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DarkPlasmaBall

United States46246 Posts

February 07 2016 01:20 GMT

#15921

On February 07 2016 10:16 docvoc wrote:

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I'm not one to pick out typos, but this one is just incredible. This needs to be in a quote box somewhere.

I honestly didn't even realize that was a typo... that's one hell of a typo to type ogres but mean orgies (presumably) lol.
Unless the typo was that it should be ogres and something else?

bloodwhore~

1010 Posts

February 07 2016 12:46 GMT

#15922

On February 07 2016 10:11 ticklishmusic wrote:
actually living under a rock for the last x years sounds pretty unique and interesting

That is a quote to live by.

RvB

Netherlands6304 Posts

February 07 2016 13:36 GMT

#15923

On February 07 2016 10:20 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:

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I honestly didn't even realize that was a typo... that's one hell of a typo to type ogres but mean orgies (presumably) lol.
Unless the typo was that it should be ogres and something else?

I actually googled 'ogres sex' to see what he meant lol. Not recommended btw.

bloodwhore~

1010 Posts

February 10 2016 21:52 GMT

#15924

Well. Next date is on Friday, we're watching a movie, most likely at her place. I suggested a bunch of different alternatives and she thought a movie sounded nice. Netflix and chill possibly?

edit: she is coming to my place

LemOn

United Kingdom8629 Posts

February 11 2016 09:09 GMT

#15925

Yeah if you play it right you should get laid close to 100% of the time when a girl agrees to come to yours beforehand.

LemOn

United Kingdom8629 Posts

February 11 2016 09:14 GMT

#15926

Also today's date - go to a transport hub, flip a coin to decide if we're taking the bus or train, and then travel to a random town or village 25-30 minutes from there, enjoying the local food/nature/awesomeness/shittyness. I've done that on my own before but should be an okay date idea too?

JoeCool

Germany2520 Posts

February 11 2016 11:06 GMT

#15927

On February 11 2016 18:14 LemOn wrote:
Also today's date - go to a transport hub, flip a coin to decide if we're taking the bus or train, and then travel to a random town or village 25-30 minutes from there, enjoying the local food/nature/awesomeness/shittyness. I've done that on my own before but should be an okay date idea too?

I seriously lol'd!

On a serious note, personally I like to keep things simple at the first date. Go out for a walk with my (her) dog, have a drink, maybe visit some local events. Sth like that, nothing special, nothing too fancy. Have little chat and see where things are going...
I actually do like your idea though, although I feel like it could be a little "too much".

Kleinmuuhg

Vanuatu4091 Posts

February 11 2016 12:06 GMT

#15928

It's not a first date for him i think

bloodwhore~

1010 Posts

February 11 2016 12:10 GMT

#15929

On February 11 2016 18:14 LemOn wrote:
Also today's date - go to a transport hub, flip a coin to decide if we're taking the bus or train, and then travel to a random town or village 25-30 minutes from there, enjoying the local food/nature/awesomeness/shittyness. I've done that on my own before but should be an okay date idea too?

Sounds like a good time and interesting!

I believe lem0n is still in a relationship unless he is keeping things from us!

LemOn

United Kingdom8629 Posts

February 11 2016 22:26 GMT

#15930

Ye same chick

And 1st dates for me strictly meet in well known public place, go to one of cool coffee places with backup stops in store in case stuff goes well

QuanticHawk

United States32157 Posts

February 11 2016 23:41 GMT

#15931

On February 11 2016 18:14 LemOn wrote:
Also today's date - go to a transport hub, flip a coin to decide if we're taking the bus or train, and then travel to a random town or village 25-30 minutes from there, enjoying the local food/nature/awesomeness/shittyness. I've done that on my own before but should be an okay date idea too?

if you're a spontaneous person who likes randomness and adventures and looking for the same hell yeah

IgnE

United States7681 Posts

February 12 2016 01:58 GMT

#15932

how can you go to a "random town or village" that's only 25-30 minutes away though? is your effective living radius like 10 minutes or something?

WarSame

Canada1950 Posts

February 12 2016 03:08 GMT

#15933

Trains can cover a fair distance in half an hour. If you live in Europe that often can bring you into another country. In Canada/the US not so much.

Laurens

Belgium4557 Posts

February 12 2016 07:39 GMT

#15934

Yeah 30 minutes can get you halfway across the country in Belgium.

Or just over the border to the Netherlands so you can do some coffeeshops lol.

Not a date I'd ever do, I like to plan everyting, but have fun

LemOn

United Kingdom8629 Posts

February 12 2016 09:14 GMT

#15935

On February 12 2016 10:58 IgnE wrote:
how can you go to a "random town or village" that's only 25-30 minutes away though? is your effective living radius like 10 minutes or something?

you go to a train station at the outskirts of a city
and 30 minutes is basically 20-40 kilometers - that's a lot of random villages and towns to cover.

We've traveled to a 40km distant 19k people small town, saw bears, went to the top of a very unsafe lookout so lost some of my manliness being scared more than her and all, had food, went to bio cafe fore dessert and went to a local shithole pub where for whisky where we got invited to play dice, had a very gay bartender, some drunk assumed I'm his best friend and everyone stared at us blatantly - overall I'd recommend this for sure, but probably for a 4th date+. When e.g. the lights go out on a train and you find yourself in a dodgy town you know it's better with someone you can trust.