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United States486 Posts
This is going to be a short story about how I learned to stop being a b****, let go of my hate for other players, and met the guy who caused it all.
Back Story
I've been playing League of Legends since the first days of Closed Beta. I've made many friends in this time. It's been over 4 years, so most of them have come & gone, but some of them are still around. The problem is most of those guys that have been around that long & are still playing are now either Challenger/Diamond 1 super pros, work at Riot so it's awkward talking to them. The amount of people who write you off as a pro hoe for just knowing these people is astounding, but I won't be going into that in this blog.
1 Month Ago
So about a month ago I was playing solo queue & ran into a guy. He was really nice, played well, & was responsive so I added him after the game. We played on & off for a while in normals. At the time I was a complete b**** to most people no matter their rank. If they were low ranked I treated them bad for being low ranked and if they were higher ranked I told them I won't do ranked with them because I didn't want to be carried. I was in a huge downward spiral of losing most of my friends, isolating myself, and coming off like a total turd-sandwich in the process.
We'll call him Andrew. So me & Andrew(The guy I met) were playing normals together on a daily basis. We had really good synergy in-game & on voice comms. I could tell things were picking up between us, so I gave him my Skype and we start talking on Skype throughout the day.
Before I knew it, we were talking on Skype together almost all day every day. At work or school we'd be talking to each other. I really liked the way things were going and I've never been in an e-relationship before, so it was new & exciting. I think what attracted me to him the most was how he talked to me. Nearly every guy I've ever met would overly compliment my gameplay or wouldn't comment on it at all. Andrew isn't like that. He'd make fun of my bad plays in a joking way & I'd do the same back to him. It was great because he wasn't necessarily straight-up better than me, but he was 1 division higher than me, so playing with him was really fun since one game I'd be carrying and the next it'd be him. I play Jungle & ADC, so I've always broke the stereotype of the tee hee gurl gamur who plays nothing but support & the occasional mid who gets jungle babysat. Things were going great & we NEVER argued, which was surprising for me, because like I said, I've always been a bit of a b**** up until now.
Fast Forward To Now
We've been talking pretty much every single day since we've met, and play almost every day. Text each other & Skype whenever we can & we always play together, EVEN RANKED. This was something that was pretty big for me because it's hard to explain how it feels duo queueing with a guy as a girl. You're opening yourself up to the opportunity for them to go around & say they carried you or boosted you or any other horrible thing they decide on doing. For the first time in ever I trust someone enough to open up to them like that. Hell, I guess you could consider it e-sex. You're really opening yourself up & making yourself vulnerable to a guy like that when you take competitive play serious.
I also really think having someone to joke about how horrible I am/he is together with has really gave me a safe & healthy outlet to troll or goof around without coming off like a gigantic douche to everyone. I've also noticed people aren't perceiving me as overly threatening, aggressive, or whatever else you want to call it so I guess it's a good thing.
I will admit, I did have a small episode about a week ago. A girl asked my boyfriend to boost her. He's Diamond 1, so it's not a rare occurrence, but this time it was a girl asking him & it really set me off. She tried to play the "But we're such close friends" card, and I wasn't about to let that fly. Told her if she doesn't go jump down a well & stay far away I'll get her reset. Anyway, Andrew told me that they aren't really close friends at all and that they've only played together a few times before I said anything to her, so I don't feel too crazy for doing it. It was an obvious case of a girl just trying to get boosted.
The Future?
I'm not sure where I'm going from here. Obviously it's a good thing no matter how you look at it that I'm a more positive & happy person in general now, so what? I've never been in a situation like this before, so I'm not sure at all where things will go from here. It's completely unexplored territory to me and I'm excited to see where things will go, but I don't wanna screw things up. I guess I'll just keep acting the way I have been & hope things turn out well but I really don't wanna lose this. I'm more happy with the fact that with the introduction of him in my life I've became just a better person in general. Maybe I'll do an update in a month or two & see where we go from here, but as of right now things are going great and I plan on doing whatever it takes to keep it that way.
(Thanks to TL staff for fixing the spelling in my title.)
Also thanks to everyone for giving me feedback. I'll try to not be so OAG in the future, but in my defense he told me they weren't really friends in the first place. She was just wanting free boosting by flirting with him, and he thought it'd be funny for me to approach her because he knows I can run tread marks on her face in-game)
 
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Queuing for ranked LoL is akin to intercourse? Perhaps I am playing the wrong games.
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Bisutopia19368 Posts
"(S)He who cares the least wins."
It's great that things are turning positive for you but this is the point where you are walking on thin ice. Being needy or possessive especially in an eRelationship can make things go south very quickly. The best way to know if you have a man you can trust, is by trusting them and if they screw up it wasn't meant to be. No matter how hard you try, you can't prevent something you disagree with from happening by accusing him of a situation he hasn't even partaken in yet. And if he does choose to boost her rank and it truly bothers you afterward then let him know once and never bring it up again.
Things will always bother you. But if it's becomes something that constantly hurts your feelings after you mention it once then he's not meant for you. But a guy will respect his girl a 100 times more if she acts like those little things don't bother her. We are all jealous people, but the ones in relationships that are healthy and last are the ones who aren't gaurding the relationship 24/7 to make sure nothing goes wrong. So getting up in that girls face may sound funny but really can be unattractive in the guys eyes. You sound really sweet, so relax and just go with the flow. Everything will work out for your happiness.
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United States486 Posts
On October 12 2013 04:42 farvacola wrote:
Queuing for ranked LoL is akin to intercourse? Perhaps I am playing the wrong games.
I've always played games hyper-competitively so to me, putting myself in a position where a guy can say he is the entire reason I got to where I am puts me in a really vulnerable state. This definitely won't be the case for most people, and definitely not most girls since most just play "for fun". I play to win & improve, and that's about it. Seeing myself improve is fun to me. That's where I gain the most entertainment in eSports.
On October 12 2013 04:46 BisuDagger wrote:"(S)He who cares the least wins." It's great that things are turning positive for you but this is the point where you are walking on thin ice. Being needy or possessive especially in an eRelationship can make things go south very quickly. The best way to know if you have a man you can trust, is by trusting them and if they screw up it wasn't meant to be. .
Thanks for the advice. I actually did this in the past with locodoco. He got mad because I refused to "Skype" with him, so he got on stream & pretty much ruined my reputation. I guess I've been scared to trust anyone ever since. Having someone embarrass you in front of 3k+ people because you stopped talking kinda leaves a sour taste in your mouth.
On October 12 2013 04:46 BisuDagger wrote:No matter how hard you try, you can't prevent something you disagree with from happening by accusing him of a situation he hasn't even partaken in yet. And if he does choose to boost her rank and it truly bothers you afterward then let him know once and never bring it up again.
He actually was the one who told me. We had a good laugh about it and agreed she should be put in her place for even asking for it.
On October 12 2013 04:46 BisuDagger wrote:So getting up in that girls face may sound funny but really can be unattractive in the guys eyes. You sound really sweet, so relax and just go with the flow. Everything will work out for your happiness
Thanks for all this advice Bisu. I really do appreciate it. To give some context, he told me she asked him to boost her. I told her that I thought that's really pathetic since she knows we're seeing each other(kinda) & that I wanted to say something to her, but wouldn't to avoid causing anything. He said he thought it was cute that I was so protective of him, so I said something. I know you're right though. I'm a noob when it comes to these type of things & probably shouldn't have, but I couldn't resist. I'M WEAK. D: Teach me the ways
I think your quote couldn't be more dead on though. I've noticed since I care less about the game I've improved immensely in attitude & overall performance.
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On October 12 2013 04:34 Rainbow Cuddles wrote:
A girl asked my boyfriend to boost her. He's Diamond 1, so it's not a rare occurrence, but this time it was a girl asking him & it really set me off. She tried to play the "But we're such close friends" card, and I wasn't about to let that fly. Told her if she doesn't go jump down a well & stay far away I'll get her reset.
Can't say I run into this exact circumstance all that often, but just offhand this sounded a bit extreme. Like, if I was "Andrew" I might be a little weirded out that you went so far as to threaten someone who was a close friend of his (but of course maybe she was lying about that, who can tell). Maybe if she keeps asking you could join the boosting party with them as well so she doesn't have the chance to get all that close with him.
Also the first time I read that bit about queuing ranked with someone being so significant I scoffed a little, but upon reflection I think actually it's accurate. After all, a guy queuing ranked with another guy is no big deal but like you said if you're proud of your identity as a serious gamer as opposed to a kind of "gamer girl" who just leeches off guys, well, then the dynamics of who to queue ranked with and your relationship with that person are actually quite important.
Anyway, a big congratulations, it's quite rare in this world to find someone who makes you feel like a better person just by being with them. My advice? Don't stress about about what you're "supposed" to do. If he likes you as you are, and he likes the relationship for what it is, he's perfect. If he doesn't, you're not meant to be together.
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This is...all online, right?
And it's...happening over League of Legends, you say?
And you have...never met him face to face?
BisuDagger makes a great Dr. Phil. The virtual, gaming community sort of one.
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You definitely shouldn't have told that girl to jump down a well, but overall, it's not a big deal.
Andrew told you that some girl was asking him to boost her, most likely because he was fishing for some hint of protectiveness or jealousy. When your partner shows some hints of being a little protective of you without directly showing it, it's very attractive. But it's very easy to cross the line where you are becoming restrictive of him, and that's really bad. Overall, it's good to be trusting of him, even if you push your comfort zone a bit. A good relationship is built upon some uncertainty.
By the sound of it, it looks like you two are getting along great. It's wonderful to find someone that you can really connect with. Is this strictly an e-relationship, or do you plan on meeting up at some point?
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On October 12 2013 05:10 Chairman Ray wrote:
You definitely shouldn't have told that girl to jump down a well, but overall, it's not a big deal.
Andrew told you that some girl was asking him to boost her, most likely because he was fishing for some hint of protectiveness or jealousy. When your partner shows some hints of being a little protective of you without directly showing it, it's very attractive. But it's very easy to cross the line where you are becoming restrictive of him, and that's really bad. Overall, it's good to be trusting of him, even if you push your comfort zone a bit. A good relationship is built upon some uncertainty.
By the sound of it, it looks like you two are getting along great. It's wonderful to find someone that you can really connect with. Is this strictly an e-relationship, or do you plan on meeting up at some point?
tell dat bitch to BACK OFF
every girl got a friend who is like "ya ill go shopping with her but I won't let her duo q 1 game with my bf"
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On October 12 2013 04:34 Rainbow Cuddles wrote:
b****
What does this mean!? I DON'T UNDERSTAND
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Good to hear you're enjoying League. Although comparing duo-queueing with sex is uh, a bit over the top. Also telling your friend to jump down a well also seems a bit extreme.
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United States486 Posts
On October 12 2013 05:00 jubil wrote:
Can't say I run into this exact circumstance all that often, but just offhand this sounded a bit extreme. Like, if I was "Andrew" I might be a little weirded out that you went so far as to threaten someone who was a close friend of his (but of course maybe she was lying about that, who can tell).
I guess I should have clarified that he told me that he laughed really hard when she said that. They've talked like 2 times and played 1 game together. Sorry I'm a bad story teller. ;_;
On October 12 2013 05:00 jubil wrote:
Anyway, a big congratulations, it's quite rare in this world to find someone who makes you feel like a better person just by being with them. My advice? Don't stress about about what you're "supposed" to do. If he likes you as you are, and he likes the relationship for what it is, he's perfect. If he doesn't, you're not meant to be together.
Thanks for the advice! I've been trying to just go with the flow as much as possible
On October 12 2013 05:10 Chairman Ray wrote:
When your partner shows some hints of being a little protective of you without directly showing it, it's very attractive. But it's very easy to cross the line where you are becoming restrictive of him, and that's really bad. Overall, it's good to be trusting of him, even if you push your comfort zone a bit. A good relationship is built upon some uncertainty.
I'll take that into consideration & not be so.. uh... crazy I guess. I'm glad I wrote this blog thinking on it now.
On October 12 2013 05:10 Chairman Ray wrote:
By the sound of it, it looks like you two are getting along great. It's wonderful to find someone that you can really connect with. Is this strictly an e-relationship, or do you plan on meeting up at some point?
I'm not sure yet. We probably won't meet IRL since he lives pretty far away & there's an age gap  I really wish we could though, I'm just not sure how well it'd work. I really enjoy things how they are right now though.
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LoL and girlboy blog. Dream really do come true!
On October 12 2013 05:21 ninazerg wrote:What does this mean!? I DON'T UNDERSTAND
N*nazerg + Show Spoiler + *s a *o*al b**ch
Would you like to buy a vowel?
As far as e-relationships go, I like playing LoL with girls but it's nowhere as good as like going on a date or actually being near them. You should see him soon if you want the relationship to grow. Also doesn't seem like he knows he's in a relationship. Does he?
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so...you guys are together....in a e-relationship?
Or he is just a guy friend that made you a better person?
Also so how does the touchy stuff and kissing work through skype? Is there a /kiss command or something?
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Given that you will never meet irl and there's an age gap, you are definitely putting a very unhealthy amount of emotional investment into this. There's no such thing as an e-relationship where you exclusively play LoL with each other and are not allowed to duo queue with other people. There's only one way it could end, and that is when one of you finds a real relationship and the other one won't be able to accept it. You say you enjoy things how they are right now, but I think that might be because this is the closest you've ever been to a tangible relationship. I think you should start considering him as a close friend, but the exclusivity bit is pushing it a bit too far.
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United States486 Posts
On October 12 2013 06:18 Smurfett3 wrote:
so...you guys are together....in a e-relationship?
Or he is just a guy friend that made you a better person?
I guess we're kinda in an e-relationship or something. It's funny because I've always thought they were kinda silly, but now that I'm in this position I can see why it's such a not so horrible choice. I know he sees me as more than a friend & I do as well.
On October 12 2013 06:20 Chairman Ray wrote:
Given that you will never meet irl and there's an age gap, you are definitely putting a very unhealthy amount of emotional investment into this. There's no such thing as an e-relationship where you exclusively play LoL with each other and are not allowed to duo queue with other people. There's only one way it could end, and that is when one of you finds a real relationship and the other one won't be able to accept it. You say you enjoy things how they are right now, but I think that might be because this is the closest you've ever been to a tangible relationship. I think you should start considering him as a close friend, but the exclusivity bit is pushing it a bit too far.
I definitely see where you're coming from. I don't think I'm too invested in this honestly. If he meets someone IRL, that's fine. I obviously realize that's a very likely ending to everything, and I'm OK with that. As always, Real Life > e-Life. Whichever option he decides to take things, I'm fine with.I'm fully aware of how far things can & can't go given how it's online and respect that boundary. Not gonna lie though if I got ditched for another girl in an e-relationship, I'd unleash the rage of a thousand Nestea's.
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@Chairman, kind of harsh brotha, they might work out, slim chances, but it seems possible. #believe # ScumbagRay #MoarBelieve
@Rainbow Cuddles, One Question you should ask yourself, and ask Andrew, is: "Is this relationship going to be/already is serious?" And if so, Do both of you believe you 2 will last? And even though dreaming this and wondering this too far is bad, think about maybe meeting one day =)
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I'm just going to make a wild stab in the dark, but.... I don't think you have a firm understanding of what intercourse is nor how LoL could possibly compare to it.
As intercourse is a dialogue between two+ people, so is sexual intercourse a dialogue between two+ people's states / behaviours. Duo-queuing doesn't exactly imitate that. Nor does it presuppose intellectual, physical or sexual maturity. Thus, while I applaud you for having an open mind about having fun while meeting this... "Andrew" on the internet, I'm getting the jealous stalker vibe a little too heavily from your posts.
Not gonna lie though, if I got ditched for some girl online, I'd unleash the rage of a thousand Nestea's.
Most importantly, I would say, you should make certain that you understand the position you are in and what you hope to gain from it. You, too, could be that girl online.
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United States486 Posts
On October 12 2013 06:28 ToasterBoy wrote:
@Rainbow Cuddles, One Question you should ask yourself, and ask Andrew, is: "Is this relationship going to be/already is serious?" And if so, Do both of you believe you 2 will last? And even though dreaming this and wondering this too far is bad, think about maybe meeting one day =)
Taking into consideration it's online & how long we've been talking, I'd say yeah it's really serious. We never ever argue, get along great, and enjoy playing with each other. I push myself to keep up with his play so there is no conflict in that sense, our personalities get along great, and overall things seem great(For now). I know eventually we'll have something to deal with, but as things stand now I don't see us really breaking us. Worst case scenario we'd stay in-game friends because our playstyles & in-game personalities are really compatible. lol
On October 12 2013 06:38 Serpest wrote:
I'm just going to make a wild stab in the dark, but.... I don't think you have a firm understanding of what intercourse is nor how LoL could possibly compare to it.
I've had sex more times than I can count with at least 40+ people(about a 50/50 split guys/girls). Yeah, a bit whorey, but still. You're making a lot of assumptions in your post. You're also a guy, so sex in general is a way different experience for you. You can read up on the mental differences here.
tl;dr - It's about totally surrendering yourself to someone for women. Playing ranked with a guy is like that for me, because I'm putting a lot of trust in a guy to do that. He could turn around & start bragging about how he carries me in solo queue or whatever. It can very easily ruin a girls reputation in an esports community.
On October 12 2013 06:38 Serpest wrote:Most importantly, I would say, you should make certain that you understand the position you are in and what you hope to gain from it. You, too, could be that girl online.
That's a good point, but I'm 100% positive I'd never steal someones SO. If I found out he ditched someone for me, I'd put him on ignore immediately.
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i don't see how a relationship can be serious if u get insecure over ur boyfriend playing a video game with another person
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United States486 Posts
On October 12 2013 07:02 vlaric wrote:
i don't see how a relationship can be serious if u get insecure over ur boyfriend playing a video game with another person
My blog was nothing about him playing with another person? A girl tried using him by faking being so close to him to get boosted. She was putting him in a situation where he could get banned/reset for her personal gain. No bueno.
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Fair enough. I still say though you may have lots of experience, in this case it's a little strange to equalize the two cases - especially considering one is a game. Unless you're going pro, there shouldn't ever be the need to feel insecure about one's gaming reputation. I don't have any idea what's it's like to be a girl gamer - but then again I'm also uncertain of what it means to be an American gamer (too many awful stereotypes) and I don't want to insult or offend you.
Regardless, you shouldn't be surrendering yourself in a game because that is psychologically unhealthy. There shouldn't be any reason that you can play with anyone (no matter how much of a jerk or nice person they are) and take solace in your actions as demonstrative of who you are.
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On October 12 2013 07:05 Rainbow Cuddles wrote:Show nested quote +On October 12 2013 07:02 vlaric wrote:
i don't see how a relationship can be serious if u get insecure over ur boyfriend playing a video game with another person My blog was nothing about him playing with another person? A girl tried using him by faking being so close to him to get boosted.
I guess.... Should still think about what you're typing here.
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United States486 Posts
On October 12 2013 07:07 Serpest wrote:
Fair enough. I still say though you may have lots of experience, in this case it's a little strange to equalize the two cases - especially considering one is a game. Unless you're going pro, there shouldn't ever be the need to feel insecure about one's gaming reputation.
I played on Ordinance Gaming as a starter. We won 3 Go4LoL's in a row beating TSM, Curse & a few other major teams & placing hiring than C9(They were a new team at the time). More info here. Please don't take this as bragging or anything even close. I realize I'm on Team Liquid. There are people here who far surpass anywhere I can even begin to hope to place. I'm just trying to express to you that my ultimate goal is to compete at whatever level I'm currently at. Even if I were a low-level player, I'd want to compete & do whatever it takes to improve as a player.
I realize I'm not a pro by most peoples definition but I do take competing incredibly serious as it's where I derive most of my fun. The constant pursuit of improvement is what drives me
On October 12 2013 07:07 Serpest wrote:
Regardless, you shouldn't be surrendering yourself in a game because that is psychologically unhealthy. There shouldn't be any reason that you can play with anyone (no matter how much of a jerk or nice person they are) and take solace in your actions as demonstrative of who you are.
TBH I think it's more healthy to be in a situation where I trust someone enough where I can. Before I was pretty pent up all the time in-game because I was really scared I'd have to defend my honor in playing. Most of my friends are Diamond/Challenger, and it kinda sucks because to me, there's always that underlying need to prove to everyone I play with that I can carry my own weight. There's never been that with Andrew. I feel like I can relax & have more fun just playing the game. It's a relief I haven't felt in a very long time. I could be totally wrong on all this though. Could be false feelings, but either way I'm enjoying the feels.
On October 12 2013 07:07 Serpest wrote:
I guess.... Should still think about what you're typing here.
Yeah. I'm not too good at story telling. I felt like if I went too far into that it'd be more about a catty fight with a girl & less about him, which I didn't want it to be. I'll try to make my next blog post more detailed. Appreciate the feedback
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If you're so serious about lol why don't you post in TL LoL GD(General Discussion)? Wait... nvm. Posting there doesn't make you good at LoL.
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looks like LoL is serious business
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I fear for my future kids much more after reading this blog.
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On October 12 2013 07:34 CecilSunkure wrote:
I fear for my future kids much more after reading this blog.
Someone is optimistic ^^
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On October 12 2013 04:46 BisuDagger wrote:"(S)He who cares the least wins." It's great that things are turning positive for you but this is the point where you are walking on thin ice. Being needy or possessive especially in an eRelationship can make things go south very quickly. The best way to know if you have a man you can trust, is by trusting them and if they screw up it wasn't meant to be. No matter how hard you try, you can't prevent something you disagree with from happening by accusing him of a situation he hasn't even partaken in yet. And if he does choose to boost her rank and it truly bothers you afterward then let him know once and never bring it up again. Things will always bother you. But if it's becomes something that constantly hurts your feelings after you mention it once then he's not meant for you. But a guy will respect his girl a 100 times more if she acts like those little things don't bother her. We are all jealous people, but the ones in relationships that are healthy and last are the ones who aren't gaurding the relationship 24/7 to make sure nothing goes wrong. So getting up in that girls face may sound funny but really can be unattractive in the guys eyes. You sound really sweet, so relax and just go with the flow. Everything will work out for your happiness.
I can 100% agree with this advice. I have been in a situation where if I had listened to my instinct on this advice, things would have worked out. Or we'd have broken up sooner and it wouldn't have been painfully drawn out over a year and a half.
Anyway, I guess good luck with your e-relationship and it is nice to hear that you have found happiness. 
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Nothing wrong with enjoying the moment.
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I would stay far far away from e-relationships
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we dont get this shit in dota? do we???
would ladder make us get this shit?
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On October 12 2013 08:39 Ushio wrote:
I would stay far far away from e-relationships
e-relationships = mirage in the desert
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Bisutopia19368 Posts
On October 12 2013 10:28 biology]major wrote:Show nested quote +On October 12 2013 08:39 Ushio wrote:
I would stay far far away from e-relationships e-relationships = mirage in the desert
Just to comment on that. There is a guy I work with who dated some girl online for 7 years and she lived 20 hours away. They never met once. She decided halfway through to date another guy who lived an hour away. The coworker said ok cause he "loved" her. So for the last three years he eDated her while she got close to this other guy who knew about her eBF. Well he broke up with her when she decided to buy a car with the guy who lived near her. A week later he got back together with her cause he said "I'm just glad you're happy". A couple months later she got engaged and he finally broke up with her again even though she didn't understand why. They went back and forth like this for several more months before he finally "officially" moved on. I knew it was final cause he took days off from work to stay home and cry.
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this e relationship thing does not sound healthy. Also people involved seem to project a lot of stuff onto the game because its their only interaction.
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On October 12 2013 10:39 LaNague wrote:
this e relationship thing does not sound healthy. Also people involved seem to project a lot of stuff onto the game because its their only interaction.
It isn't healthy, however if you are being responsible with your life outside of that, then it doesn't mean you can't enjoy it while it lasts!
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0/10 WOULD NOT SLAM
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User was warned for this post
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I'd tell you that dating a guy you met on a video game might not be the best idea.. But a real life friend of mine actually met her first boyfriend on league, and they e-dated for like 6 months, before moving in together. They're still together 2 years later
Best of luck.
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I think you should see a therapist.
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im confused, so did Andrew become ur boyfriend or do u have a boyfriend and Andrew is ur LoL partner?
nvm i think i worked it out
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5/5 solely because that jynx pic has put the biggest smile on my face.
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Thanks for sharing. Your comparison to e-sex is pretty interesting. I wonder if things will last after the sunshine and butterfly phase is over... not saying I'm a doubting, though. I actually reconnected through SC2's Facebook friend finder with a fantastic woman I knew way back in the early 2000's during middle/high school. She moved in after four months or so of back and forth banter and we're coming up on our one year mark next week.
Keep us posted.
On October 12 2013 04:46 BisuDagger wrote:"(S)He who cares the least wins." It's great that things are turning positive for you but this is the point where you are walking on thin ice. Being needy or possessive especially in an eRelationship can make things go south very quickly. The best way to know if you have a man you can trust, is by trusting them and if they screw up it wasn't meant to be. No matter how hard you try, you can't prevent something you disagree with from happening by accusing him of a situation he hasn't even partaken in yet. And if he does choose to boost her rank and it truly bothers you afterward then let him know once and never bring it up again. Things will always bother you. But if it's becomes something that constantly hurts your feelings after you mention it once then he's not meant for you. But a guy will respect his girl a 100 times more if she acts like those little things don't bother her. We are all jealous people, but the ones in relationships that are healthy and last are the ones who aren't gaurding the relationship 24/7 to make sure nothing goes wrong. So getting up in that girls face may sound funny but really can be unattractive in the guys eyes. You sound really sweet, so relax and just go with the flow. Everything will work out for your happiness.
This is a 5/5 post. Couldn't have said that better myself.
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I wonder what happened to his old duo q buddy that told him that that stupid ballerina he started to play with should go jump down a well.
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You shouldn't care what other people say.
Since so many people play League, it's bound to succumb to average intelligence. Being on TeamLiquid, we're fortunate enough to produce more cognitive thought, but in general people are kind of dumb.
Therefore, they say all sorts of really stupid things.
But it's all in your head. At the end of the day, your world is the only one that exists, and other people's words become your words because you allow them to exist, and manifest. You can let them manifest, and hide forever, or you can let go, and be free of what other people say, because other people, unless they take a knife and stab you or something, should have no effect on your mental well-being whatsoever.
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Hell, I guess you could consider it e-sex
lmao hahahaaaha
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I don't want to be a dick, but I think your taking League way to serious. I play ranked all the times sometimes with lower ranked people and sometimes with higher ranked people and nobody has ever once said they carried me while being serious. Maybe its because I'm not a girl, but to call anything regarding league related as "e-sex" is a bit absurd to me.
Also you shouldn't give a fuck who your boyfriend boosts. If you don't trust him because he plays League with another girl then you shouldn't be dating him in the first place, and if you're really jealous that he played a ranked game with another girl while your then you're a psycho.
Also you said yourself that you can be a bitch. Some of your post comes off as a bit bitchy so you should continue to work on that. Good luck with your boyfriend.
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On October 14 2013 15:03 SCC-Just wrote:
Also you shouldn't give a fuck who your boyfriend boosts..
lmao u didnt read everything 
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For what it's worth I have subscribed to your blog in anticipation of your inevitable emotional breakdown blog, of which this seems to be the prologue.
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On October 14 2013 17:12 Serejai wrote:
For what it's worth I have subscribed to your blog in anticipation of your inevitable emotional breakdown blog, of which this seems to be the prologue.
thank you I am sure it will come eventually i am pretty messed up in the head anyway LOOL
if i ever do an an hero post itd be on here
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Korea (South)11232 Posts
meets eboyfriend on LoL; blog about LoL but no posts in the LoL section :<
join usssssss~
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On October 14 2013 23:18 Chexx wrote:
meets eboyfriend on LoL; blog about LoL but no posts in the LoL section :<
join usssssss~
I rather spend my time trying to find things to add to TLpedia tbh, but I'm on TeamSpeak 24/7 as RainBow.
I post in there SOMETIMES, but idk I'm just really busy. Between practicing SC2 & LoL I find a hard time posting too :[ Guess I just gotta stop being a sissy & up my game
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Korea (South)11232 Posts
On October 15 2013 03:38 Rainbow Cuddles wrote:Show nested quote +On October 14 2013 23:18 Chexx wrote:
meets eboyfriend on LoL; blog about LoL but no posts in the LoL section :<
join usssssss~ I rather spend my time trying to find things to add to TLpedia tbh, but I'm on TeamSpeak 24/7 as RainBow. I post in there SOMETIMES, but idk I'm just really busy. Between practicing SC2 & LoL I find a hard time posting too :[ Guess I just gotta stop being a sissy & up my game
Thats the right attitude Champ!
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On October 14 2013 17:12 Serejai wrote:
For what it's worth I have subscribed to your blog in anticipation of your inevitable emotional breakdown blog, of which this seems to be the prologue.
I read this whole thread and didnt even smile once.
I lost it here. gg no re.
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Well this sounds special. I don't mean to sound condescending, but you say you've had sex like 50 times, which leads me to assume you have been in multiple relationships, some of which may have been serious. Yet you think that playing LoL with a guy, no matter how fun or intimate it sounds, is anything in comparison?
I guess it's not my place to judge. Whatever you feel is obviously a big deal for you, so who am I to say that what you feel is wrong or anything. If it's important to you, that's what it is.
Where do you hope to be in a year? in 5 years? Are you looking to just have fun for a few months, or are you looking for something of substance? if you only want to have fun, is it worth mentally investing so much into this? You acted jealous for essentially nothing already. If you want this to go forward, what steps are you willing to take? What has REALLY happened in this relationship so far for you to consider you two as a couple? There is wisdom in judging things based on what has happened and what the real state of things is, not how strong feelings you happen to have for that person. Don't bump him up to a status because of a crush, bump him there because he deserves it, because he has earned it. Same should go for you too.
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On October 17 2013 18:55 Ahzz wrote:
Where do you hope to be in a year? in 5 years? Are you looking to just have fun for a few months, or are you looking for something of substance? if you only want to have fun, is it worth mentally investing so much into this? You acted jealous for essentially nothing already. If you want this to go forward, what steps are you willing to take? What has REALLY happened in this relationship so far for you to consider you two as a couple? There is wisdom in judging things based on what has happened and what the real state of things is, not how strong feelings you happen to have for that person. Don't bump him up to a status because of a crush, bump him there because he deserves it, because he has earned it. Same should go for you too.
Same place I am now; Hopefully not dead. I'm looking to be happy right now. That's it. He makes me very happy, so it works. I'm not that mentally invested in it tbh. I don't get too invested in anything anymore. I didn't act jealous "for nothing already". You either didn't read everything or you took it out of context by mistake. It was a joke that we both thought would be funny, so I did it. & it was quite funny. lol. You're also not taking into consideration that just because I've hooked up with a lot of people doesn't mean it was ever serious. I've been in a few serious relationships, but that's not the point. Point is it could have all been casual hookups, which honestly would make this all the more serious.
Don't get me wrong though, I can see how your questions could apply to your life, but they definitely don't apply to mine. In the past I've taken life & other things way too serious & I didn't really like it. I'm more of a chill/do whatever type person nowadays. To each their own though. I do appreciate the questions
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Still waiting for a boy blog that doesn't involve a girl writing it.
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On October 18 2013 06:38 Slayer91 wrote:
M night shamalyan
good god, please not!
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On October 18 2013 06:37 Zaros wrote:
Still waiting for a boy blog that doesn't involve a girl writing it.
like a gay blog?
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maybe the writer is intersex
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On October 18 2013 08:02 Slayer91 wrote:
maybe the writer is intersex
Close
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On October 18 2013 08:01 Rainbow Cuddles wrote:Show nested quote +On October 18 2013 06:37 Zaros wrote:
Still waiting for a boy blog that doesn't involve a girl writing it. like a gay blog?
exactly.
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On October 18 2013 08:52 Rainbow Cuddles wrote:Close
Can anyone explain this phenomenon of MtF transgender in gaming? Where is the research, has no one in science even realized this yet?
Also, how old are you op?
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