EPTAnyway thanks for all the advice!
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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SafeWord
United States522 Posts
Anyway thanks for all the advice! | ||
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Shotcoder
United States2316 Posts
Was talking to her again today, told her I was being completely sincere I was interested in seeing and getting to no her but I wasn't looking for a commitment thing, just to hang out and get to know eachother. She smiled and told me she didn't forget and told me she was still thinking about it. That gave me a positive vibe. The fact she said she was "thinking about it". But who knows, we'll see where it goes from here I guess lol Edit: LOL woke up to a text asking if I wanted to go to dinner. | ||
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ZapRoffo
United States5544 Posts
On January 24 2014 21:05 WonnaPlay wrote: Be very carefull when going for such a girl. She has already mentioned that she see's you as a friend. Cuddling, kissing etc is a thing which a girl might do just to see whatsup. She might seem into you for a while, but in the meantime would be just waiting for another guy and "settling" with you. Cute girls are by far the most dangerous since they give you the "Hey, I could marry this girl"-feeling, whilst just leaning you on. Ofcourse that said, when that is clear just enjoy the time you have with her, however don't fall in love in that case. The assumptions you make of "lets give this thing a go" might just be "hey, this guy is pretty cute for the time being", so try to be straight forward with your intentions and find out what hers are. Aside from all this, congrats :D Hmm, so update, we are "official" and exclusive now, as far as I can tell she's very into it. I guess I'm jumping into this, lets see how it goes. | ||
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
On February 01 2014 15:35 Shotcoder wrote: Been talking to the girl I said I was intrigued by earlier in the thread. Eventually asked if she wanted to go out...First response was "I"m not saying no but let me think about it" then she gave me some long explanation about how she didn't want to shoot me down but she wasnt ready for any sort of commitment and she hasn't really dated anyone. So I was kinda disappointed because I kinda took that as a no, Was talking to her again today, told her I was being completely sincere I was interested in seeing and getting to no her but I wasn't looking for a commitment thing, just to hang out and get to know eachother. She smiled and told me she didn't forget and told me she was still thinking about it. That gave me a positive vibe. The fact she said she was "thinking about it". But who knows, we'll see where it goes from here I guess lol Edit: LOL woke up to a text asking if I wanted to go to dinner. Your comeback (second paragraph) was good. Kept your ground rather than backing down or being whiny, simply stating you were interested to know her and whatever comes of it. And this time it paid off. Good luck for what's next and keep the attitude going. | ||
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Shotcoder
United States2316 Posts
On February 02 2014 03:31 rezoacken wrote: Your comeback (second paragraph) was good. Kept your ground rather than backing down or being whiny, simply stating you were interested to know her and whatever comes of it. And this time it paid off. Good luck for what's next and keep the attitude going. Went to dinner, spent 5 hours chatting with her...pretty successful night I believe. | ||
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xDaunt
United States17988 Posts
On February 02 2014 15:23 Shotcoder wrote: Went to dinner, spent 5 hours chatting with her...pretty successful night I believe. Did you kiss her? If you spend that long chatting with her, you better at least give her a goodnight kiss on the cheek. EDIT: Just looked up at the prior posts regarding how this came about. I guess it depends upon how the vibe of the date went. That said, you better kiss her next time (if there is a next time). | ||
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Shotcoder
United States2316 Posts
On February 02 2014 15:43 xDaunt wrote: Did you kiss her? If you spend that long chatting with her, you better at least give her a goodnight kiss on the cheek. EDIT: Just looked up at the prior posts regarding how this came about. I guess it depends upon how the vibe of the date went. That said, you better kiss her next time (if there is a next time). Nah, but I walked her to her car and she said she wanted to do it again sometime. So there's that! I didn't really feel it would have been appropriate, this was more of a feeling things out and finding out what each other is about(since we've worked together for awhile in different department but haven't really talked about outside of work things). Or At least that's what I gathered. | ||
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LeeDawg
United States1306 Posts
summary of my old posts: I chased a girl I work with pretty hard. At first she was only interested in being friends. The more we talked, though, the more interested she got. We went on a few dates, and I invited her over one night and I made her dinner, we ended up making out. Things continued to progress well for the most part. Then one night, since we work at a restaurant/bar, I got drunk after clocking out, she was working (she's a waitress, I work in the kitchen.) She finished her shift and sat down next to me. I got upset, partially due to the booze, and partially due to her seeming flaky about the whole "situation." I blew up at her which is something I basically never ever do and stormed off. We had a conversation on the phone after I sobered up a bit, but I was still pissed, and told her it wasn't going to work right now. New Shit that's happened since: Next day, she's not working, I am. She gets white girl wasted, which is honestly pretty normal for all our employees, on occasion, and after I close up and sit at the bar, she comes over to me repeatedly, even though I'm being quite cold to her. She says a few times "I just want to be near you" but, since I'm in total douche mode, I just ignore her some more. She breaks down, sobbing crying at the opposite end of the bar with her best friend consoling her and leaves. NOW I feel bad. Next day I get into contact with her and apologize. We start seeing each other again, and shit has been getting progressively more serious over the last 3 weeks. We've gone on 'normal' dates to movies and such, and we've had a few nights in at her place, since she gets the house to herself more frequently than I do. Friday we had sex for the first time. We're still not exclusive, since we both want to be 1000% prepared for that, although I know she is really into me, and I really dig her. This would be all sunshine and rainbows, if not for one thing. On Monday, my boss, the kitchen manager, got fired, and over the next few months, I'm being trained to take over for him. So I'm going to kind of be her boss. ... yup. | ||
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MysteryMeat1
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babishh
Canada965 Posts
Anyway, I gave online website a try - okcupid looks like a nice platform - and I've been able to get in touch with a few girls; I'm having dinner with one of them on Friday, let's see how it goes. | ||
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chadissilent
Canada1187 Posts
On February 03 2014 13:03 MysteryMeat1 wrote: Tomorrow is the moment of truth! Im gonna go ask math gurl to lunch. I declined dancing with two girls on friday night to harden my resolve. No backing out now. ...wut | ||
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Dogfoodboy16
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Ahzz
Finland780 Posts
On February 03 2014 14:38 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: I kept insulting my girlfriend and her family at a superbowl game because they are all Broncos fans. Now shes mad at me. Wut do i do? XD You're so full of yourself. You act like an asshole with the people you are supposed to care about, or at least have no reason to be a jerk to, and you act out. Regardless if this place is for you to vent in, I still believe that you posted this message here just to brag/show off how little you care if things don't work out. After acting out like that, think of a way to to see her or call her (no text) where you sincerely apologise and take the whole blame on yourself because that's all that there is to it. Just an apology may not amount to much for her even if you say it though. Basically what I mean is: Think of WHY you acted out the way you it, WHY it was immature, and WHY you NEVER want to be childish in this manner again. While apologising to her, perhaps show her this train of thought. The apology stays the same, but AT LEAST it shows that you cared enough to think and reflect on it. Anybody can say 'sorry', but you should be able to at least explain why you're sorry. Maybe she will forgive you, maybe she won't. But don't for one second think you deserve an apology or act like it's a small deal if you want to be together with her. | ||
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MysteryMeat1
United States3292 Posts
On February 03 2014 14:38 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: I kept insulting my girlfriend and her family at a superbowl game because they are all Broncos fans. Now shes mad at me. Wut do i do? XD your just an idiot... | ||
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
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Ahzz
Finland780 Posts
On February 03 2014 16:11 rezoacken wrote: ^ (twice above) I have a hard time understanding how you got so upset without knowing any detail about the situation even though I agree his message was douchey. Hm, perhaps I sounded more upset than what I really was then. I kind of decided to take a stance where I really want to make him think because I think that a lot of his posts have been of similar nature, but I guess that wasn't the most mature thing to do. | ||
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MightyBill
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On February 03 2014 14:38 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: I kept insulting my girlfriend and her family at a superbowl game because they are all Broncos fans. Now shes mad at me. Wut do i do? XD Is that the same girlfriend who has a cockblocking dog, and knows you want to go to sweden to dance with 15 year old girls? | ||
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