be on the same page, otherwise the relationship just isn't worth-while. | ||
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ssi.bal-listic
United States568 Posts
honestly sex is one thing but kiss? cmon | ||
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Grumbels
Netherlands7031 Posts
And the two of you are quite young, so I think it can be expected that she is, well, crazy in the sense of wanting to cling to the things she was taught when she grew up. I don't necessarily think that you should try to give her another chance/convince her etc. being religious is kind of a red flag anyway (imo), but there is always a chance for someone like her to change after the experience she had with you. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32122 Posts
On December 28 2012 04:27 jrkirby wrote: I guess we're pretty awkward, that's all. The way I see it is: I asked her out to eat alone. Going out = a date. A date + other dates = dating. Dating = Girlfriend. Maybe I skipped a step? you went out a couple times, that's all and you didn't even kiss lol. you just went out a couple times. that isn't dating, and definitely not a girlfriend. to be more matter of fact about the whole situation, the whole 'dont kiss until marriage' thing is pretty clearly a lie she said to easily let you down. | ||
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10344 Posts
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sorrowptoss
Canada1431 Posts
Well at least that Day9 linked video was funny as hell. | ||
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docvoc
United States5491 Posts
On December 28 2012 08:05 MountainDewJunkie wrote: Dude. You are, respectfully, in denial. Eating alone with someone, or grabbing coffee, is not a date. If you were every lucky enough to have a REAL date, that does not mean you even have a girlfriend. It would mean you have a date. And dating someone doesn't mean you're even bf/gf/. The common official declaration of bf/gf is a spoken or implied agreement to be monogamous, or at the very least date exclusively. Why this argument cannot assist you is because: you weren't even dating to begin with. This, I think you are making this into way more than it was. This was not rejection, this was a girl giving cop out reasons for not wanting to actually go on a date with you or her being incredibly weird. This was the most awkward night out I've ever read about, and from what I read, the chemistry was not there whatsoever. With that said, Kirby, go for a girl who is much more normal than that. If you want to get extra crazy, go for a more permiscuous girl if you want. The thing you are doing wrong is that you are looking at the wrong places for girls. Don't look for love in the beginning if you can help it, look for something that will blossom into it. Don't look for girls who want to hold out on you, because those girls don't allow love to blossom by doing so, you have to give a part of you to receive a part of them. /rant, good luck OP, keep calm and date on. | ||
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B.I.G.
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But hey, kudos to her for being a girl that tells you things straight up. Not a lot of those going around. Holy shit docvoc thats actually pretty deep :D | ||
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Garnet
Vietnam9033 Posts
About OP: like above comments said, it seems like you weren't even in a relationship, and that girl probably didn't think so either. | ||
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fire_brand
Canada1123 Posts
Be happy she gave you an easy out, because you did not want to be stuck with her. As nice as you say she is, that kind of stuff will definitely wear on you. And if you break up with her because she won't do anything you look like a real douchebag. It's always hard to make in work with a christian girl if you're atheist when she's a hardcore christian. Usually when that's the case it encompasses a majority of the things they do, and you can only go to church so much as a non believer before you flip out. Good luck on your next one, well written blog. | ||
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Grumbels
Netherlands7031 Posts
On December 28 2012 22:49 fire_brand wrote: That's some shit haha. Christian girls usually start like that and then after you wear away at them chuck their morals out the window when they get too horny. And then again, some are just crazy. Be happy she gave you an easy out, because you did not want to be stuck with her. As nice as you say she is, that kind of stuff will definitely wear on you. And if you break up with her because she won't do anything you look like a real douchebag. It's always hard to make in work with a christian girl if you're atheist when she's a hardcore christian. Usually when that's the case it encompasses a majority of the things they do, and you can only go to church so much as a non believer before you flip out. Good luck on your next one, well written blog. Lack of sexual chemistry is a perfectly valid reason to break up. Sexual attraction is the main reason most people start a relationship to begin with. | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
On December 28 2012 22:20 Garnet wrote: are every Christians not allowed to have sex before marriage? One of the many rules to follow if you want to be a devout christian  | ||
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Zeon0
Austria2995 Posts
you and your religion are crazy^^ | ||
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EtherealDeath
United States8366 Posts
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
b) You were hardly even dating, you didn't even show any romantic intentions until after the semester ends (which i'm guessing is at least a month or two. c) Whether she's lying about her 'no kissing before marriage' or not it doesn't matter, she's not interested. d) Someone who won't date another person purely based on religious preferences is not worth it. e) Now you can stop wasting your time on her f) Find someone else | ||
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maartendq
Belgium3115 Posts
On December 28 2012 02:46 AngryMag wrote: My tip would be to avoid dating self righteous over the top christian nutjobs. In my opinion you should try to date more open minded people, who are better at accepting you as a person and your views on various topics. You shouldn't have much trouble finding more open minded people on campus. If you want to get laid, dating religous girls is a waste of time/money and effort I personally would not date a girl who describes herself as christian or religious, I want to share leisure time together and I will certainly not visit christian meetings/gatherings with her. Just because you're dating someone who's religious doesn't mean you have to attend services with her. I just broke up with my girlfriend (or rather, she broke up with me). She was pretty religious while I wasn't. Our conclusions to certain issues, however, were usually the same. The only thing that differed was the way we got there. We both respected each others convictions as well. In the end you don't choose who you fall in love with. | ||
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iamahydralisk
United States813 Posts
On December 29 2012 15:38 FractalsOnFire wrote: a) She wasn't your girlfriend, you weren't her boyfriend b) You were hardly even dating, you didn't even show any romantic intentions until after the semester ends (which i'm guessing is at least a month or two. c) Whether she's lying about her 'no kissing before marriage' or not it doesn't matter, she's not interested. d) Someone who won't date another person purely based on religious preferences is not worth it. e) Now you can stop wasting your time on her f) Find someone else pretty much this. sorry to break it to you, OP, but what you described hardly sounds like a romantic relationship of any sort. there are people out there who "go out" together and have dinner/coffee and such, but I don't see it as dating until mutual romantic interest is expressed between the two people. | ||
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