EPTHow to deal with grief? - Page 2
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TojoZ
United Kingdom13 Posts
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Olli
Austria24416 Posts
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dravernor
Netherlands6175 Posts
 I think everyone has given great advice, no need for repeating it, but yeah. It is a horrible horrible thing, especially at such a young age. | ||
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WonnaPlay
Netherlands912 Posts
On September 12 2014 19:50 virpi wrote: Six years ago, one of my best friends committed suicide. At first, I didn't really realize what had happened. It took time to really understand the meaning of such a loss. What helped me through those troubled times were my other friends. After we had got the news, we all met up in a house and stayed there for some days. It was lots of silence, lots of crying, lots of holding each other. Being able to grieve together made things a lot easier. The emptiness we all felt inside was filled by the realization that we were not alone. After the first hours of pure shock, we started talking about it. About him, about our relationship. Of course, we asked ourselves if we could have done anything to prevent his suicide. But we soon realized that this led to nothing but sore regrets. So we focused on moving on. Remembering our friend as the kind and lovely guy he had been. Our friendship grew stronger. And even though I still miss him a lot (he would have turned 30 a few days ago), I now know that I'm not alone. So my advice would be: Don't stay alone. Talk to other friends, talk to your family. Look for people you love. And yes, it takes time. You can't force anything. I was about to write a wall of text, but Virpi here has described bassically the exact same details of my story, so I will just +1 this. This is exactly what I did with my friends when one of my best friends also comitted suicide. 9 years ago already.. He just turned 18 back then OP : This is a terrible thing to hear and I hope you can share this with friends who also knew her. For me it was christmass eve, and at New Years I went to my mates who also knew him very well, and we'd just spent the whole night talking the good stories. Don't get yourself in a negative spiral, I had hidden this from some of my other friends and it kept getting worse, to the point that we went to the movies with a few friends and I just started crying out of nowhere, after someone joked something (we were also close by the spot where he came to an end). So as many people suggested, talk , let it out, don't crop it up. I think you just posting this here is already a good start! | ||
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Trasko
Sweden983 Posts
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Bereft
United States1007 Posts
like others have already said, talk and share your grief with friends and family. spending time and remembering the good things about her with those who also knew and loved her can really help. | ||
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Yorkie
United States12612 Posts
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DepressedOne
United States190 Posts
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