EPTDating: How's your luck? - Page 799
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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farvacola
United States18866 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32157 Posts
On February 14 2016 23:25 farvacola wrote: Going to a super expensive New Orleans style French place (my idea, not hers) tonight, gonna be awesome date me pls | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On February 14 2016 23:25 farvacola wrote: Going to a super expensive New Orleans style French place (my idea, not hers) tonight, gonna be awesome Is that a restaurant? Cause not sure if that's an euphemism for something sexual :D | ||
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farvacola
United States18866 Posts
On February 15 2016 01:44 LemOn wrote: Is that a restaurant? Cause not sure if that's an euphemism for something sexual :D Yep, it's a restaurant, but I can see why you'd think otherwise  | ||
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Zambrah
United States7393 Posts
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46246 Posts
On February 14 2016 22:42 Skynx wrote: Happy feb 14 y'all. Happy Pi-Minus-One Day! Some people think of 2/14 as Valentine's Day, although we know better... but in an attempt to compromise, here's my favorite math love gif... ![[image loading]](http://i.imgur.com/rTF8yT4.gif) ...and favorite math love song... <3 | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46246 Posts
The fiancee and I took a little getaway to a city 40 minutes away (Hoboken), where we rented a suite, had some great dinner reservations last night and two nights ago, found an awesome deli for lunch, watched Deadpool, got professional massages and spa treatments, went to a famous bakery to get some great pastries (Carlo's Bakery... from the Cake Boss tv show) and today we went on a bunch of chocolate and wine tasting tours Right now she's making me dinner, consisting of filet mignon, three-cheese gnocchi, stuffed mushrooms, and tons of cheeses  | ||
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The Fish
United States176 Posts
Or as some call it, Singles Awareness Day! | ||
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Dark_Chill
Canada3353 Posts
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On February 16 2016 04:47 Dark_Chill wrote: What online dating website would you guys recommend to someone who has never gone on one before? I live in Canada, if that makes a difference. Okcupid and tinder possibly? Depends on what you are looking for probably. Tinder if you're good looking and mostly want to get laid/something casual. Okcupid otherwise. | ||
[Phantom]
Mexico2170 Posts
It's not an "afraid of commitment thing" because it's only with this girl. While we aren't friends (I don't consider her a friend, she told me she doesn't consider me a friend, and we never do friend stuff) we trust each other a lot...like telling us things we haven't told anyone else lot. And we obviously have feelings for each other. The thing is.. we couldn't date before for other reasons, no details, but now it looks like this may be out chance...but I find myself afraid.. Like I said, we don't consider each other friends but this might be similar to the "friendzone" in the sense that if things go wrong...I wouldn't want to lose someone I trust so much... If things go well that would be excellent of course, but at 21-22 years old, it's unlikely to have a happy ending. I think it doesn't helps to see the relationships other friends have, where they fight all the time/cheat and have not so great experiences overall. And my past experiences doesn't help either. Though I hadn't had this problem with any other girl until now. I obviously know I shouldn't be afraid...but how can I overcome that fear? | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46246 Posts
2. Why are relationships with 21-22 year olds "unlikely to have a happy ending" in your opinion? Are you planning on waiting until you're 30 before you take a stab at finding "the one"? | ||
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[Phantom]
Mexico2170 Posts
Relationships at this age, from what I've seen from people around me, don't last very long and are very problematic. I know there is no perfect relationship or "happily ever after" but from what I've seen it's only around when you are out of college that relationships are mature enough to really work. Of course there are exceptions. | ||
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evilfatsh1t
Australia8915 Posts
On February 16 2016 07:12 [Phantom] wrote: Not sure if exactly dating advice but...What can I do if I'm afraid to enter a relationship with a particular girl? It's not an "afraid of commitment thing" because it's only with this girl. While we aren't friends (I don't consider her a friend, she told me she doesn't consider me a friend, and we never do friend stuff) we trust each other a lot...like telling us things we haven't told anyone else lot. And we obviously have feelings for each other. The thing is.. we couldn't date before for other reasons, no details, but now it looks like this may be out chance...but I find myself afraid.. Like I said, we don't consider each other friends but this might be similar to the "friendzone" in the sense that if things go wrong...I wouldn't want to lose someone I trust so much... If things go well that would be excellent of course, but at 21-22 years old, it's unlikely to have a happy ending. I think it doesn't helps to see the relationships other friends have, where they fight all the time/cheat and have not so great experiences overall. And my past experiences doesn't help either. Though I hadn't had this problem with any other girl until now. I obviously know I shouldn't be afraid...but how can I overcome that fear? yolo. i say that but tbh i dont know what i would do either. im kind of in a similar situation where i may have a thing for a particular girl but shes supposed to be "off-limits" to me for several reasons. im having trouble deciding whether to break my rules or to just keep it as it is | ||
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[Phantom]
Mexico2170 Posts
Edit: I might as well post something now. I guess I may be overthinking this and should jsut yolo? Why is that girl you mention off-limits? are you friends since you were kids? | ||
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32157 Posts
and yeah relationships under 25 I would say do have a greater chance of failing, often spectacularly, for various reasons. doesn't mean you don't try, but just be aware of when shit is going south and be ready to act if so. | ||
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
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evilfatsh1t
Australia8915 Posts
On February 16 2016 07:51 [Phantom] wrote: whoops, made a mistake and posted this. Edit: I might as well post something now. I guess I may be overthinking this and should jsut yolo? Why is that girl you mention off-limits? are you friends since you were kids? shes a coworker and she went out with a close friend of mine like 5-6 years ago. im leaning towards doing nothing i posted the above and then i went on to read this On February 16 2016 10:54 QuanticHawk wrote: unless the reason is that she's your teacher or therapist (in which case the answer is def do it and be sure to report back for hi5s) go for it. like unless you're talking about fucking around with a coworker or a friend's ex or something, i'd say yolo. if it's a good friend, which it sounds like and you just are being weird about calling it that, you can still go back to being friends if you're both adults about it. and yeah relationships under 25 I would say do have a greater chance of failing, often spectacularly, for various reasons. doesn't mean you don't try, but just be aware of when shit is going south and be ready to act if so. i loled | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32157 Posts
On February 16 2016 11:18 IgnE wrote: You aren't going to be ready for a relationship at 30 if you aren't learning from relationships at 20. Relationships are opportunities for personal growth. yup this x100 basically all the friends i know who are that age now that didn't get their dumb rockstar relationships out of the way then are going through it now if you're dating a friend, just be extra cautious to not be a shithead and in the event of it failing, you can find a way to make it work | ||
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