Texting vs Face-to-face communication - Page 3

Steel91

United States34 Posts

June 20 2011 06:01 GMT

#41

Well I personally hate texting my gf or IMing her or all that crap. The time I spend with her is a decent amount, I don't want to go home get on the computer or something and talk to her there after hanging out with her. Although if you can't see your significant other as much I suppose it helps the relationship because you are able to send them little messages like "I miss you" or stuff like that I don't know heh. I guess it depends on the two people and how much time they see each other and stuff like that.

SiDX

New Zealand1975 Posts

June 20 2011 06:08 GMT

#42

On June 20 2011 14:33 Kaila wrote:

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Why would you want to limit your face to face time?

That's why you have your prime "convincing them to take their pants off" opportunities.

Lol I mean just do both but not too much of either. Balance it out

I'm really not into texting but some girls like it and if you don't text back they get upset -_-

NoobSkills

United States1598 Posts

June 20 2011 06:10 GMT

#43

On June 20 2011 13:31 Astrapto wrote:
Hey TL. So today I was thinking of how friends and bf/gf's can grow closer together through texting, but then that intimacy doesn't come through when seeing each other face-to-face.
You might know each other's deep thoughts and feelings, but have trouble talking in person.
Have you guys experienced this, or something similar? Facebook can be similar. Has technology killed relationships? What do you think of the medium?

Texting the location of where you will meet face to face. Mindfucked.

ArYeS

Slovenia268 Posts

June 20 2011 06:30 GMT

#44

I also think these two types of communication coexist withouth any problem. I text girlfriend when she doesn't have time to answer or is doing anything. I call her otherwise. Face to face time is limited to when we have time to see each other, that time I don't even think about using texting or voice-chat.

I used to be little afraid of calling her at the start, we texted a lot more back then

but it just takes time to adjust and technology helps

KimJongChill

United States6429 Posts

June 20 2011 06:33 GMT

#45

On June 20 2011 13:38 Gamegene wrote:
When you talk to someone, how much communication is expressed in actual words? Seven percent.

93% of all communication is nonverbal: eye contact, facial expressions, hand gestures, touch all of it.
Meatspace > Facebook.

Dude I love the idea of Meatspace, it should be a new social networking site.

Belegorm

United States330 Posts

June 20 2011 07:20 GMT

#46

While I don't subscribe to it myself, I find this one guy's views on the subject highly amusing: only text if you're stuck in a ditch and need pick up. Otherwise call.

d(O.o)a

Canada5066 Posts

June 20 2011 07:32 GMT

#47

I've never had to deal with this, although I don't text that often as I usually ignore my phone's vibrations. My brother on the other hand texts his girlfriend every moment they're not together but they're chatter boxes in person too.

Homework

United States283 Posts

June 20 2011 07:33 GMT

#48

On June 20 2011 13:35 Manifesto7 wrote:
Sounds like homework to me.

Sounds like what to you?

HikariPrime

United States122 Posts

June 20 2011 07:42 GMT

#49

From Personal Experience, I believe that all this technology allows us to say things we normally wouldn't say in person. Hence why people trash talk and troll. I think of it in a bad way. You can get comfortable and tell people things online, then when you meet them for the first time it can be awkward. I am fifteen so all around me, my friends and classmates socialize and say things over electronic devices that they would NEVER say in person. This can also lead to drama, which thus leads to stress. I remember I met one girl and talked to her for a week online,got comfortable, then met her at school finally and it was the most awkward moment of my life :3

I know i'm repetitive... ><

NoodleFish

South Africa198 Posts

June 20 2011 07:53 GMT

#50

Personally I think that if you've based your relationship on text/IM/etc. Then f2f can sometimes be an issue. On my previous relationship, I wouldn't see my gf for weeks at a time during varsity holidays, and I would maybe send her 1 or 2 texts a day, and call her up maybe 2 or 3 times a week. We never felt the need to constantly IM each other cos when we were at varsity we would see each other all the time.

I just recently started dating someone else, but varsity holidays just started this week. I still wanna get to know her and it seems IM is the only way we can keep in touch atm. I don't want our relationship to be based on texting though because of what OP said about f2f becoming difficult. This is especially true when it comes to dealing with issues. I've had friends who will fight/argue/even break up over text and they can't face their "significant other" IRL. It's sad that people these days are so impersonal.

I agree with someone in a previous post that mentioned that communication is a lot more than words, it'a body language and facial expressions and a ton of other stuff.

So my final words are that there's nothing wrong with texting yr bf/gf all the time, but just dont let it become the norm of comminication between u.

Malks

United Kingdom94 Posts

June 20 2011 08:10 GMT

#51

Whilst texting or other forms of indirect conversation can convey information between people, face to face conversation I feel is much better at conveying emotions, due to body language, tone of voice etc, which may also lead to feeling that real conversation is more valuable, because of the information given through body language. Then again, lack of direct conversation can also mean people say things they wouldn't say face to face, although it is seen more often in the negative sense more than positive, both are probably equally valid. Whilst there are advantages to texting/IMng etc, it isn't a substitute for face to face conversation

Herculix

United States946 Posts

June 20 2011 09:27 GMT

#52

i feel like as long as you don't go overkill with it, things like texting/IM help people express themselves more clearly. i think the intimacy is in real face-to-face conversation, but there is a lot to gain in being able to talk to someone in a way that lets you consider what you want to say before you say it.

edit to this: apparently people don't really get the value of this. most of the really dirty dark secrets my girlfriends and close friends have had were all revealed to me through text/IM. a huge reason for this is because they can gather themselves and get over their embarassment/disappointment and tell me honestly without choking up and backing out and feeling the pressure of someone waiting for them. it's much more comfortable to say things you would normally be apprehensive of IRL, and people who talk through text/IM have probably noticed this.

i never talk on the phone except to ask someone something that takes a few minutes but i kind of need it immediately, like asking people where i'm supposed to go to meet up with them when i'm almost there. i feel like actual conversation is better either text/IM where people express themselves better through words, or face to face where they express themselves better through body language. phone talk is the worst of both worlds to me.

the danger is to spend almost no time with someone IRL and fail to truly understand their actual personality. talking online all the time and almost never IRL leads to you understanding someone as a collection of their thoughts and ideas and you don't get their personality which has a lot to do with body language, facial expression and other subtle things the person does rather than says.

Bill Murray

United States9292 Posts

June 20 2011 09:28 GMT

#53

mines more of the opposite... terrible texter

Macabre

United States1262 Posts

June 20 2011 09:30 GMT

#54

What in the world at this thread.

Though it does seem the generation right below mine is horrible at having real conversations. No body language when telling stories etc. So disconnected with the real world(my nephews are freshman in highschool and I'm 22)

REDBLUEGREEN

Germany1903 Posts

June 20 2011 09:38 GMT

#55

I rarely use text messages besides from organisatory stuff. Didn't even have a mobile phone until a year ago and now i still have something left of the 20euro starting budget. I also always cut telephone conversations short if I see my gf later that day anyway because talking face to face is just so much better, you can read all the subtleties and humor conveys 1000 times better.

couches

618 Posts

June 20 2011 12:37 GMT

#56

I know some people who are so used to texting and talking on the computer that in person they are inept at socializing.

On June 20 2011 14:06 heishe wrote:

A major advantage is that you actually get to think before hitting the "Enter" key. At that equivalent point in real life, your sentence is already out in the air, here you have a few seconds or milliseconds time to realize that you may be stepping over the line.

Think before you speak. Many people don't have that filter between their brain and mouth.

57 Corvette

Canada5941 Posts

June 20 2011 12:40 GMT

#57

Face-to-face doesn't have misstypes and auto-correct.

LoneWolf.Alpha

United States115 Posts

June 20 2011 12:46 GMT

#58

very good point

Kaonis

United States243 Posts

June 20 2011 12:50 GMT

#59

My girlfriend doesn't have a cell phone.

Most loving relationship I've ever been in, too.

TS-Rupbar

Sweden1089 Posts

June 20 2011 12:51 GMT

#60

There are fundamental differences in texting vs face-to-face communication and both have their merits when it comes to being intimate.

There is no imposed time limit before you have to respond, though you are expected to not take too long. In F2F Conversation, you have to respond instantly or it'll be very weird. The prolonged window of response helps you construct more thoughtful responses.

Because you are not physically close to each other when you are texting each other, minimal responses and body language disappear. Think for example about you telling a long story and the other person is just standing there, not laughing or nodding or anything during it. Smileys can make up for some of the body language, but far from all of it. And even then, both of the people communicating have to be very fluent in netspeak.

I have much more to write, pm me if you want. But I have to get off the bus now!

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