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On August 31 2008 08:32 Jibba wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2008 06:45 Carefree Me wrote:
masami.sc has got it right. You have to see the reasoning behind their "racism". Sure, it looks racist to our modern day (western) standards, but there's very legitimate concerns with multi-racial marriages. It's not bad with third generation immigrants (i.e. all of the family speaks English), but when you have first or second generation immigrants, there may be foreseeable communication problems. The way Asian cultures and western cultures handle marriages are completely different, and Asian parents have a legitimate fear here. Sometimes the marriage can play out fine, but other times, the miscommunication can really cause problems and arguments in the future. Also, imagine what it feels like for them to not be able to speak to their grandchildren... Uh... I don't think communication is the first thing on their mind. My dad speaks perfect Japanese and my grandparents gave my mom a bottle of mace when they first started dating. I think you just have to admit that most of the east asian countries are extremely homogeneous and as a result if you grow up in that environment, you became a bit racist. A kid growing up in America should be able to move past that and if they hold entirely steadfast under the concepts of their parents, I probably wouldn't want to date them anyways.
Communication is definitely the first thing in my family. Last time I visited my family in China, they made a strong case about marrying an Asian girl. It wasn't a problem with being homogeneous. Simply put, the traditions of marriage and the responsibilities of the family unit are so different that it adds that extra barrier between a successful marriage. The differences between the viewpoints of westerners and Asians regarding issues such as divorce, taking care of parents (SiegeTanksandBlueGoo's example), etc create problems in the marriage. This isn't to say that multi-racial marriages are impossible and will always turn out bad- it's just to say that it's going to take that extra level of understanding to make it work.
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Asian parents are conservative as fuck, and they drill their children into it. Someone mentioned this. Don't let it get to you.
My friends parents are Chinese, and they are racist against African Americans, Hispanics, etc.. Basically anyone that isn't Chinese is not marriage material for my friend.
However, my friend isn't close minded, and told his parents to screw themselves about that. He's dating a Japanese girl, and they are doing really good as far as I hear.
Let it go. For every close minded individual there 10 more to make you smile.
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My parents are pretty strange in their 'rules' for who I can marry: Asians A-okay, white girls are so-so, black girls and Japanese are forbidden. :[
Asian parents, what can you gonna do?
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Valhalla18444 Posts
On August 31 2008 06:14 il0seonpurpose wrote:
Yeah she probably said that cuz her parents, asian parents are all about being homogeneous
did you just call me a homo genius?
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
shes testing you
you asked her out wrong anyways
she doesn't like you
probably all of these apply
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United States24799 Posts
On August 31 2008 08:54 kpcrew wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2008 07:44 micronesia wrote:On August 31 2008 07:40 kpcrew(Gg) wrote:On August 31 2008 04:38 micronesia wrote:On August 31 2008 04:37 Rev0lution wrote:
Another hint:
I asked her, where are you from N.Korea or S.Korea and she said "there is no n.korea, only 1 korea" Lol... put her on the spot and ask her to explain. Say you looked on a map and saw a North and a South. micronesia... not good advice Yes obviously I was giving srs advice. I mean srs business. (But if you really wanted to know why she meant that, I guess that would be one way to draw it out of her) just cause you reply like a douchebag from 4chan doesnt change the fact that there are stupid people out there
Sorry you are not making sense to me.
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On August 31 2008 04:37 Rev0lution wrote:
Another hint:
I asked her, where are you from N.Korea or S.Korea and she said "there is no n.korea, only 1 korea"
Fucking dumbass
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On August 31 2008 09:16 XDawn wrote:
Not that this might matter - but I'm 1.5Gen
and my parents used to say all that "marry a korean girl" and shit
but now they don't care as long as I'm happy and it works out well lol
But imho, I'd rather marry a Korean girl too
It's just.... more comfortable.. or something - I really don't know how to describe it in words.
RACIST
sorry for the double post <3
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she is korean she wont like you unless youre really hot and/or asian. there are two types of asian families, traditional ones and americanized ones - i guess she isn't the latter. so no dice for you pal. need to find someone else. also, when it comes to asian girls, usually the first no means no, period. if you ask again, you will be the creep she tells her friends about. so i would suggest moving the train along and keep your head up.
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On August 31 2008 11:57 Folca wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2008 04:37 Rev0lution wrote:
Another hint:
I asked her, where are you from N.Korea or S.Korea and she said "there is no n.korea, only 1 korea" Fucking dumbass
QFT. Might as well ask her if she's from Aiur.
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My asian mom tells me if i marry and mexican chick they would probably kill me
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From my experience if she likes you, she likes you despite the race difference. What she said is an excuse to say she's not interested in you or something. If you really like her and you guys have a lot of fun together, you shouldn't give up. You didn't have to ask her straight up for a date, could had been to hang out and it can advance from there. If a girl who you aren't interested in at all, ask you out on a date, wouldn't that seem akward too?
On August 31 2008 10:02 Rekrul wrote:
shes testing you
you asked her out wrong anyways
she doesn't like you
probably all of these apply
bingo.
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By the way, is this college or high school?
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On August 31 2008 10:01 FakeSteve[TPR] wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2008 06:14 il0seonpurpose wrote:
Yeah she probably said that cuz her parents, asian parents are all about being homogeneous did you just call me a homo genius?
Homo does not mean gay, it means "same" and genos means "kind".
Or with other words, homogeneity means "being similar throughout", which makes it into a perfect word to use when talking about peoples resistance when it comes to mixing with other persons who has different attributes.
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Netherlands19141 Posts
I'm such a huge sexual racist myself  .
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On August 31 2008 20:33 [X]Ken_D wrote:From my experience if she likes you, she likes you despite the race difference. What she said is an excuse to say she's not interested in you or something. If you really like her and you guys have a lot of fun together, you shouldn't give up. You didn't have to ask her straight up for a date, could had been to hang out and it can advance from there. If a girl who you aren't interested in at all, ask you out on a date, wouldn't that seem akward too? Show nested quote +On August 31 2008 10:02 Rekrul wrote:
shes testing you
you asked her out wrong anyways
she doesn't like you
probably all of these apply bingo.
From talking to my east Asian friend I would say that there is a big chance that she actually ment exactly what she said.
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United States22883 Posts
On August 31 2008 22:45 Klockan3 wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2008 10:01 FakeSteve[TPR] wrote:On August 31 2008 06:14 il0seonpurpose wrote:
Yeah she probably said that cuz her parents, asian parents are all about being homogeneous did you just call me a homo genius? Homo does not mean gay, it means "same" and genos means "kind". Or with other words, homogeneity means "being similar throughout", which makes it into a perfect word to use when talking about peoples resistance when it comes to mixing with other persons who has different attributes.
wooooooooooooooooosh
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On August 31 2008 10:02 Rekrul wrote:
shes testing you
you asked her out wrong anyways
she doesn't like you
probably all of these apply
wise words sir
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On August 31 2008 05:51 Mastermind wrote:Show nested quote +On August 31 2008 04:17 PH wrote:
It's not just skin pigmentation...there's a whole mess of cultural issues she was thinking about as well...especially if she is a fob of some kind.
My parents probably wouldn't let me inside the house if I ever brought a white girl to introduce to them. I've brought a Chinese girl, and they barely let that slide.
Beyond that, I think other people are right...think about how you asked her out as well, there could've been something in that. It's definitely a possibility, even if it's not likely. Your parents are racist pieces of shit. Thats not defendable.
To call his parents racist is one thing, but don't call them pieces of shit based on that information alone.
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