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On February 15 2014 04:26 Najda wrote:Show nested quote +On February 15 2014 04:07 SixStrings wrote:On February 15 2014 03:29 Najda wrote:On February 15 2014 03:09 SixStrings wrote: Send an anonymous card to a girl who said she wasn't banging anyone but me at the moment. She didn't mention the card, so I take it she's banging someone else and not sure who of us send it to her. Lame. Or she thinks it's just a secret admirer and doesn't think it's worth mentioning. This sounds like one of those shit-tests puas always talk about girls doing. I didn't mean it as a test. On February 15 2014 03:51 LeeDawg wrote: I'm going with the latter. Good call. It's completely true, but I'm not sure I'm reading it right. Man you guys really won't let me forget about that one little screwup of mine... It sounded like you sent the letter to her as a test to see if she was dating anyone else.
No, I just found a motive I knew she would appreciate, because it hits her humour right at the mark:
![[image loading]](http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/498/750/dd3.jpg) So I had it printed on fancy paper etc., cut it out, put it on a nice card etc.
No vile intent. But then I got thinking...
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On February 15 2014 06:53 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On February 15 2014 04:26 Najda wrote:On February 15 2014 04:07 SixStrings wrote:On February 15 2014 03:29 Najda wrote:On February 15 2014 03:09 SixStrings wrote: Send an anonymous card to a girl who said she wasn't banging anyone but me at the moment. She didn't mention the card, so I take it she's banging someone else and not sure who of us send it to her. Lame. Or she thinks it's just a secret admirer and doesn't think it's worth mentioning. This sounds like one of those shit-tests puas always talk about girls doing. I didn't mean it as a test. On February 15 2014 03:51 LeeDawg wrote: I'm going with the latter. Good call. It's completely true, but I'm not sure I'm reading it right. Man you guys really won't let me forget about that one little screwup of mine... It sounded like you sent the letter to her as a test to see if she was dating anyone else. No, I just found a motive I knew she would appreciate, because it hits her humour right at the mark: ![[image loading]](http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/498/750/dd3.jpg) So I had it printed on fancy paper etc., cut it out, put it on a nice card etc. No vile intent. But then I got thinking...
You just made this day for me....glad to see your (sort of)gf appreciates dark humour
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Nice picture. Flying shark is the best!
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Northern Ireland23866 Posts
Hahahha SixStrings, where did you find that?
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On February 15 2014 06:53 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On February 15 2014 04:26 Najda wrote:On February 15 2014 04:07 SixStrings wrote:On February 15 2014 03:29 Najda wrote:On February 15 2014 03:09 SixStrings wrote: Send an anonymous card to a girl who said she wasn't banging anyone but me at the moment. She didn't mention the card, so I take it she's banging someone else and not sure who of us send it to her. Lame. Or she thinks it's just a secret admirer and doesn't think it's worth mentioning. This sounds like one of those shit-tests puas always talk about girls doing. I didn't mean it as a test. On February 15 2014 03:51 LeeDawg wrote: I'm going with the latter. Good call. It's completely true, but I'm not sure I'm reading it right. Man you guys really won't let me forget about that one little screwup of mine... It sounded like you sent the letter to her as a test to see if she was dating anyone else. No, I just found a motive I knew she would appreciate, because it hits her humour right at the mark: ![[image loading]](http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/498/750/dd3.jpg) So I had it printed on fancy paper etc., cut it out, put it on a nice card etc. No vile intent. But then I got thinking...
Just curious, were you the same person who posted in this thread a while back about initiating conversation with strangers on the train with "It feels like we're on the way to Auschwitz" ?
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Netherlands6175 Posts
On February 15 2014 06:53 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On February 15 2014 04:26 Najda wrote:On February 15 2014 04:07 SixStrings wrote:On February 15 2014 03:29 Najda wrote:On February 15 2014 03:09 SixStrings wrote: Send an anonymous card to a girl who said she wasn't banging anyone but me at the moment. She didn't mention the card, so I take it she's banging someone else and not sure who of us send it to her. Lame. Or she thinks it's just a secret admirer and doesn't think it's worth mentioning. This sounds like one of those shit-tests puas always talk about girls doing. I didn't mean it as a test. On February 15 2014 03:51 LeeDawg wrote: I'm going with the latter. Good call. It's completely true, but I'm not sure I'm reading it right. Man you guys really won't let me forget about that one little screwup of mine... It sounded like you sent the letter to her as a test to see if she was dating anyone else. No, I just found a motive I knew she would appreciate, because it hits her humour right at the mark: ![[image loading]](http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/498/750/dd3.jpg) So I had it printed on fancy paper etc., cut it out, put it on a nice card etc. No vile intent. But then I got thinking...
Lolol, wat. That card is both awful and amazing. And has undertones of incest, considering they were the 'twin towers'.
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On February 15 2014 12:04 Najda wrote:Show nested quote +On February 15 2014 06:53 SixStrings wrote:On February 15 2014 04:26 Najda wrote:On February 15 2014 04:07 SixStrings wrote:On February 15 2014 03:29 Najda wrote:On February 15 2014 03:09 SixStrings wrote: Send an anonymous card to a girl who said she wasn't banging anyone but me at the moment. She didn't mention the card, so I take it she's banging someone else and not sure who of us send it to her. Lame. Or she thinks it's just a secret admirer and doesn't think it's worth mentioning. This sounds like one of those shit-tests puas always talk about girls doing. I didn't mean it as a test. On February 15 2014 03:51 LeeDawg wrote: I'm going with the latter. Good call. It's completely true, but I'm not sure I'm reading it right. Man you guys really won't let me forget about that one little screwup of mine... It sounded like you sent the letter to her as a test to see if she was dating anyone else. No, I just found a motive I knew she would appreciate, because it hits her humour right at the mark: ![[image loading]](http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/498/750/dd3.jpg) So I had it printed on fancy paper etc., cut it out, put it on a nice card etc. No vile intent. But then I got thinking... Just curious, were you the same person who posted in this thread a while back about initiating conversation with strangers on the train with "It feels like we're on the way to Auschwitz" ?
I am. But it was a very crowded tram.
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On February 15 2014 19:08 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On February 15 2014 12:04 Najda wrote:On February 15 2014 06:53 SixStrings wrote:On February 15 2014 04:26 Najda wrote:On February 15 2014 04:07 SixStrings wrote:On February 15 2014 03:29 Najda wrote:On February 15 2014 03:09 SixStrings wrote: Send an anonymous card to a girl who said she wasn't banging anyone but me at the moment. She didn't mention the card, so I take it she's banging someone else and not sure who of us send it to her. Lame. Or she thinks it's just a secret admirer and doesn't think it's worth mentioning. This sounds like one of those shit-tests puas always talk about girls doing. I didn't mean it as a test. On February 15 2014 03:51 LeeDawg wrote: I'm going with the latter. Good call. It's completely true, but I'm not sure I'm reading it right. Man you guys really won't let me forget about that one little screwup of mine... It sounded like you sent the letter to her as a test to see if she was dating anyone else. No, I just found a motive I knew she would appreciate, because it hits her humour right at the mark: ![[image loading]](http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/498/750/dd3.jpg) So I had it printed on fancy paper etc., cut it out, put it on a nice card etc. No vile intent. But then I got thinking... Just curious, were you the same person who posted in this thread a while back about initiating conversation with strangers on the train with "It feels like we're on the way to Auschwitz" ? I am. But it was a very crowded tram.
I'm glad you were able to find someone with your same sense of humor then.
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So I went on an amazing valentines day date yesterday. Both of us weren't single when we met, then I got broken up with. She was in a long distance thing, so we were hanging out together/semi flirting pretty often. Three weeks ago she got broken up with, and we've flirted pretty hard since. The date was awesome and we definitely got involved, but both of us agree we aren't ready for a relationship again so soon. Gosh there's a lot of feels here it's almost exhausting.
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Tried the dating game a couple of times, one of them lasting for almost three years with two of them spent living together. Now I've been single for the past couple of years and can't really say I miss being in a relationship, besides the no-effort sex. Now I got all the time to myself (well, barring my 8 to 16 job of course) to do as I wish and couldn't be happier. I'm not saying I'm completely out of the game yet, let's just say I'm not actively looking for someone but won't turn down an interesting opportunity.
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On February 16 2014 05:10 DoctorM wrote: So I went on an amazing valentines day date yesterday. Both of us weren't single when we met, then I got broken up with. She was in a long distance thing, so we were hanging out together/semi flirting pretty often. Three weeks ago she got broken up with, and we've flirted pretty hard since. The date was awesome and we definitely got involved, but both of us agree we aren't ready for a relationship again so soon. Gosh there's a lot of feels here it's almost exhausting.
Nice man, I think you are in a good spot with her. But it is good you guys don't rush into a relationship, don't wanna be "the rebound" you want to be the slam dunk haha. Also that card was pretty awesome that is pictured here.
The girl I like I sent flowers too her work she was so excited and happy. I guess 2 other guys sent her flowers too for that holiday she told me this but I felt like she made a point to say mine stood out. She put them up on facebook and everything so that is cool. But I finally got my answer with her...She isn't ready for a relationship as she wants to focus on her life, and she just wants a good friend. Which is a cool way of saying well I don't wanna date you now, but I want you in my life still..so whatever. So I guess we are still close friends I mean we text daily. It is tough because I thought holy shit she likes me more than a friend with the way she acted around me. I will say I don't regret anything I did for her, or said. But I have to step back and take it day by day and not get ahead of myself, maybe find another love interest. Maybe it will work out with her or not I think it was pretty brave to tell a person I am good friends with that I have feelings for, risking everything our friendship is. But it is stressful just wondering about where I stand, can I do anything to win her heart, or get ahead of the other guys....so fuck it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have other things to worry about right now, like studying for exams (last semester woot!). So once I am done studying for the day I am going to go play Diablo 3 or maybe go pick up the new Final Fantasy 13-3 and see how bad it is.
(P.S thanks for letting me post this feels better to get it out of my system, maybe it will serve to remind me if I ever feel self doubt)
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On February 15 2014 03:41 dravernor wrote: Also gl with your fiance today! :D
Thanks! I picked him up yesterday and now he's at my apartment while I'm at work. I never have to send him back agaaaaiiiinnnn!!!!
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So I did a delayed V-day (on sunday instead of friday) because since I wanted to make some fancy cooking I needed to go buy some food but since it was snowing hard on friday I said fuck that we'll do it on sunday (saturday I was playing boardgames).
So I went today. Bought my stuff and replicated a recipe.
Totally gonna brag but it was excellent. My low cooking skills somehow paid off after 1 hour and a half of preparation(+ cook time) and girlfriend was in shock. Went all emo on me, crying, saying her heart could burst. Well yes, I guess it was that good. Even though I completely forgot to get some fire for the candle and it sat there the whole diner... unlit !
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So on Valentines Day I officially got out of the friend zone with my best friend of 4 years. Probably one of the best or worst decisions I have made in my life so far. I dunno what the protocol is now though. Do I now just act like we have been dating for years and treat it as a super serious relationship or keep it more casual? My life just got a whole lot more complicated XD
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On February 17 2014 17:31 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: So on Valentines Day I officially got out of the friend zone with my best friend of 4 years. Probably one of the best or worst decisions I have made in my life so far. I dunno what the protocol is now though. Do I now just act like we have been dating for years and treat it as a super serious relationship or keep it more casual? My life just got a whole lot more complicated XD
If you guys alrdy hanged out a ton, just add kissing/hugging/fucking into the mix and do normal couple things. Buy her flowers and shit. You don't need to go through the awkward first date kind of stuff at all, this person is alrdy cool with you so just act like boyfriend and girlfriend.
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On February 17 2014 17:37 Zooper31 wrote:Show nested quote +On February 17 2014 17:31 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: So on Valentines Day I officially got out of the friend zone with my best friend of 4 years. Probably one of the best or worst decisions I have made in my life so far. I dunno what the protocol is now though. Do I now just act like we have been dating for years and treat it as a super serious relationship or keep it more casual? My life just got a whole lot more complicated XD If you guys alrdy hanged out a ton, just add kissing/hugging/fucking into the mix and do normal couple things. Buy her flowers and shit. You don't need to go through the awkward first date kind of stuff at all, this person is alrdy cool with you so just act like boyfriend and girlfriend. Don't underestimate the irrational woman.
Had the same thing last year (twice actually) were I finally hooked up with my best friend after 6 years and it got serious. Keeping it normal is a good idea, that is, if she doesnt change her behavour in relationships....
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On February 17 2014 17:47 Eisregen wrote:Show nested quote +On February 17 2014 17:37 Zooper31 wrote:On February 17 2014 17:31 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: So on Valentines Day I officially got out of the friend zone with my best friend of 4 years. Probably one of the best or worst decisions I have made in my life so far. I dunno what the protocol is now though. Do I now just act like we have been dating for years and treat it as a super serious relationship or keep it more casual? My life just got a whole lot more complicated XD If you guys alrdy hanged out a ton, just add kissing/hugging/fucking into the mix and do normal couple things. Buy her flowers and shit. You don't need to go through the awkward first date kind of stuff at all, this person is alrdy cool with you so just act like boyfriend and girlfriend. Don't underestimate the irrational woman. Had the same thing last year (twice actually) were I finally hooked up with my best friend after 6 years and it got serious. Keeping it normal is a good idea, that is, if she doesnt change her behavour in relationships....
Why irrational women? People in general are irrational, including you. Don't start overthinking stuff.
And you hooked up with your 2 best friends?
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Any ideas on how i can get on my girlfriend's parents good side? They are somewhat dismissive of me because they both have doctorates and i never finished high school. I own a house and make a good amount of money to comfortably support me and my gf so I don't really get what her parents big deal is. Its not like im trying to stop her from going to college but school was never my thing.
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On February 18 2014 12:06 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: Any ideas on how i can get on my girlfriend's parents good side? They are somewhat dismissive of me because they both have doctorates and i never finished high school. I own a house and make a good amount of money to comfortably support me and my gf so I don't really get what her parents big deal is. Its not like im trying to stop her from going to college but school was never my thing. Good job? Check Financially Stable? Check Owns a house? Check Go to College? XXXX Cannt date my daughter!!
^Parent logic. I don't think you can win them over personally unless you waste time and money going back to school.
$20 bucks says they are asian :p
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On February 18 2014 12:40 Orcasgt24 wrote:Show nested quote +On February 18 2014 12:06 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: Any ideas on how i can get on my girlfriend's parents good side? They are somewhat dismissive of me because they both have doctorates and i never finished high school. I own a house and make a good amount of money to comfortably support me and my gf so I don't really get what her parents big deal is. Its not like im trying to stop her from going to college but school was never my thing. Good job? Check Financially Stable? Check Owns a house? Check Go to College? XXXX Cannt date my daughter!! ^Parent logic. I don't think you can win them over personally unless you waste time and money going back to school. $20 bucks says they are asian :p Actually her parents are Afgan. They were both scientists in Iran during the 70's and were able to gain American citizenship somehow because the US was in desperate need of scientists back then and the situation in Iran was getting ugly at the end of the decade.
Mabye its just because im a white guy dating an middle eastern girl and they think im an infidel
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