As long as you can do both, and not have it be weird, there is like no issue with texting a lot. I do know people that have cell phone/Facebook relationships, and i think those are a lil messed up, but i am not one to judge.
IT IS all about the LOVE <3 <3

Duskbane

United States178 Posts

June 20 2011 05:24 GMT

#23

On June 20 2011 13:31 Astrapto wrote:
Hey TL. So today I was thinking of how friends and bf/gf's can grow closer together through texting, but then that intimacy doesn't come through when seeing each other face-to-face.
You might know each other's deep thoughts and feelings, but have trouble talking in person.
Have you guys experienced this, or something similar? Facebook can be similar. Has technology killed relationships? What do you think of the medium?

Mine went in reverse, met her on Facebook through one of my buddies, we texted for a while and got to know each other, then when we went on a date we were all over each other. :D

SiDX

New Zealand1975 Posts

June 20 2011 05:27 GMT

#24

Use both face to face and technology in moderation.

Kaila

United States29 Posts

June 20 2011 05:28 GMT

#25

It more depends on how you utilize it. If you're using it as just an additional way to talk when you can't physically be with each other, then it generally doesn't get in the way. Face to face interactions, even though they give you less prep time for what you want to say, are always going to have a more satisfying feel to them.

Some of the best conversations I've had are when you're on that borderline of falling asleep while cuddling in bed and you just spew your thoughts on a free flowing conversation. Long distance/text communications are part of modern society, there is no need to avoid them, just to fit them properly into your relationship.

Plus, in real time it's easier for the person to see you for you, not who you want them to perceive you to be.

Gamegene

United States8308 Posts

June 20 2011 05:31 GMT

#26

On June 20 2011 14:27 SiDX wrote:
Use both face to face and technology in moderation.

...?

Kaila

United States29 Posts

June 20 2011 05:33 GMT

#27

On June 20 2011 14:27 SiDX wrote:
Use both face to face and technology in moderation.

Why would you want to limit your face to face time?

That's why you have your prime "convincing them to take their pants off" opportunities.

Kinetik_Inferno

United States1431 Posts

June 20 2011 05:34 GMT

#28

I don't use facebook all that much, nor do I even own a cell phone. I would say, yes, it does kill relationships because texting can be seen as an easy way out, you don't have to talk to someone face to face, you can fix any "talking" screw ups before you say them, and it's generally "safer". I would definitely prefer to talk with someone than use a medium.

Tegin

United States840 Posts

June 20 2011 05:36 GMT

#29

On June 20 2011 14:11 analyze wrote:
Definitely the complete opposite for me... I cannot stand texting my girlfriend but face to face we have a really strong connection (no homo).

This is exactly how I am. I despise texting unless its for a short period of time when you just need to ask a couple questions or something. people who can have entire hour + long conversations through texts are nuts.

Phraxa

United States49 Posts

June 20 2011 05:37 GMT

#30

My friend blocked her boyfriend on FaceBook, so they communicate in real life more :D

Sworn

Canada920 Posts

June 20 2011 05:37 GMT

#31

I like texting my girlfriends but I usually call them if were talking about more serious or talk to them in person. I think if you talk to much about everything over text though you have nothing to talk about in person and that can fuck up relationships.

The_Piper42

United States426 Posts

June 20 2011 05:38 GMT

#32

I dislike texting specifically because it's detrimental to people-skills. If you're feeling some sense of "intimacy" during texting that may be because you don't have the skills or the guts to say something in person. In my book that's a problem (but not an irreversible one!).

MaxField

United States2386 Posts

June 20 2011 05:40 GMT

#33

On June 20 2011 14:34 Kinetik_Inferno wrote:
I don't use facebook all that much, nor do I even own a cell phone. I would say, yes, it does kill relationships because texting can be seen as an easy way out, you don't have to talk to someone face to face, you can fix any "talking" screw ups before you say them, and it's generally "safer". I would definitely prefer to talk with someone than use a medium.

If you do not use a cell phone, i do not think it is your call to say that it kills relationships? I can promise you that times when i was away, texting my gf in no way did hinder our relationship. Of course i wish i was close and could do direct contact, but it does not hurt in a way.

Also i would say that when talking about safer, texting or face book you have the opportunity to read before you send something, so you have a chance to do a double take. When talking things often slip out. It does go both ways though, in text, they can save something you did wrong, and remember it longer.

Manifesto7

Osaka27154 Posts

June 20 2011 05:42 GMT

#34

I always laugh at the guys on the train who have two cellphones. One is for the wife and one is for "work". The phone is the #1 way people get caught cheating imo.

ZiegFeld

351 Posts

June 20 2011 05:43 GMT

#35

My time is too valuable for texts, if I'm going to spend time communicating it's going to be in good company.

Mewnfare

United States9 Posts

June 20 2011 05:45 GMT

#36

On June 20 2011 13:44 Gaius Baltar wrote:
My girlfriend never texts. She comes when she wants, always wearing the same red dress. I don't think other people can see her and sometimes she hits me, but I love her all the same.

sir we have something on dradis ITS A CYLON RAIDER

Piste

6179 Posts

June 20 2011 05:45 GMT

#37

On June 20 2011 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote:
I always laugh at the guys on the train who have two cellphones. One is for the wife and one is for "work". The phone is the #1 way people get caught cheating imo.

Because partner goes through your phone? Shouldn't be like that :/

Gamegene

United States8308 Posts

June 20 2011 05:45 GMT

#38

On June 20 2011 14:40 MaxField wrote:
Also i would say that when talking about safer, texting or face book you have the opportunity to read before you send something, so you have a chance to do a double take.

Personally speaking, it's better for someone to fuck up during a conversation and suffer a little bit so that next time you think before you speak.

Kaila

United States29 Posts

June 20 2011 05:49 GMT

#39

On June 20 2011 14:45 Piste wrote:

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Because partner goes through your phone? Shouldn't be like that :/

Sometimes it's more about their own insecurities than a distrust in you. I had an ex go through my text messages and AIM conversations twice. It was a deal breaker in the end, but I understood that he had issues from previous relationships which led to his actions.

Then again, I always wonder about people who have more than one cell phone. Seems rather unnecessary unless you're up to something illegal.

dreamsmasher

816 Posts

June 20 2011 05:53 GMT

#40

texting is the defacto way to communicate with a girl that you just met initially, but its good not to be too chatty via text imo. if she's my gf i generally am pretty sparse with text comments.