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I have a new girl going on and I have never been this in love before. Two days ago we had vaginal sex for the first time and for the record it was great.
We did not use a condom since we wanted the first time to be romantic and stuff, or she wanted that maybe, I just straight out dont like condoms.
I have no problem putting it on, I know my size and how shit works, I just don't like how it feels. She don't want to get birth control pills and I respect that, but I don't want to make a new life right now so what are the options here anyway?
And really, how big risk is it to not use protection if you don't cum inside her?
Experience is this mather would be great.
FAQ on this topic:
Pic please! Don't have any, this thing is three weeks old.
ya that pretty much covers the faq..
Edit: YES I KNOW ALL THE RISKS. EVERYONE KNOWS YOU CUM A LITTLE BEFORE THE BIG LOAD
Poll: Condoms kill alot of the fun
(Vote): agree
(Vote): not really
(Vote): condoms are great
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it sucks having to put condoms on when youre in the moment...
why cant i just turn my sperm production on/off by command ... 
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condoms kill fun, but without it the risk is pretty high, normally you'd try to get her on the pill
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do her in the ...
ohh nevermind 
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yes. But then again I have bad experience from it.
Exgirlfriend:
Got emo
Gained weight
Lower sex intrest
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sometimes it doesnt matter if you dont cum inside of her. the preseminal liquid is full of spermatozoides? too. so, there's a chance of she getting pregnant.
what about those extra-sensitive condoms ? have you tried whit those ones?
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On October 25 2006 09:56 BlaCha wrote:do her in the ... ohh nevermind
haha I am fucking in love with her it's not an option before sex goes just Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. Becouse now it's more titanic in the car style
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On October 25 2006 09:59 Unforgiven_ve wrote:
sometimes it doesnt matter if you dont cum inside of her. the preseminal liquid is full of spermatozoides? too. so, there's a chance of she getting pregnant.
what about those extra-sensitive condoms ? have you tried whit those ones?
I am aware of that, thanks for pointing it out thought becouse I could not write it in english even if I wanted to.. But I wonder how great deal of risk that really is..Extra sensitive ey? Hrmm. I'll try it for sure, sounds better at least
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never tried without 1 really
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On October 25 2006 10:09 nitram wrote:
never tried without 1 really
Do it asap it's great
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It's not as big a risk if you do it once, but if she's your girlfriend, and you have sex like 2-3 times a week or more then there's a really big risk. It doesn't matter if you "pull out" since the preseminal liquid can leave her pregnant. (although, admitedly, it's a smaller chance... but since you do it quite frequently, you're pushing the anvelope  )
It might seem worth it now, but it's not. If she'll get pregnant, you're done for. You need to get a special shot (not vaccine, but something like it) of some-kind which might or might not work. You might need for her to get an abortion, or worse. Trust me, you don't wanna see how she feels about you if you leave her pregnant because you don't like condoms. I cannot emphasise trust me enough.
Also, for some "technical facts" (that i got from my best friend who is a 3rd year med student):
Your sea-men (lol) "lives" inside her for about 16 hrs (or 12, can't remember). And she's only truely fertile for a little while, but that can't be pin-pointed exactly. That's why the "chalendaristic" method gives you so little time where you can actually have sex safely.
After-sex birth control pills (2nd day pills, pills that you take if condom broke or something, and you want to be 100% safe) work if you take the first one in 72 hrs after doing it. It kills the egg.
Hmmm.. what else... try durex ultra-thin or elite (that's what they're called here). Spermicide is only like 70% safe. Maybe ask her to get a diafragm? It's like a condom for women, you use it with spermicide, but I don't know many details about it.
I seriously, seriously ask you to reconsider doing it with NO protection, especially if you say you love her. Take care. 
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On October 25 2006 10:09 nitram wrote:
never tried without 1 really
"No virgins allowed" is dot number 2, so connect the dots.
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well, i've never used one :p
i dont have sex whit bitches or casuals/unknow womans.
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Birth control pills are very safe (99,9% or somethg), but a few girls cant use them for med. reasons. Condoms are very safe too.
loop/coil is usually pretty safe too, but depends on the girl if she likes it, if its worth it. etc
I dont know any girl using a diaphragm and i dont know if its safe. i think it has some kind of sperm-killing liquid, but really not sure.
sometimes it doesnt matter if you dont cum inside of her = Russian roulette par excellence Never had Biology? The risk of getting pregnant when having sex without any protection is far above zero, you think its worth the risk? I dont think so  Not talking about HIV and such stuff.
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You really don't wan't to risk it. abortions can be rather messy. The spiral thingy that can be put in the uterus can be an alternative. Hmm can't think of the name. either one of you needs anticonception.
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On October 25 2006 10:17 HiTexas wrote:Birth control pills are very safe (99,9% or somethg), but a few girls cant use them for med. reasons. Condoms are very safe too. loop/coil is usually pretty safe too, but depends on the girl if she likes it, if its worth it. etc I dont know any girl using a diaphragm and i dont know if its safe. i think it has some kind of sperm-killing liquid, but really not sure. sometimes it doesnt matter if you dont cum inside of her = Russian roulette par excellence Never had Biology?
Diafragms have to be used with spermicide, it's like a disk made of silicone or such, and you put spermicide on the edge of it, all around. However this helps vs pregnancy only, not any VD. I don't know how safe it is either, but it's not much less safer than the condom.
Also, birth control pills have to be issued by a doctor, according do her metabolism and such, don't just let her take any. And as a fact, they contain hormones, which kinda makes them gain weight faster, so you (she) might want to be aware of that too.
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yea, even if you dont fully cum in her, she can still get pregnant. just tell her to go on the pill man.
in addition... goin at it raw, even with the pill, you really dont know her past experiences. for example, a buddy of mine has been seein this girl for maybe 6-7 months. like all of us, he hates condoms and like you, he choses to fuck raw all the time. he recently found out that his girls ex had ghonnorea (sp) and they too used to fuck raw.
SO! 1. get pill and 2. get tested.
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there's pills for men too. takes about a month or so for the effect to kick in, but from there it wont be a singe sperm inside of you until you quit eating them.
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If she won't take the pill and you won't use a condom, your options are the morning after pill, vasectomy, and avoiding vaginal sex. The pull out method is not a good way to avoid pregnancy. One of my college pals had to get an abortion because of that strategy.
As far as I understand it, there's only a few days per ovulation cycle a woman can get pregnant, and spermatozoa doesn't live very long, so if you can predict when your girlfriend can get pregnant as well as how long your sperm will live, you can minimize risk of pregnancy. But, imo, worrying about whether there's an errant egg floating around in her fallopian tubes is probably a worse moment-killer than condoms. And going nuts everytime your girlfriend has a late period will not do a whole lot to fuel the romance.
Just wear a condom. It doesn't feel as good, but the lack of babies will be well worth it.
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