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Azera
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Cokefreak
Finland8095 Posts
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Azera
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On February 14 2013 21:52 Cokefreak wrote: I waited so long for... this? How disappointing. Yeah I guess I could've updated sooner, but my HDD died and there was the whole CNY thing. | ||
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Cokefreak
Finland8095 Posts
On February 14 2013 21:53 Azera wrote: Yeah I guess I could've updated sooner, but my HDD died and there was the whole CNY thing. Oh well... I got friendzoned once as well, we're engaged now. | ||
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Azera
3800 Posts
On February 14 2013 21:54 Cokefreak wrote: Oh well... I got friendzoned once as well, we're engaged now. Teach me, | ||
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Cokefreak
Finland8095 Posts
Be patient. Say the right things. That's all I have. Sorry, not much to work with. | ||
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Azera
3800 Posts
On February 14 2013 21:59 Cokefreak wrote: Be patient. Say the right things. That's all I have. Sorry, not much to work with. Yeah that's good advice actually. No gimmicks or some attention grabbing shit. But she likes someone now. So if it happens it'll happen right? | ||
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Cokefreak
Finland8095 Posts
On February 14 2013 22:00 Azera wrote: Yeah that's good advice actually. No gimmicks or some attention grabbing shit. But she likes someone now. So if it happens it'll happen right? Yeah, it's up to someone else now and like I said, be patient, I wish you the best in the world. | ||
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Scarecrow
Korea (South)9172 Posts
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Azera
3800 Posts
Thanks cokefreak. | ||
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Scarecrow
Korea (South)9172 Posts
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Azera
3800 Posts
On February 14 2013 22:10 Scarecrow wrote: Texting's even worse, give yourself a chance next time and at least be in the same room. With a different girl right? Not this one? Because that would be pretty weird. | ||
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Scarecrow
Korea (South)9172 Posts
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Azera
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sc4k
United Kingdom5454 Posts
The only way to deal with things is - when you realise you like a girl, get asking her out over with. The more you get used to it, the easier it comes to just get to the point. Most of the time, you only need to see them a handful of times before you ask them. You get closure either way, and you save yourself from developing fantasies and feelings that will never be fulfilled. On February 14 2013 22:16 Scarecrow wrote: Yep, I'd say this one's done for now. Next girl just show her you like her, it's the same as writing. Confessing in general just isn't a good approach. She said it herself, when guys confess things get messy/awkward. Just acting more casual and not shooting for professions of like/love straight off the bat works wonders imo. I like the phrase 'I think we should go out'. Something about it appeals to me...you don't layer on any feelings, and you also don't throw an imperative at them. You also don't give them a question that they can say 'no' to. They will ask you why? And you can just go straight ahead and say whatever reason that you are attracted to them for. On February 14 2013 22:02 Scarecrow wrote: Far better to make a more aggressive move, hold hands or go for a 'spontaneous' kiss. Spontaneous kisses are good but after having been rejected for one I really don't like the awkwardness after. | ||
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synapse
China13814 Posts
 I feel ya man... but I gotta say the whole "where do we stand?" is just a bad idea. Just say it straight up, "I like you and I'd love to be your boyfriend" etc. I agree with scarecrow in that you have to be more aggressive if you've decided to pursue a person, but holding hands is also confusing and a kiss is going a bit far I think. | ||
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TOCHMY
Sweden1692 Posts
On February 14 2013 22:02 Scarecrow wrote: Confessing verbally is almost always a bad move, it just makes for a really awkward convo unless she's already super into you (in which case almost anything would've worked). Saying 'I like you' is way too passive, invites rejection and expects them to escalate things. Just act as if she likes you and if she's not into it she'll tell you. Far better to make a more aggressive move, hold hands or go for a 'spontaneous' kiss. lol yeah trying a spontaneous kiss with some1 who's not into you isn't a bad move or awkward at all! | ||
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
On February 14 2013 23:23 TOCHMY wrote: lol yeah trying a spontaneous kiss with some1 who's not into you isn't a bad move or awkward at all! Been in both situations, confession and spontaneous kiss with rejection. I much prefer the spontaneous kiss. Way more fun, less awkward. Girls usually laugh or smile. Also HUGE upside =P. I've never found it awkward after a failed kiss. I usually smile and just keep talking. If you want you can keep the girl around, just don't get too attached or pine after her like a little dog. Meet new women and keep at it. | ||
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Corazon
United States3230 Posts
I'm sorry. I was rooting for you bro =( I literally facepalmed mentally when she said she wasn't into you. If she doesn't reply within the next few days, she's not going to talk to you again. Ever. It's this really sad game that girls play where if you get friendzoned and make one minor screw-up, they just ignore you forever. It took me two girls and at least a year of agony to realize this. Just move on and go get the next one =) | ||
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Scarecrow
Korea (South)9172 Posts
On February 14 2013 23:23 TOCHMY wrote: lol yeah trying a spontaneous kiss with some1 who's not into you isn't a bad move or awkward at all! well i`m assuming you can judge for yourself if she enjoys your company, if you pick your spot i doubt it`ll be received that badly. Started having way more success when i realised it`s not a big deal and it`ll either result in a funny story or a makeout session. | ||
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MysteryMeat1
United States3292 Posts
through the power of broship | ||
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hoby2000
United States918 Posts
Unless you're in high school, then fuck dating. Wait till you're in college, you will meet the girl of your dreams with ease. | ||
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mordk
Chile8385 Posts
Being in the friendzone is usually the responsibility of the person in the zone and not the other way around. Trying to befriend someone because you like her, with the intention of going into a relationship is a huge mistake. Poor build order, you might say. | ||
Nagisama
Canada4481 Posts
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
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farvacola
United States18826 Posts
On February 15 2013 04:07 Shady Sands wrote: Well, if you wanna be evil, start going after her best friend She friendzoned him. It ain't evil. Slay dem hoodratz Azera, slay dem. | ||
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On February 15 2013 04:19 farvacola wrote: She friendzoned him. It ain't evil. Slay dem hoodratz Azera, slay dem. True dat. You don't want to jump straight to her best friend right afterwards; it'll make you look desperate. Instead, just show up and buy her best friend shiny things. Never offer to hang out with her--instead do fun stuff like heading to Johore to play baccarat on a fake ID or write an article/do wordart for the Straits Times or something. Or better yet, go to a casino, play baccarat on a fake ID, then write an article in the Straits Times using the methods of Gonzo journalism. Maybe invite a member of parliament to visit your school and rail against students being corrupted. Get an award from the government for breaking the law and display your badassery. What's more, this is the sort of stuff that will get you into the Ivy League. Harvard worships power more than any other school on Earth, and nothing says power like a kid that can make the government ignore its own laws for him. EDIT: You also might try getting Eduardo Saverin to come speak at your school. Being part of his entourage will get you laid no problem | ||
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Cokefreak
Finland8095 Posts
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On February 15 2013 05:02 Cokefreak wrote: ^Spoken like a true _romantic. Funnily enough, my third girlfriend liked to call me "Lord Byron" and I would call her "Lady Caroline" ...yeah, we were pretty nerdy | ||
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
Based on what others say about her, maybe you can look at the positives. What if she is a dirty whore that would have shattered your heart a month later? Dodged a bullet there, huh? BUT SHIT MAN why the FUCK would you ask what are your chances with her WTF you just threw your manhood on the floor and let her shit on it then you offered her extra durable plastic bags so she could cover her bitch-glory shoes then smudge your manhood and her shit together in a gigantic puddle of lost dignity. THEN YOU TEXTED HER THE NEXT DAY fuck that's like going back to that puddle and quietly pulling your pants down then pissing on it hoping to keep your fucked up dignity warm. Although it sounds low and cruel, going after her best friend is not a bad idea. Especially if her friend has any non-zero degree of sympathy of how things went recently. You'll see how it works when you get to it. | ||
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Azera
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On February 15 2013 05:10 OpticalShot wrote: It's not really friendzone if it's too awkward to hang out with her any more. It's just straight up failed pursuit. Friendzone has its perks like being able to hang out like you do with bros, mooch off meals, go on casual dates, etc. Either way it sucks, but remember the situations are different. Based on what others say about her, maybe you can look at the positives. What if she is a dirty whore that would have shattered your heart a month later? Dodged a bullet there, huh? BUT SHIT MAN why the FUCK would you ask what are your chances with her WTF you just threw your manhood on the floor and let her shit on it then you offered her extra durable plastic bags so she could cover her bitch-glory shoes then smudge your manhood and her shit together in a gigantic puddle of lost dignity. THEN YOU TEXTED HER THE NEXT DAY fuck that's like going back to that puddle and quietly pulling your pants down then pissing on it hoping to keep your fucked up dignity warm. Although it sounds low and cruel, going after her best friend is not a bad idea. Especially if her friend has any non-zero degree of sympathy of how things went recently. You'll see how it works when you get to it. Yeah I have the feeling it's a failed pursuit. Either that or she's really caught up with the other guy she likes, the went on a date or something on Valentines I think. I dunno man, it doesn't feel that way. I just wanted to get a straight-up answer. | ||
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Grumbels
Netherlands7031 Posts
And friend zone is not a real concept, it was invented by Joey from Friends, for crying out loud. | ||
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ihOpe
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On February 14 2013 21:54 Cokefreak wrote: Oh well... I got friendzoned once as well, we're engaged now. I never think of the friendzone as a negative thing either! | ||
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krndandaman
Mozambique16569 Posts
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cLAN.Anax
United States2847 Posts
Go out and watch that new "Die Hard" movie Bruce Willis stars in. Without her. Will take your mind off of things.  Though it would make a most intriguing story to accidentally meet her at the theater for the same film, lol. | ||
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phosphorylation
United States2935 Posts
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
I don't know why I typed that. | ||
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On February 15 2013 09:19 obesechicken13 wrote: The guy she's into is probably into a girl into you. The obvious solution is to get with the other guy. I don't know why I typed that. You mean Tokyo Love Story? | ||
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N.geNuity
United States5112 Posts
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dAPhREAk
Nauru12397 Posts
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Roe
Canada6002 Posts
i mean really, come on. | ||
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Azera
3800 Posts
On February 15 2013 09:19 obesechicken13 wrote: The guy she's into is probably into a girl into you. The obvious solution is to get with the other guy. I don't know why I typed that. Wat | ||
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Roe
Canada6002 Posts
Queue Bizarre Love Triangle by New Order | ||
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RiceAgainst
United States1849 Posts
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I_Love_Katheryn
United States41 Posts
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I_Love_Katheryn
United States41 Posts
Oh god this is genius!!!  | ||
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