It has gotten to a point where it is driving me crazy.

Long story short, there is a girl I like. But I just dont know........

aargg I always hear people say 'just ask her out' bla bla but what if it doesnt work? We go to the same school so it will be forever awkward ,,,

hmmmmm
she is so pretty, and smart, and just........

hmmmm

I think it is more complicated then just asking someone out. You have to earn their respect, through hard work.

Yeh maybe........maybe i will go down that route

Anacletus

United States733 Posts

June 21 2012 12:16 GMT

Just go talk to her and get to know her. What's the worst that could happen?

firehand101

Australia3152 Posts

June 21 2012 12:17 GMT

On June 21 2012 21:16 Anacletus wrote:
Just go talk to her and get to know her. What's the worst that could happen?

saying no, which i guess doesnt sound too bad. I dont know.......maybe she doesnt like me and it would be awkward for her....i think i will have to earn her respect first

firehand101

Australia3152 Posts

June 21 2012 12:18 GMT

Does anyone think there are relationships that will never happen?

FraCuS

United States1072 Posts

June 21 2012 12:21 GMT

It won't happen unless you go and talk to her!

iTzSnypah

United States1738 Posts

June 21 2012 12:21 GMT

Erm by the time you earn her respect you'll be forever lost in the friendzone. My advice? Forget this girl, she is obviously out of your league.

Hoosegow

United States139 Posts

June 21 2012 12:27 GMT

No risk, no reward. When you think to yourself about how great this girl is and how much you'd like to be with her, just remember that that can never possibly happen if you don't go talk to her.

firehand101

Australia3152 Posts

June 21 2012 12:29 GMT

On June 21 2012 21:21 iTzSnypah wrote:
Erm by the time you earn her respect you'll be forever lost in the friendzone. My advice? Forget this girl, she is obviously out of your league.

yeh this is the advice i was afraid of, but realised it is the most likely

Azera

3800 Posts

June 21 2012 12:40 GMT

Try to be friends with her first! A relationship that burns furiously will extinguish early, while a relationship that has been built slowly and steadily will last.

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Take what I say with a grain of salt. Never had a girlfriend before.

Jinsho

United Kingdom3101 Posts

June 21 2012 12:54 GMT

#10

Ask her out you moron.

"Forever awkward", no it won't. You'll get over her very quickly if she doesn't say yes.

Knap4life

Slovenia333 Posts

June 21 2012 13:05 GMT

#11

When it comes to women , you have to be the "DO IT" guy and not the "Think about it" guy.

Shock710

Australia6097 Posts

June 21 2012 13:11 GMT

#12

On June 21 2012 21:40 Azera wrote:
Try to be friends with her first! A relationship that burns furiously will extinguish early, while a relationship that has been built slowly and steadily will last.

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Take what I say with a grain of salt. Never had a girlfriend before.

Yeah friends first seems to work for my buddies, tho i've never a had agf either...=(

Azera, i'm coming to sg! TMR! whooo!

Disposition1989

Canada270 Posts

June 21 2012 13:19 GMT

#13

do it. (you wont do it). but yes, talk to her. wanna spend the next 3 months thinking about what ifs? thats where youre headed and its not any better than where you are now i can tell you that!

if you go too slow, youre on the highway to the friendzone. start with something neutral, like a movie perhaps. see how she dresses and acts and stuff. did she hit you on the arm and tell you to shut UP!! etc etc. watch for these little things and gauge her interest in you

Maxd11

United States680 Posts

June 21 2012 13:23 GMT

#14

Most of the advice here seems good but I do understand the "Forever-Awkward" thing. It's not like you ask her out and you never have to see her again. You have to see her every day and vice-versa. And then she might (will) go tell all her friends and you won't have a chance with any of them either (This is more amplified in a smaller school).
Good luck none the less and I hope you get her.

Stabby.aus

Australia94 Posts

June 21 2012 13:31 GMT

#15

yolo man, fucking yolo!

It will suck if she knocks you back, but it will suck even more if she starts getting dicked by another guy while you are still plucking up the courage. trust me.

Cramsy

Australia1100 Posts

June 21 2012 13:32 GMT

#16

How old are you?

I can see you're from Australia. I'm sure you know Australians well enough by now that we don't really care and carry on for too long.

Monday; "OMG DID U HEAR THAT HE ASKED HER OUT AND SHE SAID NO!?"
Tuesday; 'Who?'

Really, just go for it son.

FataLe

New Zealand4458 Posts

June 21 2012 13:39 GMT

#17

Looks like you have a case of onitis.
Just ask her out if you feel confident she'll say yes.
What if she says no?
How old are you haha. If she says no, then it's no. You can't make her like you.
Life goes on man, find another whose better.

Good luck OP.

UncleOwnage

Denmark36 Posts

June 21 2012 13:44 GMT

#18

In my experience, asking a girl you're obsessing over out can only produce good results.

Either she says yes and you win.

Or she says no which after tiny bit of pain/awkwardness/whatever (depending on your relationship) frees you to find another suitable mate(since you probably won't be obsessing as much).