EPTbut talking to her about it seems like a good idea.
I just don't want to break up a relationship that long without even trying to fix it.. I'll post another answer the following days
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amaDeus
Germany205 Posts
but talking to her about it seems like a good idea. I just don't want to break up a relationship that long without even trying to fix it.. I'll post another answer the following days | ||
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ZapRoffo
United States5544 Posts
On March 10 2014 09:15 Mensol wrote: im so dumb looool. She told me that her weekends are so boring. It was too late when i realized she wanted me to invite her for weekend ;_; Ya that's like the #1 most obvious signal to ask someone out, but is there like some reason you can't now for next weekend or something? | ||
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Chocolate
United States2350 Posts
NVM please disregard I just told her to stop being a goofball OK I may as well make this post count so here goes: this girl wants to do an LDR. Fortunately, though, she lives pretty close to where I am probably going to college (not because of her). I am thinking of going for it because she is pretty nice, pretty hot, pretty rich, and relatively smart. But I feel like I would be distrustful (mostly because I think she is more attractive than me) and that I'd be limiting myself. She wants me to visit her on long weekends though. so: yes or no? I'm not getting catfished, she is real | ||
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aTnClouD
Italy2428 Posts
On March 10 2014 09:50 Chocolate wrote: What do you do when a girl is doing the thing where she keeps going on about how she isn't good enough for you? I don't want to keep doing this whole "fake insecurity for complimentz" thing but I gotta stop this shit diplomatically NVM please disregard I just told her to stop being a goofball OK I may as well make this post count so here goes: this girl wants to do an LDR. Fortunately, though, she lives pretty close to where I am probably going to college (not because of her). I am thinking of going for it because she is pretty nice, pretty hot, pretty rich, and relatively smart. But I feel like I would be distrustful (mostly because I think she is more attractive than me) and that I'd be limiting myself. She wants me to visit her on long weekends though. so: yes or no? I'm not getting catfished, she is real Most hot girls cheat on their boyfriends when they go out at night because they have too many fun options. You either accept it and take what you can get from her and the awesome experience or just be insecure the whole time. It's up to you. Also, there's a huge chance she thinks you are on her level or better since she wants you, why would you stress yourself thinking she's more attractive than you? It's a mindset that doesn't serve any practical purpose other than harming yourself. This said, it's always better to try things that might fail rather than not doing them and regret later. When you do stuff you always learn something new about the world, other people and yourself. If you choose not to take risks you just learn how to be a pussy. | ||
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aTnClouD
Italy2428 Posts
On March 09 2014 20:57 amaDeus wrote: yo seeking some advice from ppl who have (maybe) been in the same spot. i've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for ~3 1/2 years. its a long distance (~250km, so not too bad, we see each other every second weekend and when we both have vacation from university) relationship and its working out fine. we never had any real trouble or big fights, as we are both too lazy or not willing to fight and rather just say "it's my own fault" and we try to solve the issue. she's like the perfect fit for me. same humour, pretty, kinda thinks the same way, accepts my hobbies,... i just got the problem that i cant say 100% to myself that i truly love her anymore. i don't know. i like to hang out with her, i'd be the last one to hurt her. i don't know how to describe it. when we don't see each other for e.g. 2 weeks i dont have a big anticipation and i don't miss her as much as she misses me. she's my first girlfriend (and vice versa), i'm 20. i'm not sure about my feelings and i dont know if i want to spent the rest of my life with her. any advice how i can sort out my feelings? You have no necessity to spend the rest of your life with someone. If she's good for you after 3 1/2 years and you are happy with her you should stay with her. The key thing is that you have absolutely no need to push further something that works out just fine for you, it usually backfires. If you think you'd rather spend your time with her somewhere else break up. | ||
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xDaunt
United States17988 Posts
On March 10 2014 09:15 Mensol wrote: im so dumb looool. She told me that her weekends are so boring. It was too late when i realized she wanted me to invite her for weekend ;_; One time, a girl that I had just started dating asked me "what kind of bed that I had." I was too retarded to understand what she was really asking me at the time. I wised up quick, though. A few months later, a girl that I took out on a sunbathing trip informed me that she wanted a "nap" on the way home. I was all over that one. =) | ||
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Chocolate
United States2350 Posts
On March 10 2014 10:55 aTnClouD wrote: Most hot girls cheat on their boyfriends when they go out at night because they have too many fun options. You either accept it and take what you can get from her and the awesome experience or just be insecure the whole time. It's up to you. Also, there's a huge chance she thinks you are on her level or better since she wants you, why would you stress yourself thinking she's more attractive than you? It's a mindset that doesn't serve any practical purpose other than harming yourself. This said, it's always better to try things that might fail rather than not doing them and regret later. When you do stuff you always learn something new about the world, other people and yourself. If you choose not to take risks you just learn how to be a pussy. She told me she doesn't like parties (I have no way of knowing how true this is) so I guess that's good. I do think saying most hot girls cheat is probably being a little generous, though. Yeah I think she does really want me since she keeps telling me that she wants to see me and other stuff... I don't know, maybe I'm just really insecure about my appearance but I feel inadequate when I look at her. I guess since she seems to really be in to me I shouldn't be, but I am. I haven't known her for a while but she doesn't seem too keen on getting sexual... don't know if that is a good thing or a bad thing. I guess I'll go for it. I was really only worried about maybe missing out on girls at my uni and just focusing on this one that lives just a little too far away to see regularly. | ||
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aTnClouD
Italy2428 Posts
On March 10 2014 11:18 Chocolate wrote: She told me she doesn't like parties (I have no way of knowing how true this is) so I guess that's good. I do think saying most hot girls cheat is probably being a little generous, though. Yeah I think she does really want me since she keeps telling me that she wants to see me and other stuff... I don't know, maybe I'm just really insecure about my appearance but I feel inadequate when I look at her. I guess since she seems to really be in to me I shouldn't be, but I am. I haven't known her for a while but she doesn't seem too keen on getting sexual... don't know if that is a good thing or a bad thing. I guess I'll go for it. I was really only worried about maybe missing out on girls at my uni and just focusing on this one that lives just a little too far away to see regularly. She likes you. That's all you need to know. Women do not evaluate men the same way we do with them. They couldn't give the slightiest fuck about your looks if you have an attitude that fits their tastes. Chances are she will keep thinking you are attractive if you keep acting the same way you did so far. Regarding the sexual thing, I suggest you watch this: It's one of many PUA videos, but it might give you some important knowledge you still need to get physical with a girl. | ||
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KaiserKieran
United States615 Posts
The first thing I said "was way to go xyz" (not the girl the guy) because he's a super chill and nice guy whom I'm friends with so I was kind of proud of him even though I shouldn't be I guess... We weren't going out or anything (and I'm guessing won't) but I feel wierd because I had asked her out the day before and she said she was busy with friendsss and I though ok I understand. I'm not sure what's gonna happen next. I'm not even that mad about it more disappointed that my friends didn't tell me until a week later but I know why they kept it away from me. Tomorrow is going to be a wierd day but I guess that's just hs. | ||
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Doodsmack
United States7224 Posts
It seems like a complex thing to figure out the source of the anxiety. Or if it is something else entirely, such as an over reliance on masturbation in life to achieve arousal. But that should just be bs since there are times when I can get it rock hard just by thought, which should be every time with a girl. It's all psychological. Now I am distraught with worry that this will be a long term problem. I hate my mind. | ||
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Chocolate
United States2350 Posts
On March 10 2014 11:25 aTnClouD wrote: She likes you. That's all you need to know. Women do not evaluate men the same way we do with them. They couldn't give the slightiest fuck about your looks if you have an attitude that fits their tastes. Chances are she will keep thinking you are attractive if you keep acting the same way you did so far. Regarding the sexual thing, I suggest you watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qigOUdAOyRs It's one of many PUA videos, but it might give you some important knowledge you still need to get physical with a girl. OK I talked to her a bit more and I brought her out of her shell a little bit so it's all good I guess. I learned from the last girl that liked me and I didn't really need the video. To be honest though I'm not a huge subscriber to the whole "get your dick wet with as many girls as possible" philosophy espoused by PUAs though. She told me that she wants to sit on my lap and make out with me so I'd say I advanced pretty well. You gave me courage though, so thanks But really, if someone asked me to evaluate her looks and my own I'd say she is a 9, I'm a 6. It just feels bizarre | ||
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
On March 10 2014 12:40 Doodsmack wrote: Met a girl at a party last night and hooked up with her. I had what I think was performance anxiety, but maybe was mixed with tiredness and drunkenness, but it took me forever to get it up. Eventually we did go, and in the morning we went 3 times. But every time with her and other girls recently I've felt the need to battle off thoughts of performance anxiety. That can take you to a very dark place when lying next to a girl. I am able to eventually make it happen but it takes away from the experience. It seems like a complex thing to figure out the source of the anxiety. Or if it is something else entirely, such as an over reliance on masturbation in life to achieve arousal. But that should just be bs since there are times when I can get it rock hard just by thought, which should be every time with a girl. It's all psychological. Now I am distraught with worry that this will be a long term problem. I hate my mind. In my experience surrounding sex problems, the more you think about it the less focused your mind is on the actual sex and this can lead to problems. So my advice would be to set your mind to not give a fuck about your performance and just do whatever you wish to do that you think is good and enjoy it. | ||
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Mensol
14536 Posts
On March 10 2014 09:36 ZapRoffo wrote: Ya that's like the #1 most obvious signal to ask someone out, but is there like some reason you can't now for next weekend or something? Well she barely speaks to me nowadays. Maybe she thought i dont want her because i didnt ask her for date >_< in fact, i like her too :< | ||
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arb
Noobville17922 Posts
On March 09 2014 17:54 Kiett wrote: maybe you should try men then. i like men and my life is great. like seriously, women are so fucking annoying. they're always whining and complaining and crying and asking for money and wanting cats and jewelry and babies and stupid shit like that. i could never see myself dating a girl. females are just horrible creatures. Actually had a guy i used to work with who had like 3 kids but married a man for the following reason : "I love women and i love pussy but i cant deal with that god damn attitude so i settled for a man" | ||
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Orcasgt24
Canada3238 Posts
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dravernor
Netherlands6192 Posts
On March 10 2014 20:25 Orcasgt24 wrote: I think I am proud of myself? I am a massive sucker for cute redheads and a cute redhead was at work tonight standing at my desk in the poker room chatting with me and being quite flirty. Her BF was playing. I did not ask for a phone number even though I probably get a damn near guaranteed date if I do. Why are all the good ones taken You think she'd go on a date with you even though she has a boyfriend? | ||
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levelping
Singapore759 Posts
On March 10 2014 12:40 Doodsmack wrote: Met a girl at a party last night and hooked up with her. I had what I think was performance anxiety, but maybe was mixed with tiredness and drunkenness, but it took me forever to get it up. Eventually we did go, and in the morning we went 3 times. But every time with her and other girls recently I've felt the need to battle off thoughts of performance anxiety. That can take you to a very dark place when lying next to a girl. I am able to eventually make it happen but it takes away from the experience. It seems like a complex thing to figure out the source of the anxiety. Or if it is something else entirely, such as an over reliance on masturbation in life to achieve arousal. But that should just be bs since there are times when I can get it rock hard just by thought, which should be every time with a girl. It's all psychological. Now I am distraught with worry that this will be a long term problem. I hate my mind. Hey don't worry it happens to everyone. Learning to be good at cunnilingus is a good back up plan lol. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32163 Posts
On March 10 2014 10:55 aTnClouD wrote: Most hot girls cheat on their boyfriends when they go out at night because they have too many fun options. You either accept it and take what you can get from her and the awesome experience or just be insecure the whole time. It's up to you. Also, there's a huge chance she thinks you are on her level or better since she wants you, why would you stress yourself thinking she's more attractive than you? It's a mindset that doesn't serve any practical purpose other than harming yourself. This said, it's always better to try things that might fail rather than not doing them and regret later. When you do stuff you always learn something new about the world, other people and yourself. If you choose not to take risks you just learn how to be a pussy. Chocolate, I think you should listen to the 26 year old PUA who tries (and fails) to mack high schoolers, describes women as girls, and generalizes the opposite sex every chance he gets | ||
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farvacola
United States18876 Posts
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Netherlands4921 Posts
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