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On December 07 2009 21:16 resonance wrote:
Wow dude I totally know what you mean.
I tend to lose interest in girls who are just a bit too interested in me before I am that interested in them. As much as making the moves can be a pain in the ass, I really prefer it. I've tried to analyze it psychologically and I've come to the conclusion that I either have some type of closeness issue, or I am just attracted to girls who are hard to get. Obviously I'd like to believe it's more of the latter, but it's probably more likely a combination of both with a bunch of other things.
It's neither of those things. In fact it's just one thing and it happens whenever a girl is more interested in you than you are used to. This is no "losers thing", you can work it up and apply it to ballers like Rek or Marky Mark.
So practically spoken it looks like this:
Nerd -> Girl shows just slight signs of attention -> Awkwardness
Average Joe -> Girl shows more than average signs of attention (eg getting physical on the first night and shit) -> Awkwardness
Increase social status and the level of attention/girls social status (mainly looks; so shallow) proportionally up to any extent.
So, what do we have here? You are a nerd (IM/Videochat shit) with no or very small experience. She is either better looking or she's giving you more attention than the girls you're used to get in contact with. Maybe both.
Now you have 2 options:
- Feel awkward. Fuck up eventually.
- Get drunk as fuck and do her. Most likely you will have sex with her again, sober plz.
Before somebody starts bringing up that shit about "She's dumb/I'm not that much into her", that's just a poor excuse for the general behavior in those cases (see option 1 for reference).
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you haven't even hung out with her and you're already against it? and it's because she likes you too much?
what the fuck is this
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On December 07 2009 21:16 resonance wrote:
Wow dude I totally know what you mean.
I tend to lose interest in girls who are just a bit too interested in me before I am that interested in them. As much as making the moves can be a pain in the ass, I really prefer it. I've tried to analyze it psychologically and I've come to the conclusion that I either have some type of closeness issue, or I am just attracted to girls who are hard to get. Obviously I'd like to believe it's more of the latter, but it's probably more likely a combination of both with a bunch of other things.
Here's an easier, more realistic explanation: The girls that come on to you are not nearly as hot as the ones you're trying to get.
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On December 08 2009 00:40 [DUF]MethodMan wrote:Show nested quote +On December 07 2009 21:16 resonance wrote:
Wow dude I totally know what you mean.
I tend to lose interest in girls who are just a bit too interested in me before I am that interested in them. As much as making the moves can be a pain in the ass, I really prefer it. I've tried to analyze it psychologically and I've come to the conclusion that I either have some type of closeness issue, or I am just attracted to girls who are hard to get. Obviously I'd like to believe it's more of the latter, but it's probably more likely a combination of both with a bunch of other things. It's neither of those things. In fact it's just one thing and it happens whenever a girl is more interested in you than you are used to. This is no "losers thing", you can work it up and apply it to ballers like Rek or Marky Mark. So practically spoken it looks like this: Nerd -> Girl shows just slight signs of attention -> Awkwardness Average Joe -> Girl shows more than average signs of attention (eg getting physical on the first night and shit) -> Awkwardness Increase social status and the level of attention/girls social status (mainly looks; so shallow) proportionally up to any extent. So, what do we have here? You are a nerd (IM/Videochat shit) with no or very small experience. She is either better looking or she's giving you more attention than the girls you're used to get in contact with. Maybe both. Now you have 2 options: - Feel awkward. Fuck up eventually. - Get drunk as fuck and do her. Most likely you will have sex with her again, sober plz. Before somebody starts bringing up that shit about "She's dumb/I'm not that much into her", that's just a poor excuse for the general behavior in those cases (see option 1 for reference).
Pretty much agree with most of that.
On December 08 2009 00:54 Frits wrote:Show nested quote +On December 07 2009 21:16 resonance wrote:
Wow dude I totally know what you mean.
I tend to lose interest in girls who are just a bit too interested in me before I am that interested in them. As much as making the moves can be a pain in the ass, I really prefer it. I've tried to analyze it psychologically and I've come to the conclusion that I either have some type of closeness issue, or I am just attracted to girls who are hard to get. Obviously I'd like to believe it's more of the latter, but it's probably more likely a combination of both with a bunch of other things. Here's an easier, more realistic explanation: The girls that come on to you are not nearly as hot as the ones you're trying to get.
Lol pretty much agree with that as well.
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Just be honest. Tell her you're not ready for any relationship at the moment. At least if you're going to hurt her, do it now.
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ummm...why dont you just man up and talk to her?
i think u should hang out with her because 1- she REMEMBERED YOU mother fucker...jesus, since elementary school! 2- she went through the trouble of finding you 3- u were friends before u could be friends again 4- u are being close-minded and thats never good, etc
after u've talked to her, set things straight. if ur not interested in a relationship, tell her. if u wanna be friends, tell her. if u dont wanna hear from her ever again, tell her. but whatever it is, TELL HER. be fair. dont be a complete ass hole like u are being right now, no offense. put yourself in her shoes and u will realize ur being mean. she deserves the truth from u just for being a good friend. if shes clingy or watever so what? thats how she is, respect it and confront it. dont run...
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On December 08 2009 00:52 Frits wrote:
you haven't even hung out with her and you're already against it? and it's because she likes you too much?
what the fuck is this
exactly
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She sounds like a keeper.
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alright whatever, i just sent her a message saying how i feel and that's that.
thanks for all the input guys. i know it seems like im being a pussy right now but im pretty sure about this.
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On December 07 2009 19:31 Kim_Hyun_Han wrote:
you're gay
lmao
you make no sense whatsoever and its hilarious
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On December 08 2009 03:49 keepITup wrote:
ok guys honestly, i appreciate the advice, but i just woke up again to 20 facebook notifications -- all from her.
she is all over my page, every picture i have, this is not fucking normal -- whether im inexperienced or not.
fuck this.
and @ that one dude no i dont get drunk by myself 0_o, i was drinking with the rest of my floor. thanks for your concern though
rofl! 20 ahahahahahaha yeah ok she is a bit nuts.
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lol does she have like 2k facebook pics? i was in the exact same situation as you over this summer, she was a huge creeper and it got to the point where i had to remove her and block any messages from her heheheh
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well she seems to be taking it well and still wants to be friends so i think im in the clear
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On December 08 2009 03:49 keepITup wrote:
ok guys honestly, i appreciate the advice, but i just woke up again to 20 facebook notifications -- all from her.
she is all over my page, every picture i have, this is not fucking normal -- whether im inexperienced or not.
fuck this.
and @ that one dude no i dont get drunk by myself 0_o, i was drinking with the rest of my floor. thanks for your concern though
lol what a creepy stalker. send her my way we can be twins.
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Snet
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I don't see why you pussy out when it comes to chillin with her in real life. Sounds like you got drunk and horny and now she's interested and you're sober and freaking the fuck out.
Just go for it and stop trying to convince yourself that you don't want to. If after a few day inrl you feel the same way you can distance yourself from her.
so now she's expecting to hang out when i come back to town for break and i'm really just not feeling it. she's way too interested in me for a guy that just talked to her online for a couple days -- i don't like that.
I don't understand this point at all. You said you've known her since elementary school so obviously she is going to want to meet up with you in person after all this time. She doesn't sound like some chick who is "interested in guys too quickly".
Don't let the facebook stuff throw you off. Chicks are obsessed with that shit, I bet she comments like that on alot of people.
My advice --> stop thinking so much and just hang out with her for a day. If she seems crazy inrl then call it quits.
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On December 07 2009 19:30 Chef wrote:
No way. When a girls got to much time on her hands, the worst thing you can do is get all dramatic and break it down for her.
I guess I respectfully disagree, and no one said anything about being dramatic. I may not claim to be an expert, but I did grow up with only sisters, and am engaged right now, so I'm not just making stuff up. I think you're still looking at it too much like a guy.
What is she going to do if he doesn't say anything? She's going to obsess over his every action and be trying to figure out if he likes her, all the while building up her own feelings at any slight response from him. The longer this goes on without her figuring out what he really feels like, the more hurt she's going to be when she finally DOES figure it out.
Being upfront helps her to temper her expectations and not get even more obsessed. The trick is to do it gently, but the longer it goes on, the more she will become emotionally involved (it's in her nature to do this), and the worse it will be.
p.s. did i mention being gentle? that might be the whole crux of it.
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On December 08 2009 08:05 Snet wrote:I don't see why you pussy out when it comes to chillin with her in real life. Sounds like you got drunk and horny and now she's interested and you're sober and freaking the fuck out. Just go for it and stop trying to convince yourself that you don't want to. If after a few day inrl you feel the same way you can distance yourself from her. Show nested quote +so now she's expecting to hang out when i come back to town for break and i'm really just not feeling it. she's way too interested in me for a guy that just talked to her online for a couple days -- i don't like that. I don't understand this point at all. You said you've known her since elementary school so obviously she is going to want to meet up with you in person after all this time. She doesn't sound like some chick who is "interested in guys too quickly". Don't let the facebook stuff throw you off. Chicks are obsessed with that shit, I bet she comments like that on alot of people. My advice --> stop thinking so much and just hang out with her for a day. If she seems crazy inrl then call it quits.
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On December 07 2009 21:08 dethrawr wrote:
Hit it, scribble "TEAMLIQUID FIGHTING" on her back, take pix, post, become a god.
lmao xD
though you were right in the op, leading her on was a mistake
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On December 08 2009 00:54 Frits wrote:Show nested quote +On December 07 2009 21:16 resonance wrote:
Wow dude I totally know what you mean.
I tend to lose interest in girls who are just a bit too interested in me before I am that interested in them. As much as making the moves can be a pain in the ass, I really prefer it. I've tried to analyze it psychologically and I've come to the conclusion that I either have some type of closeness issue, or I am just attracted to girls who are hard to get. Obviously I'd like to believe it's more of the latter, but it's probably more likely a combination of both with a bunch of other things. Here's an easier, more realistic explanation: The girls that come on to you are not nearly as hot as the ones you're trying to get.
This has to be the best post in this entire thread.
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