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OscarN
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
Cape Verde292 Posts
August 28 2011 18:36 GMT
#21
Nice Read man! i can relate to alot of what happened... but it kind of sunk in for me later on
niteReloaded
Profile Blog Joined February 2007
Croatia5281 Posts
August 28 2011 18:43 GMT
#22
Most people that go to clubs are fucking dumb and uninteresting to me, which is why I almost never do it anymore.

When you think of it, world's greatest minds were often lone wolfs, finding society unworthy of their time.
Brad`
Profile Joined October 2010
Canada548 Posts
August 28 2011 18:45 GMT
#23
I'm glad it only took me a year to realize the importance of balancing my hobbies and my social life. The stories my friends tell me about the stuff I was doing two years ago are embarrassing and I'm happy that when I'm 50 years old I won't have to look back at a massive multi-year span of regret.
DropBear
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
Australia4353 Posts
August 28 2011 18:53 GMT
#24
You don't have to drink to go out man!

I go out clubbing at least 3 times a week completely sober, with whoever I can find that is willing to come and if worst comes to worst I go by myself anyway!

Find a place that plays music you love and then just dance like an idiot all night. It's extremely liberating I promise!

You don't have to pick up when you're out either to have a good time!
Sucker for nostalgia
SpoR
Profile Blog Joined November 2010
United States1542 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-08-28 19:29:37
August 28 2011 19:27 GMT
#25
i hate when people generalize and label everyone and everything. Gaming and esports are just as nerdy as a regular sports fanatic. The only difference being that you dont fucking sit on the couch eating potato chips and drinking beer all day. Same goes for people that only live for going on drinking and partying trying to get laid, they are nerds for social life. Imho most people at social events I meet up with are pretty lame and boring, all they think about are drinking, hanging out, and getting laid. Oh and smoking weed, and talking shit or trying to convince me to smoke weed.

Everything needs to be balanced, everyone has a different balance and different interests. Find yours, use it. Call everyone else who disagrees with your methods and tells you they need to use theirs an idiot. Be proud.
A man is what he thinks about all day long.
Jayme
Profile Blog Joined February 2009
United States5866 Posts
August 28 2011 19:28 GMT
#26
On August 29 2011 01:58 Biff The Understudy wrote:
I have some hope that I can do something else with my life than getting stuck in the alternative clubbing/playing video games.

As for socializing... A level 74 paladin isn't worth a real good and trusted friend.


????

My four closest friends were all people I met through WoW initially. I don't know what it was but I guess when you really hardcore raided with someone for 5 hours a day you really got to know them.

We all quit WoW around the same time and are still close....but I wouldn't discount the social aspect of WoW because I certainly had a lot of socializing in that game with the same core amount of people

Before you ask, yes met face to face and partied hard but without meeting over WoW that never would have happened.
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Warrior Madness
Profile Blog Joined April 2008
Canada3791 Posts
August 28 2011 20:27 GMT
#27
I went through the same cycles as you minus the drinking. My poison was Ragnarok Online which I used to play around 12 hours a day if not more. I was one of the best pvpers on my server. After I had realized how lonely I was I reached out to certain people and met some really great guys who took me under their wing. Learned lots. I'd go out every day or every other day for a while.

I still love to meet new people. I dedicate at least 10% of my time meeting new people. Sometimes I have to kick my self into going out when I don't feel like it. It's usually worth it in the end. The only difference now from say two years ago is that I'm more picky with the people I surround myself with. I have a certain type now, a certain type you don't really meet at clubs. So I go to different places now. I still go to clubs once in a while but I meet most new people now through hobbies, places I like to go to, activities I like, groups and through my own friends.
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Shamrock_
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
South Africa276 Posts
August 28 2011 20:27 GMT
#28
On August 29 2011 03:53 DropBear wrote:
You don't have to drink to go out man!

I go out clubbing at least 3 times a week completely sober, with whoever I can find that is willing to come and if worst comes to worst I go by myself anyway!

Find a place that plays music you love and then just dance like an idiot all night. It's extremely liberating I promise!

You don't have to pick up when you're out either to have a good time!


Oh not at all. I find myself drinking less and less the older I get. Haven't touched a drop this weekend but was at a pool hall Friday and Saturday. I also find the people at clubs kinda crumby, and there's not a lot of social stuff to do -- either you're dancing or drinking, bad music's too loud to talk over.
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GoTuNk!
Profile Blog Joined September 2006
Chile4591 Posts
August 28 2011 20:43 GMT
#29
I think this all comes down to the things you like, and most of us here are introverted. I enjoy going out, drinking and doing stuff with friends, but the most I enjoy atm is playing starcraft and powerlifting (true there is other people in the gym, many of which are friends, but I'll rather not have anyone around and focus on lifting)
Soluhwin
Profile Joined October 2010
United States1287 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-08-28 21:42:06
August 28 2011 21:41 GMT
#30
The most confusing part about your post is:
On August 29 2011 01:20 Shamrock_ wrote:
This coming from an Irishman who peaked at drinking myself into a stupor most nights.

and your nationality says "South Africa".
I put the sexy in dyslexia.
Birdie
Profile Blog Joined August 2007
New Zealand4438 Posts
August 28 2011 21:44 GMT
#31
Going out drinking and partying doesn't sound like much of a life to me, any more than gaming all day does :/
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Shamrock_
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
South Africa276 Posts
August 28 2011 22:10 GMT
#32
On August 29 2011 06:41 Soluhwin wrote:
The most confusing part about your post is:
Show nested quote +
On August 29 2011 01:20 Shamrock_ wrote:
This coming from an Irishman who peaked at drinking myself into a stupor most nights.

and your nationality says "South Africa".


You realize it is possible to move countries right? Like the fact that I was born in Ireland and raised by Irish parents doesn't mean that I have to keep "Ireland" as my country for the rest of my life if I'm in another part of the world.
This is my rifle, this is my gun; this is for fighting, this is for fun
KingDime
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Canada750 Posts
August 28 2011 22:54 GMT
#33
Go out maybe on average once every two weeks to a bar type environment atleast. Other than that I just go and meet people. As for clubs, im uninterested and don't really care about that scene. Ever since I joined the U of C sc2 club in calgary i've met a huge variety of people and will go out for occasional drinks which is fun but I consider the weekly meetings just as entertaining albeit a bit less random

This is your life, don't let somebody elses enjoyments direct what you "should" enjoy out of it. Take this weekend, spent a friday at a club meeting for 3 hrs, made 60$ on saturday taking second place in a calgary lan and watched MLG today. No drinking, but tons of fun and met a lot of awesome ppl.
Doom Guy
CooDu
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Australia899 Posts
August 28 2011 23:46 GMT
#34
My excessive amounts of gaming/no social life ended with the birth of my son so, I guess that was a blessing for my life in more than one way. I still love sitting down to play SC2 and other games, but I'm glad that my responsibilities as a Father limit me from taking it too far.

I was never into the social scene and thoroughly enjoyed being a recluse on my PC. Although most of the time I can remember my room being a mini-workshop because I'd pull apart PC's/Monitors etc in there lol.

I did enjoy spending time with my family still, but just couldn't understand the fun in getting shitfaced every weekend and fucking up my body etc etc.
Just a simple guy, going wherever this journey takes me.
Xyik
Profile Blog Joined November 2009
Canada728 Posts
August 29 2011 01:14 GMT
#35
As a person you should learn to enjoy whatever life offers. There are advantages and disadvantages to any activity, its up to you to find the positives. The idea of 'getting a life' isn't necessarily going to clubs, getting smashed, or getting laid, but to experience more of life. That doesn't limit you to doing what's popular, but neither does should it limit you to only doing things you are comfortable with.
phosphorylation
Profile Blog Joined July 2009
United States2935 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-08-29 01:53:10
August 29 2011 01:50 GMT
#36
Very thoughtful blog.
Despite what the society tells you, I find that gaming and "sociality" (as you put it) are equally ephemeral and ultimately empty, if not worse in the latter case.

However, there's something else: building genuine connections with people -- whether with those of opposite sex or not -- is something that is much more worthwhile than both of these things.


(but playing starcraft is still worth it because it is amazing..)
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StarStruck
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
25339 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-08-29 02:00:19
August 29 2011 01:59 GMT
#37
From your story, you don't sound like an alcoholic. Sound more like a clubber, for the short time you did it.

There's a very big difference.
Spaackle
Profile Blog Joined March 2011
United States153 Posts
August 29 2011 03:06 GMT
#38
I think that the real problem many people have is finding a balance between games and social life. Spend too much time gaming, and you miss out on the fun that being with other people can be. Don't do any gaming, and you miss out on a wonderful form of interactive entertainment. Balance your social life and your gaming, and you can experience the good parts of both worlds without many of the bad things that come from obsessing over one or the other.
Friendship is Magic!
Kurr
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
Canada2338 Posts
August 29 2011 03:51 GMT
#39
I'm one of those people that could stay in his apartment for a month and enjoy it (well, if I didn't need to work or go to university) but I disagree about social events being less fun.

Both are fun. I don't drink (besides a beer once every blue moon) or take drugs and I'm not someone that enjoys "wild things". Seriously, I don't like parties or bars AT ALL. Watching idiots scream and slutty girls whore out is not interesting.

However, I do enjoy normal social events such as sports, town events, going fishing or hiking and just being around friends at a barbecue or something. In fact, these are just as fun as anything else I can think of that could be done alone in my room.

Pro tip : Life is more fun by enjoying several aspects of it. Sitting in your room is fun for a while but it can't be compared to what's out there.

If you happen to enjoy nightlife, good for you. Clearly you didn't like it so stick to day life.

I personally like waking up early and doing some of the aforementioned stuff. Also, you meet a lot less psychos doing these things than going out to bars or street races, etc.

Like you said, too many people lead shallow lives where they think fucking random whores and drinking is supposed to be their enjoyment. And if they would leave me alone I wouldn't care (they don't, noisy people coming into the apartment complex at 4am make me want to rage). It's one thing when 18 year olds do it, but these days a lot of 30 year olds are just as bad.

I find that people turn out to be better people in general and happier when they stay away from these places and type of people. Find something you like. Learn interesting stuff. Meet people with similar interests. Meet people with a positive outlook on life instead of a bunch of idiots that get wasted so much they can barely remember what they do; people that are usually more prone to being violent or manipulative, etc.

It's no secret that life is a lot more fun when you sit back and take it slow, doing fun activities here and there and just involve yourself in fun things. Just look around you and realize most people that are happy and satisfied in their lives are not those roaming clubs and bars. It's those with a calm life and some hobbies they can enjoy with others. Having a stable income and relationship helps of course but are not really needed.
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Latto
Profile Joined April 2011
235 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-08-29 06:34:23
August 29 2011 04:15 GMT
#40
Edit: took down my post.
but I agree with op post fully.
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