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Instead of going on a date, ask her to come to your house and get a coffee at nearby cafe.
Reason?
1) If she is late, you don't have to be a dumb ass and wait for her for an hour. you are not even interested in her that much right? 2) If you still feel uncomfortable around her when you get together, you just can leave after you finish your coffee. Its not a date and you just go there for a drink. So yeah.
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Most people know if they're interested in people after a 7 hour conversation or w/e. First impressions are very important. It's not weird at all if she's interested from that first impression =/. She's interested in you so she wants to show it as clearly as possible. The scenario where you absolutely have no romantic interest in a person and then after years of being friends suddenly feel like you are interested almost never happens; usually, you see a person, and you decide then and there if you're interested or not, and if so, you want to try to get closer to them.
It seems like you are troubled because she doesn't know everything about you , yet she's trying to show interest. If you want to not meet her because you prioritize your break time over meeting her then fine. However, DON'T refuse to see her just because she's interested in you so quickly; that's normal.
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Penetrate her vagina with your penis.
Do it.
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On December 07 2009 19:36 genryou wrote: Instead of going on a date, ask her to come to your house and get a coffee at nearby cafe.
Reason?
1) If she is late, you don't have to be a dumb ass and wait for her for an hour. you are not even interested in her that much right? 2) If you still feel uncomfortable around her when you get together, you just can leave after you finish your coffee. Its not a date and you just go there for a drink. So yeah.
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On December 07 2009 19:35 keepITup wrote:Show nested quote +On December 07 2009 19:26 eXigent. wrote:On December 07 2009 19:17 keepITup wrote:On December 07 2009 18:51 TheFoReveRwaR wrote: You need therapy... and no youre not good at talking to girls. Even when you're drunk.
Seriously what is wrong with you? If she really is cute, you should be HAPPY she's interested in you. trust me i was pretty excited about the potential here, but i just dont feel that it's worth it. i've been in a similar situation where this girl on my floor became infatuated with me for no reason and she didn't look half-bad either. she was extremely clingy and pretty retarded, and i hated myself for everything i did with her. im not desperate here and i dont want to be. this girl has done nothing with her weekend but txt me and pull me into conversations everytime she sees me pop up online. i cant deal with this shit. maybe i sound crazy, i dont know. i just dont want to blow my whole winter break getting to know this girl. most women are this way. She is interested in you, and obviously thinks you are interested in her. Maybe having a 7hr conversation with her has made her believe you really wanna hang out. You're kinda being a douche for leading her on like that, and then complaining when she shows signs of lust. What did you expect to happen after talking for that long? A 7 hour convo is basically telling her you are super interested, and wanna get to know her "better". Your inexperience shows young one  yeah which is why alcohol didnt really help me here because i wouldnt have wanted to talk to her that much if i was sober that night -_- iono dude, i know your probably speaking the truth but i just have a bad feeling, like i know what kind of girl this is already. i mean for example, i woke up today to find her comments all over my facebook. One of the things on my page recently was another girl posting a little quiz app on my page asking the question, "What does keepITup think about you?" and she answered, "hmm i dunno..but i'd sure like to know =) " so we teased eachother a bit with comments and that was that -- it was like 3 weeks ago.. but now this girl that im talking to commented on that conversation i had, saying "hmmmmmm." wtf is that? she's already concerned about what I say to other girls? conversations that i've had weeks ago? 0_o
yeah man she totally sounds super clingy. Seems like the type that hasnt had much relationship experience either. I wouldnt get involved with someone like that, especially if she is jealous of things that she shouldnt be.
If all she wanted was a one night stand, then yeah maybe....but it seems more like she wants marriage haha. I'd friend zone her asap.
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Sounds to me like you are afraid. Man up and nail her.
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ooo oooo i gots a solution
you had fun talking to her, and being with her drunk right? well there you go problem solved.
on a more serious note, how old are you so we can actually give you advice, if thats what you came here for.
also dont feel guilty for "leading her on" you are just awesome, and she was attracted, not your fault imo
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motbob
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On December 07 2009 19:56 keepITup wrote: im nearly 20 (pathetic I know)
but she's 20 as well, and just seems way too childish to me (not that me asking for advice on TL makes me manly or mature or anything). i am already 100% sure i wouldn't want to be in a long term relationship with her.
like yeah i'd love to get laid but i'm not desperate enough to build a whole relationship around that goal.
i'm a pretty happy guy -- i'd really like a girl in my life, but im not crying about it. oh in that case n/m. It's good advice never to date a girl you wouldn't marry.
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are you cool? or are you sorta a loser?
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On December 07 2009 20:18 ProbeSaturation wrote: are you cool? or are you sorta a loser?
lol what kind of question is that?
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I suggest you get to know her by talking to her in person... people behave differently online. Nothing too serious.... like breakfast together. then post everything that happens back in another blog
TL is ur BFF
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Just go for it... she's interested, so you have nothing to lose, except your virginity
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only losers over think girl issues
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Hit it, scribble "TEAMLIQUID FIGHTING" on her back, take pix, post, become a god.
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Canada5565 Posts
On December 07 2009 21:08 dethrawr wrote: Hit it, scribble "TEAMLIQUID FIGHTING" on her back, take pix, post, become a god.
ahahahahaah YES
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Wow dude I totally know what you mean.
I tend to lose interest in girls who are just a bit too interested in me before I am that interested in them. As much as making the moves can be a pain in the ass, I really prefer it. I've tried to analyze it psychologically and I've come to the conclusion that I either have some type of closeness issue, or I am just attracted to girls who are hard to get. Obviously I'd like to believe it's more of the latter, but it's probably more likely a combination of both with a bunch of other things.
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You're drunk on your own in your house? I don't think you're meant to be with other people.
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On December 07 2009 18:51 TheFoReveRwaR wrote: You need therapy... and no youre not good at talking to girls. Even when you're drunk.
Seriously what is wrong with you? If she really is cute, you should be HAPPY she's interested in you. Therapy? wtf.. all he said is that he's a little turned off by how clingy she is and suddenly he has psychological problems?
Anyways, go for it, unless you have a good reason not to (better girl in mind, too far away, you really aren't attracted, etc.) It's your first time and its worth the experience, even if you know it probably won't end well.. and the first one isn't gonna be perfect, unless it's also the last.
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ask her out; if she accepts, keep on going until you've attained whatever goal you have in mind for the relationship if she rejects you, remember to show that you're very hurt and do so in a way that the girl should feel extremely sorry/guilty (look very sad, stop talking as much etc). if she doesn't display guilt/sorrow then there is something very wrong with the girl/her clinginess/interest and it is a good chance to break off all contact right here. never keep out the possibility that it is her who is leading you on
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