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Just go to her when she is by herself. Say: Hi whats up! Small talk a bit, for example ask her what she had been doing lately and stuff. Then when it's not awkward anymore just ask her out. She could either answer no, or come up with an excuse, then you just say it's fine, nice talking with you blablabla and move on. If she's not an asshole she will be cool about it.
If she says yes you know what to do. This will mean she's interested in you and you have a chance.
Try to stay cool. You will be nervous, but this experience will help you in the future.
Either way it's a win win situation. If she says no you will have gained experience. If she says yes you will have gained a buddy and maybe a girlfriend! 
Girls like guys that are confident. So try to act confident. She will like the attention she received form you.
Try to imagine you being her. If a girl came up to you and asked you out, you will feel good about it.
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is her name kitty scherbatsky
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Yo mate just screw it, ask her, yolo. Also baylife.
But on a serious note, I'm in university now and one of my greatest regrets from high school is not asking out the girl that I really liked. I somewhat did and she somewhat fended it off saying shit like she "wants to focus on school this year" etc and like a spineless bastard I went something like "oh no, I didn't mean anything like that, I just want to be friends, nothing else". I guess for context I guess I should have said that I asked her out to the movies.
I have forever regretted not just fully telling her how I felt, I regret fucking cowering over to save face and saying that I just wanted to be friends, and I forever regret not being my own man and being confident enough to ask her, which might have contributed to her not reciprocating feelings, maybe not.
Also, critically, I regret fucking dancing around it for a few months like so many people and eventually becoming a friend in her eyes, or as you more commonly know on the interwebs, being friendzoned.
I can absolutely guarantee that a year or two from now or after graduation or whenever, sometime in the future, if she turned you down, you are NOT going to care. It will only improve you and make you stronger for the next girl that you like. You will absolutely regret not asking her out or getting friendzoned Please, learn from the mistakes of those who have gone before you and just do it. If she says "yes"? Sick, you just got the girl that you really like right now and it's gonna be a pretty mad time and memories.
If she turns you down and randoms or your mates ask you "ooo did you ask out X" just answer with "yeah, i did". No need to hide your true feelings, the absolute worst case of people making fun of you (which, by the way, wtf, people just don't really make a big deal out of failed attempts at asking people out, because guess what? They're fucking shy and want to ask out other people too, you're all the same, don't make regrets in high school for yourself, please) will be like during the following week someone will look at you and giggle or say unlucky mate or I can't believe you asked her out.
JUST DO IT! Remember, confidence is everything, when you ask, when she says yes and if she says no and people try to make fun of you or it's embarrassing. Just be confident in yourself and do what you want. It might hurt for a bit if she says no, but who cares, hang out with your mates, play starcraft, masturbate, whatever the crap you do to be happy, those emotions are so brief it's ridiculous, except for regret, that's terminal.
I've probably repeated myself, but for jeebus and everything else in existence, you'll only do a favour by asking her out and only a disservice by not.
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Rename this blog: Road map to the Friend Zone.
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On June 21 2012 23:09 SometimesIworkout wrote:
is her name kitty scherbatsky
wat ?
Ask her out
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On June 21 2012 23:09 SometimesIworkout wrote:
is her name kitty scherbatsky
O ya if so you gotta wait. Throw yourself completely into your career, preferably farm work or something. She'll start mooning after some other fella, then have her heart broken when he commits adultery with an older married woman. She'll be depressed for a while, but then she'll send you obvious hints that she wants you so take it from there.
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Either you ask her out and you get a definitive Yes or No, or you don't ask her out and instead spend your life wondering *what could have been* and writing terrible Hypothetical Love blogs on TeamLiquid.
The obvious choice should be to go with the first, and so your real question should be "How do I make a move?" There's always going to be the risk of failure, but if you think the risk of success is more important (and you clearly do, because you frickin like her), then just do it. Worst case scenario: She says No, you move on (eventually).
Here are some tips:
1. You need to always be confident (not arrogant or cocky though). This will also help if she says No. If she turns you down, she's missing out. It's her loss. Always smile and look at her. Make her aware that she's your center of attention.
2. Bring up something she likes. Make sure you know a little about her before actually asking her out on a date. Talking with her a few times beforehand is a good idea. Make small talk; find things you have in common. If she's really passionate about something that you honestly don't know a lot about, ask her about it. Tell her it sounds interesting and ask her to tell you more about it. Then after you talk, go home and research your ass off. Maybe it's a good idea for a first date.
3. If you can't initially find anything in common (but still want to ask her out on a date), pick an event that allows for plenty of interaction between you two, yet can still have a main focus elsewhere to avoid awkward silences. An awesome first date- interestingly enough- is bowling. Neither of you have to be good at it, you can make small talk the entire time, there are occasional celebrations if one of you gets a lot of pins down, and it's a light-hearted environment. An example of a poor first date event would be a movie, as both of you just sit side-by-side in the dark without talking. You may as well not even be there. You can't get to know her better if you take her to a movie (wait for a later date for that). Food after a social event is a nice touch as well, but make sure you have enough conversational ammunition to make it through the meal (again, you want to avoid awkward silences).
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On June 21 2012 23:05 DreamChaser wrote:
5/5 would read again
If you don't have the balls to simply ask than I always thought its common logic... if you have any hobby in common than try getting into a relationship trough that and simply do the ol cheesy stuff and bam.
And if you don't have any hobby in common than is it really worth the time ? I mean... it will only last for a short time n.w if not even one of them 1 drunk nights and thats it... if this is the case its no worth wasting your time unless you can simply ask her and walk away if she says no.
Also, i say its oky to just "ask her out" if shes kinda in the same "league" with you, the awkward nerd in class asking out one of the hotest girls... might not work so well. But still there not really any backlash unless shes really a douche...
Also, alcohol always makes everything easier... just make sure you are not TOO DRUNK
Edit:
Just realized i wrote an answer to a girl blog, really makes me think about where my life is going :/
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Just do something. Anything, no matter how stupid/awkward, is better than nothing.
another tip: don't think or worry about it too much, that kind of stuff will paralyze you. Personal experience fucking sucks.
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Alright now this is more like it, the typical TL girl blog.
Number one. Let's get you up to where you need to be. This is probably more of a mental exercise than a physical exercise, but I think you'll need some of that too. Your mindset needs to put you up there in the same class as her. You think she's so pretty and smart and everything, but hey, you are one heck of a confident man and you're everything she wants in her life. This is a big assumption but probably a necessary one for now. Later on you should drop that assumption because it can grow into some nasty behaviour which can be potentially destructive in a relationship.
Two. It's true you have to "earn" her attention, but it's a not as much of a big deal as you may think it is. Easiest way is to straight up ask her out on a date, have a good time, and induce her curiosity. You go to the same school but that doesn't mean she knows everything about you. Maybe you have some sickass singing voice that she doesn't know about. Girls love talent and if you have one, drop a hint but don't give it to her on the first date.
Three. The big "what if it doesn't work". Well, if it doesn't work, then life moves on. Forever awkward? Only if you make it that way. Besides, if she's not worth the risk, then she's not worth it at all.
Keep it simple, don't try to hit a home run on the first pitch at bat, take it easy and be honest with yourself. Good luck!
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Just come out and say "I FRIGGIN LOVE YOU" randomly in the middle of a casual conversation. She'll fall for your cheese.
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As one of the more ferocious girlblog and pickup warriors around I have to once again smack the public opinion:
Ignore all random advice as to how things should and shouldn't work. Ignore "tricks" and "suggestions". You're at the age where you're supposed to figure this stuff out for yourself, have fun and screw around. Don't START your relationship with girls by being a huge nerd who asks other nerds how this stuff works.
Talk to her, have fun together. Work from there.
If you still haven't figured this out in 2-3 years you can come again and post a "real" girlblog. =P
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Blazinghand
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you know firehand I feel a certain affinity for you since you and I have similar handles. So I'm gonna give you some choice advice here to maximize your chance of achieving true happiness: All women are bitches.
Don't bother trying to go after her, she's only gonna break break your break break your heart. She's only gonna break break your break break your heart
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"forever awkward" doesn't exist. people just like to make a big deal out of everything. it'll be awkward for a few seconds, until your conversation changes topic. asking someone out does not ruin any friendships either, although a relationship might 
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Break the ice by just paying her a compliment. Not something crass, like nice rack (lol) instead just comment on how you like her shoes, hair, smile, bag whatever. Women like compliments. Make sure she realises you are being nice and not sarcastic though! Haha. Just talk to her and find out what her interests are. If you have no clue about the things she states she is interested in - ballet or twilight or whatever, then just say so. Don't pretend to be an expert. But feign interest in her hobbys etc and express a desire to learn more. Get her to explain why she likes what she does. Women LOVE talking about themselves! Apart from faking an interest in her hobbies and lying about being impressed with her shoes (which are simply standard courting tools designed to initiate a conversation), try and be honest about everything else. Also try and show you do not take yourself too seriously, women like people who make them laugh and be fun to be around.
The more conversations you have with her, the more you'll know whether she has a personality that you like or not. If she is a nightmare, then she is not worth pursuing. After a few conversations, if you still like her, ask her for if she wants to catch a film, show, concert or whatever. You can generally know whether a girl is into you or not. If she smiles a lot at you, holds your gaze for extended periods, steps close and touches you a lot (on the arm etc) then she is giving you signals that she likes you. If she never smiles at you, moves away and does not want to look at you or touch you at all, then she is probably not interested.
A secret that you may not yet know is that unrequited love happens to EVERYONE. During your life, not everyone you are interested in will reciprocate that interest. And similarly you will meet people who are interested in you, but in whom you have no interest.
The important thing in life is to be yourself and be comfortable with that. Don't try and be someone you are not. She'll either like you for who you are, or she will not, in which case she is not for you. As for the Friend-zone issue. Don't worry about that. If you gain a friend, firstly that's a good thing. Secondly, friendships can grow into relationships. Thirdly, having girls as friends is cool because they will introduce you to their hot friends and vouch for you! Win, win!
Good luck and have fun!
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I assume this is high school?
Do you plan to be in high school forever? Or ask her out in your birthday suit? Otherwise, there's zero chance for it to be forever awkward.
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On June 21 2012 21:16 Anacletus wrote:
Just go talk to her and get to know her. What's the worst that could happen?
DEATH, DEATH IS THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN!
No but yeah, just go talk to her, who cares if it is awkward. I asked my best (girl) friend out once and we are still good friends now (she said no and it crushed my soul).
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