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keepITup
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paper
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TheFoReveRwaR
United States10657 Posts
Seriously what is wrong with you? If she really is cute, you should be HAPPY she's interested in you. | ||
motbob
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keepITup
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On December 07 2009 18:51 TheFoReveRwaR wrote: You need therapy... and no youre not good at talking to girls. Even when you're drunk. no im pretty great | ||
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zyxjk
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keepITup
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On December 07 2009 18:54 zyxjk wrote: was the girl drunk too, that is the question. Everyone's a hero when they're drunk. unless they're driving. no, she's never had alcohol actually 0_o | ||
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PH
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Chef
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On December 07 2009 18:51 motbob wrote: WTF, a girl is interested in you, get to know her ffs Nah, girls who come on strong to start (to the point it just feels uncomfortable) aren't really worth dealing with. They seem to want to be around you for the wrong reasons. Although, man, don't brag about your 8 hour IM conversations on the internet. Maybe you two will be a good lesson for each other, tbh. | ||
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keepITup
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On December 07 2009 18:51 TheFoReveRwaR wrote: You need therapy... and no youre not good at talking to girls. Even when you're drunk. Seriously what is wrong with you? If she really is cute, you should be HAPPY she's interested in you. eh | ||
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keepITup
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On December 07 2009 19:17 Chef wrote: Nah, girls who come on strong to start (to the point it just feels uncomfortable) aren't really worth dealing with. They seem to want to be around you for the wrong reasons. Although, man, don't brag about your 8 hour IM conversations on the internet. Maybe you two will be a good lesson for each other, tbh. eh | ||
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JohnColtrane
Australia4813 Posts
On December 07 2009 18:46 paper wrote: HIT AND RUN lol | ||
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vx70GTOJudgexv
United States3161 Posts
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BloodDrunK
Bangladesh2767 Posts
also- HIT AND RUN pure genius. | ||
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eXigent.
Canada2419 Posts
On December 07 2009 19:17 keepITup wrote: trust me i was pretty excited about the potential here, but i just dont feel that it's worth it. i've been in a similar situation where this girl on my floor became infatuated with me for no reason and she didn't look half-bad either. she was extremely clingy and pretty retarded, and i hated myself for everything i did with her. im not desperate here and i dont want to be. this girl has done nothing with her weekend but txt me and pull me into conversations everytime she sees me pop up online. i cant deal with this shit. maybe i sound crazy, i dont know. i just dont want to blow my whole winter break getting to know this girl. most women are this way. She is interested in you, and obviously thinks you are interested in her. Maybe having a 7hr conversation with her has made her believe you really wanna hang out. You're kinda being a douche for leading her on like that, and then complaining when she shows signs of lust. What did you expect to happen after talking for that long? A 7 hour convo is basically telling her you are super interested, and wanna get to know her "better". Your inexperience shows young one  | ||
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LaughingTulkas
United States1107 Posts
Key to note here is there are 2 ways of being a jerk here: 1. just not talking to her anymore without any communication as to why, and 2. getting with her and then dumping later for being annoying. Note in both of them she is the real loser (tbh, she kinda sounds like a loser anyway) while you just might have some annoying guilt, or you might not, depending on what type of person you are. One thing though, if your feelings are like they sound, getting involved any further is a BAD idea for both of you, and I don't recommend it. Just gonna get messy and you're going to be annoyed and she's going to be devastated because she sounds like she takes too much of her self-esteem from male attention. | ||
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Etherone
United States1898 Posts
well if you haven't had sex, then it's worth it. unless you're 14 then you can relax and keep looking. edit: also the guy above me has never" been straight up" and told some girl who likes him the way he felt ( in the case that he was not interested at all) unless of course she was ugly. it is the second worst thing you can do, the first being talking to her mother ( i've seen it happen) be smart make up some bullshit excuse, any excuse is a good excuse. time conflicts, being gay, or say you're into sdm. | ||
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Chef
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On December 07 2009 19:17 keepITup wrote: trust me i was pretty excited about the potential here, but i just dont feel that it's worth it. i've been in a similar situation where this girl on my floor became infatuated with me for no reason and she didn't look half-bad either. she was extremely clingy and pretty retarded, and i hated myself for everything i did with her. im not desperate here and i dont want to be. this girl has done nothing with her weekend but txt me and pull me into conversations everytime she sees me pop up online. i cant deal with this shit. maybe i sound crazy, i dont know. i just dont want to blow my whole winter break getting to know this girl. That probably means she's really bored and stays at home all day. If you're doing the same, you honestly might as well play mario bros with her or something. You can friend zone her pretty easily if it's too much. Don't worry about it so much. On December 07 2009 19:27 LaughingTulkas wrote: The best thing to do, if you are truly not interested, is to be straight up. Just tell her how you feel. Tell her you don't want to hurt her feelings by getting involved when you don't think you really have the same feelings for her. Hopefully this is true, and you can say it sincerely. Most girls will actually appreciate you being honest and open about your feelings even if they aren't what they want. No way. When a girls got to much time on her hands, the worst thing you can do is get all dramatic and break it down for her. | ||
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Kim_Hyun_Han
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keepITup
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On December 07 2009 19:26 eXigent. wrote: most women are this way. She is interested in you, and obviously thinks you are interested in her. Maybe having a 7hr conversation with her has made her believe you really wanna hang out. You're kinda being a douche for leading her on like that, and then complaining when she shows signs of lust. What did you expect to happen after talking for that long? A 7 hour convo is basically telling her you are super interested, and wanna get to know her "better". Your inexperience shows young one . | ||
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genryou
Malaysia390 Posts
Reason? 1) If she is late, you don't have to be a dumb ass and wait for her for an hour. you are not even interested in her that much right? 2) If you still feel uncomfortable around her when you get together, you just can leave after you finish your coffee. Its not a date and you just go there for a drink. So yeah. | ||
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ketomai
United States2789 Posts
It seems like you are troubled because she doesn't know everything about you , yet she's trying to show interest. If you want to not meet her because you prioritize your break time over meeting her then fine. However, DON'T refuse to see her just because she's interested in you so quickly; that's normal. | ||
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prOxi.swAMi
Australia3091 Posts
Do it. | ||
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keepITup
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On December 07 2009 19:36 genryou wrote: Instead of going on a date, ask her to come to your house and get a coffee at nearby cafe. Reason? 1) If she is late, you don't have to be a dumb ass and wait for her for an hour. you are not even interested in her that much right? 2) If you still feel uncomfortable around her when you get together, you just can leave after you finish your coffee. Its not a date and you just go there for a drink. So yeah. . | ||
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eXigent.
Canada2419 Posts
On December 07 2009 19:35 keepITup wrote: yeah which is why alcohol didnt really help me here because i wouldnt have wanted to talk to her that much if i was sober that night -_- iono dude, i know your probably speaking the truth but i just have a bad feeling, like i know what kind of girl this is already. i mean for example, i woke up today to find her comments all over my facebook. One of the things on my page recently was another girl posting a little quiz app on my page asking the question, "What does keepITup think about you?" and she answered, "hmm i dunno..but i'd sure like to know =) " so we teased eachother a bit with comments and that was that -- it was like 3 weeks ago.. but now this girl that im talking to commented on that conversation i had, saying "hmmmmmm." wtf is that? she's already concerned about what I say to other girls? conversations that i've had weeks ago? 0_o yeah man she totally sounds super clingy. Seems like the type that hasnt had much relationship experience either. I wouldnt get involved with someone like that, especially if she is jealous of things that she shouldnt be. If all she wanted was a one night stand, then yeah maybe....but it seems more like she wants marriage haha. I'd friend zone her asap. | ||
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Mastermind
Canada7096 Posts
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Etherone
United States1898 Posts
you had fun talking to her, and being with her drunk right? well there you go problem solved. on a more serious note, how old are you so we can actually give you advice, if thats what you came here for. also dont feel guilty for "leading her on" you are just awesome, and she was attracted, not your fault imo | ||
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keepITup
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motbob
United States12546 Posts
On December 07 2009 19:56 keepITup wrote: im nearly 20 (pathetic I know) but she's 20 as well, and just seems way too childish to me (not that me asking for advice on TL makes me manly or mature or anything). i am already 100% sure i wouldn't want to be in a long term relationship with her. like yeah i'd love to get laid but i'm not desperate enough to build a whole relationship around that goal. i'm a pretty happy guy -- i'd really like a girl in my life, but im not crying about it. oh in that case n/m. It's good advice never to date a girl you wouldn't marry. | ||
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ProbeSaturation
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keepITup
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On December 07 2009 20:18 ProbeSaturation wrote: are you cool? or are you sorta a loser? lol what kind of question is that? | ||
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chongu
Malaysia2586 Posts
TL is ur BFF | ||
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meeple
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ProbeSaturation
Canada292 Posts
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deth
Australia1757 Posts
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Xxio
Canada5565 Posts
On December 07 2009 21:08 dethrawr wrote: Hit it, scribble "TEAMLIQUID FIGHTING" on her back, take pix, post, become a god. ahahahahaah YES | ||
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Zapdos_Smithh
Canada2620 Posts
I tend to lose interest in girls who are just a bit too interested in me before I am that interested in them. As much as making the moves can be a pain in the ass, I really prefer it. I've tried to analyze it psychologically and I've come to the conclusion that I either have some type of closeness issue, or I am just attracted to girls who are hard to get. Obviously I'd like to believe it's more of the latter, but it's probably more likely a combination of both with a bunch of other things. | ||
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Cloud
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starfries
Canada3508 Posts
On December 07 2009 18:51 TheFoReveRwaR wrote: You need therapy... and no youre not good at talking to girls. Even when you're drunk. Seriously what is wrong with you? If she really is cute, you should be HAPPY she's interested in you. Therapy? wtf.. all he said is that he's a little turned off by how clingy she is and suddenly he has psychological problems? Anyways, go for it, unless you have a good reason not to (better girl in mind, too far away, you really aren't attracted, etc.) It's your first time and its worth the experience, even if you know it probably won't end well.. and the first one isn't gonna be perfect, unless it's also the last. | ||
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blue_arrow
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if she rejects you, remember to show that you're very hurt and do so in a way that the girl should feel extremely sorry/guilty (look very sad, stop talking as much etc). if she doesn't display guilt/sorrow then there is something very wrong with the girl/her clinginess/interest and it is a good chance to break off all contact right here. never keep out the possibility that it is her who is leading you on | ||
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[DUF]MethodMan
Germany1716 Posts
On December 07 2009 21:16 resonance wrote: Wow dude I totally know what you mean. I tend to lose interest in girls who are just a bit too interested in me before I am that interested in them. As much as making the moves can be a pain in the ass, I really prefer it. I've tried to analyze it psychologically and I've come to the conclusion that I either have some type of closeness issue, or I am just attracted to girls who are hard to get. Obviously I'd like to believe it's more of the latter, but it's probably more likely a combination of both with a bunch of other things. It's neither of those things. In fact it's just one thing and it happens whenever a girl is more interested in you than you are used to. This is no "losers thing", you can work it up and apply it to ballers like Rek or Marky Mark. So practically spoken it looks like this: Nerd -> Girl shows just slight signs of attention -> Awkwardness Average Joe -> Girl shows more than average signs of attention (eg getting physical on the first night and shit) -> Awkwardness Increase social status and the level of attention/girls social status (mainly looks; so shallow) proportionally up to any extent. So, what do we have here? You are a nerd (IM/Videochat shit) with no or very small experience. She is either better looking or she's giving you more attention than the girls you're used to get in contact with. Maybe both. Now you have 2 options: - Feel awkward. Fuck up eventually. - Get drunk as fuck and do her. Most likely you will have sex with her again, sober plz. Before somebody starts bringing up that shit about "She's dumb/I'm not that much into her", that's just a poor excuse for the general behavior in those cases (see option 1 for reference). | ||
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Frits
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what the fuck is this | ||
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Frits
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On December 07 2009 21:16 resonance wrote: Wow dude I totally know what you mean. I tend to lose interest in girls who are just a bit too interested in me before I am that interested in them. As much as making the moves can be a pain in the ass, I really prefer it. I've tried to analyze it psychologically and I've come to the conclusion that I either have some type of closeness issue, or I am just attracted to girls who are hard to get. Obviously I'd like to believe it's more of the latter, but it's probably more likely a combination of both with a bunch of other things. Here's an easier, more realistic explanation: The girls that come on to you are not nearly as hot as the ones you're trying to get. | ||
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Zapdos_Smithh
Canada2620 Posts
On December 08 2009 00:40 [DUF]MethodMan wrote: It's neither of those things. In fact it's just one thing and it happens whenever a girl is more interested in you than you are used to. This is no "losers thing", you can work it up and apply it to ballers like Rek or Marky Mark. So practically spoken it looks like this: Nerd -> Girl shows just slight signs of attention -> Awkwardness Average Joe -> Girl shows more than average signs of attention (eg getting physical on the first night and shit) -> Awkwardness Increase social status and the level of attention/girls social status (mainly looks; so shallow) proportionally up to any extent. So, what do we have here? You are a nerd (IM/Videochat shit) with no or very small experience. She is either better looking or she's giving you more attention than the girls you're used to get in contact with. Maybe both. Now you have 2 options: - Feel awkward. Fuck up eventually. - Get drunk as fuck and do her. Most likely you will have sex with her again, sober plz. Before somebody starts bringing up that shit about "She's dumb/I'm not that much into her", that's just a poor excuse for the general behavior in those cases (see option 1 for reference). Pretty much agree with most of that. On December 08 2009 00:54 Frits wrote: Here's an easier, more realistic explanation: The girls that come on to you are not nearly as hot as the ones you're trying to get. Lol pretty much agree with that as well. | ||
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nayumi
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UGC4
Peru532 Posts
i think u should hang out with her because 1- she REMEMBERED YOU mother fucker...jesus, since elementary school! 2- she went through the trouble of finding you 3- u were friends before u could be friends again 4- u are being close-minded and thats never good, etc after u've talked to her, set things straight. if ur not interested in a relationship, tell her. if u wanna be friends, tell her. if u dont wanna hear from her ever again, tell her. but whatever it is, TELL HER. be fair. dont be a complete ass hole like u are being right now, no offense. put yourself in her shoes and u will realize ur being mean. she deserves the truth from u just for being a good friend. if shes clingy or watever so what? thats how she is, respect it and confront it. dont run... | ||
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UGC4
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On December 08 2009 00:52 Frits wrote: you haven't even hung out with her and you're already against it? and it's because she likes you too much? what the fuck is this exactly | ||
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keepITup
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seppolevne
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keepITup
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thanks for all the input guys. i know it seems like im being a pussy right now but im pretty sure about this. | ||
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tube
United States1475 Posts
On December 07 2009 19:31 Kim_Hyun_Han wrote: you're gay lmao you make no sense whatsoever and its hilarious | ||
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Zapdos_Smithh
Canada2620 Posts
On December 08 2009 03:49 keepITup wrote: ok guys honestly, i appreciate the advice, but i just woke up again to 20 facebook notifications -- all from her. she is all over my page, every picture i have, this is not fucking normal -- whether im inexperienced or not. fuck this. and @ that one dude no i dont get drunk by myself 0_o, i was drinking with the rest of my floor. thanks for your concern though rofl! 20 ahahahahahaha yeah ok she is a bit nuts. | ||
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leMaj24
United States262 Posts
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keepITup
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Pyrrhuloxia
United States6700 Posts
On December 08 2009 03:49 keepITup wrote: ok guys honestly, i appreciate the advice, but i just woke up again to 20 facebook notifications -- all from her. she is all over my page, every picture i have, this is not fucking normal -- whether im inexperienced or not. fuck this. and @ that one dude no i dont get drunk by myself 0_o, i was drinking with the rest of my floor. thanks for your concern though lol what a creepy stalker. send her my way we can be twins. | ||
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Snet
United States3573 Posts
Just go for it and stop trying to convince yourself that you don't want to. If after a few day inrl you feel the same way you can distance yourself from her. so now she's expecting to hang out when i come back to town for break and i'm really just not feeling it. she's way too interested in me for a guy that just talked to her online for a couple days -- i don't like that. I don't understand this point at all. You said you've known her since elementary school so obviously she is going to want to meet up with you in person after all this time. She doesn't sound like some chick who is "interested in guys too quickly". Don't let the facebook stuff throw you off. Chicks are obsessed with that shit, I bet she comments like that on alot of people. My advice --> stop thinking so much and just hang out with her for a day. If she seems crazy inrl then call it quits. | ||
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LaughingTulkas
United States1107 Posts
On December 07 2009 19:30 Chef wrote: No way. When a girls got to much time on her hands, the worst thing you can do is get all dramatic and break it down for her. I guess I respectfully disagree, and no one said anything about being dramatic. I may not claim to be an expert, but I did grow up with only sisters, and am engaged right now, so I'm not just making stuff up. I think you're still looking at it too much like a guy. What is she going to do if he doesn't say anything? She's going to obsess over his every action and be trying to figure out if he likes her, all the while building up her own feelings at any slight response from him. The longer this goes on without her figuring out what he really feels like, the more hurt she's going to be when she finally DOES figure it out. Being upfront helps her to temper her expectations and not get even more obsessed. The trick is to do it gently, but the longer it goes on, the more she will become emotionally involved (it's in her nature to do this), and the worse it will be. p.s. did i mention being gentle? that might be the whole crux of it. | ||
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keepITup
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On December 08 2009 08:05 Snet wrote: I don't see why you pussy out when it comes to chillin with her in real life. Sounds like you got drunk and horny and now she's interested and you're sober and freaking the fuck out. Just go for it and stop trying to convince yourself that you don't want to. If after a few day inrl you feel the same way you can distance yourself from her. I don't understand this point at all. You said you've known her since elementary school so obviously she is going to want to meet up with you in person after all this time. She doesn't sound like some chick who is "interested in guys too quickly". Don't let the facebook stuff throw you off. Chicks are obsessed with that shit, I bet she comments like that on alot of people. My advice --> stop thinking so much and just hang out with her for a day. If she seems crazy inrl then call it quits. a | ||
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Xmplify
United States57 Posts
On December 07 2009 21:08 dethrawr wrote: Hit it, scribble "TEAMLIQUID FIGHTING" on her back, take pix, post, become a god. lmao xD though you were right in the op, leading her on was a mistake | ||
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foeffa
Belgium2115 Posts
On December 08 2009 00:54 Frits wrote: Here's an easier, more realistic explanation: The girls that come on to you are not nearly as hot as the ones you're trying to get. This has to be the best post in this entire thread. | ||
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Snet
United States3573 Posts
On December 08 2009 08:27 keepITup wrote: no her social life seems pretty non existant, and all she does is complain about never going out. the first thing she wants to do together is go ice skating 0_o she's nuts -- i know im inexperienced but really.. EDIT: and yeah i already told her how i felt and apologized for my behavior. she took it well and was like "omg omg i didnt know you felt that way. i just want to be friends, we should still hang out!" followed by a dozen more txt messages on my phone asking if its okay if she can call me and talk about it and I honestly think she just got more irritating. whether she was interested in a relationship or not, she's clearly desperate for any sort of friendship. I would still give it a chance. Plus it's like the perfect situation for you, you're coming down for a vacation from school. If it turns out she really is just an annoying obsessive girl, you're going back to your university in a few weeks anyways. I know this next comment might backfire here on TL, but going out iceskating with a girl who is clearly into you seems alot more fun than sitting in your parent's house playing SC in your old room. | ||
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WeSt
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sS.NuB
Angola107 Posts
On December 07 2009 19:31 Kim_Hyun_Han wrote: you're gay That's a pretty awful thing to say >:S | ||
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blue_arrow
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On December 08 2009 08:27 keepITup wrote: no her social life seems pretty non existant, and all she does is complain about never going out. the first thing she wants to do together is go ice skating 0_o she's nuts -- i know im inexperienced but really.. EDIT: and yeah i already told her how i felt and apologized for my behavior. she took it well and was like "omg omg i didnt know you felt that way. i just want to be friends, we should still hang out!" followed by a dozen more txt messages on my phone asking if its okay if she can call me and talk about it and I honestly think she just got more irritating. whether she was interested in a relationship or not, she's clearly desperate for any sort of friendship. hoyl flippin shit your descriptions are starting to sound extremely eerily similar to this girl i know...... what country are you from??? | ||
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keepITup
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On December 08 2009 13:06 blue_arrow wrote: hoyl flippin shit your descriptions are starting to sound extremely eerily similar to this girl i know...... what country are you from??? lol, canada | ||
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blue_arrow
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Superiorwolf
United States5509 Posts
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FragKrag
United States11552 Posts
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boesthius
United States11637 Posts
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Urth
United States1249 Posts
On December 08 2009 14:01 blue_arrow wrote: holy fuck are you serious... we need to continue this through pm.... O.o would be funny as crap if it was the same person lololol | ||
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Elwinros
United States93 Posts
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
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MaRiNe23
United States747 Posts
On December 08 2009 14:01 blue_arrow wrote: holy fuck are you serious... we need to continue this through pm.... O.o No plz continue in here | ||
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CharlieMurphy
United States22895 Posts
Meet up for dinner and a movie, have some sex ,see where it goes. | ||
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2on2
United States142 Posts
Just hang out with her, what do you have to lose. Ice skating is fun. I had the best sex of my life with a girl that was super attracted to me (i wasnt too keen on her, clingy, annoying, etc), then i dropped her like a bad habit when i wanted someone new Or do you have "better things to do"? | ||
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keepITup
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On December 09 2009 05:39 2on2 wrote: ^What he said. Just hang out with her, what do you have to lose. Ice skating is fun. I had the best sex of my life with a girl that was super attracted to me (i wasnt too keen on her, clingy, annoying, etc), then i dropped her like a bad habit when i wanted someone new Or do you have "better things to do"? yeah like most people, i actually plan on going out and having a lot of fun over break 0_o clearly though, spending all of it trying to get into some extremely prude girl's pants only to leave her immediately afterwards is the manly thing to do here. | ||
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StalkerSC
Canada378 Posts
On December 07 2009 18:46 paper wrote: HIT AND RUN Would that be the same as + Show Spoiler + FUCK AND TRUCK Anyways, I'd get with her.. You've only got one thing to lose.. + Show Spoiler + your virginity | ||
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2on2
United States142 Posts
On December 09 2009 05:52 keepITup wrote: yeah like most people, i actually plan on going out and having a lot of fun over break 0_o clearly though, spending all of it trying to get into some extremely prude girl's pants only to leave her immediately afterwards is the manly thing to do here. Wrong way to think about the situation, she's not the victim if you are the one depriving yourself of a welcoming opportunity | ||
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