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On November 02 2012 04:18 RoyGBiv_13 wrote:Show nested quote +On November 02 2012 04:10 needcomputer wrote:
Isn't dating at work dangerous? what if you break up! This, but also, do whatever you feel to be a best response to a situation and no one will blame you down the road but yourself. Please at least don't continue flirting/interacting while on the job, that can put you and her and serious jeopardy down the road. Keep love and work separate as much as possible.
Absolutely this. It's neat and very convenient to be in love with a co-worker, but it's also going to be freakishly easy to for your relationship to prove a giant distraction in the workplace.
Someone mentioned you're being "friend-zoned," and no offense, but that might be the best course of action right now. You want to have a solid, platonic foundation for any relationship, and especially a strong one if you're hoping for a romantic one later down the road. Plus, it will keep you less focused on her when you're both doing your jobs. So don't be afraid to establish a firm friendship before moving up. That's my advice.
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On November 02 2012 04:39 cLAN.Anax wrote:Show nested quote +On November 02 2012 04:18 RoyGBiv_13 wrote:On November 02 2012 04:10 needcomputer wrote:
Isn't dating at work dangerous? what if you break up! This, but also, do whatever you feel to be a best response to a situation and no one will blame you down the road but yourself. Please at least don't continue flirting/interacting while on the job, that can put you and her and serious jeopardy down the road. Keep love and work separate as much as possible. Absolutely this. It's neat and very convenient to be in love with a co-worker, but it's also going to be freakishly easy to for your relationship to prove a giant distraction in the workplace. Someone mentioned you're being "friend-zoned," and no offense, but that might be the best course of action right now. You want to have a solid, platonic foundation for any relationship, and especially a strong one if you're hoping for a romantic one later down the road. Plus, it will keep you less focused on her when you're both doing your jobs. So don't be afraid to establish a firm friendship before moving up. That's my advice.
Lying to girls, masquerading as their friends so you can have sex with them.
Much better foundation for a relationship than honestly displaying intent.
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Sigh. We kissed okay. Not oral. Kissed.
Sorry there's some other responses, but I have to leave for work now, haven't read them.
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On November 02 2012 04:45 zalz wrote:Show nested quote +On November 02 2012 04:39 cLAN.Anax wrote:On November 02 2012 04:18 RoyGBiv_13 wrote:On November 02 2012 04:10 needcomputer wrote:
Isn't dating at work dangerous? what if you break up! This, but also, do whatever you feel to be a best response to a situation and no one will blame you down the road but yourself. Please at least don't continue flirting/interacting while on the job, that can put you and her and serious jeopardy down the road. Keep love and work separate as much as possible. Absolutely this. It's neat and very convenient to be in love with a co-worker, but it's also going to be freakishly easy to for your relationship to prove a giant distraction in the workplace. Someone mentioned you're being "friend-zoned," and no offense, but that might be the best course of action right now. You want to have a solid, platonic foundation for any relationship, and especially a strong one if you're hoping for a romantic one later down the road. Plus, it will keep you less focused on her when you're both doing your jobs. So don't be afraid to establish a firm friendship before moving up. That's my advice. Lying to girls, masquerading as their friends so you can have sex with them. Much better foundation for a relationship than honestly displaying intent.
What? Nonono. I meant "recommend you don't rush into a romance without a strong friendship underneath," not "suggest you deceive them into getting laid with you." I'm thinking long-term goals here and not a one-time fling. But perhaps that's what the OP is looking for?... I admit, it depends on his ultimate goal. (I'mma reread it again a little more carefully this time...)
EDIT: After rereading it, I can't determine what he has his eyes set upon. Thus, my advice doesn't change: become close friends, escalate later.
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On November 02 2012 04:47 Fumanchu wrote:
Sigh. We kissed okay. Not oral. Kissed.
Sorry there's some other responses, but I have to leave for work now, haven't read them.
lol, you took the bait even though you said you wouldn't
Regardless, best of luck bro, you'll figure it out as long as you stay true to yourself and your values.
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Good luck.
Also no need to tell us anything- we're fine with just pics!
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On November 02 2012 05:37 Monsen wrote:
Good luck.
Also no need to tell us anything- we're fine with just pics!
Pics or it never happened.
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Even though you might be friend zoned, its still better than it was before, good job .
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On November 02 2012 04:45 zalz wrote:Show nested quote +On November 02 2012 04:39 cLAN.Anax wrote:On November 02 2012 04:18 RoyGBiv_13 wrote:On November 02 2012 04:10 needcomputer wrote:
Isn't dating at work dangerous? what if you break up! This, but also, do whatever you feel to be a best response to a situation and no one will blame you down the road but yourself. Please at least don't continue flirting/interacting while on the job, that can put you and her and serious jeopardy down the road. Keep love and work separate as much as possible. Absolutely this. It's neat and very convenient to be in love with a co-worker, but it's also going to be freakishly easy to for your relationship to prove a giant distraction in the workplace. Someone mentioned you're being "friend-zoned," and no offense, but that might be the best course of action right now. You want to have a solid, platonic foundation for any relationship, and especially a strong one if you're hoping for a romantic one later down the road. Plus, it will keep you less focused on her when you're both doing your jobs. So don't be afraid to establish a firm friendship before moving up. That's my advice. Lying to girls, masquerading as their friends so you can have sex with them. Much better foundation for a relationship than honestly displaying intent.
If all you want is sex anyways then just don't bother. Or be waaay more forward. Although Anax did come across a bit sleazy and you are right in pointing that out. What I'm saying is, lovers should be friends as well, I've known too many couples who hated each others guts and only stayed together because "the sex was good". I can tell you, none of them were happy with the arrangement. Every time they talked about their partner it was as if they were trying to quit smoking. Except the cigarettes hated them and shouted at them and made them feel terrible every single day.
Fuck buddies are okay, if you are fine with that sort of things and nobody goes and attaches strings were there should be none, but OP is obviously not gearing up for that kind of stuff. Also, I have yet to experience a friendzone that exists, it's always just a simple or complex reason dressed up as a bad excuse.
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On November 02 2012 04:38 Rekrul wrote:
so you don't kiss and tell but you'll say it without saying it, classy
^this, sounds like you guys hooked up :S
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We talked for about an hour in that car. Engine running
Women are so expensive to treat >
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One last thing. We were talking about music that we liked, and as it was winding down she blurts out, "but I love trance and techno stuff the most of all". And then she sort of turns her ahead away and starts blushing, obviously embarrassed by making that confession.
you like techno?! and she also likes techno !?! I like it too. and I like tim hortons. we should all party some time.
Do you know what to do if you'd like a taste of fur burger?
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Super happy for you dude! I'm glad me read on things in my post on the last blog turned out to be correct! Best of luck to you, it sounds like you've got something really good going for ya!
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On November 02 2012 04:33 Fumanchu wrote:
I never kiss and tell.
On November 02 2012 04:47 Fumanchu wrote:
[...] We kissed okay.[...] Kissed.
Took all of 14 min.
Congrats, I guess.
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On November 02 2012 04:51 cLAN.Anax wrote:Show nested quote +On November 02 2012 04:45 zalz wrote:On November 02 2012 04:39 cLAN.Anax wrote:On November 02 2012 04:18 RoyGBiv_13 wrote:On November 02 2012 04:10 needcomputer wrote:
Isn't dating at work dangerous? what if you break up! This, but also, do whatever you feel to be a best response to a situation and no one will blame you down the road but yourself. Please at least don't continue flirting/interacting while on the job, that can put you and her and serious jeopardy down the road. Keep love and work separate as much as possible. Absolutely this. It's neat and very convenient to be in love with a co-worker, but it's also going to be freakishly easy to for your relationship to prove a giant distraction in the workplace. Someone mentioned you're being "friend-zoned," and no offense, but that might be the best course of action right now. You want to have a solid, platonic foundation for any relationship, and especially a strong one if you're hoping for a romantic one later down the road. Plus, it will keep you less focused on her when you're both doing your jobs. So don't be afraid to establish a firm friendship before moving up. That's my advice. Lying to girls, masquerading as their friends so you can have sex with them. Much better foundation for a relationship than honestly displaying intent. What? Nonono. I meant "recommend you don't rush into a romance without a strong friendship underneath," not "suggest you deceive them into getting laid with you." I'm thinking long-term goals here and not a one-time fling. But perhaps that's what the OP is looking for?... I admit, it depends on his ultimate goal. (I'mma reread it again a little more carefully this time...) EDIT: After rereading it, I can't determine what he has his eyes set upon. Thus, my advice doesn't change: become close friends, escalate later.
You do understand that this is horrible advice for 90% of the guys who have trouble with women/girls, right? Simply because the most common problem isn't to be unable to make connections, it's escalating quickly enough in a reasonable enough timeframe.
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He never shags and tells though. For Realz
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Screw that quit and get a better job instead =)
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On November 02 2012 08:40 Cr4zyH0r5e wrote:Took all of 14 min. Congrats, I guess.
lol.
Congrats! Get in there, slugger 
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On November 02 2012 08:54 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On November 02 2012 04:51 cLAN.Anax wrote:On November 02 2012 04:45 zalz wrote:On November 02 2012 04:39 cLAN.Anax wrote:On November 02 2012 04:18 RoyGBiv_13 wrote:On November 02 2012 04:10 needcomputer wrote:
Isn't dating at work dangerous? what if you break up! This, but also, do whatever you feel to be a best response to a situation and no one will blame you down the road but yourself. Please at least don't continue flirting/interacting while on the job, that can put you and her and serious jeopardy down the road. Keep love and work separate as much as possible. Absolutely this. It's neat and very convenient to be in love with a co-worker, but it's also going to be freakishly easy to for your relationship to prove a giant distraction in the workplace. Someone mentioned you're being "friend-zoned," and no offense, but that might be the best course of action right now. You want to have a solid, platonic foundation for any relationship, and especially a strong one if you're hoping for a romantic one later down the road. Plus, it will keep you less focused on her when you're both doing your jobs. So don't be afraid to establish a firm friendship before moving up. That's my advice. Lying to girls, masquerading as their friends so you can have sex with them. Much better foundation for a relationship than honestly displaying intent. What? Nonono. I meant "recommend you don't rush into a romance without a strong friendship underneath," not "suggest you deceive them into getting laid with you." I'm thinking long-term goals here and not a one-time fling. But perhaps that's what the OP is looking for?... I admit, it depends on his ultimate goal. (I'mma reread it again a little more carefully this time...) EDIT: After rereading it, I can't determine what he has his eyes set upon. Thus, my advice doesn't change: become close friends, escalate later. You do understand that this is horrible advice for 90% of the guys who have trouble with women/girls, right? Simply because the most common problem isn't to be unable to make connections, it's escalating quickly enough in a reasonable enough timeframe.
I don't know the timeframe he's dealing with here. Don't have a clue how long he's known this person, she's known him, how long they've acknowledged each other's existence, etc. And again, I'm still lost on what exactly his priority is here. Sex? Girlfriend? Marriage? I simply don't know. If I knew more, I would advise more accurately. But as it stands, I'm sticking with my original advice. Enjoy your friendship to its fullest, no matter how long it persists.
And @DerNebel: Lolwut? How in the world was I being "sleazy?" X-D If I somehow came across as "sleazy," my bad. That was most definitely not my intentions, lolol!
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