EPTNightmares: How to deal with them? - Page 2
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Necosarius
Sweden4042 Posts
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EdSlyB
Portugal1621 Posts
Sugestion:I read this a few months ago. http://www.livescience.com/culture/video-games-control-dreams-100525.html (you can search other articles on the same subject) Basically it says that gamers usually tend to have less nightmares because they have an certain degree of control over their dreams than non gamers. With that 'control' a gamer when in a bad dream can manipulate the events occuring to his own gain. Example: you are strolling in a graveyard (^^) and suddendly zombies come out of the ground to eat your brains!!! What do you do?? They are advancing towards you but wait! Are you happy to see me or do you have something in your pocket?? You reach your pocket out and KA-BLAM!! a chainsaw come out and you start to kill the all the zombies!! Indeed it's a beautiful day to stroll in a graveyard! I don't know if your gf plays games nor I'm a doctor with qualification but I think she can try to play some games that make her react to some events (i.e. action games) and maybe (just maybe) she can develop some better subconscious defences. Now I advice you to see a professional. | ||
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[UoN]Sentinel
United States11320 Posts
On December 29 2010 08:56 EdSlyB wrote: Real advice: Contact a professional. Sugestion:I read this a few months ago. http://www.livescience.com/culture/video-games-control-dreams-100525.html (you can search other articles on the same subject) Basically it says that gamers usually tend to have less nightmares because they have an certain degree of control over their dreams than non gamers. With that 'control' a gamer when in a bad dream can manipulate the events occuring to his own gain. Example: you are strolling in a graveyard (^^) and suddendly zombies come out of the ground to eat your brains!!! What do you do?? They are advancing towards you but wait! Are you happy to see me or do you have something in your pocket?? You reach your pocket out and KA-BLAM!! a chainsaw come out and you start to kill the all the zombies!! Indeed it's a beautiful day to stroll in a graveyard! I don't know if your gf plays games nor I'm a doctor with qualification but I think she can try to play some games that make her react to some events (i.e. action games) and maybe (just maybe) she can develop some better subconscious defences. Now I advice you to see a professional. Indeed. Personally, this actually somewhat helps me, because in dream mode, I don't exercise the self-control I do in life. Like a few months ago I had a dream about my school, and some guy came up to me, started shoving me around, and I just whipped out a revolver I conveniently had in my pocket and -BAM!- (this was the point where I unlocked the revolver in Half Life 2 the day before) | ||
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hp.Shell
United States2527 Posts
It's hard to shake the dream initially, but if you are able to come to the present quickly, it can be pretty easy to go back to sleep. If you want some places to go for guided meditations, I recommend evernewjoy dot net. From there, look on the right sidebar for "rama radio" and sign up for the passwords. Or you can just go to this link http://evernewjoy.net/?page_id=78 and type beautyistruth liberationisnow for the passwords. This guy has a really soothing voice and he is actually very intelligent and knows a lot about meditating on specific energy centers of the body. I think I have a lot less stress on days that I meditate, so if you can get her to start meditating, I think the reduced stress will prevent most nightmares. GoodLuck!~ | ||
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Seltsam
United States343 Posts
On December 29 2010 09:12 hp.Shell wrote: I tell people to look into meditation more often than I probably should, but honestly, knowing how to meditate is helpful for nightmares. The big thing you learn from meditating that helps with nightmares is how to live in the exact moment of the present. So whenever I have an extremely horrific nightmare, I wake up, stare at something for a few seconds and ground myself in reality by focusing on just the present moment. It's like meditating for 10-20 seconds before closing my eyes to go back to sleep. As a Buddhist, I support this advice. While I have never experienced nightmares to a degree that they've affected me in any significant way, Buddhist meditation is a method for experiencing the truth and fundamental profundity of existence as is. While it takes a long time to reach the point where you completely stop placing value judgments on things, meditation can help get you started out, which may be enough to help her situation. I recommend doing some brief research into the practices of Zen Buddhism. Don't follow the Buddhist practices too closely though (well not unless you really want to!), as meditation can be quite lengthy for an experienced practitioner (I sometimes find 2-3 hours have passed when I am finished). As Shell explained, 10-20 seconds can be all you need, since it's likely all you'll need to do is enter a more calmed state. Pay special attention to the breathing and stretching exercises. | ||
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TechniQ.UK
United Kingdom391 Posts
Also if she gets the same dreams regularly e.g. you trolling on her or cheating on her she's probably thinking throughout the day about these things and this is the subconscious letting it all out. So perhaps you both should discuss your relationship together and see if she does have any of these fears of your relationship going wrong and such from there you can sort the underlying fears and things playing on her mind. Maybe shes bottling stuff up inside and this is it expressing itself in the open. Hope this helps. | ||
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MinoMino
Norway1103 Posts
Obviously, it's not an instant cure as it'll take some practice, but at least in my experience, it's not that hard. You can find a lot of information on Dreamviews, the site itself and the forums. There are plenty of methods out there, but I recommend taking a look into DILD and MILD as they're both good methods that don't involve any changes in sleep schedule. Somewhat off-topic: For anyone not familiar with lucid dreaming, you're missing out on a lot, really! | ||
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evanthebouncy!
United States12796 Posts
On December 29 2010 09:00 [UoN]Sentinel wrote: Indeed. Personally, this actually somewhat helps me, because in dream mode, I don't exercise the self-control I do in life. Like a few months ago I had a dream about my school, and some guy came up to me, started shoving me around, and I just whipped out a revolver I conveniently had in my pocket and -BAM!- (this was the point where I unlocked the revolver in Half Life 2 the day before) Fine ambassador work! I salute you! ![[image loading]](http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:-m8qA_iW6wfC_M:http://spacedust.atspace.com/kitten_cuddle.jpg&t=1) | ||
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S.O.L.I.D.
United States792 Posts
Trying lucid dreaming seems like a good solution. | ||
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[UoN]Sentinel
United States11320 Posts
On December 29 2010 11:13 evanthebouncy! wrote: Fine ambassador work! I salute you! Ah yes, the great game of TF2. But no, it was just a .357 magnum. On topic, nightmares come in many different shapes. Mine always end up giving me wood. My ex's always ended up involving a church. Talk to your gf and try to piece things together. AND DO CONSIDER THE MEDITATION. THAT CRAP WORKS. | ||
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jalstar
United States8198 Posts
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[UoN]Sentinel
United States11320 Posts
On December 29 2010 11:35 jalstar wrote: watch this youtube series: http://www.youtube.com/user/MarbleHornets What is it? I only saw #30 so far | ||
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Kaal
Djibouti2539 Posts
It all depends. If it's a physiological problem or if she's parasomnic she probably just needs a regular sleeping schedule. I see this alot with other people in the military, since we have such odd working hours we tend not to sleep so much and if we do, we do it at odd times so there are some side effects. If shes an insomniac, or if she's afraid to sleep it could be inducing her to have longer slow-phase sleep, some over-the-counter meds can induce sleep quickly, nyquil, sleep2, things like that will reduce your chances of having nightmares because they make your brain speed through the phase of slow-wave sleep, which is where dreams occur. Secondly, and most likely, if it's psychological - someone just passed away, she got in a car accident, got robbed, etc are obvious - but even if it's something like she just got a ticket, failed a test, or you two got into a fight can be the problem. People who are slightly parasomnic are more prevalent to these kinds of problems, so stressful situations can cause some of your neurotransmitters, like serotonin, which are normally stopped during REM sleep to start, which results in your motor systems to go slightly haywire, which makes your thalmus realize something is wrong, resulting in nightmares or night terrors. I don't reccomend sleeping pills, just normal sleep. Sleeping pills can be highly addictive, dangerous and can damage your thalmus to the point where you won't be able to sleep without them. I have no idea how old you are, but I'm assuming you're fairly young. Stop talking on facebook and the phone all night, and have your girlfriend go to sleep somewhere between 8 and 9 every night for a week. If that doesn't help, tell her to talk to her physician. | ||
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SpoR
United States1542 Posts
On December 29 2010 08:56 EdSlyB wrote: Real advice: Contact a professional. Sugestion:I read this a few months ago. http://www.livescience.com/culture/video-games-control-dreams-100525.html (you can search other articles on the same subject) Basically it says that gamers usually tend to have less nightmares because they have an certain degree of control over their dreams than non gamers. With that 'control' a gamer when in a bad dream can manipulate the events occuring to his own gain. Example: you are strolling in a graveyard (^^) and suddendly zombies come out of the ground to eat your brains!!! What do you do?? They are advancing towards you but wait! Are you happy to see me or do you have something in your pocket?? You reach your pocket out and KA-BLAM!! a chainsaw come out and you start to kill the all the zombies!! Indeed it's a beautiful day to stroll in a graveyard! I don't know if your gf plays games nor I'm a doctor with qualification but I think she can try to play some games that make her react to some events (i.e. action games) and maybe (just maybe) she can develop some better subconscious defences. Now I advice you to see a professional. that's really interesting because my friends (who game) have discussed having multiple dreams like this or ones where you can wake yourself up when you realize its just a dream or just lucid dreaming. Non gamer friends don't really relate as much to this. | ||
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50bani
Romania480 Posts
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[UoN]Sentinel
United States11320 Posts
On December 29 2010 18:07 50bani wrote: Girlfriends seem to be getting ever more popular for starting certain "problem" threads. Look at all the 2+2 "Help, Full Tilt banned my girlfriend saying she is a bot" action in the past weeks/months Because TL is a safe haven where people expect their gf's not to go to? IDK, but they've always been around. | ||
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hp.Shell
United States2527 Posts
I felt I was coming down with a fever a few days ago. You know, the aches that shouldn't be there, warm/hot forehead, dehydration, runny nose, liquids go through you instead of helping you, etc. The weird thing was it seemed to hit me like a sack of bricks. At 2:00pm or so I felt fine, then at 3:00pm I physically felt horrible, with all these symptoms added. Then I realized I hadn't meditated for a few months, so being the type of person that believes it works, I googled "chakra common cold" and I came up with this link. http://factoidz.com/chakra-healing-curing-the-common-cold/ It is quite a lengthy meditation, but I felt like trying it out on myself, so I went to bed at 11:00pm and laid down to meditate. I didn't do all of the steps exactly, but I did the general steps in my head. I kept drifting in and out of sleep, so it took me about an hour. When I was done I got a drink of water and I was feeling great. I've never gotten over a fever that quickly. I wonder if it was the specific meditation that helped, or if I have more experience meditating than I give myself credit for. Either way, the results speak for themselves. | ||
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