I feel lonely in my gaming life, but I am starting to realize I am feeling just as lonely in the other.
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helioss
United States12 Posts
I feel lonely in my gaming life, but I am starting to realize I am feeling just as lonely in the other. | ||
OmniEulogy
Canada6590 Posts
Enjoy talking about other things with your friends and just use people on TL or others on b.net to go over stuff that happened in GSL or watch it with them while being on skype ect. I think the biggest mistake you could make is trying to separate these two things though. There is no reason for it as long as you take things in moderation. | ||
Juliette
United States6003 Posts
If you're still young (not a senior), it'll be okay. do what omni says: just find people on TL/bnet and skype with them. you're welcome to join us for tonight's GSL! The more you talk to people online the more you'll network and find people near your area Also XC/Track fighting! as for integrating it into your personal life, most of my friends know i play games a lot and while they do characterize me as a "gamer" they know its just one of my interests, and though they're not that interested I can mention to some how mvp, my favorite player, won the hardest tournament in the world while hurt and they'll say "oh thats cool" and sometimes they can mention things i'm really not interested in, like uh, my friend is a fan of the golden state warriors so I get news about them all the time and its just nice to broaden your horizons. eventually i started asking more about golden state, and sometimes i get people that ask me about games too also a ton of my friends play LoL, i know its not quite sc2 but its always a cool way to integrate | ||
jcroisdale
United States1543 Posts
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TzaTzers
United States589 Posts
My friends really didn't play games but I knew them from school because of sports and classes. Like you mentioned, we would talk about the normal stuff but one day I just happened to mention starcraft to one of them and over time they started getting interested mainly because I treated the game as if it was one of their football games. I would often tell them that I would operate on korean time to stay up and watch proleague or watch pointless korean music shows ha. Some of them actually started playing the game and when sc2 came out a handful of them got the game and we play from time to time if we can get people on at the same time since we all pretty much went to different schools. What Omni said is actually true, you will meet so many different people after high school, especially in college. Actually people from my school met here on TL and we've met in person and have been in contact since. Juliette also brings up a great point, I could care less about basketball and football because watching sports really doesn't interest me but I love playing those games with my friends. Some of my friends follow those sports really closely and usually talk to me about it even though they know nothing of it. As friends you won't always have the same interests but that is what makes it interesting, learning knew things you probably would have never looked up or finding out about things that you probably would have overlooked. Curious.. what school did you run xc for? I myself ran xc and track and also did wrestling. Wondering if you know about Mt. SAC and/or ...I forgot the name but I think it started with a 'C', they were big races in socal. And it's weird seeing you here Juliette.. I feel KMD is like it's own little website and seeing people post outside of it feels really out of place ha. | ||
Juliette
United States6003 Posts
On July 12 2012 17:53 TzaTzers wrote: And it's weird seeing you here Juliette.. I feel KMD is like it's own little website and seeing people post outside of it feels really out of place ha. Yeah i always kinda go woah when someone posts outside of kmd. although everyone seems to post in GSL LRs so i'm kinda used to it now | ||
PH
United States6173 Posts
It's perfectly fine. I'm largely an introvert, and going out and dealing with people, even my closest friends, tends to exhaust me. I'm not socially awkward, though, and I do well meeting new people. I also love my friends dearly, so I'll always be there regardless. About eight months ago, though, I reconnected with some old high school friends and found out that they not only continue to be avid gamers, but are fans of SC2. I've become very close to them over the past half year, and they get along well enough with most of my older friends who aren't interested, so that whole "double life" thing has started to dissolve. To speak directly to the OP, it's not a problem. Do what you want. If you really like your friends, then be friends with them and enjoy their company. You don't have to hide one life from the other. My non-gamer friends largely knew about my hardcore gamer side and would even make fun of me for it occasionally. Don't be defensive about it, be open about it, but don't annoy people who aren't interested in it about it. My closest friend is a preppy pretty-girl who likes shopping and clubbing, works as a nurse, and does ballet. The closest she gets to my nerdy side is relenting and watching the occasional anime movie. I don't talk about esports or games with her, and she doesn't even know what Brood War is. Regardless, we've been close for more than fifteen years and we get along just fine even if we don't share core interests. | ||
sc4k
United Kingdom5454 Posts
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LuckyFool
United States9015 Posts
Somebody who has always been amazing at presenting it the right way has been Day9. Definitely somebody I try to mimic when explaining the game/my esports obsessions to friends and family. And I've been quite successful so far! Although I do keep the two worlds fairly separated in general. My Mom found it really interesting after watching a National Geographic documentary on broodwar once. I had to start stopping her from asking new Korean neighbors if they were into Starcraft haha. | ||
Mr. Black
United States470 Posts
It's kind of a paradox: I know there are tons of people out there like me, and that I should not be ashamed of my hobbies, but I also know that there is a prevailing image of gamers as lazy, unfocused and immature. If all the "secret" gamers announced themselves, people would realize playing video games is compatible with being a responsible and productive member of society. So I am, for now, part of the problem. My younger brother is also a professional (architect) and even though he barely plays SC2, and doesn't keep up with the tournaments and players that much, just went to the IPL HIN event, and he posted pics on his facebook and tweets about SC2 and all sorts of stuff. He simply is not worried about it. He's probably right to do so. | ||
TheGiz
Canada708 Posts
So, don't hide things, simply project the image that you want to project. The other things are just details, as big as you want them to be shown. I, for example, love gaming, and stories, and fantasies, and history, and a great many things, but that doesn't mean I get stereotyped into some category, because thats not what people see first: they see a successful, good-looking young man. My friends know what I'm about, but they know I'm cool with their interests too. It's all about being well-rounded enough to be comfortable in any situation, talking about any topic, and doing any thing. I go to baseball games with my friends. Do I like baseball? Hell no! But I have a great time when I'm there. Right now you don't understand because you are the worst age in the world. Soon you'll realize that to CARE about certain things the way you do is stupid and pointless. Just be what you want to be, like what you want to like, and enjoy every aspect of life, shunning none of it. When you encounter people who would judge you, omit information that they would judge you on, and when that topic comes out state it matter-of-factly. Compare: "Oh yes, I like Minecraft, it's a game." to: "Oh, that's Minecraft, it's this game that I'm into. You've probably never heard of it. Kinda nerdy, I guess." Don't talk about yourself more than you have to. And when you do, remember: no one can fault a man with confidence. | ||
xmungam
United States1050 Posts
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TechniQ.UK
United Kingdom391 Posts
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