EPTDating: How's your luck? - Page 378
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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FFGenerations
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IAmWithStupid
Russian Federation1016 Posts
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Firebolt145
Lalalaland34503 Posts
On January 18 2014 20:34 FFGenerations wrote: how does dat joke even work if not written, puncuated AND explained lol I took about 10 seconds of thinking about it to realise what he was on about, but it didn't need writing or whatever else. Definitely need to have studied a little chemistry though. | ||
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Chaosu
Poland404 Posts
On January 18 2014 21:19 Firebolt145 wrote: I took about 10 seconds of thinking about it to realise what he was on about, but it didn't need writing or whatever else. Definitely need to have studied a little chemistry though. I had that in pre-college school. | ||
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
But really I'm way overanalysing this because I'm bored at work and no ones here. | ||
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Caladan
Germany1238 Posts
On January 18 2014 18:09 IAmWithStupid wrote: I'm in Germany right now. First I asked her in German if she speaks English. Unfortunately, my German is not even close to the level necessary to hit on girls, but I'm learning it! You can just straight start the conversation in English. Everyone under like age of 60 does speak English here. | ||
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Gotard
Poland446 Posts
On January 18 2014 22:56 Najda wrote: They don't really need to understand it to laugh. I think it's more a case of: this guy is complimenting me and telling me some sort of joke so I'll laugh. Also the 'gold' part probably sticks in their mind more prominantly and then being called beautiful they might think you are just comparing them to pretty elements. But really I'm way overanalysing this because I'm bored at work and no ones here. Exactly my thought! You need to be super weird (or a chemist) to understand that joke it that particular situation. | ||
dravernor
Netherlands6192 Posts
 and yes, just have basic knowledge of your periodic table to catch on I suppose.Edit: now I feel smart | ||
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IAmWithStupid
Russian Federation1016 Posts
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Beany
Netherlands396 Posts
i've been reading this thread from time to time. Never expecting to contribute in any way myself. But i guess i've got a great story to tell, so i might aswell pay some of you back for a few mins of enjoyable reading. First off, i'm no player, i'm not active in the dating scene as i am a cynical bastard and what not ^^ However i do enjoy to swipe left and right on Tinder. I've found out that writing a sarcastic text on your profile helps a lot. Especially if there's also a reversed psychology message in there. A lot of girls could not resist my message (In case of match, do not chat with each other. In case chat does commence, quit talking to each other after 1,5 days) - As my experience untill then was something like that. As it turned out my match between #40 and #50 was a pleasurable chat. Right in the first day we switched to WhatsApp and continued to chat like that for a week. After about 5 days i found out chatting through whatsapp with a someone you don't know can lead to silly miscommunications and interpretations. So i suggested we meet up irl. We set up a dinerdate near her hometown (30+mins drive from where i live). As i parked my car in a garage i make a little walk to the restaurant and got to meet her there. It was a sweet evening. Lots and lots of laughs, really strange how comfortable we both were with each other. As the night progresses, no tension was building up or whatsoever. So my thoughts were already going towards the "i'm prolly gonna get friendzoned again... ohwell". Then at 22.15-ish the dinerdate came to an end as we walk outside, talk for a little more and i see her off to her car and make the walk back to the parking garage myself. We only exchanged the typical 3 dutch kisses on the cheeks, nothing else. Turns out, the parking garage closes at 22.00!! So i lmao and try to call a friend. Who conveniently doesn't pick up (asshole). So to make her laugh even more, i call her and tell her my situation (we briefly discussed this possibility before she left). She tells me she's coming back to help me out somehow. After that phonecall i try another friend, who for sure will pick me up. As we end our convo, she pulls up again and i tell him i'll at least drive back to her home with her, so i won't have to wait outside in the cold. And i'll let him know where he can pick me up. During the drive to her house we laugh some more and she offers me to sleep at her house, so she can drive me to my car the next morning (else i'd have lots of problems getting to work, having to drive 30+mins back again to get my car, etc). So very nice, i get to sleep over. And in the end, yes i got to bang her  Moral of the story: Tinder isn't all that stupid and bad. I actually used it the right way, jeej! Make sure you park your car where you cannot access it after the date  Hope the story wasn't too long and messy, so you enjoyed it. P.s. 2nd date was last sunday, also a great success. | ||
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dravernor
Netherlands6192 Posts
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ComaDose
Canada10357 Posts
Oh no the parking lots closed. Oh well you know you can stay at my place tonight *bow chicka wow wow* great story. | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
How do you explain to a Christian girl that aborting a tiny heap of cells without consciousness or nervous system isn't the same as killing a baby? I'm seriously considering creating a power point presentation... | ||
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farvacola
United States18857 Posts
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amaDeus
Germany205 Posts
On January 23 2014 01:22 SixStrings wrote: Christ shitballs, I'm having the talk this weekend. How do you explain to a Christian girl that aborting a tiny heap of cells without consciousness or nervous system isn't the same as killing a baby? I'm seriously considering creating a power point presentation... Avoid this conversation nothing good's gonna come out of it. | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
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ComaDose
Canada10357 Posts
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Ahzz
Finland780 Posts
On January 23 2014 01:22 SixStrings wrote: Christ shitballs, I'm having the talk this weekend. How do you explain to a Christian girl that aborting a tiny heap of cells without consciousness or nervous system isn't the same as killing a baby? I'm seriously considering creating a power point presentation... I'm going to take a stance which you may or may not like, but I feel it's a place where we should always want to be when having differing opinions with people you truly care about. When talking about this with her, approach from a place where you admit that you may, actually, be wrong. Try not to be so selfish when having the discussion. Yes, it's easy to say 'It's not the same as killing a human' or 'I'm not ready to be a father'... But you MUST have understood the possibility, the risk, of having a child when having sex with another person, without even discussing what she thinks about having kids 'prematurely'. YOU screwed up, YOU made a mistake and took a risk. Perhaps say just that in the discussion with her. Of course you can voice your opinion, and you should say what you think about it. But never go from a place where you think the other person 'thinks wrong' or 'has the wrong opinion'. I feel that by creating an understanding where both parties fully understand the situation of the other side, where she understands why you don't want to have a kid and why it'd be 'unwise' to have a kid, and where you understand her side of the story, can you finally have a discussion where you end up what is the best for both of you. Maybe it'll end up as having a kid, maybe she will turn around and abort the kid. But you knew of the possibility before you had sex. The worst that can happen is that she has the kid anyway, and you get in a big fight with her while still having the child as your responsibility. At least this way you can avoid this. Maybe even the case alltogether. Who knows. EDIT: Also, we don't always know what is the best for us, and what will bring us the greatest growth or the happiest future. Basically also consider that while you didn't mean for this to happen, if she chooses to have a kid that doesn't mean it'll end up any worse for you, it can turn out for the best. It may not be what you predicted, or what you imagined it to be, but who knows whats the best for us before its upon us? | ||
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farvacola
United States18857 Posts
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Netherlands6192 Posts
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