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On June 21 2011 11:57 mangina wrote:
If you imagined what life was waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay back in old times (where there was no means of communications besides writing letters that took forever to be carried by a messanger) people had to see each other face to face to communicate. Life was very social.
You look now, there's a girl who died over an imaginary myspace "boyfriend" who was just a couple of girls that didnt like the girl. Does that sound real to you? This is what our life is slowly turning in to. With increase in technology and innovation to our lives, comes many goods and bads. These, being one of the bads.
A person back in the older time could have a long distance relationship. He or She has the ability to cheat on the other person and they wouldn't have a clue about it. But the people who have strong values would show self control and respect and wouldnt cheat. I feel values were much stronger back then.
You look now, there's a husband who would express domestic abuse and hit their wife just because shes been secretly communicating with an old male friend. Even worse (this is based off a true story), a woman had recently broken up with her husband. Until one day she got an email from an old high school crush. They got back together and married and hit it off really well. But secretly, he was gay.
Technology has its goods and bads. It can strength our communication but kill our social skills. At the same time, it can make artificial/unstable relationships. Ultimately, its up to you to make the right means of communication. Humans are designed to adapt. If technology advances, so should we.
So, would you assume that if this website didn't exist, I would be going out and personally meeting the people I would want to talk to? >.<
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On June 21 2011 11:57 mangina wrote:
If you imagined what life was waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay back in old times (where there was no means of communications besides writing letters that took forever to be carried by a messanger) people had to see each other face to face to communicate. Life was very social.
You look now, there's a girl who died over an imaginary myspace "boyfriend" who was just a couple of girls that didnt like the girl. Does that sound real to you? This is what our life is slowly turning in to. With increase in technology and innovation to our lives, comes many goods and bads. These, being one of the bads.
A person back in the older time could have a long distance relationship. He or She has the ability to cheat on the other person and they wouldn't have a clue about it. But the people who have strong values would show self control and respect and wouldnt cheat. I feel values were much stronger back then.
You look now, there's a husband who would express domestic abuse and hit their wife just because shes been secretly communicating with an old male friend. Even worse (this is based off a true story), a woman had recently broken up with her husband. Until one day she got an email from an old high school crush. They got back together and married and hit it off really well. But secretly, he was gay.
Technology has its goods and bads. It can strength our communication but kill our social skills. At the same time, it can make artificial/unstable relationships. Ultimately, its up to you to make the right means of communication. Humans are designed to adapt. If technology advances, so should we.
Mangina I think when your talking about the situation with the husband domestically abusing his wife that's a very specific case and doesn't even have to do with technological advances. Spouses were abused far worse back in the day and it was perfectly acceptable.
You do raise some good points though, although I don't think texting and facebook makes you less social. I think that while you become used to texting you become better at your indirect social skills but as a result you're not as comfortable with face to face interactions.
After all who's to say that texting is not as social as face to face? Sometimes texting can be more intimate because of how discreet it can be.
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I prefer to type (IM, Facebook, emails, etc) to communicate with people, because then I don't trip over words. I talk to my friends and family and even outside of those groups with other people face to face, it can sometimes be embarrassing though. I don't always trip over words, but when I do, I feel like a fool. Maybe I trip over words because I get nervous in a face to face conversation? I don't know.
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On June 23 2011 02:34 Antares777 wrote:
I prefer to type (IM, Facebook, emails, etc) to communicate with people, because then I don't trip over words. I talk to my friends and family and even outside of those groups with other people face to face, it can sometimes be embarrassing though. I don't always trip over words, but when I do, I feel like a fool. Maybe I trip over words because I get nervous in a face to face conversation? I don't know.
Relax when you talk to people... I don't think anyone is judging you for messing up a word.
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Definitely face-to-face. I've gone through one long distance relationship where most of our communication was through the phone or over the internet while I was at college, and tbh I would never want to do that again. Electronic communication can and will stunt your face-to-face social skills, I've learned that the hard way and had to dig myself back out of that hole.
I just use texts to shoot short random questions to people if I'm unable to make a phone call at the time. Otherwise it's all either phone or face-to-face for me now
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On June 23 2011 02:34 Antares777 wrote:
I prefer to type (IM, Facebook, emails, etc) to communicate with people, because then I don't trip over words. I talk to my friends and family and even outside of those groups with other people face to face, it can sometimes be embarrassing though. I don't always trip over words, but when I do, I feel like a fool. Maybe I trip over words because I get nervous in a face to face conversation? I don't know.
Don't let the fear of messing up be the reason you're messing up. No one has perfect speech anyways.
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On June 20 2011 13:38 Gamegene wrote:When you talk to someone, how much communication is expressed in actual words? Seven percent. 93% of all communication is nonverbal: eye contact, facial expressions, hand gestures, touch all of it. Meatspace > Facebook.
Lol that is total BS. If this were the case, I could have a conversation with a deaf person easily, with hardly any miscommunication. This is such a subjective thing, and I'm not really sure it can even be assigned a quantitative value. And if it can, there is no way we could determine it.
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I suck at texting, and I've texted all my life. Literally all of my conversations end up in "ha," and there is no where to go, where as in person I'm able to carry on much longer and more diverse conversations. In person, I have the same problems with skype that I have with texting, I can never "focus" I guess? No way I could do a long distance relationship unless it was over WoW so that we had something major in common to talk about, long distance with a normal girl would literally be hell.
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On June 20 2011 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote:
I always laugh at the guys on the train who have two cellphones. One is for the wife and one is for "work". The phone is the #1 way people get caught cheating imo.
I find having 2 phones logical in many lines of work. If you need a cellphone for work and you need one in your private life. Why would those be the same? You want totally different functions on them, you also don't want to pay the bill for both ones, neither the company nor the individual wants to pay the other part of the bill.
Depending on where you work you might need to be able to be reached at certain times/days outside of work hours. Having the option of turning off your private phone is still a great option.
If a phone with 2 sim slots can fulfil all the needs you have, then having only one might be a good idea.
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You cant get a BJ over the phone. So ya face to face is better
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On June 23 2011 04:14 Redman wrote:
You cant get a BJ over the phone. So ya face to face is better
well said!
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On June 22 2011 21:12 Asrathiel wrote:Show nested quote +On June 22 2011 19:55 SpoR wrote:
Trust me, texting all the time is the way down washout lane with the ladies. Maybe with some. I hate talking on the phone, if I can't talk to someone irl I'd much rather email, chat or text. I love getting messages, but that could just be me 
Ok, riddle me this batman.
What would you rather have:
A) get a call from a guy professing his undying love to you.
B) get a message from a guy professing his undying love for you.
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Well basically I communicate with ugly people via text/IM so that I don't have to look at their faces.
Also it's super awkward when they notice the cringe every time I make eye contact.
I wish I'd done a better job at only making friends with attractive people...
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On June 24 2011 05:16 SpoR wrote:Show nested quote +On June 22 2011 21:12 Asrathiel wrote:On June 22 2011 19:55 SpoR wrote:
Trust me, texting all the time is the way down washout lane with the ladies. Maybe with some. I hate talking on the phone, if I can't talk to someone irl I'd much rather email, chat or text. I love getting messages, but that could just be me Ok, riddle me this batman. What would you rather have: A) get a call from a guy professing his undying love to you. B) get a message from a guy professing his undying love for you.
I would rather he said it to my face, lol.
If it was a big announcement, 'Oh I love you so much, I want to spend the rest of my life with you, yada yada yada' then neither would really be appropriate.
If it was a routine "I love you, good night xx" then I'd rather a text.
If we'd been having a conversation then phone might be alright, but as I said in a previous post, I only see my bf on the weekends and we chat on fb most nights, and I like that.
And again, could just be me, I REALLY don't like calling people and I feel awkward talking on the phone.
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What? I don't see much of a difference texting vs face-to-face communication other than having to answer things and talk in real time rather than having to think about what you're going to reply with.
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On June 20 2011 23:51 Hawk wrote:Show nested quote +On June 20 2011 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote:
I always laugh at the guys on the train who have two cellphones. One is for the wife and one is for "work". The phone is the #1 way people get caught cheating imo. Two phones is always either a drug dealer or a cover up for some other type of nefarious activity. It's like the biggest red flag ever haha
Lots of people have two phones though, if you have an "on-call" job, ppl constantly contact you even though its your "off-call" day .... -_-
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I hate texting. That's why I make my people Skype me.
And talking in person should be a lot more important, imo. When you're talking in person though, you kind of just gotta ignore the awkwardness, then the person can connect to you the way they do via text message.
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On June 24 2011 09:45 kiykiy wrote:Show nested quote +On June 20 2011 23:51 Hawk wrote:On June 20 2011 14:42 Manifesto7 wrote:
I always laugh at the guys on the train who have two cellphones. One is for the wife and one is for "work". The phone is the #1 way people get caught cheating imo. Two phones is always either a drug dealer or a cover up for some other type of nefarious activity. It's like the biggest red flag ever haha Lots of people have two phones though, if you have an "on-call" job, ppl constantly contact you even though its your "off-call" day .... -_-
I have 7 phones - one for each girl. ;D
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I just text pictures of my junk
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Hm lol, the first 5 people are like wtf no. But to be honest I would say this is more prevalent with the younger generation at the moment. I found with my last girlfriend we certainly became alot closer through texting and chatting on msn, we were fine in real life anyway. But these text communications still brought us closer.
I've also found that text communications has brought me very close to, two of my friends in recent months, but again that friendship transcribes over to real life and we get on just as well as when texting or talking in real life.
But then again I do know of/heard of people that get on amazingly well through texting and msn and then when they come to see each other in real life the conversation is dead... The only reason I can pin point this on is because its much easier to think about what your going to text, you have time and theres no pressure of the other person staring you in the face. Its just easier and less stressful to text someone you like and its easier to text questions you would really ask in real life thats in my opinion at least. However I've grown up in the era where everyone MSN and texts each other, no one ever calls anymore.
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