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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
Acrofales
Spain18399 Posts
On February 13 2016 02:24 SCC-Faust wrote: Dang you even put it in your signature. I think it is a little harder than just changing though. Holy shit, I hadn't noticed that before. That is hilarious. Please tell me that was a sig bet, and you're not actually putting it there for the /epeen. | ||
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
On February 13 2016 02:24 SCC-Faust wrote: Dang you even put it in your signature. I think it is a little harder than just changing though. Yeah you are irreparably broken at this point. I'd start looking into a therapist for the long lonely life ahead. | ||
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Shiragaku
Hong Kong4308 Posts
On February 13 2016 02:24 SCC-Faust wrote: Dang you even put it in your signature. I think it is a little harder than just changing though. If you do put yourself out there, do not turn into bloodwhore whose logic seems to be that if he asks out tons of girls, one of them will say yes eventually. But whether you like it or not, you have to change, that is what I really hate about guys close to my age, they can only think about themselves and their previous ego and individualism. If not, listen to Igne and enjoy the lonely road ahead of you. | ||
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evilfatsh1t
Australia8915 Posts
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On February 13 2016 02:24 SCC-Faust wrote: Dang you even put it in your signature. I think it is a little harder than just changing though. Of course, you have to put in some effort in trying to meet girls, but it's actually kinda fun after a while. On February 13 2016 07:48 Acrofales wrote: Dang you even put it in your signature. I think it is a little harder than just changing though. Holy shit, I hadn't noticed that before. That is hilarious. Please tell me that was a sig bet, and you're not actually putting it there for the /epeen.[/QUOTE] HAAHAHAH, I actually changed it after I read his comment. I had "Currently dating: [Name]" in the signature before. I practically only post in this thread so it's just you guys who see it  It was so you guys can easier keep track of how I am doing :D | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On February 13 2016 11:17 Shiragaku wrote: If you do put yourself out there, do not turn into bloodwhore whose logic seems to be that if he asks out tons of girls, one of them will say yes eventually. But whether you like it or not, you have to change, that is what I really hate about guys close to my age, they can only think about themselves and their previous ego and individualism. If not, listen to Igne and enjoy the lonely road ahead of you. Ask out tons of girls? I haven't ask out tons of girls, I have dated 11 girls the last year, 5 of which I only met once. That's less than one per month, not a lot in my opinion. Lem0n is the one who thinks you should approach it with more of a pua style, chat up tons of women. To be fair, depending on what you are looking for, this is probably a good idea. Going for my tinder approach isn't that great if you're looking for a relationship since the majority are not strictly looking for relationships this way. Furthermore, trying to look for that one unicorn who you have a crush on is definitely not the way. | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On February 13 2016 11:17 Shiragaku wrote: If you do put yourself out there, do not turn into bloodwhore whose logic seems to be that if he asks out tons of girls, one of them will say yes eventually. That logic is 100% correct. You're not compatible with vast majority of people if you look at marriage satisfactions, divorce rates... statistically speaking you have to put your honest true self out there and ask out/date a large amount of people to find someone who's truly long term compatible with you. So yeah, you keep seeing and asking loads of women, you're honest and put the real you there and judge if they are compatible with you enough, and sooner or later you will find one where the yes is mutual. Simple statistics | ||
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GreenHorizons
United States24205 Posts
On February 13 2016 20:32 LemOn wrote: That logic is 100% correct. You're not compatible with vast majority of people if you look at marriage satisfactions, divorce rates... statistically speaking you have to put your honest true self out there and ask out/date a large amount of people to find someone who's truly long term compatible with you. So yeah, you keep seeing and asking loads of women, you're honest and put the real you there and judge if they are compatible with you enough, and sooner or later you will find one where the yes is mutual. Simple statistics That makes it sound so easy. I can think of some nuance that is the source of much of the consternation, but it's good advice, so I won't crap on people's parade. | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On February 13 2016 19:21 bloodwhore~ wrote: Ask out tons of girls? I haven't ask out tons of girls, I have dated 11 girls the last year, 5 of which I only met once. That's less than one per month, not a lot in my opinion. Lem0n is the one who thinks you should approach it with more of a pua style, chat up tons of women. To be fair, depending on what you are looking for, this is probably a good idea. Going for my tinder approach isn't that great if you're looking for a relationship since the majority are not strictly looking for relationships this way. Furthermore, trying to look for that one unicorn who you have a crush on is definitely not the way. I think PUA stuff is good for the very beginning to give you the illusion of confidence - it's hard to be your honest true self when you're a virgin for example as you'll be nervous as fuck. And you won't know what to look for in the first place so the goal oriented approach works as a decent crutch. But after you do get comfortable you just put the honest raw self out there with loads of women with no goals, and simply walk from most of them without second thought until you find one with really high mutual compatibility with your honest self. | ||
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Shiragaku
Hong Kong4308 Posts
On February 13 2016 20:32 LemOn wrote: That logic is 100% correct. You're not compatible with vast majority of people if you look at marriage satisfactions, divorce rates... statistically speaking you have to put your honest true self out there and ask out/date a large amount of people to find someone who's truly long term compatible with you. So yeah, you keep seeing and asking loads of women, you're honest and put the real you there and judge if they are compatible with you enough, and sooner or later you will find one where the yes is mutual. Simple statistics If you are talking about simple dates such as a dinner or movie, I agree but anything past that seems like a PUA game or both parties missing red flags about one another. | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On February 14 2016 07:37 Shiragaku wrote: If you are talking about simple dates such as a dinner or movie, I agree but anything past that seems like a PUA game or both parties missing red flags about one another. What do you mean? I was talking about getting into orbit of loads of women you find attractive, being boldly yourself, choosing the ones you're compatible with mutually. And then parting ways once the red flags do come up. And yeah I don't make a distinction between saying hello and long sex sessions - with some people it takes longer with some shorter time to get to know they and see if you're a good fit or not. sex etc. itself is just natural part of getting to know someone. | ||
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WarSame
Canada1950 Posts
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
On February 14 2016 08:53 WarSame wrote: Here's a reddit post theorizing about why men don't like fictional romances nearly the same as women do. Wow. A good summary of why I currently stay away from dating with reasons I didn't even realized. And now I am bitter. Interesting post though and an interesting point of view. | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On February 14 2016 08:53 WarSame wrote: Here's a reddit post theorizing about why men don't like fictional romances nearly the same as women do. Yeah that was very accurate, women are indeed passive creatures when it comes to dating. | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
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JoeCool
Germany2520 Posts
On February 13 2016 19:21 bloodwhore~ wrote: Ask out tons of girls? I haven't ask out tons of girls, I have dated 11 girls the last year, 5 of which I only met once. That's less than one per month, not a lot in my opinion. Lem0n is the one who thinks you should approach it with more of a pua style, chat up tons of women. To be fair, depending on what you are looking for, this is probably a good idea. Going for my tinder approach isn't that great if you're looking for a relationship since the majority are not strictly looking for relationships this way. Furthermore, trying to look for that one unicorn who you have a crush on is definitely not the way. Don't know but whenever I read your stories I feel like you are a desperate person... | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On February 14 2016 19:32 JoeCool wrote: Don't know but whenever I read your stories I feel like you are a desperate person... Can you give an example? | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On February 14 2016 10:21 waffelz wrote: Wow. A good summary of why I currently stay away from dating with reasons I didn't even realized. And now I am bitter. Interesting post though and an interesting point of view. Eh? Why'd you stay away from dating? That first long response summed it up pretty well, thread seems positive. The first post is what media/books impose on you not what works in reality. But vast majority of women love to chase, even though in their passive "get into your orbit way", all you need to do is learn how to read the signals and you'll see that women are actually active pursuers if you give them the space. | ||
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Skynx
Turkey7150 Posts
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