EPTThis is possibly the first time I heard someone tell me straight in my face that the only reason they would not date me is because I have a different pigmentation color..
I feel weird ...
"Sorry, I never date anyone outside of my race
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Rev0lution
United States1805 Posts
This is possibly the first time I heard someone tell me straight in my face that the only reason they would not date me is because I have a different pigmentation color.. I feel weird ... | ||
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Krohm
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Ahh misread, what are you? | ||
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imthemaster
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LastWish
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Toss and Terran Yeah it'll probably never work. | ||
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-_-
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Of course, I always assume every girl I know secretly hates me. Does she still want to be your friend? Is she "fresh off the boat?" | ||
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DamageControL
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ilovezil
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By the way, the SC jokes blow. Stop. | ||
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micronesia
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NonY
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On August 31 2008 03:48 TonyL2 wrote: This reminds me of There She Is! yeah you should send her a link to There She Is! and see if she gets the message! | ||
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InfeSteD
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Night[Mare
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PH
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My parents probably wouldn't let me inside the house if I ever brought a white girl to introduce to them. I've brought a Chinese girl, and they barely let that slide. Beyond that, I think other people are right...think about how you asked her out as well, there could've been something in that. It's definitely a possibility, even if it's not likely. | ||
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Rev0lution
United States1805 Posts
We were talking about Chem class and we joked around and I wrapped my arm around her and she let me do that for a good 10 seconds, we're walking off to the subway and having fun so I thought it would be a good idea to ask her out then and there. I got her phone number the day before, I don't think its a dodge. It's def racial after she said "I dont date other races" she defended herself saying "it's not racist, it's just the way I am" But have you guys ever had an experience like that? I mean how hard is it to say "I can't I'm too busy", hey i'll get the signal. | ||
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o3.power91
Bahrain5288 Posts
If that happened to me, I'd be more angry, than sad Me: so... you busy tonight? Girl: sorry, I dont go out with Arabs... Me: WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY BITCH?!?!??!!! | ||
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Rev0lution
United States1805 Posts
On August 31 2008 03:51 micronesia wrote: How good are you at bw? Statistically, there's a good chance she'd like you more if you brought up starcraft :p (but a good chance that won't happen). Actually once i foudn out she was korean I asked her about starcraft and she said oh yeah I used to play that LOLZ! Another hint: I asked her, where are you from N.Korea or S.Korea and she said "there is no n.korea, only 1 korea" | ||
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micronesia
United States24673 Posts
On August 31 2008 04:37 Rev0lution wrote: Another hint: I asked her, where are you from N.Korea or S.Korea and she said "there is no n.korea, only 1 korea" Lol... put her on the spot and ask her to explain. Say you looked on a map and saw a North and a South. | ||
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SiegeTanksandBlueGoo
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Ozarugold
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CapO
United States1615 Posts
On August 31 2008 04:37 Rev0lution wrote: Actually once i foudn out she was korean I asked her about starcraft and she said oh yeah I used to play that LOLZ! Another hint: I asked her, where are you from N.Korea or S.Korea and she said "there is no n.korea, only 1 korea" i hate that question. it's almost 99.99% guaranteed that any korean you meet is from south korea and not from north. her response may be because she wants unity. it sounds like she has a strong mind set, like kp.  | ||
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
Game, set, match. | ||
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anderoo
Canada1876 Posts
On August 31 2008 04:36 Rev0lution wrote: "I dont date other races" she defended herself saying "it's not racist, it's just the way I am" . I hate jews, blacks, and hispanics. Just the way I am no harm done kk? jk | ||
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DragoonPK
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DragoonPK
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On August 31 2008 04:57 Jibba wrote: Show up at her door in a CJ Entus T shirt. Game, set, match. Yep GG no re! | ||
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knyttym
United States5797 Posts
On August 31 2008 04:54 CapO wrote: i hate that question. it's almost 99.99% guaranteed that any korean you meet plays starcraft fixed | ||
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Mastermind
Canada7096 Posts
On August 31 2008 04:17 PH wrote: It's not just skin pigmentation...there's a whole mess of cultural issues she was thinking about as well...especially if she is a fob of some kind. My parents probably wouldn't let me inside the house if I ever brought a white girl to introduce to them. I've brought a Chinese girl, and they barely let that slide. Beyond that, I think other people are right...think about how you asked her out as well, there could've been something in that. It's definitely a possibility, even if it's not likely. Your parents are racist pieces of shit. Thats not defendable. | ||
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masami.sc
United States445 Posts
On August 31 2008 05:51 Mastermind wrote: Your parents are racist pieces of shit. Thats not defendable. It's racist but what are you going to do about it? I bet most Asian parents are like that. The fact is, most Asian parents (who have immigrated) wouldn't know what to do in a mixed race family. Communication would be incredibly difficult and not to mention, stifling; miscommunication and lack of dialogue between the in-laws would make for awkward family relationships, and ultimately, Asian parents (and probably most other immigrant parents) don't see the worth in having an interracial family if it's going to cause so much unacquainted confusion. | ||
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il0seonpurpose
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KOFgokuon
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QuietIdiot
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Personally, I wouldn't even bother, she probably has a real cliche and shitty introverted personality developed culturally anyways. | ||
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LonelyMargarita
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Carefree
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New Zealand6138 Posts
On August 31 2008 05:51 Mastermind wrote: Your parents are racist pieces of shit. Thats not defendable. I completely agree, but at the same time you have to realise this is pretty much par for the course for any asian parents. | ||
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SiegeTanksandBlueGoo
China685 Posts
On August 31 2008 06:45 Carefree Me wrote: masami.sc has got it right. You have to see the reasoning behind their "racism". Sure, it looks racist to our modern day (western) standards, but there's very legitimate concerns with multi-racial marriages. It's not bad with third generation immigrants (i.e. all of the family speaks English), but when you have first or second generation immigrants, there may be foreseeable communication problems. The way Asian cultures and western cultures handle marriages are completely different, and Asian parents have a legitimate fear here. Sometimes the marriage can play out fine, but other times, the miscommunication can really cause problems and arguments in the future. Also, imagine what it feels like for them to not be able to speak to their grandchildren... I agree too. Culturally speaking, there are so many differences, it takes a lot of love, patience and even some luck to make interracial marriages work. I know of some Chinese guys who married a white girl, and when his parents got old and sick, he had them moved to his house so he could take care of them. I know that this is acceptable and even expected in East Asian cultures, but the girl just adamantly refused, telling him to be "a man". They had a divorce over this. Marriages are hard enough, bringing in something that makes it even harder is not what I would want to do. But if I, or someone else found someone they really love, then I suppose it's ok, because love conquers all right? kekeke. As for childern, my school has a couple of Eurasian kids the girls are prettier than normal. :D) but they don't really fit in well in either groups of people. The asians think that they're too white, and the whites think they're too asian. I always try to go out of my way to help them, but I feel real sorry for them sometimes. They just don't have a group that they can identify themselves with. It might be ok in the future, but for right now, multiethnic kids still have it a lot tougher than single ethnic kids. Just my 2 cents. :D | ||
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kpcrew
Korea (South)1071 Posts
awesome feeling thanks capo i dunno, if it was the 2nd day u knew her, thats ur fault. gotta get to know a girl before u can just ask her out, even if her reply was racist and a bit stupid or maybe she just doesnt want to date you? | ||
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kpcrew
Korea (South)1071 Posts
On August 31 2008 04:38 micronesia wrote: Lol... put her on the spot and ask her to explain. Say you looked on a map and saw a North and a South. micronesia... not good advice | ||
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micronesia
United States24673 Posts
Yes obviously I was giving srs advice. I mean srs business. (But if you really wanted to know why she meant that, I guess that would be one way to draw it out of her) | ||
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clazziquai
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clazziquai
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On August 31 2008 06:13 masami.sc wrote: It's racist but what are you going to do about it? I bet most Asian parents are like that. The fact is, most Asian parents (who have immigrated) wouldn't know what to do in a mixed race family. Communication would be incredibly difficult and not to mention, stifling; miscommunication and lack of dialogue between the in-laws would make for awkward family relationships, and ultimately, Asian parents (and probably most other immigrant parents) don't see the worth in having an interracial family if it's going to cause so much unacquainted confusion. Well said. Seriously I couldn't agree more with this man! | ||
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Jibba
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On August 31 2008 06:45 Carefree Me wrote: masami.sc has got it right. You have to see the reasoning behind their "racism". Sure, it looks racist to our modern day (western) standards, but there's very legitimate concerns with multi-racial marriages. It's not bad with third generation immigrants (i.e. all of the family speaks English), but when you have first or second generation immigrants, there may be foreseeable communication problems. The way Asian cultures and western cultures handle marriages are completely different, and Asian parents have a legitimate fear here. Sometimes the marriage can play out fine, but other times, the miscommunication can really cause problems and arguments in the future. Also, imagine what it feels like for them to not be able to speak to their grandchildren... Uh... I don't think communication is the first thing on their mind. My dad speaks perfect Japanese and my grandparents gave my mom a bottle of mace when they first started dating. I think you just have to admit that most of the east asian countries are extremely homogeneous and as a result if you grow up in that environment, you became a bit racist. A kid growing up in America should be able to move past that and if they hold entirely steadfast under the concepts of their parents, I probably wouldn't want to date them anyways. | ||
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grobo
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On August 31 2008 04:36 Rev0lution wrote: she defended herself saying "it's not racist, it's just the way I am" That, my friend, is fucking hilarious. Stay away from her lol | ||
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Duke
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On August 31 2008 06:22 QuietIdiot wrote: Traditional and generic Korean families are really conservative, like 1950's white American conservative. Personally, I wouldn't even bother, she probably has a real cliche and shitty introverted personality developed culturally anyways. this. you didn't laugh in her face? ~_~ | ||
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Jibba
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Agreed. This won't win me any fans, but I can't stand most "azn" girls (or guys.) The ones who only hang out with other asians and get perfect SAT scores but are still fucking stupid and clueless in the real world. | ||
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kpcrew
Korea (South)1071 Posts
On August 31 2008 07:44 micronesia wrote: Yes obviously I was giving srs advice. I mean srs business. (But if you really wanted to know why she meant that, I guess that would be one way to draw it out of her) just cause you reply like a douchebag from 4chan doesnt change the fact that there are stupid people out there | ||
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fight_or_flight
United States3988 Posts
I'd say you have a challenge here. | ||
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XDawn
Canada4040 Posts
and my parents used to say all that "marry a korean girl" and shit but now they don't care as long as I'm happy and it works out well lol But imho, I'd rather marry a Korean girl too It's just.... more comfortable.. or something - I really don't know how to describe it in words. | ||
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slained
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korean chicks dig that | ||
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Kletus
Canada580 Posts
On August 31 2008 09:27 slained wrote: Just say "But I have 200+ apm?" korean chicks dig that Or say the magic words: "How would you like to take a ride on my battlecruiser?" | ||
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Carefree
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On August 31 2008 08:32 Jibba wrote: Uh... I don't think communication is the first thing on their mind. My dad speaks perfect Japanese and my grandparents gave my mom a bottle of mace when they first started dating. I think you just have to admit that most of the east asian countries are extremely homogeneous and as a result if you grow up in that environment, you became a bit racist. A kid growing up in America should be able to move past that and if they hold entirely steadfast under the concepts of their parents, I probably wouldn't want to date them anyways. Communication is definitely the first thing in my family. Last time I visited my family in China, they made a strong case about marrying an Asian girl. It wasn't a problem with being homogeneous. Simply put, the traditions of marriage and the responsibilities of the family unit are so different that it adds that extra barrier between a successful marriage. The differences between the viewpoints of westerners and Asians regarding issues such as divorce, taking care of parents (SiegeTanksandBlueGoo's example), etc create problems in the marriage. This isn't to say that multi-racial marriages are impossible and will always turn out bad- it's just to say that it's going to take that extra level of understanding to make it work. | ||
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Mickey
United States2606 Posts
My friends parents are Chinese, and they are racist against African Americans, Hispanics, etc.. Basically anyone that isn't Chinese is not marriage material for my friend. However, my friend isn't close minded, and told his parents to screw themselves about that. He's dating a Japanese girl, and they are doing really good as far as I hear. Let it go. For every close minded individual there 10 more to make you smile. | ||
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Jyvblamo
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Asian parents, what can you gonna do? | ||
FakeSteve[TPR]
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On August 31 2008 06:14 il0seonpurpose wrote: Yeah she probably said that cuz her parents, asian parents are all about being homogeneous did you just call me a homo genius? | ||
Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
you asked her out wrong anyways she doesn't like you probably all of these apply | ||
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micronesia
United States24673 Posts
On August 31 2008 08:54 kpcrew wrote: just cause you reply like a douchebag from 4chan doesnt change the fact that there are stupid people out there Sorry you are not making sense to me. | ||
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powa
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edit: insight? http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=77625 | ||
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Folca
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On August 31 2008 04:37 Rev0lution wrote: Another hint: I asked her, where are you from N.Korea or S.Korea and she said "there is no n.korea, only 1 korea" Fucking dumbass | ||
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Folca
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On August 31 2008 09:16 XDawn wrote: Not that this might matter - but I'm 1.5Gen and my parents used to say all that "marry a korean girl" and shit but now they don't care as long as I'm happy and it works out well lol But imho, I'd rather marry a Korean girl too It's just.... more comfortable.. or something - I really don't know how to describe it in words. RACIST sorry for the double post <3 | ||
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ctang
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Hippopotamus
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QFT. Might as well ask her if she's from Aiur. | ||
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iKill[ShocK]
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[X]Ken_D
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On August 31 2008 10:02 Rekrul wrote: shes testing you you asked her out wrong anyways she doesn't like you probably all of these apply bingo. | ||
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Klockan3
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Homo does not mean gay, it means "same" and genos means "kind". Or with other words, homogeneity means "being similar throughout", which makes it into a perfect word to use when talking about peoples resistance when it comes to mixing with other persons who has different attributes. | ||
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Nyovne
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KlaCkoN
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On August 31 2008 20:33 [X]Ken_D wrote: From my experience if she likes you, she likes you despite the race difference. What she said is an excuse to say she's not interested in you or something. If you really like her and you guys have a lot of fun together, you shouldn't give up. You didn't have to ask her straight up for a date, could had been to hang out and it can advance from there. If a girl who you aren't interested in at all, ask you out on a date, wouldn't that seem akward too? bingo. From talking to my east Asian friend I would say that there is a big chance that she actually ment exactly what she said. | ||
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
On August 31 2008 22:45 Klockan3 wrote: Homo does not mean gay, it means "same" and genos means "kind". Or with other words, homogeneity means "being similar throughout", which makes it into a perfect word to use when talking about peoples resistance when it comes to mixing with other persons who has different attributes. wooooooooooooooooosh | ||
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Night[Mare
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On August 31 2008 10:02 Rekrul wrote: shes testing you you asked her out wrong anyways she doesn't like you probably all of these apply wise words sir | ||
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DamageControL
United States4222 Posts
On August 31 2008 05:51 Mastermind wrote: Your parents are racist pieces of shit. Thats not defendable. To call his parents racist is one thing, but don't call them pieces of shit based on that information alone. | ||
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Frits
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On September 01 2008 03:11 closed wrote: what's wrong with that? some people want their children to be similar to them e.g. have blue eyes; thus they do not date with people of other races; you dont need "strict asian parents" to do that agreed man + Show Spoiler + HEIL HITLER | ||
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daz
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aTnClouD
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On September 01 2008 03:54 daz wrote: tell her shes a racist pig. she will probably agree with you and jump on your dick. i heard thats how that mystery method shit works She would most likely spit his face and go away. Life is not a porn | ||
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XCetron
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sucks for you tho :/ | ||
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REDBLUEGREEN
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racist bitch.. | ||
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Februarys
Korea (South)259 Posts
a lot of my female friends who are Korean, Japanese, Chinese tend to date their own race so don't feel like its your fault Its kind of like, when a hispanic guy asks out a White chick. Even though the guy might not be Mexican, the girl will instantly think of the stereotypical Mexican image and rumors and reject him | ||
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Februarys
Korea (South)259 Posts
On September 01 2008 06:46 REDBLUEGREEN wrote: It's not like asking someone out means that you will get married... Oo racist bitch.. To lots of girls, it does | ||
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daz
Canada643 Posts
On September 01 2008 04:37 iG.ClouD wrote: She would most likely spit his face and go away. Life is not a porn that was kind of a joke bro. you never heard of the mystery method? | ||
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29 fps
United States5724 Posts
On September 01 2008 07:41 lOstHeaven wrote: I am "asian" myself, and this girl told me the same thing =/ i lol'ed hard what is "asian" as opposed to simply asian? and this is about traditional values vs contemporary values/western values. so don`t fault her for holding her traditional ways (even if it seems unfir for modern society). those who say she`s racist don`t really understand asian values, and in a way are forcing their own values into the situation, assuming that they are better/correct. as others have already said, just keep trying. not all girls are traditional minded, though | ||
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kpcrew
Korea (South)1071 Posts
they are "asian" but not yellow skinned like those from china, korea, japan, vietnam, etc | ||
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Boblion
France8043 Posts
This is so rude. Why her parents moved to US if they cant stand to see their children having fun with people of other " races" ? Stupid racists -.- | ||
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nemY
United States3119 Posts
"I'm Caucasian, what's the problem here?" not saying it'll work out (it probably won't I've never tried it), but it's better than demanding, "Why?" | ||
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Nytefish
United Kingdom4282 Posts
On September 01 2008 11:51 nemY wrote: Next time you arrive at this situation just play it off and say something like "I'm Caucasian, what's the problem here?" not saying it'll work out (it probably won't I've never tried it), but it's better than demanding, "Why?" Well ignoring how blatantly stupid that is... asian =/= oriental =/= korean. The word "race" could mean a lot. | ||
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lOstHeaven
Canada212 Posts
On September 01 2008 08:50 kpcrew wrote: maybe hes indian they are "asian" but not yellow skinned like those from china, korea, japan, vietnam, etc wait there. not indian, i was just stating simple asian didnt meant the east-asia, anyway this girl was chinese and I'm lao weird huh?!?! | ||
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IdrA
United States11541 Posts
On September 01 2008 02:41 DamageControL wrote: To call his parents racist is one thing, but don't call them pieces of shit based on that information alone. if they wont let their son in the house because hes with a white girl they are pieces of shit dont really see what more information you need | ||
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micronesia
United States24673 Posts
On September 01 2008 15:28 IdrA wrote: if they wont let their son in the house because hes with a white girl they are pieces of shit dont really see what more information you need To be fair, if the parents were each raised to be like that from day one, then it's easy to call them racist, but difficult to consider them completely 'shit' imo. | ||
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eshlow
United States5210 Posts
I'm 4th gen asian, and my parents could care less who I married. 1st and 2nd gen immigrants are kinda like that... as well as more conservative places. Both retarded social and cultural factors.. failure. | ||
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
On September 01 2008 06:46 REDBLUEGREEN wrote: It's not like asking someone out means that you will get married... Oo racist bitch.. If she's a hardcore Korean Kristian it might. | ||
MrHoon
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One of my gaming buddies who dropped out of school called me for the first time in 3 years and told me how awesome god is as he can cure my gaming disease. | ||
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Fontong
United States6454 Posts
And she never talked to me again lollz | ||
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